Just because you like it up your ass...

I recently had a massage which included anal massage. Most of the massage was all around the anus and, every once in a while, a finger would slip in just an inch or so. This went on for about 20 minutes and as I was getting closer to cumming, the finger went in just a little more. When it was obvious that I could no longer hold back, it was inserted deep and quickly. Now THAT's what I call a great massage!

I agree with most here, just because a man likes his butt toyed with does not make them gay. It;s all in the mind what one likes or dislikes. Caution and plenty of lube is the main thing.

I've been enjoying anal play for a few years, love it, especially after a good enema session, the anal passage has been cleaned, lubed, and a bit stretched----and then comes the fun with toys. Building up to larger toys slowly -- so far -- UMMMM.

The pulling out of the toys is the best feeling for to me --- it just plane feels good and all the sensations --- WOW!

And just for the record, I am Bi --- like play times with both sexes. So if I"m in the minority, So Be It -- But I like It.

Each to their own devices and preferences --- If we were all the same, it would be a dull world.

Nothing is quite as good as anal play!

Being Bi-sexual just doubles your fun! >😄 😎

Not because you likes ass play mean you are gay but I did have a relation who both love it does not mean much to think about it rather to lived it

I never thought I would want anal until I got a blockage in my colon and had to use an enema to remove it. Two different people we know were hospitalized for it, one for 4 days! I told my wife about it and she said instead of racking up $12000 in bills she would give me a baking soda enema. It worked some. She said it can take more than one, so she tried coffee for the second one. It worked and it felt good working! It stimulated things I never thought were able to be, like my prostate. After that I really felt the need to be done that way. So, I ask her to do me. She about fell on the floor and when I thought she would say I was strange she said she loved me and we would work it out. We did it for the first time last week, she bought a strap-on with a small set of smooth dildoes called the bend over beginner kit from Tantus. We only did the small one. It felt so good to let her take me and she likes being dominant. I can't wait to see what the bigger one feels like. I'm just taking it the way she want's to give it and I don't feel like a pervert. I feel blessed. If you really love your partner you will try to help them out and not be a judge.

It's the variety I enjoy so much. Anal play using toys, fingers, big things, little things...When that urge comes around for me, it's the moment that decides what stimulation works best. Thermometers to dildos, one can be as satisfying as the other. It's just amazing how much pleasure the anus can provide. Years back, I tried exploring prostate stimulation. I have a variety of the 'Aneros' toys, but have never felt the pleasure they say can be achieved by using one. All other forms of anal play is wonderful for me. I'm (for the most part...) straight, but would love a woman to do me someday. When I was married, we had just started to experiment with anal play, but things just didn't work out and that fantasy is still very much alive and well in my mind...ya never know/someday!

Anal play is good play. For us guys, we get that prostate massage. Now, where is that classy, sassy and naughty woman who's going to peg me? wink/nudge.

FYI to all

The TV show Manswers had info about the largest item removed from a man's rectum.

Are you ready........ a 3 lb. 15" bowling pin. I wince at the thought of it.

Actually- I'd bet that more than a few new undented etc pins are small end first used by ladies and gentlemen for sexplay. Yes, there may be a few truly size DOES matter folks who can master any, if not much- of the big end but that's a challenge that edges on scaring me- or would that be risking scarring?

Lamaze breathing, a loving coach to encourage relaxation or even active acceptance- can help achieve truly incredible insertions. Perversion is relative- no pun on that one as it would have been too cheap a shot.

The advanced stages are when we look at something and it's not "will it or can I get it in me" so much as WHEN will I do so. Like the Epi-No. And the first time I saw an ad for Tassaway cups- an ancestor of the divacup that's so popular today. It was the same when I got the idea of a bowling pin myself about thirty or more years ago,

I enjoy anal play so much both giving and receiving. I am fortunate that I can create my own toys that give me the most pleasure.

Take for instance this last weekend and a remote controlled vibrator.

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=blog;ox=showitem;id=278

Cheers, Skybear

I've loved things up my ass since a teen, I'm 41 now . It's been my secret all that time then recently I confessed to my wife. At first she was great about it saying I was silly and should have told her before. Then I got over excited and decided to show here all my toys I don't think she realized I used dildoes. Maybe she thought I was gay or it just freaked her out but she was really upset.

I love thimgs up my ass-beads.fingers and anything safe

My wife won't give me enemas but she has no problem pleasuring me by inserting a vibrator analy while performing a hand job until I come.

I enjoy anal simulation she says she doesn't. She objects every time I touch her anus or get close to it. Go Figure???

People are always going to judge and/or condemn things they do not understand, agree with or enjoy. Pervert is a term that is relative to the culture it is being used within. What is normal here in Cali may be anathema to most folks in Yeman...get my drift?

Beck beer anal toy....just got through enjoying a Becks beer....out in the barn.....then lubed up...and....another bit of use and fun with my empty Becks beer.....wow....in and out and drip drip drip....awesome !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I love anal stumilation while i jerk off i have my favorite dildo just wish i could a women that did mind giving the plesure a bite

Before our son was born, wife and I were very kinky but now she lost it.

She hasn't let me fuck her ass in 6 years and she hasn't fingered my ass in almost as long...ugh

I started enjoying anal stimulation before getting married but I have never been able to talk my then girlfriend and now wife into anal sex (even mutual). She was a bit kinkier just after we got married (golden showers)and though she surely doesn't lack libido she doesn't enjoy kinky sex. She totally refuses anal sex and doesn't like any objects up her vagina. Even when I manage a few fingers after getting her all worked up she suddenly backs off... I think it has to do with her religious views. So I'm left to find my own anal pleasures...

I suppose my interest in anal started when I was 17 and seduced by a much older man. It hurt like hell and worse still he kept pursuing me afterwards. We were working on the same boat, and then one night he tried to rape me. The funny thing is that I ejaculated even though it hurt. I kept going back to anal, and it kept hurting.

But one day when I was 23, a man picked me up and made it good for me. Delicious in fact. After that I didn't have anal for years, but I did occasionally play with a dildo. When I turned 50 the desire to have anal became stronger for some reason. I found out lots more about it, started playing with bigger toys and was eventually fisted. These days anal sex is the only kind of sex I enjoy. I wish I'd found that out when I was younger.

For as long as I can remember I have enjoyed anal stimulation. From 5-6 years old till now over 40 I was 16 the first time someone other than myself touched my anus and the feel was amazing. She rubbed around the outside for awhile then pushed a finger in, then another and fucked me like that for what seemed a long time, She and I came together in each others mouths. I have been married now and have been for 18 years, and my wife and I have enjoyed mutual anal stimulation right from the start. It has escalated over the years, and only recently she has been able to fist me. WOW I can't wait to see whats next

I first realized my interest when I saw a photo of a woman in a Playboy magazine who was squatting and whose anus was clearly visible. I was so so turned on by the sight. But I felt ashamed for this interest. Later when I was 16, I had a girlfriend (15) and we started to become sexually active. One night, the first time I pulled off her panties, she was lying on her stomach and I began massaging her bottom and couldn't help but spread her cheeks just so I could see for myself. The sight of her anus (I still remember like it was yesterday: tiny, pale pink, no hair, barely wrinkled) was overpowering. She never let me insert a finger and she had no interest in my anus. However she did let me tongue her there as much and as often as I wanted.

It wasn't until college when I had a serious girlfriend who agreed to finger my anus. Finally -- what an incredible feeling it was. She said it felt "weird" (she had never done that before) but was happy to do it whenever I wanted. I still felt ashamed about this desire, but of course it was only something between me and her, and since she was OK with it, I was. She enjoyed when I would stimulate her anus (tongue or finger caress), but did not want any penetration, claiming it too painful. Once I asked to insert my finger in her bottom, just to see if she could handle it. She agreed and knelt, bottom up, head down. As I applied vaseline around her hole, she said, "See, I like that, when you touch around the outside". But once I pushed in (and I pushed in as deeply as I could), she said "No, that hurts" and wouldn't let me stay inside her. She didn't make me feel bad about it or try to make me feel 'perverted'; she just claimed that she was "too small there".

I've had several partners (all women) since college and am now married. All of those women (except one) enjoyed having her anus stimulated in some way (from caressing to fucking to shove-that-dildo-in-my-asshole) and all (except that same one) were happy to stimulate mine (again, some just caressing, some fingering, and one who strapped it on and fucked me). Of those women, 4 of them actually initiated the anal play: one simply told me one night, "I want you to fuck my ass"; one woman started loudly moaning "yes yes yes" the first time I spread her cheeks for a peek inside; one guided me to her anus as I was fucking her from behind while she lay on her stomach; and the other woman, while I was performing cunnilingus, simply turned over onto her stomach and presented her bottom to me, and I wasn't sure if she didn't like what I was doing to her pussy or if she now wanted me to do the same to her anus -- turned out to be the latter.

That one woman, the exception, was completely different and DID make me feel ashamed, horrible, perverted, and less-than-human. She certainly had her issues, and it became clear later that we were incompatible in many ways, and then broke up. Basically, the one time I dared to lick her anus (during a massage), she freaked out, accusing me of all kinds of things, including of wanting to eat her shit (no, I don't have that desire). Once, when I asked her why she was so against my stimulating her bottom, she said, "I'm afraid I might like it." Anyway, that was the beginning of the end for us.

My wife is very open to my desires, as I am to hers. It's clear that she doesn't have the anal-focus that I do, but she is willing to indulge me and absolutely doesn't make me feel weird about my desires (the first time she penetrated me with her finger, she later said it was a "strange" experience but that she was completely turned on by how it made me moan and groan). The first time I explored and kissed her anus, she was silent because she was taken by surprise and a little embarrassed but later said she liked it because it tickled. I have told her that I still have a sense of shame about my anal desires, that somehow I am perverted, but she has only been understanding about it, thankfully.

I love the your description of the Playboy photo that started your excitement and interest in anal pleasures. I remember seeing a lovely pink rosebud appear between perky cheeks and was always excited by it, too. Only my arousal was more about having myself in that position and feeling so open and exposed and wishing to be examined intimately, explored and pleasured by a man. I still have that need and desire to be fulfilled in that way.

I'm sorry to hear that you view yourself in a negative light for enjoying anal play. There is no need to be ashamed or feel perverted. It's all about pleasure. There is a multitude of nerves in the anus and rectum and when stimulated correctly, it can feel pretty amazing, especially if the prostate is stimulated as well. It's your body's natural response and need for pleasure. Give in to the sensations, love it and don't give it a second thought. It's all about feeling good with no guilt, shame or humiliation at all.

~ Dianne

Thank you, Dianne, for your considerate thoughts.

I can picture that mid-70's Playboy photo (and where I stood when I first saw it: in my parent's closet because that's where my dad's stash was, up high on a shelf). The other intense aspect of that photograph for me as an 11-year old boy seeing a woman's anus for the first time was that the women in question was staring right into the camera, essentially at ME. It was like she knew damn well not only that she was spreading her cheeks, exposing her most private, delicate area, but also that I was caught looking at it. As to your point of view, actually I agree: I too wanted to be in that position for someone else, to be so intimately explored. Still do. At that age, it wasn't possible, so I spent a lot of time examining myself, touching myself, ultimately masturbating as I did so. I too, 3 decades later, still have that need and desire (you are right: it's both), and thankfully, my wife understands that it's both too. Sometimes, I simply masturbate like I used to as a young teen, and she is very very happy to watch as I do.

As to feeling ashamed or perverted, these are not thoughts that have ever stopped me from doing what I wanted. Desire and curiosity ultimately always overwhelmed any negative feelings I may have had. I suppose, of course, that I was always hesitant when I was in the early stages of a relationship with a woman; I mean, I wanted to see if the woman had a similar desire before progressing (but that had less to do with shame than it did with respect -- moving slowly and discovering her wants before making assumptions). And as I mentioned, aside from that one woman, all the woman I've been with have enjoyed having their anuses aroused and paid attention to in some way -- so clearly, it's something that is actually fairly common among a lot of people, but it's just something that we don't talk about in public (or even in private with close friends). It's still quite taboo.

Thanks again for your words. I don't feel so negative about it now -- I suppose for most of my adult life it's felt more like a very naughty secret, shared intimately with just a few people who've been in my life.

By the way, Dianne, I have long enjoyed your posts on this site: honest, descriptive, intense, intimate thoughts and experiences. Not to mention, just plain HOT.

-R

That's great that your wife is understanding and accepting of your need for anal pleasure. It's always wonderful to have someone in your life who shares your interests. Thanks for the compliments, Richard. You made my day.

Diane, I also love your posts and pictures!

You are open and love what you do and have to share!

Thank you!

As for me, as any man experimenting with his body rubbing a finger on the anus happened naturally. Then add the fact I was a virgin until I was 19 and porn is all I had and the curiosity grew. First with veggies, then handles of any objects I could take, then had the courage to buy my first vibrator and now I have a vibrator, anal beads, double headed dildo and a strap on. Had girlfriend do me with a strap on once while we were both in lingerie and my wife knows all that but since our son was born she lost her kink so I play solo...

Thank you, Kueeng. That's very kind of you to say. I really appreciate you saying that. I know I ramble on a little too much and probably annoy some people. I get a little carried away. But it's true. I like to have a good time and I love what I do.

My interest in anal started when I was 7 or 8 years old. I began having dreams of stainless steel molds covering my boy's bits, but also a smooth object (now known to me as an anal plug) attached to the seat that I sat on and allowed it to enter my anus which I dreamt would have a pleasurable feeling. Later I learned about enemas and tried to give them to myself secretly as they WERE pleasurable. Ever since then I have had an interest in anal as well as phallic pleasure and stimulation. Yes, I like things up my ass and up my urethra, too!

Egrilky, as far as I am concerned, you can ramble on all you want. I really enjoy your writings. You have a style that indicates your total involvement in what you are writing about. The feelings, emotions, sensations and etc are so well described. Please keep writing. p.s. at times you arouse me big time.