Need help. What am I? Can you be partially gay?

I have a strange obsession. I love circumcised men. I would love to wank and suck a cut guy - the problem is I live in the UK and there are not many cut guys around (apart from Jewish or Muslim and I would be too nervous to approach the latter). Guys with foreskins just put me off - the irony.hypocrisy is that I am uncut myself. I know how you have to really work at being 100% clean and a lot of guys don't bother.

Sexual orientation is not black and white, it's a gray scale. Experiment and find out what you enjoy and where you fit in. It's all okay.

Just be yourself. Rise to the occasion.

Life is to short not to have a kink or two…

@Curious85: I would say you are primarily anal oriented. It doesn't really matter to you whether you are penetrated by a woman using a strap-on or by a male penis. This is a passion that many Zity members (including me) share. If a penis turns you on, then just give it a try. Maybe you enjoy feeling a cock in your mouth or, as you wrote, feeling it in your anus. Don't think in categories (straight, gay, bi...) but enjoy discovering what you like. Maybe turn your head off to do this.

@Curious85: I would say you are primarily anal oriented. It doesn't really matter to you whether you are penetrated by a woman using a strap-on or by a male penis.

I think that many would take a different stance on the body connected to whomever is penetrating you.

I for one would not be able to abide the thought of a typical hairy male penetrating me. No way. But a male with a feminized body would not be an obstacle at all. Perhaps the equipment doesn't make a difference, but the totality of the appearance of the person doing the penetration would be important.

I have very similar feelings! I'm very anal erotic and love being pegged or "dildoed" by my wife, I also have fantasies about being taken by a guy or a group of guys including fantasies about sucking a cock while being pegged or fucked. I do not have any desire to kiss or make out with another man. This has only manifested as I have gotten older.

I am finding that I like all males as sex partners. I've sucked shaved cocks, I've sucked hairy cocks! What I enjoy is the feel of a mans penis entering and moving in my mouth; with its firmness , softness, flexibility, taste, and ability to feed me the sperm that I crave, That is what excites me. The cocks I have sucked all do that! The males who are attached to these cocks don't have to be perfect specimens of men. A decent personality, and a desire to be blown by me, is enough. As a homosexual man, I don't concern myself with where I am, on the "gay" spectrum, I just enjoy being "gay". By the way, I also like to fuck and have other sex, with women. However, those days are gone. Am I straight; no! Am I gay; no! Am I bisexual; no! I am me!!

I ,admittedly, am new to the " gay" scene, having only been with 5-6 men.However, I have read many of the various discussion posts that seemingly center in the theme of " How gay am I?". The majority of these writers seem to want to limit their *gayness" in order to retain some of their historical heterosexual identity. To do this, there is rationalization in their arguments, as to the percent ( my word) of homosexuality they will accept as acceptable to them. The underlying feelings that seem to exist, is a disbelief for the validity of their conclusions. If any of what I have just said, is valid, I don't see how the person concerned, will have resolution with his thoughts on his own sexuality.

For myself, I went from a totally " straight" male to a totally "gay" male, in an amazingly short period. Through this change in sexual orientation, I realized that I was the same human I always was, and what I had really done was add the male sexual pleasures with males to the sexual pleasures I had with females. I enjoy sex with humans. I realized that through my total life I always enjoyed men and women equally, and still do. Society prevented me from exploring sex with males. Now, both men and women are more free, to experience pleasure with who we are with, and I think that we are healthier by allowing us that freedom.

I love a woman's softness an their curves. Love anal if they'll agree. With that being said I never pass up a masculine butt. Men just seem to know how to take it deep inside. I am a very verbal top and love to slowly make the bottom wiggle his butt (pussy) and back onto me! Love all men, masculine, sissified trans!!!!!!!

Welcome to being human! I think what you are experiencing is really much more common than men will admit to. My first sexual experience was with other boys in 6th grade. We loved getting nude and playing with each other. We were all hairless but could get rather useless stiffies - never useful but felt good. The older brother of one of our group liked to join us and had a real cock. He was the first man to use me like a girl. I loved it! Later when other kids could penetrate, I always was happy to be the girl! I was anally oriented and loved to take enemas to get ready for a group session.

When we found out about girls, our group disbanded. We all had girl friends, and eventually were able to score. Several times when one of the group had blue balls from a tease, he would call me and I was always happy for him to use me to cum. I loved to make love to my girl friends when they were receptive. I never had my cock in a guy though - to this day.

I have always been romantic with girls, loved their bodies and softness. I have never had any romantic feeling for any guy. I just loved sex with men. I still do. I have a girl friend with whom I am sexually active, and love going to gay baths to hook up with anonymous men to use me as I love to be used.

To me it is perfectly normal to love women, and still enjoy sex with men. I know now that I have had feminine feelings since childhood. I have loved girls breasts since I first noti,ced them, and always wondered what the girls felt when their breasts were touched and sucked. So after my wife died, I started taking Estradiol at age 70 to develop real breasts of my own. I had and have no intention of living as a girl, but have always felt like one. Life is very good - loving women, and liking man to man sex has never caused me any distress. I feel it is normal to be who I am. Please be who you are and enjoy life in it's fullness!

One of the replies says it all - I am Me! Just take it as it comes. Life will not always be there.

Totally! I would only ever seek out a relationship with a woman, but I consider myself open to the idea that if I were at a party or something and some guys were fooling around that I'd totally join them. Maybe not for anything hardcore, but I certainly just find nude activities fascinating.

I've been thinking about who I am lately and to say I'm bi or heterosexual is not me anymore. So I am saying that I am gay because I do love being with men...being kissed by a man turns me on, I do love sucking a man or mens cocks, and being topped by a man brings me joy and tons of pleasure. I've been to bath houses/gay saunas, met up with gay massage men, was picked up at a straight bar by a guy, and in the past id not have left with him, but after a few more cocktails and him guiding my hand under the bar...yes I left with him and glad I did...I met some real nice men who share my kinks and I never just kept going, and I regret that, but not now. All these are not recent events but over the years and now I just have to say who I am. I love having my ass played with and used, and only a man knows how to do this to another man. Life is short and now I'm going to start living it as a gay man. I'm taking a gay cation next month to Palm Springs and plan on going to CCBC and other gay resorts, meet up with guys I've chatted with and be me. Just putting the tip in your mouth or kiss a man and feel joy, just embrace that you are a gay man. Just my 2 cents.

Oh, the effort spent classifying...

We admire the greek civilization; part of their culture is that the strong penetrate the weaker; it was not unusual for the master to fuck servants no matter their gender. Teachers routinely got their jollies off in their apprentice's butt (it was thought to enhance learning).

Romans went meh related to gender relationships - anything goes, even goats if life was hard.

An older French doctor said it best when asked if anal sex is dangerous: he said it's been done for so long that if it were, we'd know by now. The same doc said that the real danger lies with substances and the more deviant paraphilias (urethral, blood, etc).

My point is - spend your time looking forward; sex is supposed to be an enjoyment, not a lifestyle.

Just my opinion...

There's lots of folks out there who are mostly attracted to women but a little bit to men - maybe a label like heteroflexible would fit? And you can be a bottom regardless of the genders you're attracted to. The fact that you're super into trans women could just be because trans women are great (careful not to fetishize them or reduce them to their body parts though - also, not all trans women have dicks!). It could also potentially be that you're interested in gender transition for yourself. Maybe worth exploring if you have the persistent sense of an unsolved question about yourself/your sexual identity