Spanking: pain vs humiliation

After some recent conversations. I wonder what is the biggest turn on for you during spanking. Is it the pain you receive/ give or the humiliation you feel/ administer?

Humiliation

Pain

I think it’s a combination of both I mean a discipline spanking should hurt a little within the spanker limits of course,and the humiliation factor depending on position you are spanked adds to the heightened effect,if there’s scolding or if it’s in front of others there’s definately humiliation involved

I think @Dave3 said it quite well. Definitely a bit of both as far as I am concerned. Of course, this all depends on what works for the receiver too.

I think it has more to do with the objective of the spanking which determines the dynamics of what is going to happen. I also think it has to do with how the brain is wired with the spanker and spankee.

For me, when receiving, it’s pain. Can’t speak for the persons I’ve spanked.

Pain is a constant, humiliation is an occasional bonus.

Pain is a constant, humiliation is an occasional bonus. I like reactions a lot, tears top the list ‘dancing’ after good strikes is always nice and fuck fuck fuck under the breath is lovely.

For me there has never been humiliation, or very little. The biggest turn on IS the pain from knowing that my wife has taken away all of my control! And that she will remind me that i am to be submissive to her just by the threat of a spanking! ( Both as fore play or punishment ! 😃! For almost 50 years!

Of course it hurts, otherwise it would not be worth doing it, but the main part is the humiliation especially when it is done in front of others when I have done something wrong and have to be punished..

@Chris_Parker I think it has more to do with the objective of the spanking which determines the dynamics of what is going to happen. I also think it has to do with how the brain is wired with the spanker and spankee.

Yes, I couldn't have said it better.

Part of it for me is the control aspect. I would only ever spank by consent and the fact that the woman has agreed to be spanked, and has given herself to me in that respect is pleasurable for me. And if she finds the experience pleasurable and arousing, then that is extra nice for me too. In most cases humiliation only really comes in to it if there is an audience I'd say…

For me it's both. I am the giver and usually it is about humiliating the other part. Him feeling pain is not really a turn on but without I would feel ridiculous. I mean the point of spanking is to give at least some pain. There are many other ways to humiliate someone.

For me it's a combination of pain with humiliation/vulnerability aspects.

A bit of both…but mostly humiliation for me.

It's the whole ritual. Walking closer, bending down or being forced to bend, pants pulled down… and then the sharp sting…

The humiliation, the pain…and the release

For me it's humiliation, the feeling of embarrassment and the image of you under someone's mercy

I am mainly paddled so for me it’s the burn and sting of the paddle on my bare bottom also the anticipation while getting the paddle and bending over to receive, I purposely don’t try to watch the swing of the paddle I want it to be a surprise, I know when the paddle is lightly touched to my bare bottom that any second the burn and sting will begin and the butterflies in my stomach are buzzing. I enjoy spanking so it’s never humiliating

Give me sensual hard pain and I will be at your beck and call

To me it is all about what my receiver derives from it. If it is the pain and/or humiliation that makes her wet between her thighs, then that is what works for me. But there is also the slight sadist in me that enjoys inflicting some pain if it is desired. If that makes sense.

I would say the humiliation is a touch more exciting than the actual pain of the spanking. The anticipation, the exposing myself, the giving up of control and submitting to a spanking. Corner time with more spanking to come it thrilling in the humiliation of obeying my spanker. Listening to being scolded, teased, and if done in front of witnesses the humiliation/embarrassment level is through the roof. The stinging pain is a close second though. Being made to wear lingerie and other feminine attire also increases my humiliation by emasculating me.

When I am being spanked it's both. I need the pain for stress relief. Being humiliated and embarrassed is an added bonus. Knowing that you are being watched and on display being naked across the spanker's lap.

When I am spanking someone else I try my best to make them feel both.

Humiliation and relinquishing control.

To me, it is a bit of both, but mainly it is about pain. That might be because I am not easily humiliated at all. What matters to me is the physical and the psychological setting. The “mind part” is very important to me. And that is not always or 100% about humiliation. It is feeling bad for breaking a rule or behaving in a way that is not acceptable, for example. The strict tone of voice is also significant, making me feel it's serious, and I'm in deep trouble. The psychology behind being punished is the most essential part for me. And humiliation can be part of that, but not necessarily, because there is more to it. The pain of the punishment itself is important as well, it's part of the whole, to me, it is…

We tried spanking a few times but never really got into it. For us, it was a playful gateway to my wife's butt.

For me it is the humiliation of getting naked and presenting myself to the spanker. More humiliating is when there are witnesses to my spanking. Most humiliating is when the spanker requires me to approach each witness and shake their hand thanking them for coming to watch my spanking. Hands down humiliation.

For me, it's both the pain and the humiliation. Knowing that I'm a grown up, but I'm over someone's knee getting spanked like a little girl has a huge affect on my mindset. Adding in the pain of a relentless swats that I deserve releases so much tension!

About my previous post of no or very little humiliation. I would be humiliated but very submissive (and secretly excited) if unbeknownst to me a few of my wife's women friends were invited and walked just after my spanking started! Especially, as my Avatar shows, with 2 of the women holding me firmly in place and all of them cheering my wife on to spank harder and longer, till well after i could no longer beg, plead or otherwise struggle / resist! At least one time?? Who knows if i would ever want it to happen again?

Being spanked over the knees before, during, and after an enema.

As someone with very little experience of giving or receiving I can only imagine the humiliation is the key factor. Anyone fancy popping by to help me learn more……..😱😂