Tight Foreskin or Phimosis

I had a similar thing happen to me as.one of the first few posters in this thread (for some reason i cannot quote him here but i liked his post) in the sense that he mentioned he had a doctorbring up the subject of tight foreskin to him during his first university physical at 18, which is also what hppened with me.. However our stories do differ though because.while he indicates that his tight foreskin was noted in his medical file due to an exam at 15, for me the exam at 18 was the first real doctor or nurse medical exam of my life which i can remember. The doctor did indeed bring up the possibility of circumcision due to what appeared to be a tight foreskin if not actual phimosis and even then her starting the conversation with me on the sunject truly.did not throw me off one bit as i had previously been the subject of much rumor and controversy among my extended family (or more accurately fellow commune members family) due to my uncircumcised status which was apparently a big issue among the community leaders or so i heard as well as others there. Now, some years later, this doctors discussion with me about health and safety regarding my somewhat unique anatomy and the option of circumcision. In fact, the majority of doctors and nurses, and im strictly talking actual medical professionals here (all of who were women) have initiated similar discussions with me.. The reason that is the case, I have been told, is that my penis and foreskin appear to be somewhat severely phimotic due to my apparently abnormally large glans. It is intetesting to think if I would never even had had the choice had this potential condition not been addrrssed by care takers at a young age.

This is not about me, it's about my son.

Mods if this is not allowed please remove and my apologies.

My son was not circumcised as a baby because I am not.

He has phimosis and my wife and I have seen an urologist whose first reaction was circumcision.

Is there anywhere i can find anti-circ urologists?

I am trans but, I was born with a penis. I was not circumcised and have suffered fairly severe phimosis. It is very, very, painful as a condition. To restore the opening properly, required in my case, years of uncomfortable and at time painful stretching exercises. Topical steroids help however they are not a permanent solution. Even today, my foreskin never retracts even when fully erect. At times, it becomes painfully chaffed and torn from intercourse or masturbation (even with lube). We shall never know the truth however, it my adamant opinion that my phimosis stunted my penis growth and is also the cause of many UTI's I have experienced throughout my life despite a very thorough penile cleaning regimen ( 1 at least every year of my life for 28 years...that is a lot for a male urinary system). I also have a difficult time controlling urine spray (it will shoot in crazy directions [even right angles due to the tight foreskin tip]). I also suffer from incontinence, not likely anything to do with the foreskin however, coupled with the phimosis I have suffered many diaper rashes as well. I understand some of your hesitance in circumcision yet, I beseech you, if your son's phimosis is severe; please, please, please, please...get the procedure done sooner rather than later. You do not want him to have to have it done as an adult male or suffer as I have.

In ways, I am proud I am uncut but, at the same time I would feel no qualms over having it cut given what I have experienced. It is just a piece of skin at the end of the day...why suffer for it? (Please do not let your son suffer for your vanity if that is the case). By all means get a second opinion and consider all options but, please do not close your mind to the likely need for circumcision in your son's case.

Everyone, please excuse my candor it is just that I am so passionate about this subject.

@ChubbyLeahCD

You don't say how old your son is, but it is not uncommon, and not a problem, if a pre-teen boy cannot retract his foreskin. Often, a boy's foreskin will become looser during puberty, assisted by frequent erections and masturbation. You should not attempt to force the skin back, as this will cause damage to the tissue, making it less elastic and possibly resulting in permanent phimosis. Gentle stretching is fine, and will probably help to make the foreskin retractable.

If your son still cannot pull his foreskin back by the age of about 16, circumcision may be worth considering, but by then, it will be up to your son to decide for himself.

I suffered from severe phimosis myself, and eventually got cut at the age of 31, but I would have preferred to have a retractable foreskin.

ChubbyLeahCD: An important question is whether your son experiences discomfort due to this condition - does he have trouble urinating, does he get infections (balanitis)? Otherwise it sounds like fixing what's not broken.

First doctor exam at age 16 for work permit. Doctor undressed me as we progressed, finally came to check testicles and penis. Within instant glance at penis said "I see you're uncircumcised. You have a redundant foreskin. You should get "that" taken care of". Never retracted it or asked any questions about it, just simple statements. Apparently did not mention this on my physical or to my parents. Grandfathers, father, brother and 6 of 7 uncles all were uncircumcised (last one was circumcised because he was born in hospital). Each time I went to him, he would comment that I needed to be circumcised when he saw my penis, once again never asking any questions or inspecting its function. Since it was all I knew, I was curious about it. I didn't see others naked growing up as I was very shy and only had a vague idea of what circumcision was until around 14 when i saw a circumcised penis in a magazine. Over time however the doctors words did become true. Due to excessive length and tightness, small tears developed causing foreskin to tighten further. Along with a short frenulum, retraction with erection became increasingly difficult leading to several paraphimotic occurrences that luckily I was able to fix before trips to the emergency room. Over time I began to get recurrent urethral and bladder infections, so I began to ask my new doctor about circumcision. He referred me to his urologist saying it could keep it but the issues weren't going to get better with time. The urologist agreed, and I'll admit I actually wanted to be circumcised. I was tired of the issues, the focus with others being on my being uncut, concerns about stds and hiv, and definitely the constant smell even though I had washed thoroughly. So at age 36, I got circumcised. My only regret is that it wasn't done at birth or when the doctor deduced an issue at 16. I'm very happy with result.

@JediTimelord said

First doctor exam at age 16 for work permit. Doctor undressed me as we progressed, finally came to check testicles and penis. Within instant glance at penis said "I see you're uncircumcised. You have a redundant foreskin. You should get "that" taken care of". Never retracted it or asked any questions about it, just simple statements. ..............

........ So at age 36, I got circumcised. My only regret is that it wasn't done at birth or when the doctor deduced an issue at 16. I'm very happy with result.

Based on your own statements, I don't believe your doctor deduced anything at the time. He was simply pushing his own preference for its own sake and not for any clinical need in your case.

^^^^ He developed problems, was treated and was happy with the result.

What could be better?

I'm very glad that he is happy with the result. I simply comment that the doctor he saw at the age of 16 sounded like a circumcision advocate in general, not that he knew at the time that a problem would develop.

Dr. Z is right he was very dominant and older, probably very pro-circ. It did prove out that it was needed, but it would have been preferred if he had actually inspected it and explained issues or addressed my curiousity/issues. If he had discussed with me and parents, I might have been done before it got worse. But that is neither here nor there.

Recently I found it difficult to draw back my foreskin over the penis head. Reluctantly I went to my Doctor.

With a bit of effort and manipulation he managed to retract my foreskin, using a bit more force than I used.

I now try and bring back the foreskin right back a few times a week, and all seems to be well.

I was circumcised at around 13. And I had another surgery done together with it, on varices at the scrotum, which involved an incision in the groin area. Both together made for a real painful, uncomfortable experience afterwards.

I was referred for treatment aged 15, mainly to do with issues around my general sexual development. It was also noted however that I suffered from a phimosis.The doctor discussed various options including circumcision, but first elected to treat with a topical steroid cream. Progress was slow but it worked eventually and surgery was avoided.

At about age 7 I suffered from lesions under my foreskin - circumcision was considered but consultant decided to remove them under anethestic leaving my foreksin intact

In later life I'm very glad he did

After my school doctor said my foreskin was tight, that lead to my dad helping to stretch it at home

After my school doctor said my foreskin was tight, that lead to my dad helping to stretch it at home

What did your father do to stretch it?

What did your father do to stretch it?

Ouch!

Had to have it check for my immigration exam, doctor said it was fine ive had no problem with it

Mine was discovered by a female nurse when I was 12 at a routine health check. I had to do a follow up when I was 13 to see if anything changes. My dad was not worried. He insisted I just had to reach puberty and it'll be fine. He had the same thing happen to him. But I had to do a follow up anyway. That was done by a different female doctor. The issue was still there, so I was referred to a specialist, a male doctor. The male doctor took one look at at echoed ny dad's words, "It'll be fine once you reach puberty." The doc taught me how to pull the skin back to wash, and an exercise that I later learnt was masturbation. He then released me back to the world.

True enough, as soon as I reached puberty, my bell end popped out. I am now a proud owner of a six inch penis that has entertained me in the best of days.

When I was 12 years old I felt a lot of pain in my penis, my mother took me to the doctor who referred me for surgery, I still remember the day, that's where my whole medical fetish began.

Seeing this thread has reminded me of something from my childhood, which at the time was really fun for me and my friend - but NOT for my friends cousin!

I will post again with a full account, but for now let me just say that my friend's cousin suffered with this problem and the "treatments" that his Aunt had him endure while he stayed with her for two weeks one Summer, when he was 13, were excruciatingly painful and embarrassing in equal measure. I'm so glad this thread has reminded me of this - I'll try to remember all the painful details LOL!

Kate, I look forward to the full story...! Hamish

Seeing this thread has reminded me of something from my childhood, which at the time was really fun for me and my friend - but NOT for my friends cousin!

I will post again with a full account, but for now let me just say that my friend's cousin suffered with this problem and the "treatments" that his Aunt had him endure while he stayed with her for two weeks one Summer, when he was 13, were excruciatingly painful and embarrassing in equal measure. I'm so glad this thread has reminded me of this - I'll try to remember all the painful details LOL!

I can hardly wait to find out what she did to him. I had a somewhat tight foreskin but I fixed it myself.

since my own life included many similar humiliating experiences

OK Katex now you have all us perverts waiting to hear about YOUR "similar humiliating experiences" 😈 .

Roscoe,

You'll have to wait to read my blog!!

@Katex : I feel really sorry for that young man. Thats so awful.

@Katex : I feel really sorry for that young man. Thats so awful.

Not to throw a damper on your appreciation, but I am fairly certain the story is a (nice and arousing, fun and pleasant) fabrication and should ideally belong in the fiction section.

And even if it were true - as unlikely as it seems - the young boy would later grow up and derive a lifetime of pleasure from the memories and acquired fetish ...

If it is a true account...then I attach no blame to Katex....but (if true) then that was appalling behaviour by the boy's own auntie. Shocking....defintely tantamount to sexual abuse of a minor. To be honest, it made me feel quite sick.

I do agree (and did say) that it was abuse in a number of ways, and without condoning anyone's actions, I think it has to be recognised that in the late 1960's, early 1970's there were plenty of "Aunts", as well as "Uncles", who took advantage of situations for their own "amusement" and no one seemed to think that it was a serious problem. The fact that three neighbours all joined in showed that the adults had absolute authority to do whatever they wanted to do. I never saw Chris again but Susie did tell me that his exposure continued in to the second week of his stay, and even the following summer when he went back to stay with is Aunt again, she had him show her and Susie that his penis was still working properly. As I said at the start of my account, I hope that he did come to reflect on all of this with some gratification rather than being completely messed up.

My own exposure and embarrassment started at a much younger age and I believe without doubt that it is what led me to become an exhibitionist. I do think sometimes though how I could equally have ended up a recluse or in an institution. I will explain with details in my blog, but I can tell you that it began when I was a little girl and my daddy would make me pee in public, or more specifically, in front of men.

From as young an age as I can remember this was the norm for me and it wasn’t until I started school at the age of 5 that I found out that other girls did not just pee in front of people. I then became very embarrassed about it every time my daddy made me do it.

When I was really small, he would lift me up with my legs in the air so that I could pee without wetting my clothes. He didn’t do this in the middle of town or a crowded street or anything like that, but whenever we were on a car journey together he would tell me that I needed a pee and then he would find a place to pull over. He always found a layby or car park where there were already cars or lorries parked up and then he would have me pull down my panties and then he would hold me up to pee, lifting me to face the driver of the parked vehicles.

As a boy I was repeatedly told boys should not play with themselves, hence I am surprised the aunt would insist this boy effectively did just that, I would have thought that the exercises should have been done by an adult rather than by the boy himself