Who Pays for the Hotel Costs?

I think it's the men which pay for the hotel room.

My view is since the experience is shared by two or more people the surely the cost should also be shared. I don't use hotel rooms I have a room in my home which can be set up as an examination room.

Split the bill. One party paying might make the other one feel compelled to obey and agree to things they wouldn't necessarily agree to, in an attempt to “provide a service” for the costs.

Tough call! I would say that the person who makes the initial invitation pays. Then, if there are repeat meetings, it should be split. Or, all that should be discussed and sorted out before the meeting.

We always discuss and make a choice. I’m happy to pay, or vice versa. Splitting is fine as well. But I think that’s a mutual decision that should be made as part of the overall discussion of the experience. Typically the hotel does have to go into one name, so if we’re splitting I bring sufficient cash to pay my part

@RTEnthusiast got it right. (Post # 60). It depends on the situation whether the hotel cost is shared equally, partially, or paid solely by one party or the other, or “gifted” via reward points or business expense. If I invite someone to my room I would not expect them to pay - neither would I expect to pay if invited to their room. If two people decide to obtain a room for play, handling of the payment should be settled up front. If someone is financially more capable to pay for the room, they should bear most if not all of the cost. No one should feel obligated to perform or put out based on who provides the play space.

As the doctor, I would always pay for any hotel costs if that was the chosen location by the patient. I feel it's the right thing to do, and I've never had a patient insist on paying, but a few who wanted to split the costs, maybe to have some control?

Doc.

The patient's medical insurance provider.

No. Ultimately it should be a mutual decision, as if any 2 people were getting together for a playdate for whatever reason. On playdates I've had, sometimes we've split it, or either pays.

Now if the play doc is having an event where he is seeing several patients by invite, then he would have responsibility for the cost. His patients should offer to kick in.

Are you the invite, or were you invited, all I can say about this conversation, is "If I am invited to your house party and agree to attend, than I bring a bottle of wine, or toy, or agree to what I might contribute to the evening, I wish I were that lucky I would be happy to pay, for it all.

Split the bill. Period.

It actually would make me incredibly uncomfortable if he paid for everything! @BigFatGreek, I 100% agree with you. I would feel pressured to go further than I am comfortable.

I always pay for the hotel costs and with few friends whom i met regular, i pay for the dinner/drinks before meet.