@erickmacson - yes I am a real life farm girl, and always have been. The friend I am talking about - Ruthie, has been a friend of mine since after high school. That has been longer ago that I care to think about - and we've been there for each other as friends but nothing sexual. She is also my husbands and my friend - as a couple with her husband and another husband and wife. I've wrote about this on another thread - so I won't go into that here.
Ruthie is an RN - like I said and so not really a farm girl, but we both grew up in a rural area. Her husband farms - and is also a pilot who does a lot of agricultural business and is friends with my husband. Recently all of us - me, my husband, and our two couple's friends, Ruthie being one of them, are fulfilling a bucket list. Going to a nude beach - but we 'practiced' that by having a nude dinner, followed by a 'breakfast in the buff' and a cook out. All of us naked - and it was a blast.
This past Monday - after the 'naked times' Ruthie and I had sex for the first time. It was NOT planned - and neither one of us expected it, but it was great. However - Ruthie's personality and mine, are kind of stupid in some ways. Stupid as in - who's in charge, or who's the boss, kind of stupid. That can fuck up something good - IF you don't get it worked out. I've read - only read, about D/s and domme and sub and BDSM, what have you, since I started coming to Zity.Biz. Ruthie is a bulldog - she won't let something go and has this tendency to want to compartmentalize or label things. Hell - I'm anal retentive too, so I get it, and it's one of the things I love about her as a friend. That was before we fucked - and now that we have, I know what is on her mind, just because I know her. So - I've been looking all over the place here to find out a place to start, if she insists on having a label. I found this 'switch' - and it is something I think I can, or rather, I will TELL her that this is where we start. I don't want to lose her as a friend - just because we fucked.
Now ericmacson - I know enough about people who really do know and follow the D/s stuff. They are serious about it - and there are protocols, rules, rituals, or something that those who are really into D/s and the other things, and I don't want to insult them, or you, by giving anyone the impression that I know what I'm talking about when it comes to this. Right now - I've found something that fits what I want with Ruthie at this point, the 'switch' approach. I think D/s has a lot of potential - IF we don't ruin it with a pissing match on 'who's boss'. I know her - and I know me, and we both have rang that sex bell and it can't be 'un rung'.
Both of us have a lot to learn - and so far we both want it. The thing is - what is happening with us - and our husbands, and friends, is really changing and we may not know what we are doing. So that's why I am asking.
Ya know - ericmacson, I don't think I answered your question, that's what happens when blondes try to think! 😄