Afraid to ask husband to play doctor

Okay, so how do I bring this subject up? "hey honey, do you want to play doctor?" I mean really - we share a very intimate sex life, but this is a fantasy I've always had. The thought of going to the gyno makes me insane, my panties get soaked, when I'm laying there on the table all I can think about is the doctor rubbing me down, so how do I share this with my husband? I'm so afriad he's going to think I'm a freak!!! HELP, please!

Why don't you try asking him to go with you on your next doctors visit.After you have been examined in front of him...you may not have to say anything...he just might think of it on his own.

How about bringing it up as part of general discussion of fantasies? Start off with the kind of scenarios you're sure your husband wouldn't object to, then gradually steer it toward the idea that he play doctor and you play patient. You may be surprised as far as what he may be willing to do, especially when he sees how excited you are by the prospect.

It worked with me - my tastes were always more toward vanilla until my wife started telling me about her medfet fantasies, and the excitement I saw in her when she talked about it encouraged me to try it out. Now, here I am!

I would also start out gently. Just tell him you want to "play doctor". You could a few toys at an adult store and possibly a steth and take it from there.

These have been good suggestions. What was the outcome?

My partner and I were enjoying a quiet evening together talking. So I got up the nerve to tell him about my fetish...we were tealking about fantasies and I told him that I have a med fetish....his response was "OH?"

Then quiet, when he spoke again the topic was changed.

Now what do I do? I feel like an idiot for telling him? I cant help wondering if he thinks less of me now, or thinks I'm a sick individual...

What do I do now??

Veronica, I think your best bet is to just bring it up again. I mean, the worst is over, you've told him how you feel. His silence doesn't necessarily mean he's freaked out by it, maybe he's just taking time to process the idea. Just casually ask him what he thought/how he feels about what you told him.

Veronica, just go on and tell him more about your fantasies and what you would like. The "OH" was proberly just because he dont know what to expect and do. Depending on which role turn you on you could e.g. set up an exam for him and show him what it is about. Else you could ask him to start doing some gently exams on you. After a while I bet he will start to enjoy it specially when he discover your pleasure in it

Thanks for the advice enzee and Dr Adam. I think I will give it a few days to give him time to digest what I've told him. If he doesn't mention it then I'll try again.

Good luck Veronica, I am sure that it will go well. And I love the suggestion from doctorbrian about Cosmo magazine. May use that one myself!

From my (male) perspective, what gets me off is seeing my wife get off.

If she wanted me to stand naked in the middle of a freeway, and I could be assured she would have a once-in-a-lifetime orgasm...well, I'd ask for alternative methods first LOL but you get the idea.

So, I guess if the incentive is that he can create a mind-blowing orgasm for you, maybe offer that first. I know it sounds a little mechanical the way I am saying it here, but every man wants to be the reason his woman is having Richter-scale orgasms.

I have always asked for direction from my partners. Once that is established (that I want direction) it comes thick and fast...(did I just make a pun?)

Let him know that's the way to your satisfaction - make it just the tiniest bit of a challenge, if you are as intimate as you indicate, he'll step up.

Also, start with fewer toys, less formal or scripted scenes...watch his reactions and see what he seems to like.

and you have to remember, intimacy is about putting yourself out there, and your partner has to trust you and be worthy of your trust as well. it's NOT an easy thing you are doing...brave at the very least.

you could also ask for a couple of other modifications of his behavior, ("honey, I want you to take the trash out every week, I don't feel that is something I should have to do...")

work it into a list of the changes you'd like him to make.

Honey, I want you to rake the leaves, fill my car with gas and have it washed, get yourself a couple of new shirts, and oh, yeah, one more thing, I'd like you to pretend you are a doctor and examine me, like we were kids...the thing is if you do, you are liable to be in for some of the best sex of your life...

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what doctorbrian said.

Wow can I relate this topic...

I have been involved with my husband for almost 20 years (I'm only 34) and we have been married for 12...so like I say to the girls at work something has got to be working well to keep the intrest going for all these years.

Our sex life is good, really good. He never fails to satisfy me....but I think because I have known him for so long I find it impossible to share my developing fetish with him.

We've tried a little light D/s and to be honest I had a giggle fit. I know I could submit if the situation was right, and I KNOW I'd love it.

I tried to have the talk with him...started with what haven't we done that you would like to try, worked my way to bondage and then tried to slip in medical fetish/casting...He got stuck on bondage.

He insists that anything I want to try is good with him. But the whole concept of fetish is sort of lost on him...he's always horny he hardly needs an extraneous trigger mechanism.

I feel bad that I find myself chatting on line to fulfill this desire. But I really don't know what else to do. When wants become needs what other options do you have?

Ladycaster, I somewhat agree.. I have been introducing my boyfriend to med fet, really, really slowly & in a more sensual way than a fetish-type way. ("Let's play doctor" & that type of thing.) He doesnt quite realize how much of a fetish I have, and the first (& so far only) time we tried to play doctor it went a little bit awry.. He focused more on the sexual part than making it realistic, which turns me on, and I'm figuring out how to explain that...

What you said sounds very accurate!

"But the whole concept of fetish is sort of lost on him...he's always horny he hardly needs an extraneous trigger mechanism."

I agree he should go to the gynocologist with you next time...but wait in the car. You say your panties get wet, soaked even from spreading for the doctor? When the exam is over don't put your panties back on, but put them in your purse (yes hon, that will be pantiless under your skirt walking out).

Sit down in the care with him, and hand him your wet panties. Let him know this is how being spread for a doctor makes you feel. Then let him feel you between your uncovered legs. That should make him understand.

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Chase

I would not worry about it. I'd bet all my money he'll be so into it he'll probably cum right ther!

I agree with richies. Start with something easier and build into a confidence/comfort level.

My husband and I just started playing doctor at home but he's always enjoyed coming to my appointments with me. He tells me that he makes sure he gets a chair behind the exam table so he can peek around my doctor's back and watch what she's doing. Probably helps that he also thinks my doctor is hot in a mature woman was 😃 So one day we were talking about spicing up our sex life (not that it's not great but we've been together for 7 years) and he asked what my fantasy was and I told him and he was VERY into it. I had the same apprehensions though before i told him but now I'm so glad I did...also him insisting on coming into my doc's exam room makes more sense now. Go for it!!

Just ask...guys are up for anything.

I think Dr. Brian has the approach that will be the most successful.

I have been into being the patient online for several years, but always kept a good, though very vanilla sex life with my husband. In a video store one day we ventured in the adult section and I suggested we each pick out a video that we might not normally choose. He chose a biker type video and I the medfetish video. We both learned a lot from the viewings of each video. Plots were obviously lacking, but plots are not the point of porn videos anyway! Keep trying gently - the results are worth the effort.

My wife called me at work one day, and while we were talking she told me she had a fetish that we had never talked about and she simply told me the name of a website specific to med fetish (at the time, I did not know what the website was about), but I could not wait to get home and look it up and see what my wife was talking about.

Though a little surprised, the idea of giving her an exam was very intriguing...and needless to say...we have been very active exploring this fetish together...

We order med supplies on a regular basis and look forward for them to arrive to go and give them a try...

I have to say, I am very happy she shared her fetish with me and now its something we share together...

My wife of 23 yrs actually confessed to me she had the desire to seduce her gynecologist in the exam room......this thought actually turned me on........we have lots of ideas and wish to make it real time.....she actually works in a hospital as an ultrasound tech and sometimes comes home with her panties very wet

I really think you deserve a karma about all this your reaction and way things are working out between 2 of you! DR4wife:

My wife called me at work one day, and while we were talking she told me she had a fetish that we had never talked about and she simply told me the name of a website specific to med fetish (at the time, I did not know what the website was about), but I could not wait to get home and look it up and see what my wife was talking about.

Though a little surprised, the idea of giving her an exam was very intriguing...and needless to say...we have been very active exploring this fetish together...

We order med supplies on a regular basis and look forward for them to arrive to go and give them a try...

I have to say, I am very happy she shared her fetish with me and now its something we share together...

Gynocuck, Please reconsider encouraging your wife to seduce her gynecologist for two reasons: First, if he is a professional, he will fire your wife as a patient and she will have to reestablish care with a new provider. Second, if she succeeds she will put his job in jeopardy. Moreover, in some states it is a criminal violation for a Doctor to sleep with a patient. Can you think of any other situation where you would encourage your wife to entice someone into committing a criminal act? Instead, find a doc (real or otherwise) who would be a willing participant in your wife's fantasy.

gynocuck, Please reconsider encouraging your wife to seduce her gynecologist for two reasons: First, if he is a professional, he will fire your wife as a patient and she will have to reestablish care with a new provider. Second, if she succeeds she will put his job in jeopardy. Moreover, in some states it is a criminal violation for a Doctor to sleep with a patient. Can you think of any other situation where you would encourage your wife to entice someone into committing a criminal act? Instead, find a doc (real or otherwise) who would be a willing participant in your wife's fantasy.

I tottaly agree with Dr.Rh. trying to seduce your own doctor during pracice is one of those fantasies tha must reamain ecactly that - a fantasy.

I understand your hesitancy however, most husbands--including myself--love the experimentation of sexual intimacy in the bedroom. The whole gyno part is subpart to the equation--what really matters is understanding each other erogenous zones and new ways to spice up your sex life. Like most others have pointed out--start out slow and gradually move into the zesty parts once both of you are really hot and bothered.

Another thought would be that u could learn how to do the exams and then become her own gyn play doc.

I have this same issue! I would love to share my fantasies with my husband, but feel embarrassed and uncertain about whether he would find them too far out. On the other hand, I sort of like having my privacy regarding this.

The avarage male thinks about sex 5-7 times a day. I think he has thought of medical exam play somwhere along the line and perhaps he is afraid to ask you. Buy him a speculum for a present and see what happens, hugs joe and margit

Honesty is the best policy . sit down and speak your mind .

if he dont like then forget it .

but it is highly unlikely for a man to turn down a fantasy for his partner .

most guys jump at the chance