Enema vs. sex: what is more intimate?

Erotic enemas are sex. If it's just an enema given to a child or parent for health reasons, it could be, and probably is, whether it's welcomed/appreciated or not, intimate. But not sex. Sex could be intimate, or a substitution for intimacy I'm generalizing.

@BigJane Your story is cool, not many women like anal sex, even fewer who talk about it.

Sex is always good but Enemas are by far the ultimate experience. As a male, the exquisite "internal pains" that only an enema can give as it continues to fill your bowels is almost beyond imagination and when given by someone who well knows what you are experiencing, by simply gently holding your balls will bring you to an orgasm, draining every last drop of your hot cum, totally exhausting you.

From the aspect of being naked, both sex or enemas have similar degrees of nudity but the communications needed is greater for an enema, the time required is way more if several enemas are given or taken, and the trust required for allowing someone to give you an enema is greater. I don't think that anyone that has learned to mesh the cramping and fullness of an enema with the act of achieving a sexual climax would fail to realize the benefit of having a large enema coincidental to a sexual climax. Sex is certainly great, and when you associate an enema with greater sexual satisfaction it is hard not to realize if you have the time a few enemas can take things to a new level. That being the case intimacy is chosen for the reasons of satisfaction and the enema tips the scale decisively.

Our sensory systems all contribute to satisfaction, seeing, hearing, touch, warmth, taste, and smell may seem equal but the interleaving of muscle and nerve tissue in the perineal area easily makes the feelings from the anus, and rectum blend with those from the genitals. The final straw is that when the rectum is full the rectal wall sends more nerve signals and applies pressure to the genital structures since they are all inside the pelvic floor area. It is not hard to duplicate those feelings, it is impossible, a vibrator or something in the rectum is not bad, but will not safely create the pressure to squeeze those other structures. When you climax it has been reported that the pressure in the rectum hits about fifty millimeters of mercury, I'd bet the pressure with a full enema in those spaces is twice that during a climax. I know that when my wife is giving me an enema with the bag three feet above me that I have heard air pushed from my rectum go up into the bag when I climax.

So intimacy on a scale of 1 to 10 is one part, satisfaction on a scale of 1 to 10 is another, the two must be somewhat intertwined but they are different.

Never had an enema (yet!) but I'd imagine I would find it more intimate than sex. Anything where the genital and anal region is the focus... those moments are beyond intimate for me.

As to plain sex, my experiences have ranged from exciting to boring. At least with guys I haven't had much that I would call intimate but maybe I haven't met the right person yet. The only exception is with the two young men who have been my patients, but that wasn't sex, because my clothes remained on because I'm the doctor. I mean, maybe they considered it sex but I was just being a naughty doctor, not having sex 😇

Despite my reservations and the embarrassment factor, I DO want to try an enema one day, especially after chatting with certain women friends here on Zity. I think with the right woman it would be so so so intimate.

I was given enemas long before I had sex for the first time, long before I could be sexually active.

Nevertheless, I felt great embarrassment when I had to hold out my butthole to Mom in anticipation of her treatments.

It wasn't until my twenties, during my military service, that I received my first enemas after a 10-year break; this time from a sexual partner.

She insisted on thoroughly rinsing out each other before every sex. Offering my ass to her for the first time so that she could insert a rubber enema tube deep into me for a 2 liter enema initially took a lot of effort. That only went away after a while. She, on the other hand, had no fear of contact, quite the opposite. She couldn't wait for me to get busy with her asshole.

With my wife, I have no problems giving her my ass for enemas when she asks. I know she's into it...

In 40 years of being together, my husband and I have had moments of incredible intimacy that I never dreamed of during our wedding night when both of us, we sometimes joke, were babes in the woods sexually. Actually, we discovered that wasn’t so terrible. As newlyweds, we had wonderfully memorable moments learning!!

At the same time, when two people vow to love and care for each other in sickness and in health, there are also levels of intimacy that neither of us on our wedding night could ever think of happening in our lives.

Hence, when I was critically injured two months into our marriage and needed home nursing and TLC, including my husband learning to give me enemas because the pain meds were making my insides miserable, we discovered a level of intimacy that, looking back, strengthened our love for each other. I know this would sound weird to a lot of women, especially, but an enema bag and the right person giving can result in intimate experiences beyond measure.

Now, whether that’s as good as or better than great sex, I’ll leave that up to you! Every body is different.

At the same time, when two people vow to love and care for each other in sickness and in health, there are also levels of intimacy that neither of us on our wedding night could ever think of happening in our lives.

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Now, whether that’s as good as or better than great sex, I’ll leave that up to you! Every body is different.

🌹It certainly strengthens bonds, and makes intimacy more special.

Never had an enema (yet!) but I'd imagine I would find it more intimate than sex. Anything where the genital and anal region is the focus... those moments are beyond intimate for me.

As to plain sex, my experiences have ranged from exciting to boring. At least with guys I haven't had much that I would call intimate but maybe I haven't met the right person yet. The only exception is with the two young men who have been my patients, but that wasn't sex, because my clothes remained on because I'm the doctor. I mean, maybe they considered it sex but I was just being a naughty doctor, not having sex 😇

Despite my reservations and the embarrassment factor, I DO want to try an enema one day, especially after chatting with certain women friends here on Zity. I think with the right woman it would be so so so intimate.

Maybe you will give it a try and see what will happened!! Surely it will not be a pleasure for everyone, but certainly a great experience!!

Milker feel your pain as had prostate surgery 3 yrs ago but no longer ejaculate, but love enemas, get prostate spot massage, and anal O.

The summer before we both started high school, we were feeling sort of advanced, having to go to the big school and ride the bus. We often held hands in the dark and i would tickle into her palm. She whispered if i would like to learn to kiss. A couple weeks of seeing all we could do with that, like carefully counting one another's teeth, my mind wandered further, sensing we had worn it out. I asked her to come look at what mom and dad had hidden in the bathroom cupboard. She giggled and called me an ogre. Wanting to be polite, she said, "Fancy stuff! Do you think you can mind your manners?" And explained that she intended to follow nursing after high school. "Be a good boy for me?" And reached for my belt buckle. Undoing it, she asked me to get ready, while she put water and hose together. She put me on a towel in the bathroom floor, and took the towel covering me to support under my head. I was 14 and my little pecker was arching toward my belly button. "Do you have to do that?? I thought you would behave yourself , "" , I stopped her there and asked her to not make fun of it, and that it had a mind of its own and seems to like you an awful lot, right now. She rolled me to my left side and had me open my back side with some outward pressure from inside. She told me to watch and pay attention as she greased the nozzle for me, and then greased me, studying her way into fitting me with the pipe. "Take a deep breath and hold it for me, OK?" As i started drawing in special air she slid it in , causing me to really suck wind. "Aww, that's a good boy for nurse Tammy,,,. And another special breath, please." And i heard the metal clamp pop open, then the rush of her infusion up my butt .". I automatically moaned heavily with the breath I had obediently taken for her. She quickly stopped the flow and rubbed on my tummy. Releasing the clicker clamp again, her warm administrations quickly continued and my boner relaxed. With drawn out voice she asked if it was gooood? I moaned again for her and she petted on my tummy telling me what a good boy i was for the good nurse. Me, "UuuHhuuu, wanna touch it?" "Not sure i should?" she squeaked. I told her it would not bite, raising my right leg to give her ready access. Gently and cautiously she slid her hand under it and dropped her lower lip. I asked her to let it know she was friendly. And as she began to pet and feel on it, that firm response grew again for her. "Oh, look at that!" and she looked into my eyes. I blew her a kiss. She asked me to brace the nozzle for her, and she laid beside me to give me kisses while the waters advanced, going further up inside me. I kinked the hose and we comfortably petted with her goodness weighing in my belly.

First, you have to exclude medically necessary enemas from the discussion. Then, considering what I like to call “recreational enemas”, I think an enema is more intimate than sex. Most adults engage in sex but those of us who willingly submit our most private body opening to someone else are a very small percentage. If you are letting someone give you an enema, you are not in control.

@Cheryl77177, agree with your thinking 100%. Maybe even more so for guys.

First time having sex was easier it was quite a long time after that I was able to broach the subject with a partner alas but most were quite unwilling. It wasn't until I dated a woman who had severe bouts of constipation that I was able to get more intimate about the subject. I explained that an enema would be more effective than a laxative and that seemed to convince her we started with a small Fleet drug store enema and after I was able gain her trust we graduated to the red bag.

What is more intimate? ENEMAS.

As I’ve written many times, a large enema produced my first orgasm, given to me by my Mother. After that incident, and another….and another, it was imprinted in my mind. I much preferred enemas over sex. Her enemas felt so incredibly good! To this day, there is nothing as sexually enjoyable than to have a bulging hot, sudsy bag of enema to clean me out AND make me feel good.

I have to incorporate the tummy cramps and pressure to make my pussy wet and swollen.. I mostly orgasm during the clamping on and off with varying degrees of pressure to feel the cramps. Then hold the enema. There is no orgasm like one you have with an enema. The sensation is just like it was when my Mom was giving them to me and I would orgasm. (Mom took enemas almost every day, so she was quite experienced.) To add icing on the cake, she would twist the greasy black douche nozzle around in my rectum, back annd forth and raise and lower the bag while I was cramping. It would put me over the edge and I would have loud orgasms and shakes She definitely knew what had happened but we never talked about what was happening. After a strong orgasm, the enema stopped, I finished expelling and she would inspect the results in the toilet. Exclaiming “Boy, you really needed a good enema!”

I can recreate Mom’s enemas now. They include cramping, bloating, pressure from the fullness and some tears. No sex has ever felt as good as a good, thorough, old fashioned enema. She used hot, sudsy hottish water, producing cramps. I told my Grandmother once that something sexual would happen when I got a big enema - and it felt GOOD! She said, “Well, Honey, things like that can sometimes happen. It’s just part of being a woman.” I think she knew exactly what I was talking about. But I still felt guilty for orgasming during the enemas. (On the other hand, I knew it had to be caused by all of the stimulation.)

After having experienced enema orgasms, regular sexual intercourse didn’t even come close to the same kind of pleasure. I really tried nut I could never orgasm with intercourse .Only enemas.

What is more intimate? ENEMAS.

As I’ve written many times, a large enema produced my first orgasm, given to me by my Mother. After that incident, and another….and another, it was imprinted in my mind. I much preferred enemas over sex. Her enemas felt so incredibly good! To this day, there is nothing as sexually enjoyable than to have a bulging hot, sudsy bag of enema to clean me out AND make me feel good.

I have to incorporate the tummy cramps and pressure to make my pussy wet and swollen.. I mostly orgasm during the clamping on and off with varying degrees of pressure to feel the cramps. Then hold the enema. There is no orgasm like one you have with an enema. The sensation is just like it was when my Mom was giving them to me and I would orgasm. (Mom took enemas almost every day, so she was quite experienced.) To add icing on the cake, she would twist the greasy black douche nozzle around in my rectum, back annd forth and raise and lower the bag while I was cramping. It would put me over the edge and I would have loud orgasms and shakes She definitely knew what had happened but we never talked about what was happening. After a strong orgasm, the enema stopped, I finished expelling and she would inspect the results in the toilet. Exclaiming “Boy, you really needed a good enema!”

I can recreate Mom’s enemas now. They include cramping, bloating, pressure from the fullness and some tears. No sex has ever felt as good as a good, thorough, old fashioned enema. She used hot, sudsy hottish water, producing cramps. I told my Grandmother once that something sexual would happen when I got a big enema - and it felt GOOD! She said, “Well, Honey, things like that can sometimes happen. It’s just part of being a woman.” I think she knew exactly what I was talking about. But I still felt guilty for orgasming during the enemas. (On the other hand, I knew it had to be caused by all of the stimulation.)

After having experienced enema orgasms, regular sexual intercourse didn’t even come close to the same kind of pleasure. I really tried nut I could never orgasm with intercourse .Only enemas.

@Moms_Egirl - I simply adore reading your recollections and vivid descriptions of your past and present enema experiences. Your need for hot, soapy and cramps enemas match my own needs, it's wonderfully erotic and yes, i agree, they produce the most wonderful orgasms. Thank you for taking the time to share with us.

Exclude medically necessary enemas from the discussion? Not always. On occasion through the years when I was ill and had a legitimate need for an enema, this was when I craved TLC and intimacy the most.

My husband gradually became more sensitive during times when I’ve been down and needed home nursing and a good enema. He’s rarely sick, but I have tried my best to return the favor on the end of an enema tube if he needs it, and a gentle massage here and there. Sometimes he can be a pain, but there are times when I love the feeling of being the dominant wife with a jar of Vaseline!

Not the same, even if enemas can be very sexy, very exciting, very intimate....but.... you have to be in the sex mood for them to become sexual....when your mind or the giver mind are not into sex, then giving or getting an enema is just an act done to obtain something.... it may be embarrassing, but there is no intimacy...To have sex, you need a certain level of intimacy from at least one of the partners.... not all concerning sex is black and white.... at this point I would vote for sex being more intimate....

To me both giving and receiving an enema is far more intimate than penetrative sex. There is a very large amount of trust and submission that is required to allow yourself to be so vulnerable to take almost a quart of water and surrender a basic bodily function to someone else. Don't get me wrong, I love sex too - but I feel the most connected to another person when I'm either receiving or giving an enema.

Seems no matter the context, there’s always a “clinical” part to administering an enema, even erotic ones. Sex, anal play (fingering, toys, rimjobs) seem more erotic to me

Given my partner wasn’t into enemas AT ALL, so my view is probably skewed!

I think enemas are more intimate than sex.

When my wife and I got married, we both looked forward to the sex and the intimacy and we eagerly engaged in most variations of sex without reservation. We were totally onboard with the associated intimacy.

The enema, on the other hand, seemed more intimate than sex. I was definitely interested in giving my wife an enema and having her give me one, but for the first few months of marriage, the enema was TOO INTIMATE for me to even broach as a topic, let alone perform as an act. Eventually, we discussed enemas and while reluctant to have one, my wife agreed to submit to try an enema, but only because it might help her constipation. I gave her two enemas and she didn’t like them.

About three decades later, after learning on Zity so much more about enemas and how to administer them, I again approached my wife and I ended up giving her about 10 enemas over a two-week period, to help with her bowels. Again, she didn’t like them so we stopped.

To me, giving my wife those 10 enemas was far more intimate than having sex with her. She was lying on her back with her bits on full display before me. I inserted my lubricated finger into her bottom hole and twirled it around, all the while I had a front-row seat to observe exactly what I was doing.

Once, during the proceedings, my wife asked why I put my finger in her bottom instead of just inserting the nozzle. I assured her of the necessity of lubricating the anus with a lubricated finger in order to also loosen up and relax the anus so it can accommodate the nozzle.

Of course, the most important reason for inserting my lubricated finger into her rectum is because it is so sexy and intimate that were it feasible, I would position my finger in her fanny 24/7.

@Rigel wrote:

Sex, anal play (fingering, toys, rimjobs) seem more erotic to me

Good point, Rigel. I believe many of the sexual activities my wife and I have engaged in have been more erotic and exciting than an enema, but for the reasons given above, to me, the enema feels more intimate.

I have never tried it but to be fair i often suffer from the "runs" so guess this is cleaning me out.

In my opinion, enema's are much more intimate, than intercourse !! - it is a very " special thing " by doing this practise - also as a giver or receiver !!

Eleven years ago I said that an enema was more intimate, but now having had a long time to think about it want to change my answer. While an enema can be an intimate act, it need not be as when taking an enema to relieve constipation or prep for a medical procedure. Having sex on the other hand involves two people that hopefully have some level of emotional attachment, will exchange bodily fluids, and in the absence of any type of birth control, may conceive and create a new human being. When I think about all those times over decades that my husband and I have had sex very few occasions occurred without that emotional element. There were times when my emotions were so strong that I actually cried as he ejaculated in me, which never happened when receiving an enema no matter how much I might have enjoyed it.

Sex is more intimate for me, but as a gay male who is a bottom enemas are often the prelude to sex. At first, when I was younger and exploring enemas and colonics I definitely got turned on by them. Now an enema is helpful to a pleasant experience for me and a partner. I once had a long term boyfriend who liked watch and eventually gave me enemas and that was definitely intimate. He was really turned on by the whole process and that turned me on because brought down barriers to feelings if embarrassment. It brought us closer.

There are guys I would have sex with who I would not share enemas with. Getting ones rocks off is easy. The Connection it takes to enjoy a enema with someone else is hard.😃

What an amazing question. I haven't considered them to be equivalent. Having sex for the first time was just so amazing; a beautiful girlfriend who wished for us to become intimate. As for technique, I was largely all thumbs so to speak but it was beautiful. Subsequent times were just more amazing.

As for my introduction to receiving an enema, it was part of a roleplay with a nurse. I was in my late 20s and never had experienced one. She made it very interesting as part of a medical exam that touched all of the intimate bases. I think that the thing that registered the most was the feeling of being submissive and experiencing the penetration of the nozzle; release of the solution, and her rubbing my lower back telling me to relax. Eventually, the cramping began and then my focus switched from curiosity to attending to the build up of internal tension and clenching. She held my hand and escorted me to the bathroom while telling me, "You're being very brave." Let's just say that there was a component of sexual gratification mixed with bodily discomfort and the necessity to surrender to what was taking place! She was very skilled and attentive to anticipating my reactions.

For me, sexual relations with someone you care deeply about has remained very important and if it should include some other aspects then it's a bonus. Both are special.