Enemas Before Anal Sex

Many years ago, I had anal with a female friend who was quite constipated. The stimulation was fantastic, and I came quickly. The "enema" that I gave her did nothing beyond giving us both great orgasms, but the slippery nature of my deposit did allow her a quick BM. We played several times after that, actually for years. We had lunch frequently, and I always welcomed hearing her say, "By the way, it's been "X" number of days since I could go." I always helped her out! One night, I, too was badly constipated, and she offered to give me an enema. She was amazed at how well it cleaned me out, and asked for one herself. The amount of poop she produced surprised her; and although we always had anal when she was constipated, we developed a great enema relationship, too.

My husband and I usually have anal intercourse once or twice a month. He leaves my enema bag in the shower as a sign of what he wants. I usually prepare myself. After breakfast, I take a couple of soap enemas until no solid feces comes out. For lunch, I only have clear broth, same for dinner. Around 5, I take another enema and insert a butt plug to stretch me out a bit. I take a final enema about two hours before we do it. I put a bigger plug in at that time. The last plug is about as big as my husband. I usually take a sedative or methocarbamol muscle relaxer at the same time.

Once in a while, I will go to a day spa that gives colonics and have a professional colonic technician prepare me

Dita

@Dita

Cool to read, are you doing it only for his sake or do you enjoy the process and act as much as he does?

I have mentioned this many times. It is how I got started on enemas. I started chatting with a girl and she ended up moving in with me. She loved anything anal. At the time I hated even being touched back there. One night after sex she and I were talking and she asked why I didn't like anal or even being touched back there. I told her it was dirty. I said I would hate for someone to feel something back there. She asked if I had ever felt anything in her. I said no and that is when she told me that she did enemas. I didn't mind giving her enemas I finally got brave enough to try them. It took a long time before I could take a whole bag. That turned into series enemas. We would do enemas until clear. We even started using the shower massage hose after we were clear. Just to let it run in and run out. Slow and low pressure. But after that, it seemed we would be clear at least for two days. If we had a little come out we would use another enema but just let it go in and come out. Yes, it is time-consuming but that is the only way I will let another woman touch me back there. If you do it a few hours before seems to work.

For me, and my lady, cleanliness, inside and outside, is everything. She was new to anal play when we met, but now loves this aspect. She subsequently admitted that she could never have "worked" my back passage if there had been any chance of finding something pooppy!

For us, a deep cleanse isn't needed for anal, just to the sigmoid bend. That seems to be the best compromise for sexy clean and too long a wait for the next BM.

Lots of really good, practical, info in this discussion.

i don't think there's a one size fits all answer to the OP's question, and it was obviously asked from their perspective. E.g., assumed it would be a "her" who would would be receiving the anal.

As a total bottom gay guy, clean out can become a way of life! i find it funny how in nature all the parts we use for sex double as waste removal systems.

my being total bottom has all sorts of psychological wiring. Just part of what makes me who i am, but for me, "kink" is all about the marriage between our bodies and our psychological/emotional/mental make up.

One of the reasons i appreciate Zity is because there are so many here who are moved by enemas alone (intentional lol), and not just as a prelude to other types of penetration. To me (and obviously many others on this site), enema can be another form of penetrative sex, depending on the participants and their needs/wants (read: "kinks").

As anal as the gay community can be, i think it could take several pages from the straight community when it comes to sex. As a bottom, i'm often chagrinned at the ignorance that so many top gays have regarding clean out. i'm often frustrated that clean out is a thing, and wish this whole discussion was taking place on a gay site. The expectation/demand for 'clean' can take the spontaneity out of sex. As a bottom with sub tendencies, i love the idea of my Top being able to penetrate me whenever He likes or needs. i have fantasies of waking to Him penetrating me in the middle of night as we sleep together. That kind of spontaneity requires a different mindset to what may be encountered, and it seems many gay tops are ignorant of what a bottom has to do to clean out.

Another 'page' i wish more gays read from is the one that discusses that giving an enema can be a penetrative form of sex. There is so much mind fuck potential with enemas, as is the mf potential for not using them. The people here seem so much more aware of the psychological side of enemas than what i have seen in the (strictly) gay community.

I guess it’s the woman’s choice, if she’s comfortable with enemas.

I had regular anal intercourse with 4 women over the years. None of them ever took enemas. In the event that anal penetration wasn’t a good idea for some specific reason (sometimes discussed, other times not), we just skipped it and satisfied ourselves another way.

In all those times only once did my penis emerge from an anus unclean. We both noticed immediately because we’d fucked with her on her back, and then just headed straight to the bathroom for a shower. Not a big deal.

Don't get me wrong, if you want to have anal sex with your girlfriend or wife etc then accept there may be a little mess, price to pay for amazing anal however I do like to clean myself with an enema should there be time.

It is not always pre planned.

It is always best to have enemas before having anal sex. And when there is time and you are expecting to have that anal sex the enemas can be as erotic as you make them which add to the excitement and enjoyment of the anal sex.

But as Alicia said it is not always preplanned.

So this is a good reason to make enemas a regular happening a couple of times a week for all the ladies. Maybe more often if need be.......

I have given anal sex to my girl friend the first time after a few times of vaginal sex. She already had orgasms from vaginal sex before she wanted anal sex. She was relaxed as I entered her anally for the first time. There was no mess at all. I think by then she would have gone to the toilet to move her bowels if she was full. So I think it is up to your girl to decide whether she needs to go to the toilet before anal sex or that she wants to receive an enema from her man to make the act erotic and cleansing. All I can say is that I would accept a girl for anal sex just the way she is for the chance of a mess is remote. I just love the shape of a girl’s bottom that leaves me with no qualms to give her what she wants - anal sex.

Before my wife an I got divorced, we used enemas during foreplay or after sexual intercourse a couple times a month. We also played around with holding a two quart enema during sexual intercourse. Every once in a while, when she gave me an enema during foreplay or I her, we would hold the two quart enema with the douche nozzle still inserted, while we had sexual intercourse. It changed the dynamics of sexual intercourse, depending on the position used. Moving my penis back and forth in her vagina with a douche nozzle in my anus, while holding a two quart enema, was, to put it mildly, quite interesting. My orgasms were more intense, however, if she was on top moving her vagina up and down or grinding her pelvis around on my penis, allowing my anus to clamp down around the nozzle, as long as she didn’t put to much pressure on my abdomen. She found the same to be true, laying on her back, feet spread and pulled back to her bottom. My penis moving back and forth in her vagina while holding a two quart enema, douche nozzle inserted, giving her anus something to clamp down on. Giving her a more intense orgasm, I just had to be sure, not to put to much pressure on her abdomen. The other position she liked, was the knee chest position, with my penis moving back and forth in her vagina from behind. The only thing about the knee chest position, was the hose coming down from the enema bag could get in the way, if not careful. After getting a couple of butt plugs, we tried having sexual intercourse while both held a two quart enema, each using a butt plug. We had to be really careful when we both were holding an enema having intercourse, because of the possibility of double trouble. The butt plugs did however, make it a lot simpler when only one of us was holding an enema while having sexual intercourse. Doing either, was something we did only once in a while, to be different. It was also something that made us, think about what were doing, where we were doing it, what could happen if we had an accident, and the mess we’d both be cleaning up if It did.

Anal intercourse was something we did to change our routine, as was, having sexual intercourse while both holding a two quart enema, we did it for a change every once in a while. Fact-was, we both preferred only one holding an enema during sexual intercourse, over have anal intercourse or both holding at the same time, but we still did it occasionally, just to do something different. We both liked having a douche nozzle twisted as it moved back and forth in our anus during an enema or sexual intercourse, and was something we did routinely. We normally went to bed nude, and many a night before cuddling up close to one another, we slipped a douche nozzle in each other, then cuddled up slowly twisting the nozzle as we moved it back and forth in each other, relaxing, sometimes talking sometimes not.

Wow, Been lucky to do this one time and it was so intense. Just have to hope there is no accident as that would kill it for any future events.

Although I had been giving myself enemas since I was about twelve years old, I did not have an enema prior to my first anal experience. It was unplanned. My husband and I had been at a party and once we were home commenced some pretty good sex. He was on his back and I rode him vaginally, but I did not have enough yet, I wanted to try anal, so I lowered myself onto him. Between my juices and his cum, he slid right into me without much effort. It was great! I had a bowel movement earlier before we went to the party, so there was no mess.

Sometimes, if I had any thoughts of action later, I would give myself a "quickie" of a couple of bulbs as I got ready for the evening, just in case it turned anal. Eventually I confessed to him that I liked enemas and tried to incorporate them into the action. I never got him to get comfortable with play enemas as I was. Maybe part of it was having anal immediately after an enema sometimes got messy. Had to try it, but not our favorite. I much preferred for him to give me a quart and for me to hold it while he did me vaginally and/or oral.

We tried anal one time many years ago and neither of us cared for it. However, if there is one thing that will get my wife excited it is getting a good soapy enema. She loves the entire process. Actually, so do I but we learned some years ago that a woman stays horny for a much longer period of time so if we are both going to do an enema, she has to get one first and then me.

Just asking - can not being completely clean, a good thing or a bad thing?

@eeetime said,

Just asking - can not being completely clean, a good thing or a bad thing?

My ex wife and I always did enemas before anal intercourse or anal play.

As a matter of fact, that’s how we got started having vaginal intercourse, while one or the other, held a two quart salt and baking soda enema. Best I recall, I was given her an enema in the knee chest position, was hard as a rock as usual, but this time, I was also really horny. It finally got the better of me, as the bag went empty. I put a little lube on my penis and mounted her vagina with the douche nozzle still buried in her rectum, to her surprise, I might add. As luck would have, she was as horny as I was and had our orgasms almost together. When her orgasm started, it put me over the edge, and I had my orgasm while she was still deep in hers. Once we both came down, she asked me, “what possessed you to do that?” I replied, “I was so turned on, I couldn’t wait.” Then, she said, “If you had asked me first, I would’ve said, “no.” I’m glad you didn’t ask, I really liked that, that was the best orgasm I’ve had in a long time. We’re doing this again.”

In the years, before we had kids. We tried different positions, while having vagina intercourse, with one or both of us holding a salt and baking soda enema. Once the kids came along, it didn’t leave enough time or privacy for that type of play. Whenever, my brother and his wife or my mother kept the kids over night, we would do it, but it wasn’t as often as we liked.

@Rick6981 - Lucky man! 😉

I have very little experience with anal sex (unfortunately 😉), however, the females I've done it with have never had an enema beforehand, and I've never once experienced any mess. I've always known it is possible and have been prepared for it, I just haven't experienced it yet.

A discussion should be held beforehand. The male will be the one to do clean up. Therefore the playmates should discuss why the female might be reluctant to indulge in an enema.

I find that an enema hours ahead of time work best. I think it makes you a bit tired to do it right before. I have also given a bath and enemas to a woman who was married after anal so she was nice and clean when she returned home.