Spanking: pain vs humiliation

I would have to say it’s the humiliation I administer first and the pain second. I don’t want to injure the other person, perhaps just a nice shade of pink to go with the humiliation. I guess ask @ccm93 ?

It is a bit of both. The pain of giving the spanking is a turn on, attraction. The humiliation of my sub to have to take the spanking. As he never got any growing up.

I like the connection. The pain is not much of a thing. It is fun, stimulating. It is all about the connection. In public, the humiliation is delicious.

Toss up I like both. I did once cum while hitting my penis a balls with a crop, there was penis bruising afterwards so I would guess that was all pain.

I would say all aspects of a spanking are a turn on....the lecture, the preparation, the presentation of your bare bottom over the knee, the rubbing of your bottom before the spanking begins (during also) as well as tjhe em-bare-ass-ment and humilation of submitteing yourself to the spankee. Simply pu...All of the above. Denise

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Hopefully, with any consensual spanking there is an element of fun and enjoyment, in addition to any pain and humiliation.

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My Dom blistered my butt earlier. My shorts were down and I refused to lower my panties. She jerked my underwear off and paddled my bare butt until I was sobbing. She continued lecturing and swinging. She laid me on my stomach on my bed when she was through. She described all the colors my butt was turning. Crimson

Something about spanking makes me so damn hot and craving for more and to submit to his desires

As I have stated in other postings, I am not in favor of giving or receiving harsh pain or do anything that would leave a lasting mark. That said, a nice naked over the knee bare ass spanking is very enjoyable. just enough to leave a slight reddening of those cheeks! I would love to find a discreet partner into the same!

I think it's specifically the combination of both in tandem that caused this to become a fetish for me. I think if you take one away, it's no longer a fetish.

Although a novice spankee, I feel the embarrassment of showing parts of my anatomy to a lady(ies) that polite society says should be covered is th turn on much more than the pain.

Quote: "The embarrassment of showing parts of my anatomy to a lady(ies) that polite society says should be covered is th turn on".

I have been spanked in public a few times and on one occassion I was led naked through a crowded room and made to stand in the corner like a naughty schoolboy with my bruised bottom on display for all to see. Being humiliated in that way was a massive turn-on but it was a gathering of like-minded spanko's and I felt that there was a certain admiration among those looking on.

It is by no means pain that I want to inflict; it is exclusively about humiliation and the feeling of becoming a small, helpless girl again under my treatment. In the best case scenario, this is pleasurable for both the giver and the receiver—and if this can only be achieved with a certain (desired) degree of pain, then this pain is inflicted.

The excitement that comes from humiliation, in my opinion

For me, the humiliation clearly outweighs the pain.

For me, the humiliation clearly outweighs the pain.

For sure yes !! - i can imagine, we are sitting " in the same boat " !!

I have replied previously but thought I'd add a further observation from my perspective. Ultimately, the purpose of a spanking is to cause pain. Of course it can be shameful and humiliating as well, perhaps through the exposure of some more private parts of the body or the requirement to confess one's faults and express contrition. Those aspects certainly can be an important part of the experience, but it's quite possible to humiliate someone necessarily spanking them. So, I'd argue that, whilst always being consensual, pain - and I mean to a level that might not be considered pleasant - is a key and necessary part of a spanking.

It starts when she scolds me..usually for wetting myself or my diapers again....I am standing naked, hairless in front of her...she's tying my wrists together so I can't reach back and cover my bare and often wet bottom...I can't help but get a boner on....and it sometimes starts dripping while I stand there naked and being chastised.

The the swift movement she uses to jerk me across her lap, and the twinge I feel when I get that glimpse between her legs. Sometimes she has panties, others, I see it...I actually get to see it...and then it's gone, my little boner trapped between her thighs and no hesitation as the whipping begins...

I try so hard but I almost always wind up sniffling like a little boy and squirming with each strap or smack of the paddle only stimulates my boner more..

The most embarrassing part is those times my dribble turns to a spurt of pee or even worse I cum down her legs...That just makes the spankings worse...and give her reason to pin me back in diapers...for the day.

When my Domme shows up to spank me, I am fully clothed. She opens her bag and methodically places the chosen implements on the table by my bed. A light spanking will only involve the wooden paddle with holes drilled in it. Severe spankings might include a wooden paddle, A belt and a riding crop. I am to stand in front of her while I am sternly reprimanded. She removes my clothing until I am completely nude. I am told to assume the position. I place my hands flat on my bed and spread my legs. She starts with the paddle. By the time she is well into using the belt, I am crying. I am sobbing when she finishes with the crop. I am led to the corner where I sit on a very hard wooden chair.

Both of it - pain and also humiliation - will be " part of the game " between like minded adult people !!

Both combined but if I have to choose I would say the humiliation.

When I'm getting a spanking it's purely for the pain. I just get into it and wish they would never stop. Even if my poor ass is black n blue with welts. But when I'm giving spanking; most of the Ladies, I've spanked, seemed to like the humiliation the most.

The feeling of submission and the sting of pain do it for me.

For me it's both. Sometimes even more so the humiliation especially if I have to do it myself and provide proof. Especially knowing if it's not done well, there's always the chance that I might have to endure it again.

For me, there is an even more important component: that a woman or girl is forced to undress.

There is nothing more beautiful in the world than a naked female body. I have been and still am fortunate enough to engage in very fascinating online role-playing with a few ladies here. Or even meet them in real life.

Whether the lady in question is super beautiful or not, has a very slim body or not, is very young or older... every woman has something to offer

And if the girl or lady in question also happens to have a nice profession or is intelligent and wishes to submit, that is a nice bonus.

So, rather than humiliation or pain, it is the aesthetics of a fascinating naked lady that matters to me.

That is also why I actually have less and less of a preference for MEDFET and have become more and more captivated by spanking.

And yes, I do want to inflict some pain on the lady in question, but extreme pain is really not necessary. Perhaps I find making her undergo some unpleasant and humiliating actions, or even doing them to her, even a little more exciting.