Just because you like it up your ass...

How many of you are accused because you like it up there that you are a pervert or you have a mental or physical problem. Don't get me wrong, I'm not against any kinky fun. Some of my best friends are kinky and I love them dearly. As far as I'm concerned we are all just a little kinky !!

Your comments please, will be most welcome.

I don't know who's doing the accusing, but anal play, anal stimulation and anal sex are just that and I don't get why if women like it "up the ass" it's hot, but it makes straight men gay? It'll feel good to straight or gay men alike. It's not like gay men have a different kind of ass. 😁 Male posters do seem quick to to state although they like anal penetration, they're not gay. The type of sex and sex play you like does not identify your sexual orientation, it just means you like it. I like oral sex, vibrators and finger play, doesn't make me a lesbian. :😃

Have a good friend of over 30 yrs. who wanted to find out if he would like a vibe in the butt. Gave it a try and for him was not something he wanted to try again. Does not make anyone gay for trying something. I thought it's only if you changed your lifestyle and pursued another one - then you would be considered bi-sexual not gay or am I wrong?

I agree with you, Mima. and a karma for proving your point.

My family would drop over dead, then awake from from the dead and kill me. There is no way on earth I could ever tell them about my fetishes and what I like to do behind closed doors.

I've been anally erotic, doing enemas and playing with toys, for about as long as I can remember. It's totally ridiculous that those of us who enjoy this type of play must feel compelled to hide our enjoyment from the world at large. But that's the way what laughingly passes for our civilization has gone.

It's even more regrettable that males (especially) feel that we have to qualify our enjoyment by saying "I like enemas and anal stimulation -- but I'm NOT gay". Even in a group like this.

If all people felt that they were free to disclose their erotic preferences, what a much better place this world would be. And if everybody was willing to talk about what they like, I'll bet we could all find an e-mate -- just from the folks who came out of the "anal closet".

But, that'll probably never happen. And I dare not speak of my fetish at work for fear of being pointed at in the hallowed halls of academia with folks saying, "Look, that's the guy that likes to put things up his butt". Probably not a great career enhancer.

Let's hope that someday, everyone's likes, fetishes and preferences will be accepted and open communication will be the norm. But, don't hold your breath -- unless you know for a fact that you look good in blue.

Peace (and acceptance, and tolerance),

ldb

By accident I found something that felt really good. Months ago I bought a candy thermometer at Walmart. I was standing at the bathroom sink washing it in warm water and soap, not wanting to make a mess in bed in case of slip-out. I pulled down my briefs, stood on a towel, bent over and stuck the warm soapy thing up my rear. It felt kinda good until the soap in me started to sting. I rinsed it off and put it back inside several times till my ring was squeaky clean. I laid it under the faucet in warm water to retrieve astro glide. Adding the lube to that warm tube felt great going inside. In fact, it was so good that I kept rinsing and lubing while screwing myself until the towel was soaked and my legs were shaking. I didn't feel perverted, just kinky as hell.

I bought a expanding enema nozzle on the web. I use warm water and find it as good as the best sex that I had in recent memory. Sometimes I put a vibrator near it and it only increases the sensation.

I've been hinting to my girlfriend that I would want to do it to her and she hasn't said anything negative about it. Just waiting for the right time.

Seems to me that normal is per individual. While we might have reason(s) to believe that our family or friends may stigmatize what we like, we are most normal. I cannot imagine being different from the way I am. What is wrong with these others who are orientated differently? Nothing: they are who they are—just like us, only a magnificent difference is ours.

There is a stereotype (as well as prejudice) towards men having anal sex are gay. People only think that gay men can only do anal sex because that is the only source of penetration that gay men can do. With that in mind, they draw a connection between anal sex and gay men; which is completely wrong. Being gay is defined by sexual orientation, which is the sex or gender that you are attracted to in regards to your own, not by what you do.

This stereotype also made a prejudice towards trans people (particularly trans girls) as most people think these "biological boys" are gay inside, the reason why they want to be a girl is because they want to get f***ed. Although this can be true for some, but it certainly make no sense to spend like $20,000 or something just to get a vaginoplasty to get f***ed... Also not forgetting to mention, not all trans people are looking for a sex change and the majority of them actually felt "their soul trapped in a wrong body" instead of "wanting a vagina to get f***ed".

Sorry if I have gone a little off topic, but to sum up what I said. Anal sex, play, or whatever you call it, is fun and erotic. It makes no one a pervert; those who think it is they just never tried it or never had a pleasurable one or they are just too fond upon stereotype and thinking it is wrong.

I will handle my own needs my way with my own toys. Other guy’s man-hoods can stay in their own yard, pants, and bed. I know where my toys and nozzles have been and when they were cleaned. Just takeing care of #1.

I love things up my ass. I even wish I could find a female partner that would use a strap-on in me. I've even thought about a shemale partner would be cool. What ever feels good do it. burlybear

I love anal play and a cock up my ass.. and my fw/benefits loves for me to use my fingers and toys in his ass.. he isn't gay or bi... but I think if you want a man 2 man play is when people say you are bi or gay.... but I would prefer to fuck my man's ass than him getting a guy to do it.. I enjoy it alot!!!!! so erotic...

The charge I am most insulted by is that you're homosexual or less than a man if you like anal play. There's nothing wrong with the choices people make or how you derive pleasure. While I'm not against homosexuality, men don't turn me on. I like women. I just also like the sensation of prostate stimulation and anal play both giving and receiving. People need not be short sighted and ignorant to label people because of the way they enjoy and express themselves.

The gay thing again.

I like anal play as well as being made love to by my mate when I can get her to.

I hate men and I am the most feminine than most guys out there.

I love women and will always love women.

I think that everybody needs to understand that when you as a man want to be with men your are gay and like to be with men so lets get rid of this stigma of anal erotic means your gay 😎

Several trips to LR ago, she had me well cleaned out and was using her toys on me. To see how and which one felt the best, everything was laid out on a towel. I spotted a dildo with a harness. I suggested we try it. She said are you sure? She put it on

and spent a few moments preparing me. Lord, I love her fingers. She positioned me on my knees with my head down, lubed up the toy and placed it against my opening, then teased around a bit before she eased it in. When the head popped in, she stopped pushing and said to relax. Before I knew what I was doing, I was slowly pushing back against her till most of what I thought was in me. It wasn't to my liking very much, so she pulled out with several moans from me. She asked if I was all right. After I caught my breath, I told her that I was okay but just wanted to know what something like that or the action felt like. Not for this ole boy again, folks. I still like pussy.

Hates stereotyping, if you like something you like it, thats your personal prefrence and should not be looked down upon to anyone else, unless of course you have a fetish of killing people or anything to do with children, then i would say your a sicko

People are quick to ridicule and make fun of others that dance to the kinky tunes. What's going on in many instances is this. Deep inside the person that's quick to judge and ridicule is the hidden fact that they too would like to try the more kinky things but lack the courage to try to be different. Don't fret about opinions of others whose opinions are not worth listening to! These are the Want To Be's who cast stones at themselves and suffer in silence because they cannot handle the idea of being different. They lead lonely and sad lives. As long as we hurt no one while seeking our fun there is nothing wrong doing so with consenting adults.

gynylon28

Kinky people are in no position to judge the kinks of others.

No one's kinks are better or worse than anybody else's.

Except for mine! 😜 😜 😜 😜

Lots of things can be considered "kinky" ...

... but its only kinky the first time. 😉

The anus has many nerve endings, and most humans find anal play sexually stimulating. This is true for males and females, and has nothing whatsoever to do with sexual orientation. A gay man's anus, for example, is not more sensitive than a straight man's.

My partner loves enema and anal play, basically anal stimulation of any kind. I took his "strap-on virginity", if you will, and he took my anal virginity. We are both highly anal-erotic, it's one of the many things we have in common.

One of our favorite implements is the feeldoe. I love using it on him, it is so erotic to see that slowly disappear inside him. From his reaction, I would say he loves it too. I have never, for one second, had any doubt about his sexuality or sexual orientation. He sure as heck is all the man I'll ever need!

Play On!

LadyDoc

I have been looking for a strapon lady to do that to me for a while ladydoc! Thanks for sharing!

-Pink

I'd like to explore prostate massage or "milking." Anyone care to share information or a site that would be helpful?

There are plenty of toys and implements available on the market that will get you where you want to go. The Aneros comes quickly to mind, but there are many others.

As a female playdoc, I can only speak from my point of view but it seems to me that there is nothing quite so nice as the gloved and lubed finger of a caring (and careful) partner for prostate massage/milking.

Just my thoughts.

LadyDoc

I stated earlier that I was caught by my mom-in using her enema stuff, included were some assorted size and shaped nozzles. One in fact really turned me on. It was 8" long, shaped like a penis and very thick. In the use of it she walked in on me as the salt/water solution was flooding me. She joined me in the use and her use also, we had great sex afterwards. I am not gay, married to her daughter and she even joined in. We spend a lot of time together as a family now.

Nothing turns me on more than taking it up my ass. I really need anal stimulation to feel satisfied. I get rock hard just thinking about taking an enema to know that i'm ready for anything that might follow . . .

The other day, my wife was on the couch filing a broken nail. I asked her which nail she broke and she held up her right index finger. I told her that was great, I looked forward to some great anal stimulation with that now smooth nail later that night. She agreed, the sex was wonderful, and I do look forward to future broken nails.

That button is there to be pushed and stroked! End of story >😄

I tried a lubricated finger up my anus a good number of years ago and enjoyed it very much. I couldn't wait to let my wife know. She loves to surprise me by sliding her finger in while giving me a blowjob. We also play with each other with various anal toys. Just be sure to lube them up well!

Is there anything more stimulating than taking it up your bottom while having intercourse in front?

klyster3