Is withdrawing kinky?

I prefer to be fully inserted when I cum inside a pussy or ass, but to each his and/or her own, as they say.

I prefer to cum inside a pussy or ass. Anything else is not the same. A mouth is good too!

Eating my hot cum off MISS L saved wet pussy

Is my thing I love to do

She likes when I cum deep in her pussy and she pushes it out then she'll make me lick it up

I love when I have a partner I know is safe and we can share fluids. I love to see a man cum and love it more when he can cum deep inside me and I want him in there for a long period. I love the feeling of togetherness.

I love having my bf pull out and shoot all over me long as it above my waist lol we risk pregnancy which only hightens the excitement for us

Kristen said:

i love having my bf pull out and shoot all over me long as it above my waist lol we risk pregnancy which only hightens the excitement for us

I'll come right out and say it, "THAT iS PRETTY STUPID." You better not wind up on the welfare rolls.

I'll be damned if I'm going to pay for you and your dumb baby with my tax money.

Well spoken Susie, there are enough people over here who claim benefits for everything they can and then don't even bother to spend it appropriately. Having a child is something special and not to be considered lightly or a spur of the moment thought during sex.

When chatting to girls about 'personal' subjects I often ask 'do you allow your BF to ejaculate inside you'. Most of the forums seem to be USA dominated and I am suprised by the number of those who either ask thier partners to withdraw or whose partners do out of choice - is it an American thing?

When I ask why the usual response is that they don't trust thier contraception (usually oral contraception) and that struck a chord with me. Sometime back I had a passionate affair with a married woman and of course she was paranoid about being impregnated. She used a diaphragm and spermicide and I used a condom at the same time. During her fertile time she also had me pull out before ejaculating and even then I had to keep the condom on so no semen was spilt. During her safe time she would allow me to ejaculate inside her (with the condom in place). Only at the beginning of her period would she allow me to enter her unsheathed, depending on her whim, sometimes she would allow me to stay inside to ejaculate and other times she would ask me to withdraw.

More recently I have been having a fling with a much younger woman and on a few occassions to mix things up, I have purposely pulled out on the edge and spontaneously ejaculated on her vulva or onto her stomach if I could get that far before ejaculating.

Dr White said:

.....During her safe time she would allow me to ejaculate inside her (with the condom in place). Only at the beginning of her period would she allow me to enter her unsheathed, depending on her whim, sometimes she would allow me to stay inside to ejaculate and other times she would ask me to withdraw.

More recently I have been having a fling with a much younger woman and on a few occassions to mix things up, I have purposely pulled out on the edge and spontaneously ejaculated on her vulva or onto her stomach if I could get that far before ejaculating.

Sorry Dr White but there is no such thing as a 'safe time'. At the beginning of a period might be a 'safer time' but it is possible for conception to occur nonetheless - and how did your lady know that it was the start of her period and not just a 'show'?

Also, ejaculating onto the vulva is far from safe. Semen can get carried into the vagina and along with it the sperm, especially in the warm and wet secretions brought on by sexual excitement.

The Rhythm Method (Safe period or Natural Birth Control) is at best only a partial contraceptive method with a failure rate of 11 to 22% - hence it being termed Vatican Roulette by our friends in the Roman Catholic church. No method of contraception is 100% sure except abstinence, though it has to be agreed that multiple preventative measures increase the likelyhood.

The respective reliability of various contraceptive measures are charted at http://web4health.info/en/answers/sex-contraceptives-reliability.htm - from that it will be seen that such methods as Withdrawal (coitus interruptus) has a theoretical failure rate of 9% over 1 year if managed well - but in practice the failure rate is 40%!

Please don't take this as a lecture - it's just a statement of facts.

Thanks Big K @#42... for the lecture (sorry, take as one). I think you will find that 'safe time' is a colloquialism used in the Rhythm Method (just Google it). What you seemed to miss is that throughout I stressed it was what she wanted. Also, as a mature woman and an SRN, I am pretty sure she knew what she was doing.

You should have gone on to say that no method of contraception is safe (if your definition of safe is 100%). It is a pity your reference did not include the Standard Days method which is theoretically 95% effective (according to Georgetown University) so about the same as a diaphragm according to the ‘facts’ you posted (would you criticize someone using a diaphragm as a method of contraception too?). The Family Planning Association (www.fpa.org.uk) says of ‘natural family planning’: “If used according to teaching and instructions, up to 99 per cent effective. Up to one woman in 100 will get pregnant in a year” (and you know how we Brits refer our own sources of information).

Unfortunately there is no research that I know of that categories the ‘most safe days’ but in my uneducated opinion I would think the first days of her period would be the in that category. That plus our age (neither of us has the fertility of a teenage) means we knew what we were doing – which is nothing like the picture you paint from a point of ignorance about our circumstance. Should I explain all those factors before describing our contraceptive choices in the future?

Some women are fortunate to have very regular periods, her cycle was and is always 27 or 28 days so I think she knew when her period had started.

In your haste to tell me off about the danger of ejaculating on to a woman’s vulva you conflated that with the safe time lecture although that was reference to a different woman. I suppose you made the assumption because I once had sex with someone who did not use contraception from your approved list that every girl I go with is the same.

Oh, and you seem to like the term ‘Vatican Roulette’ you used it in post #23 too to describe Withdrawal as a method of contraception and used it in #42 to describe the Rhythm Method. As I had never heard the pejorative term before I had to look it up and discovered, “It should be noted that the use of such a term often indicates its user has a bigoted and intolerant attitude against people who practice a religion they do not agree with”. Best be careful not to fall foul of the ‘Religious’ rule.

Anyway, you are a moderator and obviously know much more than me but where adults congregate, although new here and with respect, I think your sort of responses restrict the flow of conversation. Remind me some time to check all your posts to see if you are 100% factual in all of them (cf.previous paragraphs).

Oooooh - a cage well rattled Dr White?

First, this is a Forum - a place for the exchange of opinions, would be one definition of that. You are quite free to express opinions. I am quite free to do likewise.

'Safe time' is indeed a colloquialism used to describe the Rhythm Method. I said that in the 3rd paragraph of my post although I used the more common term 'safe period', so I hardly need your explanation or exhortation to 'Google it'. You however use the term "her safe time" without qualification. I merely said that no time was entirely safe, whilst acknowledging that some ''times' were indeed 'safer'.

The link you gave regarding the reliability of the method may well be right but 'up to 99% effective' is hardly a warranty. I gave a link too and that website said it had a failure rate of 11 to 22%. No matter which is correct - neither is 100% effective and the caution I gave is justified!

You tell me I should 'have gone on to say that no method of contraception is safe'. I did say that - it's in my third paragraph - and I added 'except abstinence' - maybe the cage door rattling made you miss it!

You go on to say that I linked the two separate people you mention. I did no such thing. I merely illustrated that another of the activities that you took part in was also not 'safe'.

I take extreme exception to your implication that I am bigoted and intolerent against people who practice a religion that I not agree with. In fact I made a point of referring to "our friends in the Roman Catholic church", who will freely use the term Vatican Roulette themselves. You conveniently miss out that fact in the look up you did - at http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=vatican%20roulette - just as you conveniently miss out the fact that the same website also says it is frequently (and incorrectly) the term used for coitus interruptus - withdrawal! As for the religious Rule, Webmaster and the Moderator Team have recently discussed the subject and we do allow discussion on such as:-

"How does religion impact on your sexual preferences?" http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=64517.0

"Catholics are you there?" http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=23573

[color=#000000]Yes, I am a Moderator but I claim no higher privilege than anyone else here and my post was written as an ordinary member - it just happens that the system categorises me as a Moderator. As for '(my) sort of responses restrict the flow of conversation', well at least one other member 'likes this' (my last post).[/color]

[color=#000000]Do feel free, as you suggest you might, to read all of my posts for factual accuracy. I am quite sure you will find some to be innaccurate. Indeed I sometimes, but not always, say 'I'm open to correction' - or I will often quote my source. [/color]

[color=#000000]I'm genuinely sorry that you take my addressing what you said in your post as a lecture. You are entitled to your view on that as well as your interpretation of 'safe time' etc. However, I claim that right too! [/color]

My wife is a hot wife and as such she has many lovers. She and I and one other lover are fluid bonded. We both shoot cum in her vagina or ass. All of the other men are required to wear protection, she rewards them with having them cum all over her tits, or letting them titty fuck her.

She prefers unprotected sex, but says that she just wants to have fun, not get a deadly disease.

Withdrawal can be very kinky in my opinion. There is the whole visual aspect of watching the ejaculate erupt from the penis to where the ejaculate will be aimed. There is then the sense of denial if not allowed to ejaculate inside a vagina, mouth or rectum as directed by either party, which ever is being more dominant at the time. Finally, there is the option of forcing someone to lick the ejaculate clean.

If it works for the two of you that's great. For me I want all of that cum inside of me and really can't seem to get enough of it. But thats me and I am lucky that my husband knows my likes and dislikes.

Withdrawal was the only way we have sex. He either cums in my mouth or on me. It is an amazing feeling because it requires an incredible amount of control on his part. He agrees that its more fun to cum inside, but were trying to prevent babies not invite them in.

Its easier to clean up when he withdraws. Especially when I swallow.

For much of our marriage, I've always enjoyed ejaculating in my wife -- her vagina, mouth or anus -- and she feels the same. But as I've aged, it sometimes takes me longer to climax during sex. My wife, who has always been very orgasmic, has what I'll call "orgasm fatigue" during a long session and so I'll withdraw so she can rest. I will lay next to her and masturbate to completion. At first, I thought she might not care for me finishing outside of her, but said she finds it visually arousing to help me and to watch me ejaculate. It doesn't happen all the time, but it keeps things interesting....

Withdrawing will no more be kinky when a woman will become pregnant by having done this as a form of birth control.

No withdrawing is not kinky but I do not want my husband doing it. We both just like him doing it inside me. I love feeling him squirting in my vagina and I feel close to him because of it.

I think withdrawing is a thing that is copied from porn movies a lot of the time. I do not think withdrawing can be as satisfying for a man as when he does it inside her really.

Withdrawing is from the older pornos. It was the "money shot" to show the guy actually had an orgasm.

Interestingly, on the Playboy channel, you often see the guy pull out and masturbate as he's ready to cum, but Playboy channel fades to black before he cums. That seems to be part of their modus operandi there--you see plenty of wet pussies getting fucked but you never see a drop of semen.

Is withdrawing kinky? Hell no it's disappointing. I have only had this happen a few times to me when I was younger but when it did happen I was like, "what, is that it? Are you done?" "Come on now, there has to be more to it than that, isn't there?"

I am a huge one for skin on skin contact whether it be chest on chest, hand on hand, or penis in vagina. When Doc comes inside me I can feel it in several ways, one of which is his sperm hitting inside of me. I love that feeling and feel cheated when I don't feel that. Cheated isn't exactly the word I am looking for there, but ladies you probably know what I mean and or am trying to explain.

Mashie

I am a huge one for skin on skin contact whether it be chest on chest, hand on hand, or penis in vagina. When Doc comes inside me I can feel it in several ways, one of which is his sperm hitting inside of me. I love that feeling and feel cheated when I don't feel that. Cheated isn't exactly the word I am looking for there, but ladies you probably know what I mean and or am trying to explain.

Yeah I would feel cheated too. I know what you mean Mashie.

Withdrawing is from the older pornos. It was the "money shot" to show the guy actually had an orgasm.

Interestingly, on the Playboy channel, you often see the guy pull out and masturbate as he's ready to cum, but Playboy channel fades to black before he cums. That seems to be part of their modus operandi there--you see plenty of wet pussies getting fucked but you never see a drop of semen.

That is just cheating too. What would be the point of watching that ?

My husband pulls out now and then so he can ejaculate on my body or clothing. I don't mind it if I can see him spurt because the visual reinforces the image of what goes on inside me when he ejaculates. I if he is doing me from the rear, I don't get much excitement from his spurt on my back or buttocks where I can't see it.

Dita

I wouldn't say it is kinky... Depending on her mood the wife to be will beg for it all over her ass, breasts, tummy, or neck.. More often then not, its deep in her.. but she loves to be sprayed.. She loves watching me stroke myself.. so often I'll finish that way for her!

Keeping the sexual fire burning hot is what’s important. Seems you are doing just that and I commend you both for that!

I think the matter is a very subjective one.

For me, personally, it‘s only kinky if I withdraw just a little but - Only enough to see me covering her crotch with my Semen.