Enemas, Medfet, BDSM, E-stim... do you get aroused talking about your kink?

.…whatever your kink. Do you enjoy (or even get aroused) talking about your kink? Many of us have wives, husbands, partners and a few just acquaintances with whom we share our kink(s). There are a number of us, however, whose partner may not actually share our kink, and while they may be “OK” with it, some are really not “keen” on it and others find it, well, kinky! I enjoy getting into the “nuts and bolts” of my kink(s) with others but have a real hard time (other than here on Zity) finding folks to “talk business” with (let alone, PLAY with!)

Do you have others to talk with in your circle? How did you meet/find them? The search is an exhausting effort and introducing enemas (or whatever your kink is) into a conversation requires a lot of “inventiveness”. What’s been your experience?

I do. Both my sisters know what I'm into. My mom knows a little. A couple of my coworkers know a little butt when I talk at work it does put a smile on my coworkers face😀

I hope you are giving them all the kinky details 😈😉

I'm squarely in the camp of, “my significant other is OK with my kinks but not really into them.” We're best friends and married now for 31 years but sexually, she's vanilla and I'm very rocky road… Her interest in anything other than straight up hard fucking is nil. I however enjoy the nuance of foreplay, fun and exploration of my kinks. It makes for an interesting compromise in our relatio0nship.

I unfortunately have a very vanilla husband and nowhere to chat about my interests outside of Zity and the friends I've made here.

Several years ago I did have a few exams from a play Doc, but that has not happened for the last several years. I also had a short stint of belongong to a now-defunct BDSM Dungeon group.

It was nice when I could meet up with others for play. Maybe someday it'll happen again.

This is interesting to me and makes me pause to think. Congratulations by the way I love it when a member here actually makes me pause and review myself.

I don't go to lunch with co workers and employees and say things like.. hey last night I had a visitor that requested that I wear my cat suit and brutally spank him or her.

But that's not to say I won't say something to make them curious like…they ask..you are in a good mood .. and my response being.. oh I have a 2.0 currently up my ass and it feels great…

Now they wonder…is the boss really wearing a butt plug or did she just say something off the top of her head?

Keep them guessing.

Yet there are several local people that are into our kinks and we are in communication so I have that and even with them I don't share everything with them.

Even here on Zity there are somethings that I don't bring up or draw attention to. But now and then one of you filthy animals will say something that grabs my attention and you get a PM….lol.

Well if you allow private messages that is. I'm pushy but not that pushy.

Have a great day.

I live in a small town in Pennsylvania. It is very hard, and risky, to talk about my interests. My spouse used to take part but lost interest after “change of life”. I miss the old days. Would like to meet/correspond with folks (male/female) who have those same interests.

I enjoy talking to other like minded people about my kinks and fetishes. I do however find it difficult to talk to my partner about them. He’s pretty vanilla, like he wants to be apart if it and shows interest but for some reason I just have a hard time talking to him about it. I’m from a small town in North Eastern Pennsylvania.

I have a number of close friends who I divulge all the gory details of my kinks. My wife on the other hand is not into sex anymore and never had any interest in kinks. I have to practice alone or with my friends 😢

I am now open about my fetish & will talk about it with anyone who wants to listen. I’ve even showed them pics out of my albums on here 😈

It's been quite liberating for me, but I choose my audience partcipants carefully and establish a level over time…

Apart from a couple of partners, who were aware of my liking for enemas and subsequent anal play, only my current partner is aware of this. I think that is why I am so pleased to have found this site; I feel that I am not alone in my sexual cravings/leanings. I can remember in the 1970s getting a magazine here in the UK called Forum, and in their letters page seeing that others enjoyed enemas either as a prelude to anal sex etc or enjoying the intimacy and closeness of looking at and fingering some ones anus which I and a lot of people find thrilling.

Certainly get aroused discussing my kinks. But my sharing is limited to Zitybiz for a couple of reasons. The first being never has a friend brought up their sexual fantasies(except for one who admitted having a thing for Grace Slick and masturbating to her picture) and second, members here are understanding and accept the kinks without judgement.

There are not a lot of people on my side of the screen with whom I share my proclivities or fantasies.

That is why i really like ziti because when i first joined up over 10 years ago it was nice where i could take my kinks and openly discuss them and say what i like that i obviously cannot talk to my mother about. So i come here and meet people like myself both male and female. You can't get into a nice private message and have quite a close conversation and know secret about everybody. I have been very kinky for many years and i like the alternative lifestyle and the many stories i have read here. All i can say is thank you everybody i've enjoyed my time here and look forward to many many more days. Pete.

Oh yes, most definitely. I’m not the type to discuss or drop hints about it to coworkers or family members though. I don’t like feeling vulnerable about it to people who may not understand. But even when something like spanking comes up casually in regular conversation I can’t help but turn my head and have some of that anticipation start in my chest or in my more private areas.

Yes, I really enjoy sharing my experiences and also like to ask others what the have experienced yet.

My predominate medfet is girls who need to wear masks for medical reasons (and that can include COVID/long COVID, transplant, allergies and various other things). I absolutely love being able to go into this medfet online, with people that may not share my medfet, but are at least generally tolerant and understanding, as I strive to be for them. I have even written fiction around my medfet, but withdrew what I had here, because of restrictions that were put in place about pandemic talk (not sure the situation now).

I think about girls in medically required masks a good portion of the day. I'm pretty fixated. Hypersexual? I don't know. But definitely sexually frustrated. I am severely disabled from birth and have moved around a lot, so my sexual expression with people has been impaired. I have never had a girlfriend, even. Just three kisses with girls, all when I was in my mid-teens. So, I do think a lot of this is bottled up for me, and if it takes posting about my medfet or other fetishes in appropriate online forums, then sobeit. I am healthier if I make use of that.

For years, I saw an art therapist that my family recommended, and many of my "artpieces" were indeed sexually charged, whether I realized it at the time or not. This caused a session where I just talked to her the whole session, and divulged this medfet, and we talked about it and it was intense, but it was probably lifesaving, because I think part of me wasn't OK with this for a while. But the fact is, as a person disabled from birth, I have been in hospitals so, so much, and been exposed to so, so many traumas. It seems weird that a fetish would develop in spite of the trauma, but it evidently has, and I gladly take it. Maybe the fetish is some coping mechanism. I don't know.

Last week at the outpatient center, while I went to wound care, I happened upon a young woman of presumably 18/19, fair skin and light brown long hair, dressed in long pants and a sweatshirt, her mouth and nose covered by a white duckbill N95 mask, the bands holding it in place clinging visibly to her head. Her mother was assisting her to an appointment. She moved well, but I will say I was surprised to see such a pretty girl masked in public and got to wondering her "masking story". We're way past the point of any masking mandate, at least for now.

Thank you all who read through all this. It's really special to be able to divulge these things and people will listen. I've only been here a few years, but can't remember life without Zity.

Interesting, years ago when I was in my twenties, my wife and I didn’t have a problem talking to family, friends, or doctors about enemas or sexual issues. We also got involved with three other couples our age for the purpose of having a monthly foursome, rotating between couples each month, involving enemas and sexual intercourse among other things. However, in today’s climate, the only place I feel safe talking is this site.

I do, obviously, but in no way in hell would I reveal my secret in real life. Not even to my therapist. I barely even write about it in my diary in case somebody finds it and reads it. Though... maybe when I do get a partner, I'll mention it to her. Best case scenario I just happened to stumble onto someone who is into the same but just like me, would rather die than admit it in public.

My friends on the Discord server I'm in know a little about my kink though. I did mention I was into medical stuff and anesthesia, and that I was concerned it could seep out too much (the good old author appeal trope) in my works. Still not going to prevent me from adding scenes and such into my stories.

I like writing about my fetishes and kinks. Talking face to face, not so much. Since fetishes are generally off beat, the person to whom I'm speaking must have an interest in the subject and not chastise me for being so sexually oriented. For example: Enemas. Here at Zity most everybody understands and accepts an enema fetish. However, in the real world, enemas are for the most part misunderstood.

To an extent, at Munches (public BDSM meet-ups). In detail negotiating a play session at the dungeon or kink conference.

I had a mundane conversation with a trans person during a cigar break at a kink con several years ago that led to open talk about our kinks. We ended up in the play space doing bondage while continuing to talk about our kinks. Enemas were mentioned but not practical to follow up on.

@bagman925 said,

Talking face to face, not so much. Since fetishes are generally off beat, the person to whom I'm speaking must have an interest in the subject and not chastise me for being so sexually oriented.

Then said,

However, in the real world, enemas are for the most part misunderstood.

When my wife and I were in our twenties, we got involved with three other couples our age, for the express purpose of engaging in a foursome once a month. Rotating couples between two hosts each month. Then, once a quarter, had a get together of all couples involved. During our monthly foursomes or the quarterly get together, it was refreshing to be able to talk openly amongst ourselves. Exchanging ideas about enemas, sexual intercourse, positions, our likes and dislikes, and various other topics of a sexual nature with the other couples.

Of course I do. I have an erection while I type almost all my posts here. Sorry for the TMI 😊

Hell yea. Talking about it just makes things more fun

I like to talk about it very much, that’s why I’m here. My wife is also an enthusiast but she is very shy about it, very rarely brings it up, even to me. I wish she were more open about it. I’d love to talk to another user in person but I doubt that will ever happen.

I like to talk about (and do) many things:

I like to read, especially mysteries and history (I have a degree in history but back then it was called current events).

I like baseball and have been to maybe a thousand major and minor league games. Watched thousands more on television.

I like to travel but unfortunately health problems have restricted me lately.

I like to watch too much television, I have the damn thing on all the time but don’t always pay attention to it.

I like dining out and finding restaurants with different kinds of cuisine.

I like to drink, especially bourbon.

I like to go to movies but it’s been a long time since I’ve seen a really good one.

I like to pick my nose and scratch my ass.

I like to have warm soapy water shot up my butt and I like do the same for others.

I like to have a phallus rammed into me.

There are 10 things listed above. I can talk about 8 of them to just about anybody. If I talk about medieval history to the guy next to me on an airplane he might want to strangle me but would hopefully think I’m harmless.

I would never ever talk about 2 of those 10 things (guess which). In fact I have never talked about them personally with anyone I was not involved with sexually.

On Zity I can talked about the two without being thought or called disgusting, sick, perverted, or anything else like that.

Keep it flowing,

Bill

This indeed is a thought provoking question…

I’ve been very closeted about my fetish/sexual interests. I internalized my own feeling “weird” about having a medical fetish even before understanding sexuality fully. I brought it up in a very general sense with my first girlfriend, who found it “weird”, so I didn’t bring it for a long time. I did at least discover fetlife and zity.biz, which gave an outlet for discussion, many which were arousing to me. I did have a girlfriend in college that I did somewhat regularly engage in listening to her heartbeat and visa versa, but we didn’t have a specific conversation about our personal kink interests.

More recently I’ve discussed my fetish activities in therapy sessions, which is really the first time outside of meeting with medical play partners I’ve had in person discussions on this topic. While it was arousing at times to discuss it, it was also a very anxiety provoking topic, as it really kind of forced me to acknowledge more openly being queer and such.

My boyfriend is the most sexually open man I’ve ever had sex with. He tries to find out my kink and he goes out of his way to please me. My arousal is his arousal.

The one kink which I’ve never shared with him is my enema kink. I feel an immense amount of shame around the kink.

He knows the stories of my mother sexually abusing me with enemas, and orgasming as she watched me expel. I’ve never fully admitted my enema fetish.

My anal fetish he’s all over it. He loves it as much as I do. He’s a great fan of my tongue all over his asshole and balls.

I don’t know if I’ll ever admit my enema fetish to him.

Oh yeah, thats the best part of a place like zity. Although I've passed the age when every semi sexual thought made my dick harder than diamond, I'd not bother to participate here if it diddn't arouse me. Most of the time I am on zity, I keep my penis available. Not to say that I constantly masturbate, because thats not possible any longer, but the ability to reach down and do a couple strokes while reading an exceptionally hot posting or story, that make the whole thing worthwhile. I've learned that I don't need to cum every time I touch myself. Reading and chatting here can be one extended edging session. It might even last a couple days before reaching an orgasm, but its great to keep on that high arousal level and share it with others. Especially sharing it with others of similar interests.