Is withdrawing kinky?

Hi everyone.

Myself and my wife have both recently taken a renewed interest aspects of our sexlife since being married to keep things interesting and one thing we have really got into is ejaculating outside her vagina. 😉

We have no idea if anyone else is into this but we have suprised ourselves with how much we get a thrill out of it. I think from my point of view it leaves my slightly unsatisfied so after a clean up I'm keen for more lovemaking, and the 2nd time is less rushed and sensual. From my wife's point of view she gets both increased quantity and quality/sensuality, plus she has to totally submit and trust me in withdrawing from her.

We recognise withdrawal has elements of intimacy/trust/control/denial/sub/dom by its very nature, but its something that we love and wonder if anyone else has ever encountered this? Or are we just odd? ???

That doesn't seem like my cup of tea and I wouldn't consider it kinky.

I really enjoy when my husband ejaculates in my vagina or other orifices. I love the feeling of the semen squirting out and the increase in slipperiness when it happens. I love knowing he has his orgasm inside me. Sure there are plenty of times he has an orgasm outside my body, but I wouldn't want him to withdraw just so he could ejaculate on some other part of my body.

We forgot to mention we do have ejaculations inside the vagina too, but not all the time so those moments are all the more treasured 😃

I have never tried this(I'm too much into feeling my sub's orgasm inside of me). But whatever makes you and your wife happy is what counts the most. We are all odd in our own way, that is what has brought to the zity.biz site. There are just varying degrees of it. Some being more mild than others. Again, just enjoy with your wife. 😄

No not kinky definitely a turn on for some to see where the cum goes or how much. . .and fun to watch a man ejaculate his facial expressions and body movements are priceless. ..

Well it adds variety and its variety thats the spice of life as they say. Funny though its the sort of thing that people dont seem to admit to or maybe we are unique!

I don't this would have much appeal to me. For one, I just love the feeling of a penis ejaculating inside of me. The sensation makes me horny for more. For him to pull out seems like such a waste.

If it works for you fine!

As a male I fnd it difficult to withdraw my penis from the vagina when I'm so close to climaxing.

My ex used to enjoy me pulling out on occasion and ejaculating on her tits or her face. Not often, but once in a while. It wasn't really my favorite thing to do, but it made me happy to make her happy so I'd do it. I really preferred to cum in her sweet pussy or her tight ass.

There's no right or wrong way to do it as long as both partners enjoy it. Carry on...and have fun.

ldb

Personally, it's a turn off because it reminds me of those tacky, low budget porno videos.

I don't think it's kinky, more of a personal preference. I don't think it's that unusual to be turned on by cumming where you can see it, as opposed to cumming in the vagina, where it's hidden. Many people must enjoy seeing ejaculation, because in pornos, they always make sure to get that "cum shot".

On a personal note, I like it when he cums on my breasts or my butt, or my tummy. I think it's very sexy.

My wife will give me a handjob just because she likes to see me cum.

I actually love it when my husband withdraws and cums on another part of my body! Makes me feel dirty! 😁

I totally understand about the handjob reference. That way you can watch the cum explode. It also reminds me of my younger days when girls would give handjobs because they didn't want to "go all the way" :+)

Nope, not just odd. Everyone has their different turn-ons, and even THOSE change from time/time. I used to be a dedicated voyeur, but lost that interest years ago. Whatever it takes to float that yacht of yours.

After thinking about this and reading up on it we may have worked out the attraction of withdrawing:

On pulling out of Kat I ejaculate effectively with no physical stimulation on my penis which doesnt give the best orgasm- in effect a partialy ruined orgasm.

On the face of it thats not good (unless your into that particular thing) BUT it means I'm not fully satisfied and quickly eager for another lovemaking session soon!

Kinky, whatever?? !! Thankfully, my SO seems to love seeing and feeling my cum squirt from my cock... A few days ago I had a GREAT cum from a blowjob/handjob she gave me... well lubed and her hand stroking me until I shot all over myself, and she just kept stroking driving me absolutely crazy. In fact she was the first girl who WANTED to see me cum, many years ago. When She is really turned on, she likes me to stand over her and stroke my cock until I squirt all over her. Sometimes it's mind-bending when she tells me to cum on her nipples, or she tells me to coat her tongue with my cum. Quite often, after I give her a good orgasm with my mouth, she wants me to fuck her from behind as hard as I can=== It must be within seconds of her orgasm or she loses some enthusiasm... she will reach back with both hands and spread her wonderful (I mean REALLY wonderful) asscheeks and order me to squirt my cum on her butt. She's not into anal, but shooting a load on her tight butthole and rubbing it in with my cockhead is oh-so-good. She doesn't like to fuck when she has her period, but she knows that I can't wait 6 or 7 days without cumming (she hasn't ever let on if she knows I pretty much can't last 2 or 3 days...) so sometimes when her monthly visitor is onboard, she just wants me to stroke my cock for her until I cum on her tits, her panties, or her belly, or even her mouth.

God, I DO love her!!!

Thank God for birth control pills, because I prefer to ejaculate inside the vagina or anus. Withdrawing is something I did in my younger days when my girlfriend and I were too stupid and careless to use birth control. It feels so much more gratifying and intimate for my wife and I when I ejaculate inside her.

Nothing turns me on more than ejaculating in her mouth whiles shes on her knees in front of me. We tried ejaculating on her tits, her stomach and her ass, all are great. She will not let me ejaulate right now as she and I both cannot afford to take a chance.

I'm not averse to withdrawing and ejaculating outside of the vagina at all and its always been one of very many permutations in our lovemaking.

However for those in pursuit of mutual orgasms, especially early in sexual relationships it can be counter productive. We're surely aware that women do tend (generalising) to be slower to achieve a climax, hence the problem of premature ejaculation. Here, by premature ejaculation I merely mean that the man climaxes before the woman.

It's certainly a trigger for a woman's climax when she feels the spasms of her partner and hopefully the force of the ejaculate inside her vagina - we talk of the ejaculate 'hitting' the cervix - and is very likely to be just that which brings about that much sought mutuality.

When the relationship is on a surer footing though it is often the desire of women to witness the ejaculation or even to feel the ejaculate externally 'bathing' their vulva. It can be a manifestation to them of their partners virility and manhood. And it opens the door to other activities such as 'tongue cleaning' of the womans body, tasting from the fingers etc.

One thing though I personally dislike, is the image of the man towering over the woman masturbating onto her, a la bukkake. It smacks to me of subjugation though here again if its mutually desired then thats fine.

Like many I love to be taken to climax orally and in many cases the mutual orgasm does not obviously feature, except that is when positions such as 69 are used.

There comes a time when such variations keep alive the intimacy of a relationship but in my view, early in a relationship, what I describe in para's 1 and 2 is important to establish first.

My wife and I do this as a form of birth control. It is OK but leaves me somewhat unfulfilled, I really enjoy the feeling of ejaculating deep in her vagina.

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My wife and I do this as a form of birth control. It is OK but leaves me somewhat unfulfilled, I really enjoy the feeling of ejaculating deep in her vagina.

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And it wouldn't surprise me loveflipflops, if your wife didn't find it unfulfilling as well. See the third paragraph of my post.

As for it being 'a form of birth control' it's a 19% chance of failure, http://www.epigee.org/guide/withdrawal.html Hence the somewhat unfair name given to it of Vatican Roulette because it's one of the methods used a lot, against the teaching of the church, by Roman Catholic's who are barred from using most other methods of contraception.

We typically since I met and engaged in se with her have used this form, even with a condom. I have had one condom break on us and it was not fun...Talk about losing ones mind. I tend to stress out sometimes after sex worrying, even gone as far as making my girlfriend stressed to the point her monthly visitor was out of whack. Everything we do to take precaution is more than we need according to her doctor. She laughed when my gf told her what we do before, during and after sex. LOL

Withdrawing a perfectly good squirting cock is indeed kinky........but very erotic too. Its just something that I cant do. My wifes pussy/ass feels too good to put a load on her elsewhere. Besides, she would be a little annoyed if I did that(her been a sperm-goddess and all). We think the leaking results a far more erotic

I withdraw whenever iam with someone where birth controll is a concern, but I would much rather cum deep inside her vagina.

I love it on inside of vagina as much as outside. Love is on my breasts.

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Nothing turns me on more than ejaculating in her mouth whiles shes on her knees in front of me. We tried ejaculating on her tits, her stomach and her ass, all are great. She will not let me ejaulate right now as she and I both cannot afford to take a chance.

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Don't they have condoms, diaphragms, IUDs, birth control pills, foams, female condoms (did I forget some other method?) in your part of the world? You could even use something mechanical plus the pill if you're really worried.

We have always preferred the grand finale with me inside.

I have a friend who is just the opposite. He always pulls out, in fact he does it the same way every time. They do it "doggy style". When ready, he pulls out, masturbates, and ejaculates on her butt and lower back like the "money shot" in a porn video. Pregnancy is not an issue, they were both "fixed" years ago. It sounds very unfulfilling to me but it apparently works for them although he has never said what his wife thinks about it.

It's not the strangest thing I have read on this webs site, but if it floats your boat then good for you.

I'm not sure on why we must pigeon hole our likes or disslikes in to "kinky, fetish, normal, perv...blah blah blah..etc" why not just " works for us" or thanks but no thanks"

It can be very kinky - yes! Of course it is where the cum goes that is the turn on. Cum facials, tit cream, ass cream. Rubbing it in on their tits or ass. Snowballing. All of those things are great, a turn on, and satisfying. Personally, it often feels good to pull-out and grab my cock. I can squeeze it much harder that a pussy or anus can, which allows me to shoot my load and squirt it harder if that is the desired effect. Also, I think that can add to the intensity. Any way you cut it, in or out, as long as you are blowing you load and having kinky sex - it doesn't really matter. Make it different every time and then keep going back for more!