Tight Foreskin or Phimosis

I do agree (and did say) that it was abuse in a number of ways, and without condoning anyone's actions, I think it has to be recognised that in the late 1960's, early 1970's there were plenty of "Aunts", as well as "Uncles", who took advantage of situations for their own "amusement" and no one seemed to think that it was a serious problem. The fact that three neighbours all joined in showed that the adults had absolute authority to do whatever they wanted to do.

As a child of the 40s I can relate to the aunts and all other females in the family having complete authority. As soon as I was born the aunts and cousins would come to visit and I would be the star of the "give the baby a bath show". Obviously I don't remember this but my father took plenty of home movies. The boy cousins showed no interest but the girl cousins of all ages participated. It was always a lesson in how to retract little me's foreskin to wash my glans with each girl taking a turn.

When I was really small, he would lift me up with my legs in the air so that I could pee without wetting my clothes. He didn’t do this in the middle of town or a crowded street or anything like that, but whenever we were on a car journey together he would tell me that I needed a pee and then he would find a place to pull over. He always found a layby or car park where there were already cars or lorries parked up and then he would have me pull down my panties and then he would hold me up to pee, lifting me to face the driver of the parked vehicles.

I remember on car trips seeing young girls being held up to pee as you describe and in other places too such as at the beach or a picnic area.

Going into many homes to fix the TVs in the 60s I often saw girls up about the age of 10 going around naked in the house but this practice continued until I closed my shop in the early 2000s so I think it's still quite prominent today. Not as much with boys possibly because they had a more lethal hose to shoot things with.I know whenever they had a boy running around naked I paid attention to which way his sprayer was pointing so as to not get my stuff sprayed.

@Katex

I'm sorry that this is a really long post, but I feel the details are interesting/important?

I’ve been put in hundreds of humiliating and embarrassing situations throughout my life from a very young age, and although I have learned to embrace and enjoy the thrill and the fear and the excitement, I do know that most people are not like me.

Is this story true? I can't imagine that something like this was done in real life, especially in front of strangers like neighbours or girlfriends. I also think in the 70s, or when this happened, such actions are unusual and questionable for a 13-year-old, especially in today's world.

I think Katex just enjoys writing and wishes she could see the hard-ons she creates.

There's a tragic story on the BBC about this very problem and how some young men coped, or didn't. Truly awful.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-48057183

There's a tragic story on the BBC about this very problem and how some young men coped, or didn't. Truly awful.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-48057183

While that story may have a tiny bit of truth in it, the quality of that story with its stock photos is equal to those in the National Enquirer.

When I was a young my foreskin was tight,my parents took me me to the doctor,to see if it could be stretched back.the doctor tried to retract my foreskin,it hurt and I cried when he tried to pull back the skin. he said to me that the next thing he was going to do will hurt a lot he brought back a retractor inserted between the foreskin and the head of the penis and opened the blades that really hurt and I started to cry and telling his to stop. he gave my parents the retractor to take home and continue with the stretching,i cried everytime they loosened my foreskin.

@Rectal_fin

How long did the stretching carry on for? Did it work so that you could eventually pull back your foreskin without pain?

I had a preschool exam at 5, and the school doc said i had a tight foreskin. So my mother did stretch me every evening until bath until 12. She controlled weekly until 15. Now my foreskin can be retracted even when i am erect but is still tight.

When I was a kid it was very tight now it goes back easily

Yes. When I was seven during a school medical, the doctor retracted my foreskin and was of the opinion it was too tight. She recommended circumcision. My mother sought a second opinion, but that doctor was of the opinion i did not need to be circumcised. I think my mother stretched me a little when bathing me, although she may have just been making sure I was clean behind. When I changed schools, the doctors seemed happy with my foreskin.

@zarniwoop

If it interests you I had similar treatment to rectal_fin, albeit without the tools - just steroid cream and manual stretching.

It took about 6 months if I remember correctly. I believe I was slow to respond during the early weeks of treatment but it worked ok in the end.

As a teen I experienced this. For a long time my foreskin did not retract and it was painful to do so.

In addition to this the build up of snegma and ejaculent over time worsened the issue.

I sought some advice and over a couple of weeks achieved an easily retractable foreskin. If you struggling with this try the following:

In a bowl of warm water place your penis, the bath is probably the easiest place for this but not always possible everyday. With your thumb and index finger start making pressurised circular movements of the foreskin. A massage if you will. This will loosen any material beneath. The warm water will also soften the skin. Begin to retract to a comfortable position and repeat x number of times. As more of the gland become visible be sure to wash all material from them. A gentle rub with your thumb will do this.

Keep doing it. You'll get there.

For a long time my foreskin did not retract and it was painful to do so.

If you struggling with this try the following:

In a bowl of warm water place your penis, the bath is probably the easiest place for this but not always possible everyday. With your thumb and index finger start making pressurised circular movements of the foreskin. A massage if you will. .

The treatment is so utterly simple and as (medical) treatments go, certainly not a burden or unpleasant. It makes one wonder at the state of mind of physicians whose first impulse is to cut a foreskin away completely. You have to admit there is something savage and almost bloodthirsty to wanting to cut, when the alternative is a rather fun treatment.

I suppose that, just as when you have a hammer everything looks like a nail, then when you have a scalpel, everything looks like an incision waiting to be made.

I had incomplete phimosis, but no doctor ever informed my mother about it. The foreskin could be easily slid when the penis was flaccid. This was not possible when he was in an erection condition.

So my mother did stretch me every evening until bath until 12. She controlled weekly until 15. Now my foreskin can be retracted even when i am erect but is still tight.

When I was 10-15 years old my mother always asked a pediatrician to have my genitals examined. In addition, she controlled my development up to the age of 15. I had to show her naked, sometimes I had a foreskin pulled out. Often this was done in the bath.

During the military medical examination my genitals were thoroughly examined, but nobody told me about the problem. It wasn't until much later that the urologist told me that I had incomplete phimosis and it should be operated on. I was circumcised and I'm happy with it.

I have paid attention to many mothers who have sons, that they should go with their son to a good urologist. Thanks to my advice, a few boys were diagnosed with phimosis and three of them were circumcised. I do not treat circumcision as prophylactically, but I believe that in the case of phimosis, the boy should be circumcised before puberty or at the beginning of puberty

I had a light phimosis when i was 13. It was stretched at home after bath, and it's fine now.

My foreskin is a bit tight, but I can pull it when I Want, and a drop of lube will make it slide perfectly

About a year ago (age 29) I saw something that made me realise that my foreskin and frenulum are a bit tight, which was something of a lightbulb moment as to why I'd had limited success or fun with sex - especially as guys are so used to how theirs works.

I tried stretching and then finally went to the doctor for some steroid cream and had more stretching, but it basically didn't help, which sucks. So I've had a consultant appointment at the hospital, though due to him being unsure, I'm waiting for a second appointment with a senior urologist who'll make the call whether I need to have a circumcision or if something more conservative could help - I know I definitely need the frenulum snipping but as it's fairly mild, hoping to keep some skin.

The exams have all been very quick, and mainly just with me touching it - for tight frenulum the test is if the head gets pulled down when you retract fully

It's all pretty scary tbh

I ended up getting circumcised in the end - under general anaesthetic. It was all very quick really, and with no followup appointments or anything. On the day, I got into a pair of disposible briefs, and two gowns (one round either way), the surgeon came into the curtained where I was waiting, said 'is it you in for circumcision? can I see your penis' - I showed him and pulled back the foreskin myself, he then filled in a couple of forms and left. Next, I waited there for a bit, had a checklist with the anaethetist, then walked through to the OR, laid down on the table, removed one of the gowns, but was still covered - then they insterted the IV and Bam, I woke up.

When I woke up, two nurses asked me to lift my gown for a moment just to check I wasn't bleeding horrifically, then I laid there for another hour or so, then got dressed and my friend came to pick me up for an uber home.

Healing went ok, I removed the dressing 24 hours later and then after about 12 days, the stitches were mainly falling out so I I was able to help remove them and cut a couple of others. It's now pretty much healed up.

Has there been anything bothersome about it?

Has the bare glans been any problem?

Did they give you a choice of style?

What style is it, if so?

Has there been anything bothersome about it?

Has the bare glans been any problem?

Did they give you a choice of style?

What style is it, if so?

I've fortunately had a fairy painless and normal recovery without much swelling.

The bare glans is a bit sensitive, especially where they removed the frenulum - but because I was able to retract when flacid before the op, I had already densensitised it a bit beforehand.

I wasn't really given a choice of styles as it was for medical purposes to cure phimosis when erect & mild lichen sclerosus - and it's the NHS - but my consultant was highly experienced so I trusted his surgical judgement.

It's a very low and reasonably loose style, with the wound maybe 4mm under the head - sometimes when flacid, there's still some skin that hangs down over the head, and when I masturbate there's some movement - at least for now though, I do still have to use lube.

When it comes to phimosis I actually had this condition when I was teen. I didn't really realize it until I've read manual on how to put condoms where it stated you need to pull the foreskin all the way back before putting condom on 😃. I tried it and it was quite painful.

Later though it somehow fixed itself from frequent masturbatiom which stretched the foreskin bit by bit. Now it is quite tight but it's not painful to pull it back and it goes all the way.

The only thing that's still not there yet is short frenulum that pulls the head with it when I pull the foreskin even more. I noticed there is actually condition like this (frenulum breve) and it matches what I got. I am at the stage where I wonder if I should go to urologist and have it treated.

I once had a Jewish doc who advised me to get a circumcision and my frenulum removed. Later I was in a friend's house and there was a guy studying something medical. I mentioned my frenulum was way too short. He proposed to drive me to the hospital where he was affiliated with to get it done. I agreed and the three of us went there that same moment, he choosed a booth, prepared all and ten minutes later the frenulum was removed. The injection in the head stung pretty much but I didn't feel anything of the removal wiith some kind of high frequency knive. Without appointment and without a bill I was happily treated. Years later I was circumcised.

I once had a Jewish doc who advised me to get a circumcision and my frenulum removed. Later I was in a friend's house and there was a guy studying something medical. I mentioned my frenulum was way too short. He proposed to drive me to the hospital where he was affiliated with to get it done. I agreed and the three of us went there that same moment, he choosed a booth, prepared all and ten minutes later the frenulum was removed. Without appointment and without a bill

This sounds disturbing. A friend suggests a medical procedure to your penis and then on the spur of the moment he drives you off to a hospital to have it done outside of proper medical channels?

Was he some kind of circumcision propagandist/proponent/enthusiast? If anyone had ever urged me to get a quickie alteration to my prick I would have told them where I'd stick my prick first ...

@agracier , yeah, maybe that wasn't the smartest move of me, but luckily it all went fine and the short frenulum was really disturbing me already for too long. You also need a good portion of luck, how many patients were botched by professional surgeons. And luckily it was only a little piece of skin that had to be cut.

I was born with a normal, not very long foreskin. Since we stopped wearing diapers, my dad always taught us to retract the foreskin when we urinate. Bad luck for me, at 6 years old during a check-up the doctor noticed that I had an infection, Every time I retracted my foreskin it was very painful, no matter how much treatment it was not resolved.

The doctor always insisted that we take care of hygiene, In my home country, doctors use the term "phimosis surgery." They don't use the word circumcision very much.

When I was 7 years old I was circumcised. All my brothers could retract their foreskins before they were 11, so luckily they never had any problems. I think I won the lottery.

Now with children, living in the US, I can notice that doctors are very insistent on the subject of circumcision. Of my three children, only the middle one is having a slight complication that I hope will be resolved with the exercises. Like my dad, I taught them from the age of 5 to slightly retract the foreskin when urinating and bathing.

I have posted on other threads about my experience but this did happen to me.

I had my first ever genital exam during a school medical when I was around 7 years old. At the time I don't think I was really aware of what should happed to my foreskin but the doctor asked me something about showing the end of my penis and then went ahead and tried to pull the skin back.

I was so tight and couldn't expose any part part of my glans which resulted in a conversation between the doctor and my parent who was watching.

It transpired that the school doctor said I needed to be circumcised and a further examination was arranged with the family doctor.

I was very lucky given how tight I was that our family doctor suggested waiting some time and attempt to loosen the skin with cream and stretching.

It did take a very long time but eventually i was able to fully retract without and problems

@JP1 That is very similar to my experience. Mine was diagnosed at a school medical when I was 7/8. A second opinion was sought from my GP and he suggested stretching exercises. It eventually became loose by the time I got to puberty.

I don't recall the examinations that led to this, perhaps there was a school physical involved. Our GP prescribe stretching exercises: I think I was made to take a seat bath in warm water, then my mother attempted to pull back my foreskin (as opposed to current practice, where the boy would be asked to do it using special cream). She later told me I would cry doing this, since it was painful and did not work. The GP then prescribed surgery, apparently winning the case by claiming this would not be really circumcision. It indeed was, and I think quite tight.

@Pecan_nutjob What a shame! At least I was spared such exposure to relatives..

> I think I was made to take a seat bath in warm water, then my mother attempted to pull back my foreskin (as opposed to current practice, where the boy would be asked to do it using special cream).

The warm water was or maybe is the advice in my country too. But I've read that water, especially when doing it after a bath, causes dirt and bacteria to get under the foreskin and cause infections. This checks out - when you have an ear infection or any kind of unhealed wound, any doctor will tell you to keep the area dry.

Yet none of them realized dirty water equally bad for the penis, doubly so when it has microscopic tears from overzealous stretching?

Wouldn't surprise me if this advice did more harm than good.