Concerned wife

OK, just so everyone knows, I'm not a diaper lover. However, my husband is. I'm just trying to get some insight into this because I want to find a way to get comfortable with this fetish of my husbands so that it doesn't possibly ruin our relationship.

We sat the other night and talked for about 3 hours about it. He can't explain why or how he has this fetish. He wears diapers to bed (he occasionally has issues with bed wetting) and he enjoys looking at pictures of women in diapers. A few times he has tried to get me to wear a diaper (which I'm figuring he had done to make him feel better about wearing them.) He claims that when he looks at the pictures he sometimes wishes it was me wearing the diapers (not sure if this was said to make me feel better).

I'm just wondering what the appeal to wearing diapers is to other people. My husband says his is the crinkly sound of the diaper, the way the outside and inside feel, and the comfort he gets from wearing the diaper. Can someone please give me some insight. I'm not against anyone on here I'm just looking for some advice and some insight from an outside source. Like I said, I love my husband and I just want to try and find a way to get comfortable with this since I realize that there isn't a "cure" and it will probably always be something that interests him.

Well i can try to help but this is not an easy topic to explain. for one the reasons why someone wears varies person to person. Truth is i myself am not even sure the full reason i like them. But it can be the sound they make, some like the scent of a diaper, others like the secure feeling they get while wearing(reminds them of their childhood) other simply like how they feel wearing them. As for his liking to look at pictures and saying he wishes it were you, i can fully see that, some ppl feel guilty if they have someone looking at pictures of others. I do also have to compliment you on the fact you are trying to figure out how to deal with him, you must love him and i think he is lucky to have you, many would simple think that him liking diapers is weird and leave, as for you trying them, i see no harm in it, but i would also say that you may want to talk to him about it if he seems to be pushing the idea a bit much. i would like to discuss this a bit more in a more private way so maybe i can try to answer specific questions. If you are willing you can send me a private message on here and perhaps we can exchange messenger IDs and talk easier, if you think you would like to talk that way you can either send me a private message and ask for my ID for any messengers you use, OR if you just want to give them to me i use Yahoo IM and windows live IM. If you are not sure yet you can always take some time to get to know me through this site with private messages, i may not post all that often, but if i feel i have something to add to a topic or have advice for someone i do offer it. I am not sure if this has been helpful or not but perhaps it gives you something else to think about, or perhaps someone to talk to so you can gain some more info.

Hi Bluerain,

I think it's great your come on here to get some answers or advice, good for you!!! And your husband is a Lucky guy, to have someone who cares to try and understand.

I think you're both doing pretty well at this point, if you have been talking about it and trying to find some way to come to terms with it.

OK, this isn't a simple one. What I mean is, there is no right or wrong, or easy answer to any of this, it can be very complex. "He can't explain why" No, for allot of us, myself included, we can't say what it is that attracts us to wearing diapers, or why. There are some who can point to something in their life and say, "that's what it is for me, that's what did it, or started my love of diapers". But, for most, it's lost to them ??? I can tell you a bit about myself, and maybe it might say something, I don't know? But, I'm an otherwise normal :😃 type person. I'm single strait male, 44. I do my job, my chores, etc, etc, and for me I'm very shy about it, and no one else knows about my diaper wearing, and my liking it. I'm also an AB (Adult Baby) I like to dress like a baby sometimes and use baby items. I have always liked diapers, ever since I can remember! All the way back to when I was still in diapers as a toddler. I had no idea what it was about??? I just knew I had a thing for them. And for me, I was from the cloth diaper and plastic pants days, so I like those best. Even back at that young age, I didn't want others to know I liked baby diapers, you weren't suppose to! Once you were out of diapers, that was suppose to be it. It's funny, because I had a small bought with bed wetting from about 4-6 years old. But, I didn't get diapers for it. There is a strange duality to it, for me anyway. On one hand, I would have loved to be put back in diapers for my bed wetting, and I now think it would have been more helpful if I had been. But, on the other hand, I didn't want to feel the shame of such a thing happening. Again, "only babies wear diapers"! I had to endure a plastic mattress cover and wet sheets, clothes, and covers for that time.

I hope I'm not getting to far off track for you, I don't mean to.

I just wanted you to get some understanding of me, and my experiences. There is lots more, but I'll leave it at that.

All that being said about myself, I still have no idea, no real idea of what caused me to be a AB/DL (adult baby, diaper lover). I was not abused as a child, I wasn't overly and unjustly punished, I didn't suffer strange punishments, although my mother use to say sometimes, "are you a baby, do you need a diaper"? That would be for something I did that was childish I guess? Being a diaper lover, I still remember those words!

That brings me to the here and now, at 44 I still have these feelings, maybe even more so. I like what I do, I have long since come to terms with it, I enjoy it! I try not to find the reasons for it anymore.

There are allot of different reasons for doing it, and it makes you feel good. You can feel secure, comfortable, at ease, let the stress out. All of the above.

I can understand it may not be something for you Bluerain, but if you would indulge your husband, his desires, and love of diapers, I believe you could be very happy, and have lots of fun. Maybe not all of the time, and there is no reason you couldn't ask your husband to do something you may like in return for indulging in his fantasies. That don't have to be sex related either, whatever! Tell him if he takes out the trash, you will put a diaper on him! 😁 I'm just using that as an example. 😉

I hope some of what I said here will help you out. If you have any other more specific questions, don't hesitate to ask. Good luck in your quest also. Have fun and enjoy! 😄

Your husband most likely views the diaper as an escape to another reality, he can shake off all his adult responsibilities. To tell of these desires he must view as someone he can both trust and embrace this lifestyle with.

A fetish cannot just be stopped, it is a manifestation which may have been involved in his life since his early teens. You say he is a 'bedwetter', so maybe the diaper interest came about because of this very fact.

Not many people can understand or state why they have this fetish, i am one of those people.Trying to get you involved in his fetish must have been a massive step, a leap of faith if you will. To also tell you he yearns for you to wear the garment is another matter entirely.

You should never feel pressured into partaking in something you do not want to do but it maybe something you can try once or twice, maybe ask for something in return.

Value his trust in you in sharing this. Love him, whole -- everything else you ever loved about him is still true. Laugh hard and long with him if he can go there, at life's jokes -- the unexplainable, sometimes both painful and hilarious (if they weren't also so sad) corners of ourselves we all have ... every single one of us.

Have compassion for how innocently this was probably caused, how easy it is to see how it could happen, how totally beyond his choice and control, and especially what it's been like for him to live 'til now with it as a secret.

If you do allow or join in any of it with him, do it only as far as you're comfortable, as a game, with a smile at life's quirks, with a sense of play.