Curious or horny

I am A virgin, never tried having sex or anything before. But I feel like having sex

but all I can find so far are guys and mature guys as well, no Luck with women yet. I love to find a mature women.

so I am thinking should I give it a go with the guys or should I just keep my virginity for the one I am gonna marry if that ever happen. Have been thinking for years

I’m a virgin as well and I’ve been dying to have sex. Personally I’d never even consider trying anything with a guy. That’s not my thing at all. I’m waiting to find a girl to do it with. I have no luck either.

If you're into guys, have sex (or whatever you're interested in) with a guy. If you don't care if it's a man or woman, have a go with with the first person you're interested in that feels the same way about you. If you're only into women… why are you even asking this question?

I am A virgin, never tried having sex or anything before. But I feel like having sex

but all I can find so far are guys and mature guys as well, no Luck with women yet. I love to find a mature women.

so I am thinking should I give it a go with the guys or should I just keep my virginity for the one I am gonna marry if that ever happen. Have been thinking for years

If it is just having sex with a woman you are looking for and haven't had any luck with women willing to do it for free with you, then, pardon my vulgarity, but why not look for a woman who is willing to do it for financial recompense? There are professionals who do it for a living and it leaves things emotionally uncomplicated afterwards.

You could even start out modestly by going for a nude massage to begin with, see how it works out and then go on from there.

If it is just having sex with a woman you are looking for and haven't had any luck with women willing to do it for free with you, then, pardon my vulgarity, but why not look for a woman who is willing to do it for financial recompense? There are professionals who do it for a living and it leaves things emotionally uncomplicated afterwards.

You could even start out modestly by going for a nude massage to begin with, see how it works out and then go on from there.

There were a small group of guys from my high school who drove down to Tijuana for just that reason and bragged about!! I think they were on a trip to California to see the coast and thought sex was more available and cheaper in Mexico. This was in the 60's.

As agracier recommends plus if you live anywhere near northern Navada you can go to www.sagebushranch.com . there is a phone number there , talk to a madam tell her what you want or need and when you will be there , Make it clear to her you're lack of experience She will make an appointment with the lady that most suits you . Just remember these are ladies of negotiable affection . Not street hookers . They are paid to take care of you and that doesn't always mean sex .

The build up and expectation to your first time can add a lot of pressure onto that experience.

Based on posts here the options are sex with a female in a relationship of some kind, paid for sex with a female, or with another guy. I'm guessing you're young but you might find you will try all three in your life anyway, so maybe the order isn't that important afterall.

My predicament wasn't totally unlike yours before my first time (and I'm sure many others were the same) and my first time was with another guy which isn't what I expected or planned.

GO SLOW! Just talk and spend time with someone first then if you feel comfortable it will just happen. If not it is not the right person.

Just having sex with someone like a rent boy is not the way to do it. It may be a scary experience instead of a pleasant one.

Not meaning to offend sex workers but has anyone ever had an interest in history?

This may be a good time to start.

https://cvltnation.com/crazy-venereal-disease-posters-from-wwii/

They are very serious, not crazy

I was 32 years old when I lost my virginity. The answer to your question also depends on how much you value your virginity. The first woman I did it with turned out to be a terrible person so I felt I threw my virginity away. Instead of contemplating same-sex intimacy, I would say learn more and more about female sexuality. Over a period of 10 years before I lost my virginity, I went to strip clubs regularly. There were the ones where you were in a private room with the stripper. There was no touching but they did allow close observation of the woman's vagina. I also asked them what their first time experience was like. It was very educational and fun.

I understand your frustration of wanting to experience sex, you will eventually experience it. Be confident, don't force it to happen, just let your life lead you to it.

There are many types of virginity: 1 Having sex with a woman for the first time using your penis. 2 Having anal sex for the first time using your penis on a woman or man. 3 Having oral sex where your penis is sucked to ejaculation by a woman or man. 4 Sucking another man's penis to ejaculation, preferably in your mouth.

All of these are exciting to perform, and can be done separately, or in combination with your partner. Widen your desires. One of these usually works, and once you have "broken the ice", the others will follow. All sexual acts with men and women are enjoyable to participate in!

I agree with @Funforus : You shouldn't philosophize about sex so much, but do it in whatever form and with whatever gender. Too much thinking makes only depressed and builds up ever higher hurdles that will eventually become insurmountable. So guys: cheerfully to work

You shouldn't philosophize about sex so much, but do it in whatever form and with whatever gender. Too much thinking makes only depressed and builds up ever higher hurdles that will eventually become insurmountable. So guys: cheerfully to work

Ah, but sometimes thinking and musing is all that some have left.

Even when I was young it wasn't possible to just decide to go out and have sex, as if it were a question of deciding to go get a hamburger and fries. It was like in Blackadder 3 when the prince complains about his socks and says that just like sex, everybody is having it except him. Finding a willing partner is not that easy.

"or should I just keep my virginity for the one I am gonna marry if that ever happen" Sorry zity folks..... this is a terrible place to ask this question LOL. So, that said, I can only speak for myself. I did not have sex with anyone until I was 21 as I was too shy and nervous to approach a girl (I had lots of girlfriends but never had sex with them). Now here it cums, I wish I had sex with many of them so that I could have understood their individual desires to experience the differences of each girls expectations in bed. That would have made a difference in choosing the right girl for long term relation. So there you have it, my bad helpful suggestion.

I did not have sex with anyone until I was 21 as I was too shy and nervous to approach a girl (I had lots of girlfriends but never had sex with them). Now here it cums, I wish I had sex with many of them so that I could have understood their individual desires to experience the differences of each girls expectations in bed.

The same goes for me. 21 before I even seriously kissed or petted with a girl.

I read about sex and erotica incessantly before that, but it was only theoretical knowledge that resulted. Also because too shy with moreover, attending a gender segregated school until I was 20. Only boys. It may have been standard practice back then in the 1960s in Belgium, but it did students no good at all in learning how to conduct themselves in social interactions. Because when then set free after High School and you (often enough) go on to university, then it can become a frenzied rush to experience all the types of interaction and experiences that weren't possible/allowed previously. Students would drink to excess, fool around ineptly with the opposite sex.

Luckily, by God's Own Luck I chanced upon a girl who was right and compatible and we ended up 44 years together. But that was far above the odds.

I had sex at 18 with a girl I worked with, we did anal 1st and went on from there. It was GREAT!!!!!!! 😜😜😜

Please, please, I’m begging you. Have sex with men, women, young, middle aged and old.

Don’t save yourself for marriage unless you’re planing on divorcing.

You need to experiment, to figure out who you are, and what you enjoy sexually. You’ll never know unless you have sex with many people. Safely of course.

I lost my virginity at 21. I didn’t fully understand I was a sub until I was in my 40’s. The way I found out was a man I was dating was a Dom. He introduced me to BDSM sex. I was instantly hooked and obsessed with him sexually. I’m forever grateful to him for teaching me, and showing me my sexual potential.

I spent the first 20 years of my life, having horrible sex, faking orgasms, because I’m unable to climax vaginally. Only anally. I thought for years there was something wrong with me.

Guess what? There’s nothing wrong with me. I’m having the best sex of my life in my 60’s.

I’m blessed.

Please, please, I’m begging you. Have sex with men, women, young, middle aged and old.

Don’t save yourself for marriage unless you’re planing on divorcing.

You need to experiment, to figure out who you are, and what you enjoy sexually. You’ll never know unless you have sex with many people. Safely of course.

Some of the best advice to be found. It makes immanent sense because, like all human activity and skills, it takes practice to achieve a level of competency. I wonder if there is really any activity that humans can shine at without having had to practice and repeat and repeat. Even learning how to eat properly takes a lot of practice and learning and by adulthood, many people still eat like uncivilized louts.

The trouble is that when it comes to sexual activity, society discourages it all prior to marriage. In many socio-religious groups the discouraging goes to extreme lengths and ends up messing up people's lives and feelings, often for life.

This thread is a few years old, I hope you (and the guy who posted after you) managed to find somebody to have sex with.

If not, I advise you find someone you feel comfortable with, as @Bad_Princess suggested. You don't need to fuck a whole lot of people either: if your sex drive is low or you prefer to have sex with people you at least feel something for rather than having one-night stands just for sex, that's totally valid. And saving yourself for marriage is also valid, by the way. It's a gamble but it's not something to be judged and I kind of side-eye whoever does that.

It all comes down to what you prefer ultimately. If you're someone who feels a lot and who tends to fall in love, sex with strangers is probably also going to wreck you more than uplift you. If you're the detached type, then go all in for the hookups. Your sex life is yours and no one has the right to tell you what to do. It's unique. It's yours.

I will be the one going against the grain here and saying that one doesn't need heaps of sexual experience to get good at it, either. While you do need to practice to become better at it, as with any skill, my own experience and that of others I have talked about this with taught me that a lot of it is about listening to your partner. There are plenty of people who have an astronomical body count and who are still terrible in bed because they don't know or care to listen to their partner. But if you do listen to them, watch their body language, treat them with respect, communicate with them and follow their cues on what feels good and what doesn't (their moans, their movements, the rhythm of their breathing, thrusting of the hips, etc...), you'll do way better as a virgin or relatively inexperienced partner than any experienced person who doesn't listen and instead uses the other to basically masturbate. Of course your technique will get better, but I would say a solid 80 percent of the work is this, being attentive and respectful.

Consent. Goes both ways. If you're not in the mood, you're not in the mood, and same for your partner. Don't accept sex if you're not comfortable or if you're not into it. If someone shits you for that, they're not someone you'd want to sleep with anyway. Don't just accept to "get virginity out of the way", because you wouldn't want your first time to be a bad memory. If so, it could taint your whole journey to the point it may take you a long time to feel better about it.

Sex is ultimately a very intimate and vulnerable act. It's enjoyable but can also leave long-lasting marks if practiced in a way that doesn't truly feel good to you. You don't have to be in love with your sexual partner but at least you'd be better off choosing one who respects you and cares for your well-being.

@shenalone @AutoMechanic

Well written @Hi_iaka .

@Hi_iaka

It’s been a few years, I have yet to loose it. As what you have suggested I would rather be with someone that makes me feel comfortable and go slow too @Bad_Princess if not it will just be like masturbating which I can do it daily.

Still in the process of dating, just met someone for dinner and I can’t believe how awkward I was, hope the day will be soon

Still in the process of dating, just met someone for dinner and I can’t believe how awkward I was, hope the day will be soon

One thing too, you might've been less awkward than you feel you were. We don't always really see how we come off to others. And maybe this person will find your awkwardness endearing, too!

And maybe this person will find your awkwardness endearing, too!

I hope this will be true! Can’t wait for the 2nd date. Will keep you all posted! Hehe 😛

Like you I was a virgin. I mean I jerked off, but never had sex with others. I was attracted to girls, but , guess they weren't attracted to me. I was in high school, and had a part time job pumping gas. This man pulled up one day, told me to fill the tank. I was filling it up and he started talking with me. He talked kindly, we talked about the Yankees. He told me he had tickets, and I was welcome to join him on Sunday. I jumped at the chance we exchanged phone numbers.

He called me , and told me he would pick me up, all was set. We went to the game. We had hot dogs, pretzels. I had a coke, he was older , he had beer, he let me sneak a few sips .It was a nail biter , on the way out he bought me a ball cap, His name was Dennis , he was 27 . I generally liked this guy. On the way home in the car he reached over and rubbed my upper leg, I draw away . He said toni , I hope I didn't upset you. I won't do that again if you don't like it. I said ok , he said so all is ok I said yes. We talked about the game. But all I could think of was his hand on my thigh. We got stuck in traffic everything was moving slow. I though about his hand on my leg and started getting hard. As much as I didn't want to it happened and there was a telltale budget in my crouch. Since we were stuck in traffic he looked over and saw it, I noticed him looking and blushed deep red. He said I think you like me robbing your leg. I said NO, yes NO, I don't know, Yes. Dennis said I see your confusion, this is a confusing time for a boy. If it felt good, will you let me do it again, No pressure, I will stop if you feel uncomfortable. I whispered yes, afsrid to say it loud. Dennis rubbed my leg, my inner thigh . I closed my eyes, it felt good. My penis was rock hard. I was hot, sweating, I didn't want him to stop. I started to wiggle in the seat. I knew it was wrong, I knew I should have said stop. He brushed over my hard penis, electric shocks went through me.

The traffic started to move. I wanted to be with a girl. My friends had girlfriends . They would talk about feeling their breasts, touching there panty covered pussy under there skirts. This fantasy excited me, and Dennis touch me made me feel the same way. But the traffic started moving, he had to put his hand on the wheel. He smiled and said I wouldn't mind i.. you can rub yourself while I drive. I was shy, scared, unsure, but I wanted to. I rubbed my crouch. Dennis looked over from time to time . From the look on his face he enjoyed what he saw.

We got back and he asked if I wanted to come over to his apartment. I said my Mom is expecting me home. He said OK guess it is a no. I said I don't know, I want to, I don't know , . Dennis said well why Don't you come over, call your Mom tell her you well be home later. We can take it slow. When you want to stop we will. YES, YES, YES was going through my head. OK I said.

He park the car. His apartment door was only a few feet away, but it seem like we would never get there.

Yes I lost my virginity to him that night. I had sex. I went home feeling so good.

Well I left alot out of the story.

So Dennis took me into his apartment. He said he was married to a beautiful woman. But he could not give her the sexual satisfaction that she need, because as much as he wanted to be a straight macho man, he was conflicted . She tryed to put up with it, but eventually found a boyfriend who could satisfy her . One day he came home and the boyfriend was helping her move out.

So we were sitting on the couch Dennis asked me if I was with a boy or man before. I confessed that the only sex I ever had was with my hand. He said ok, Dennis unzipped my pants. Again I knew it was wrong, but I let him. He pulled them off. The he took my jockey briefs off. He rubbed my balls , I started to wiggle and squirm. He grabbed my penis, telling me how beautiful it was. He said it's little , but it doesn't make a difference with men. He rubbed it and jerked it. He then put his mouth over it and started sucking me. It didn't take long, I exploded in his moth. I could not believe the outcome. I was relaxed, just leaning back sitting on the couch. All the pressure was gone, my mind was at rest, I was totally calm. It was the most wonderful feeling I ever had. But I knew I owed him something in return, I knew it was wrong, but I wanted to give him the same feeling as I had. He pulled my shirt off. He took my hand and put him on his crouch, it was big. I rubbed it. It got even bigger. He undressed. I watched. He said I could suck him , jerk him , or he could fuck me like a girl. That's it I though, That's it, I wanted to know what it was like to be fucked like a girl. I sheepishly said like a girl. Dennis asked what ? Like a girl I said. Oh yes ok. Could you do something for me toni, yes I said. If you want me to take you like a girl, could you, will you, will you dress like a girl fir me ? I would love it. Well how, ? My wife left things behind when she left. Could you put them on. Excitement was building in me again. I was getting hard . I blushed couldn't say anything. Dennis lead me to the bedroom. He said his ex was tiny, so her clothes should fit well. He took panties a bra, and a dress out of the draw. Dennis helped me dress. We kissed, he touched me I touched him. He laid me down on the bed. Lifted the hem of the dress. The panties felt so good snug, and comfortable. There was a big wet spot on the front from my pre cum. Dennis took my panties off. Got between my legs, put KY on my anus, KY on his cock. He put the tip to my anus and gently , slowly pushed in. It was uncomfortable. He asked if it hurt I said no. He asked if anything was in there before. I said just when Mom took my temperature or gave me a enema. He said ok just relax. He went in slow. I wanted it over. I asked him to hurry. It felt so big. I felt so full.he came, I felt him gush onto me Thrist after thrust jet after het groan after groan. He finished and pulled out. I loved it, but I wanted to know what it was like with a girl. I didn't find that out for years , I was 20 when I finally was with a girl.

I can't remember a time when I was a virgin. A group of boys I was with started experimenting with being naked together and experimenting with our bodies when I was in the 7th grade. My first cock when I was 14 from the older brother of one of the guys. I have never had my penis in a boy or man - but I love men's sex parts and using me as a girl.

I had my first girl when I was 16 and have felt romantic with every girl I have been with. Always the man with women, always the girl with men!

Go slow and enjoy the journey. Women and men are both enjoyable with different experiences. Never feel guilty about what you think about or do! Just enjoy all life has to offer!

@shenalone can't wait to hear all about your "second date"!