Is it abuse to make a child wear diapers?

To add to my post if it comes down to wearing a diaper I do think it should only be mom, dad, grandma, or an aunt. Who ever the child lives with that should help a young child. Not brother or sisters, unless that's who is taking care of that child.

Now when a child is a teen I do think a teen should be taught how to take care of their own diapering. Only because they are getting older and need their privacy.

Biggest thing to remember is you are not abusing your child because you want to keep them dry at night. We need to remember what is a diaper used for. I have to wear one I don't think it makes me a baby. So if you explain to a child that it will keep them dry . Yes there are multiple options and I would give a child the choice so they was deciding for them self.

Marc42 said

Biggest thing to remember is you are not abusing your child because you want to keep them dry at night. We need to remember what is a diaper used for. I have to wear one I don't think it makes me a baby. So if you explain to a child that it will keep them dry . Yes there are multiple options and I would give a child the choice so they was deciding for them self.

One of my nieces was toilet trained at two years of age during the day but wet the bed at night, so she wore diapers at night until she was about four and a half. The poor girl wanted to be dry at night, but she just wasn't getting there. My sister in law was getting concerned, so she spoke to her pediatrician and he had a solution that worked 100% in three weeks with no accidents.

Are you ready?

My niece (who was four and a half years old) and her mother had a talk about responsibility. (My older brother picked a wife pretty similar to me in many ways but not as kinky--tough love and responsibility is important to her.) Here is what they did. The girl's bed was protected by a rubber sheet over the mattress and under the regular sheet. My niece was put to bed NAKED because the wetness would wake her up. If she wet the bed, SHE had to get out of bed and change the sheet herself (it was a plain flat sheet), clean herself and get back into bed. A change of linens was kept in her room and my brother set up a motion sensor that rang a buzzer in their bedroom so they would know she was up and help her if it was necessary. At first there was crying and disappointment, but she got used to the routine and in a few weeks, the problem was completely resolved and my niece was very proud and happy about it.

Waterproof sheet, and having to change wet bed clothes out, is very close to my own childhood experiences. I still thought, it was pretty miserable, then, and now. I won’t say it was wrong, but it still sucked to me. I guess, there is no one right way to go, and you take your best stab at doing your best.

I was a chronic every night bedwetter growing up and wasn't reliably dry at night until my early 20's. I don't see a problem with nappies. It has to be better than sleeping in a soaking wet bed as I did

I do remember one occassion when my mum threatened me with "nappies" and it really upset me, cannot remember what it was about but it also terrified me ?

Funny how things turn out, it now terrifies me the thought of NOT wearing one ?

When i was young in the 50/60s i don't think it would have been considered abuse To make a child wear a nappy. I was made to wear nappies for bed until i was 9 to 10 by my mother for bed wetting. But now i think it might well be considered abuse now a days

Several outstanding comments in this thread. Its all in how the issue is handled.

Keep wetting the bed and you are going to be responsible for washing and drying and cleaning up. Use diapers and you wake up dry and comfortable. I'm sorry you have this problem. What do you want to do. Think it over.

Not abusive at all. That's what diapers were designed for. They catch the pee and poop so the bedding and clothing doesn't. What would make it abuse is if you still forced them to wear diapers after a reasonable amount of time after they stopped messing the bed. Of course the first time they have a dry night you would wanna still have them wear the diaper for a readonable time each night afterwards to make sure waking up dry wasn't a fluke. Say, a week.

I was born with medical issues that prevented me from being able to be potty trained until I was almost 7. I pooped and peed my diaper almost every night. Mom and Dad decided to institute a nightly enema before bedtime. I lay there across mommy's lap as she gave me 4 enema bulbfuls each night. We would just stay there like this for about 15 minutes while the enema did its job. I loved our bonding time.

I agree with SwitchableSusie that it's all about responsibility. I feel that it would be abuse to physically force a child to wear diapers, but presenting them with diapers as a responsible option to cope with bedwetting is not. If the child cannot be persuaded into wearing diapers for their own comfort and convenience, then they need to take responsibility of themselves and deal with wet sheets and changing the bed in the night.

I myself am incontinent due to a birth defect. I've been in diapers my whole life. If I refused to wear a diaper, I accept that I'd have to deal with the consequences of that choice (wet sheets/clothes).

It is all about patience and giving your child the right to chose and empowering them. I did not have a problem with being changed by others. Other people might. I tried diaper free and realized I was truly incontinent and it wasn't worth the trauma of accidents in public and never getting sleep. I also tried cathing realized that was a horrendously terrible option....do not force anything on them be honest and open and consider their opinions. AND DON"T USE DIAPERS ON KIDS FOR NON MEDICAL REASONS AND DO NOT LIMIT FLUID INTAKE! Both are abusive.