Why do people beg to be spanked?

My girlfriend loves to be spanked but I don't know why. Is it the feeling of submission, the excitement, the pain? What do YOU guys think of it?

Go to the BDSM forums on spankings and punishments-that'll give you an idea on every possible reason she likes it! 😁

She may not know exactly why she likes spankings. It is just something that does it for her.

I think I can explain this 1.

When I am so turned on I cannot help my self, I have to feel a sharp smack across my arse. The pain makes the sex more intense and it's turn on feeling like you were being spanked like when you were a child but coming down to it. My partner gets the eager to spank me when he gets turned on.

This may go back thousands of years to when we were cave men and its a natural thing to do.

🌹 😎 A lot of us question why we get turned on by different things. The selections are vast and in a lot of cases frequent in the various Social Groups. I need not tell any of us my Lifestyle Selection , but have we noticed a lot of similarities in the selection of Various Professions. Let us take a look at the numbers of our Nursing Professionals that are into Medfet, BDSM, Enemas, and yes Diapers. I am an Engineer and so is my best friend and coincidentally so are two others in our Diaper Fetish Group. Now is it personality traits with the given Professions or coincidence? Two of our Cross Dressers in our group are Geologists, I guess we know how they get their rocks off.

Needless to say we are the true lucky ones because we have more than just plain old missionary sex to excite us. Spank away and enjoy the special times you have in your sex play. And be so ever thankful if you have a significant other to share with.

First of all djc. Kudos to you. That was so well said. And I pissed myself at your joke. Quite lituraly. My diaper is now soaked so I thank you......

Secondly. Do not question why. You will never find a right or wrong answer. It's a magical thing to be turned on by different things. It's like magic. It just happens and can't be fully explained. And quote (its natural. Just let it happen).

I think people like what they like. If it isn't your "thing" you can't really get it. However, if it is your "thing" you can't really explain it...do you like a particular type of music? Why? Is it just really cool? awesome? but can you truly define it? Most people like it for all the reasons above and some just a few reasons and others just have no clue...we just do. 😃 It just reaches into the core of what excites us and gets our engines rev'ed up...

One time i spanked a girl and she whipped my ass and told me never to do that again. she was big girl, not fat but big boned and she really cleaned me up.

She was a good lover so i never tried to spank her again

I love to be spanked not sure why, never was spanked as a kid. I have even sought out someone to spank me without having sex. There was a episode on mananswers that talked about chemicals in the brain being released causing you to get horny. But considering the source lol not sure if thats true, sounded good though

I don't think most people can imagine how often well educated professional people are involved in unconventional sexual activities. And how much better the experience if you have been lucky enough to acquire a playmate at your professional level who is a true trusted kindred spirit.

No idea why your GF likes it, but I like the secret thrill that comes from being "naughty" enough to tip the scales into a spanking - the anticipation is key, also the embarrassment of being disrobed for a spanking (I prefer being stripped to bra and panties before spanking begins). I don't necessarily love the stinging moment of the spank itself, but I love having to take that stinging spank and I love the after glow of a good sound spanking - makes me horny!

I wasn't spanked as a child so the mystery of it has always made me interested. I like the feeling of being cared for and having my discipline taken care of by someone else. It helps relieve guilt and it gives me an incentive to *maybe* do better next time lol.

Even girls that have never been spanked learn to enjoy it after a gentle intrduction.

I love to get spanked so if I need (or want) a spanking I am usually brave enough to ask for one. I guess being spanked as a child helped because I knew when I did something I shouldn't I was going to get a spanking.

I agree "needs spanking". It has to do with paying for misdeeds....amazing how the mind works))

I agree "needs spanking". It has to do with paying for misdeeds....amazing how the mind works))

Sure is! Its almost like you really feel better after getting a well deserved spanking.

Yes, rubbing a fiery red bottom makes you feel like the slate is clean again, as EVERYONE who has wriggled over a knee for misdeeds is well aware)))))))

Was spanked as a kid, and on the bare butt. Was never beaten or abused, just good-'ol whipping, when I deserved and needed it!! I didn't like it as a kid, but there was always something about it, that made me horny. I have not had many experiences of a partner spanking me, so I've been quite a self-spanker. When I whip my own butt, I do it, totally naked, and make my butt, nice and stingy feeling. Of course, this is always in conjunction with masturbating. I'm not sure why, I like the feeling of a stingy butt, but there is definitely, a real feeling of satisfaction, during the whipping, during the masturbating, and an extreme feeling of satisfaction, after both. My fantasy, during the whole process, is one of "deserving" to getting my butt whipped. The fantasies vary, but do rotate around the fact, that I need a good butt-warming. Thanks to Zity, I just accept all this, and practice my needs, which isn't real often. My other masturbating, daily habits, are usually not incorporating the spanking. . .Just sometimes. I grew up, being so afraid of all my sexual desires, as I was always taught that al the stuff I like, is nasty, and un-forbidden. Now, I am comfortable with myself, and so glad I can share with all you fine people that understand!! Thanks! Mike.

I am convinced a lot of my desires here are:

1. Anxiety - Sometime I act out in strange ways due to anxiety.

2. I like to surrender to my lover.

3. I like the special attention.

4. If it is done right it is physically intense and emotionally intense and just "scratches where I itch."

5. BTW: I find being naked (while my lover is dressed) and being spanked by my lover's bare hand, on my bare ass, is amazingly intimate and personal. (Just sayin'.)

I'm not sure why but I like the like sting and burn on my bare butt after receiving the paddle, the sound of wood on a bare butt is exciting.

I never begged to be paddled nor begged not to be. When I got paddled it hurt on my bare butt for sure. However, in that era and in our family it was just a part of dad/mom's job so to speak. We needed it less in high school years but every so often it had to happen even then!

I would have never associated getting paddled with "begging".

Because they want to feel the Love. They know that their partner has taken the time to spank their naughty bare bottom in order to make them feel loved and secure in knowing that they are being cared for.

I need to be spanked to help me keep my santiy, and peace with myself. I might be incline to write more later, but not in the current mental state I am in lol.

Mashie

I asked a female friend to spank me once because 1. I was very upset and pent up about some shit personal decisions I'd made and felt I needed it - and #2 she was the only person I could trust to do it. No sex, just a spanking, and hard and painful. She never questioned why, she just told me to lie down on her couch, pulled down my pants and then she did it. 10 on the bare bottom.

I never really begged to be spanked, but, on the few occasions that I was, as an adult, I just really loved the sensation. Just like I love the sensation of my ass penetrated by a nozzle or a dildo. A fine line between pleasure and pain!

Because they want to feel the Love. They know that their partner has taken the time to spank their naughty bare bottom in order to make them feel loved and secure in knowing that they are being cared for.

Now to me that makes no sense at all.

If a partner wants to show you their love and caring, then I would think it would be far better to do so in a less painful manner. How can anyone feel secure knowing someone is inflicting pain on you? I would not trust that in a thousand years.

At least for me, having the blood flow to my buttocks results in a more intense ejaculation later. I like to be well spanked, with a red bottom, but not beaten to a pulp as some people like.

Now to me that makes no sense at all.

If a partner wants to show you their love and caring, then I would think it would be far better to do so in a less painful manner. How can anyone feel secure knowing someone is inflicting pain on you? I would not trust that in a thousand years.

You cannot understand this, it is not an interest to you and you were not spanked growing up.... Spanking can be abusive but it is not always so. It can also be a very effective parenting tool, you can argue all you want otherwise. Those of us who had it in a loving context by parents who were in no way abusive. You are obvious to feel free to comment but having read many of your comments they feel a whole lot to me like someone who is straight repeated saying over and over I can't imagine why you want to have sex with a dude. Get over it you don't understand it I get it, what I don't get is your need to offer comment with seemingly no desire to understand the answers. I have mostly come to just completely ignore your comments, but if belittling others sexual needs makes you feel like a big man go right ahead.

Agracier I do wish to apologize to you for my comments below... I did think about editing them or deleting them, but people have seen them I am sure and one can't unspill water of the ground. I may disagree with your comments at times and they sometimes feel snarky to me but for the most part I do believe you want to be helpful. even if sometimes it is to point out the bloody obvious. I apologize sincerely. I still do feel you have a bias against our play, but rooted in a deep concern over what you see as abuse in our past for those of us who were raise with corporal punishment. Many of us do not feel this was abusive even though like in my case we would not typical see it as a good first choice for parenting today (my husband and I do not have kids nor are we planing on it). I do not wish to start a discussion on the merits or lack there of CP in child rearing. I will admit fully in a way of fantasy and nostalgia colours my speech in these forums but I see these forum not as a place to discuss parenting (though I have seen it touch upon here) but as a place to discuss fantasy and exploration of it. I include in fantasy the various life situations we place ourselves in. i.e. I never had any sexual contact with my father nor wanted it, yet I will talk about wanting Daddy's cock it is a fantasy that two men may fulfill though there is no relation, two may even live out this fantasy on a daily basis for years, it becomes their reality but is still fantasy.

I beg because my wife almost never does it an when she does she really dosent kno how and i really feel that that is what i need