The joy of a switch

A switch is a bdsm mistress who goes both ways. If you find a good one you can talk them into giving and receiving.

A switch may also be a very thin and supple sapling or branch which can bring 'joy' when applied to the bare bottom of a willing recipient 😄

When I was growing up my dad used a switch on us and there was no joy when he applied it to my bare butt. What I did experience was a lot of stinging pain, crying, screaming, kicking and pleading.

Funny, I still do all of those but now I find whippings extremely pleasurable. The anticipation of a whipping is the best part.

Sara

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A switch is a bdsm mistress who goes both ways. If you find a good one you can talk them into giving and receiving enemas.

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A switch is a male or female who will perform either dominant or submissive roles.

It need not be a "mistress."

Believe me, I KNOW, I am one.

Absolutely, Susie. Switching isn't gender specific at all. It has to do with participating in Dominant and submissive roles as your mood, wants, or needs dictate. Moreover, and maybe even best of all is that the role reversal (switch) can happen in the blink of an eye.

As to the joy of being or being with a switch, I'd think that's pretty obvious. As a switch, someone can fully understand both roles and that probably makes them as open and adventurous a partner as you're likely to meet. In my limited experience, switches make the most fantastic lovers. I'm a switch so my judgement is likely biased, but the wildest and most satisfying sexual encounters, particularly sexual enemas have been with another switch.

AG

Switches are greedy >😃

Switches are greedy >😃

No we aren't, we are open minded, versitle, and a hell of a lot of fun to play with, hehehe.

Mashie

I agree with Mashie AND I think topping makes me a better sub. You really get to appreciate the intense focus a top needs to have to do a good job. Last time it was only one and a half hours, but afterwards I ate half a bag of crisps, followed by crackers and cheese with tea and chocolates "for desert"... and we're not even talking about wild animalistic sex here; Just the ordinary flogging/spanking stuff. Pfff... greedy is an understatement lol It was very rewarding though... 😃

Lol Mashie, switches ARE greedy. Its not a bad thing, just sayin. Gotta have and want the best of both worlds 😃

Umami-Me said

I agree with Mashie AND I think topping makes me a better sub. You really get to appreciate the intense focus a top needs to have to do a good job. Last time it was only one and a half hours, but afterwards I ate half a bag of crisps, followed by crackers and cheese with tea and chocolates "for desert"... and we're not even talking about wild animalistic sex here; Just the ordinary flogging/spanking stuff. Pfff... greedy is an understatement lol It was very rewarding though... 😃

Mashie said

switches are greedy >😃 No we aren't, we are open minded, versitle, and a hell of a lot of fun to play with, hehehe. Mashie

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Absolutely, Susie. Switching isn't gender specific at all. It has to do with participating in Dominant and submissive roles as your mood, wants, or needs dictate. Moreover, and maybe even best of all is that the role reversal (switch) can happen in the blink of an eye. As to the joy of being or being with a switch, I'd think that's pretty obvious. As a switch, someone can fully understand both roles and that probably makes them as open and adventurous a partner as you're likely to meet. In my limited experience, switches make the most fantastic lovers. I'm a switch so my judgement is likely biased, but the wildest and most satisfying sexual encounters, particularly sexual enemas have been with another switch. AG

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I'm glad to see the switches finally coming out here.

There's no top like one who has the experience of being a sub and no sub like one who has the experience of being a top. Being "the other" makes you so much better at your role.

Finally, I especially agree with what AquaGent has said.

I started out as a bottom when I was 19. I was a baby/sub to a Mistress Mommy. She used abused and babied the stuffins out of me hehe. Its how I found out I was more suited to being a Top.

Once it was apparent that I was gonna always be over Mistress knee or in the corner cause I was just so uppity she started to train me in the ways of the Top. I used to think I was a switch but after a while I realized I was just foolin myself.

And your right, I agree a Top would be more effective if they understood whay a bottom goes through. I'll never do something to my wife that I havent had done myself just so I can understand how it feels and how she might react.

Switches are great in their natural role because from time to time they have truly walked a mile in the other side's shoes.

Knowing both sides provides significant insights.

When one is in either role, it is beneficial to have first-hand appreciation for what the other is doing or experiencing. I believe it adds safety, as well as intensity, and can allow the entire experience to be considerably more erotic. While it takes time to fully appreciate your counterpart's limits, the results are worth it! When in the sub role, one realizes and remembers what "I wish (the top) would . . .[do]" and that can add even more when in the top role. Although everyone's limits are different and "buttons" are unique, the additional insight is valuable, from both perspectives.

I would have never thought I would or could be a sub... Always the "Type A" in control guy.. Then one day with a very incitefull fun Special Friend on the boat SHE pulled a fast one on me.

It is not gender specific or limited to a particular persuasion, striaght, gay, bi. And it does provide lots of opportunity to play since thye are not inhibited or limited in their interest.

Does being a 'switch' have to evolve 'only' from a D/s relationship, or can it start out as a 'switch'?

The things I have read seem to mainly pertain to forming a D/s relationship or becoming part of that life style. I'm asking from a 'civilian' point of view where just a couple of old friends find themselves now in something sexual.

You can definitely both start out as switches.

It can also evolve during the course of your relationship, as it did with my husband and myself. I AM THE DOMME, but I also wanted to experience the sub side of the action, so I taught my husband to top from the bottom until be became a wonderful strict Dom. Today we switch about 50-50. Being the top or Domme is actually very tiring orchestrating the scene. Being the bottom or submissive allows me to relax and settle into subspace.

I have been fortunate to interface with several beautiful people who also switch. I am, they are. The roll reversals are extra added fun and exciting for all our activities. Enjoy your feelings, both ways.

I've known her for years and years - and we just now became sexually involved but it wasn't really planned. She's a nurse - an R.N., and considers herself as a pretty take charge kind of gal, and she is, but I have my own take on things.

The thing is - she considers herself as a dominant personality but she is very inexperienced sexually. I only know about D/s through books I've read suggested by Switchablesusie. Reading about it - doing it, completely different. She admits I am more 'advanced' sexually - and we enjoyed our first sexual encounters, and I want to head off any pissing contest and point her into the switch approach and go from there. We are a couple of hay seeds - but she isn't part of here, and I've had a lot more experience with another woman. I've always liked her - I want to set the tone with this and not screw things up.

The 'switch' approach sounds like a good way to start.

Lora C,

Just a clarification, please. Does "We are a couple of hay seeds........" just mean you both live in a farming/ranching/rural area?

I've known I was a switch since probably my late twenties (now 64+). I was going out with a very sexually inexperienced gal I'd met who was assisting us in a SCUBA course I was teaching. We were just exploring our mutual sexual interests (both straight) and I was trying out dressing her in (rubber) wetsuit jackets and giving her "forced" enemas, which she loved. One day during foreplay she said she wanted to arouse and fuck me by doing the same things I'd done to her, which sounded great to me. After one or two days of sub PIV sex with me in my wetsuit jacket and sneakers while she gave me an enema and rode me, I was hooked on switching. I've suggested it to every other gal I've been with since then, and most have been very agreeable. Somewhere early along the way in my explaining that I enjoy being a switch and want the same from her, I always at least once phrase it by saying that "anything I do to you while I Dom you is something I would enjoy you doing to me in reverse." This is not only an honest statement from me, it seems to go a long way towards easing her mind about what I mean by D/s switching. My ex-wife ~10 yrs ago was probably the most enthusiastic switch I've ever known, but great sex, as expected, isn't enough to cement a marriage together and we divorced for unrelated reasons.

I agree with several others here who have posted that they like switching since it gives them an opportunity to experience both sides of their D/s desires and that knowing both sides firsthand informs both ends of their sexual behavior. It's also very interesting that while fulfilling, say, my sub D/s role, I often find myself musing about "wow, that was a great idea, and won't it be fun and exciting to do it to her when she subs!" So far, no complaints, so I hope somewhere out there is a lovely lady switch I can meet and love and play with.

Eric

A hayseed is actually a somewhat derogatory term for uneducated rural people, similar to country bumpkin.

There are minor differences, you can look them up.

@erickmacson - yes I am a real life farm girl, and always have been. The friend I am talking about - Ruthie, has been a friend of mine since after high school. That has been longer ago that I care to think about - and we've been there for each other as friends but nothing sexual. She is also my husbands and my friend - as a couple with her husband and another husband and wife. I've wrote about this on another thread - so I won't go into that here.

Ruthie is an RN - like I said and so not really a farm girl, but we both grew up in a rural area. Her husband farms - and is also a pilot who does a lot of agricultural business and is friends with my husband. Recently all of us - me, my husband, and our two couple's friends, Ruthie being one of them, are fulfilling a bucket list. Going to a nude beach - but we 'practiced' that by having a nude dinner, followed by a 'breakfast in the buff' and a cook out. All of us naked - and it was a blast.

This past Monday - after the 'naked times' Ruthie and I had sex for the first time. It was NOT planned - and neither one of us expected it, but it was great. However - Ruthie's personality and mine, are kind of stupid in some ways. Stupid as in - who's in charge, or who's the boss, kind of stupid. That can fuck up something good - IF you don't get it worked out. I've read - only read, about D/s and domme and sub and BDSM, what have you, since I started coming to Zity.Biz. Ruthie is a bulldog - she won't let something go and has this tendency to want to compartmentalize or label things. Hell - I'm anal retentive too, so I get it, and it's one of the things I love about her as a friend. That was before we fucked - and now that we have, I know what is on her mind, just because I know her. So - I've been looking all over the place here to find out a place to start, if she insists on having a label. I found this 'switch' - and it is something I think I can, or rather, I will TELL her that this is where we start. I don't want to lose her as a friend - just because we fucked.

Now ericmacson - I know enough about people who really do know and follow the D/s stuff. They are serious about it - and there are protocols, rules, rituals, or something that those who are really into D/s and the other things, and I don't want to insult them, or you, by giving anyone the impression that I know what I'm talking about when it comes to this. Right now - I've found something that fits what I want with Ruthie at this point, the 'switch' approach. I think D/s has a lot of potential - IF we don't ruin it with a pissing match on 'who's boss'. I know her - and I know me, and we both have rang that sex bell and it can't be 'un rung'.

Both of us have a lot to learn - and so far we both want it. The thing is - what is happening with us - and our husbands, and friends, is really changing and we may not know what we are doing. So that's why I am asking.

Ya know - ericmacson, I don't think I answered your question, that's what happens when blondes try to think! 😄

Sooo correct but sometimes I need to see whether they are in a give or take mood that day...lol

This may be a little different than usual about 15yrs started having wetting problems due to diabetic so my wife insisted going back to diapers to keep bed and her dry.The roles changed and I experienced her more dominate side she started setting rules for me like bedtime at 9:00 for me diapered and pants on so have lost most all manhood manly because of having to be diapered all the time.

Whilst not literally a switch, I was once offered role reversal with the lovely receptionist who held me across her lap for buttock injections from a dominatrix nurse. After my shots, it was the receptionist's turn to bend over my lap for me to watch her injected in her shapely bare bottom. I remain undecided which excited me more!

From my profile...

I'm primarily a Top. I will occasionally BottomFromTheTop (I'm still in control though... sort of like leading from behind... LOL :-0 ).

I'm also willing to completely switch, if/when my Bottom occasionally wants/needs to genuinely Top me for her benefit, or because she and I realize that I need to be Topped for my benefit (to teach me a lesson if/when, God-forbid, I am a very bad boy). Once I switch, I will completely relinquish control until she gives it back. This power exchange can last from several hours to several days. But, when all is said and done, in the big picture, I am Dom and she is Sub.

I encourage her to be self-disciplined. But when she lacks self-discipline, I will handle her discipline. I help her set achievable goals. I reward her for accomplishing milestones. I administer consequences for her failure to achieve milestones.

I punish her when she is a naughty girl... she is punished strictly-and-severely, but fairly-and-compassionately, for any D's (disrespect, disobedience, defiance, dishonesty, deceit, or destruction).

I'm a strict, but loving, Christian domestic disciplinarian... who occasionally needs to be held accountable myself... because, for example, it is not okay for me to punish her if/when she is guilty of D's, unless I intend to receive equivalently strict-and-severe, but fair-and-compassionate, punishments in the [hopefully unlikely] event that we find that I am guilty of those same D's.

Hi Here wife is incomplete control last 20 yrs iam now in panties and bras 24/7 and shes in control when play reciving a lot of oral and using strap on in me mmmmmmmm

.I like the way it is now and shes brought one of her f/f in play

so I get dressed as female a lot . So now iam a bottom most of the time . Works out nicly