I'm a guy with a clit and a pussy

I wrote a longer, detailed post, and when i went to post it, the Zity server was temporarily indisposed, so it's gone to wherever in the ether dead posts go.

The gist of it was culture does not provide all of the variations of people, and in this case sexuality, with terms to describe their reality.

I'm not stereotypically feminine, I'm not a trans person. I'm not deluded, I know I have a penis and an anus, but the best existing descriptors I can come up with to describe my sexuality is in the subject title.

Sexually, I'm more like my former wife than I was like the husband role culture conditioned me to play. Nor did I transform or evolve into that, for me it was matter of coming to a place of self acceptance, despite it being in conflict with who and what i was supposed to be in the cultures I was a part of.

For me, when a Man recognizes and treats me like my penis is a clitoris and my anus a pussy, it's not "feminization" it's affirmation of me.

I also have come to understand that my natural corresponding other exists in nature well, that there are Men/Tops who need/want a guy with a clit and pussy as much as I need/want them. Yet they run into the same challenges of cultural conditioning that thwarts or distorts finding symbiosis with someone like me.

Sorry, this isn't as detailed as the first post, but it's at least a start and hopefully more will come out in discussion.

@tallslenderguy Sexually, i'm more like my former wife than i was like the husband role culture conditioned me to play.

All so well said! I feel similar!

As I grew older, from my late 40's on, shaving my body and taking to wearing women's underwear and foundation wear; the more female/feminine I felt. Having a somewhat petite, soft feminine body with unusually large breasts also entered into this and made it surprisingly easy to find men who like treating me like a female.

I would say that a feminine looking body is the deciding factor in attraction, the hairstyle, lack of body hair and so on. It's not the genitals as such so much.

This rather applies to me. I felt feminine all my life. Sexually I was truly bi sexual. I was not attracted to men but loved to be with men sexually. My first sexual experience was with a group of boys in Jr. High school. They loved that I wanted to have them in me - so they didn't have to recognize they were gay (homosexual in those days!)

I have always had fascination with boys and men's sexual parts (and girls too!) I have had many men use me but have never had my penis in any man or boy! I was also loved by many girls and still have girl friends and love sex with them. After my wife passed away i took the opportunity to explore becoming feminine. I took estrogen for 3 years to develop small breasts. My penis shrank and so I call her my clit. WIth men, my ass is my pussy! I enjoy men as a guy with breasts and pussy. I enjoy women as a man without a functioning penis. My GF loves my mouth, tongue, and hands.

To the world I am an alpha male. Without clothes I can be what ever my partner likes - I feel like a girl but never thought of myself as being one.

I love my new body and affirmed outlook on life. Women are awesome, and masculine men are enjoyable - with honesty and sensitivity. My life is very happy. I appreciate Zity as a the only place I can share all my feelings.

More recently, i've developed a deeper understanding of myself, as well as some guys who attract to guys like me.

i subscribe to the idea that human sexuality is on a spectrum, so i think there are infinite individuals and variations on who and how we are, but we come up with labels to communicate and better find our 'tribes?'

As i originally noted in my starting post, i don't identify as a woman or transperson, or even as many commonly perceive as feminine. What i have come to understand about my self is it's not so much about feminization as it is about emasculation. i have also come to see that's true about a lot of Guys Who love to feminize another guy. It's because feminine is often taken as the opposite of masculine, and the process or act of feminization is perceived as emasculating.

For me, a Man Who knowingly and matter of factly emasculates me is deeply arousing and affirming. If he is mean, forceful or bullying about it, it doesn't work for me at all. In fact, that has the opposite effect on me. To me, meanness, force, bullying feel compensatory, like the guy doesn't accept or believe, is not confident in his own desires/needs. He is also conversely unaware or unsure that there are guys like me who connect, want/need, are evoked (and even controlled) by his natural needs/wants that are emasculating to me.