Partners introduction

Hi

I find it easier at the start of the relationship to bring the subject up

Most women say they have never thought of it but are willing to give it a try as they want to please if they enjoy then its easy to continue and explore new areas

Doc

I wish I had started early. We've been married for almost 40 years now, and change is unacceptable to my wife.

It is a shame that people get set in their ways. Some people tget used to doing something oneway, and never change. In my opinion and experience, its best to always try to introduce something new to love making, so that it always remains exciting, and never becomes boring.

Its difficult sometimes, when you have been with someone for a long time to introduce something new and radical, challenging the boundaries of what was once thought to be abnormal, wrong even. Difficult to explain why now, you begin to be open about certain fetishes.... again, relating back to women looking at porn, or talking about sex in general, we are supposed to be timid, repressed..... if there are any new ideas....its supposed to be at the behest of the alpha male....(i dont believe this to be true, this is how i see things... i am probably repressed sexually and mixed up, i have feelings of guilt about my fetish, yet, i cannot resit or refrain from being aroused by the thought of being strapped down and forcibly examined, slowly, whilst the "doctor" finds every little secret of my body, i cannot hide my emotions or desires any longer, I am at your mercy.

If I am into a relationship I find it extremely difficult to talk with him about my fetish. I'm always afraid of it. Maybe someday after 40 years of marriage I finally do :😃

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I wish I had started early. We've been married for almost 40 years now, and change is unacceptable to my wife.

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I agree with you freak. Change isn't going to happen even after my 20 years.

I told my partner about my medical fetish in the first weeks of our relationship. He was the first partner I've ever told about it.

Happily, he's very open-minded, and we've played around with enemas and a speculum, and the white latex gloves, which was kinky as hell! But, he's admitted that he doesn't reeeeally see the turn-on. And I think he'd be somewhat embarrassed, if I asked him to wear a lab coat and let me call him "doctor".

I'd like to talk to him about it, but as another poster said in this thread, I'm still afraid to talk about my fetish - it's been my 'dirty secret' for so long.

What I'm trying to do (while I drum up the courage to broach the subject again), is understand the feelings a white lab coat and a stethoscope bring out in me, and why.. If I can explain it to him, he might see how wonderfully kinky my fetish is, and start enjoying it as much as I do.

😁 But every time I sit down to think about why it excites me, I wind up getting totally distracted! *siiiigh* Damn. 😉

I told my partner about my medical fetish early in our relationship and it was easier then I thought. Since then we have talked about some role playing ideas and hopefully soon we will carry them out.

When you finally bring the subject up how do you then introduce your partner into the game ? Do you setup a scenarie together or do you take the lead and "just" start to do the exams you have been dreaming about ?

I think it would be very considerate to include your partner in the planning stages of those initial exams. After all, this is all new to her (or him) and you don't want to scare her off right out of the gate. Ask her what she would feel comfortable with. A stethoscope exam, pulse, blood pressure? Maybe a really close dermatological exam followed by a massage? Maybe she'll surprise you and say "Go ahead, baby, give me the complete workup", but I think it would be best to ask and to have a plan, maybe even a little script, to make you both feel more comfortable.

Play safe,

gaze

Isn't a part of the excitement the mental image of what is to come? Of COURSE it's a good thing to talk about what arouses and excites. With the right partner, the build-up is almost as powerful as the physical. A little conversation about fantasy could go a long way toward its fulfillment.

Play nice.

W

I have it slightly easier than some because I'm a med student in real life, so that dynamic is already there with my boyfriend. He quite enjoys it and I'm sure he hams it up a bit when he feels ill so that I'll "take care of him". He is very anxious about trying anything anal-related though which dampens the experience for me - but it doesn't really matter.