Crying during a spanking

I think the process of getting the person ready for the spanking is really more arousing. Making them strip in front of you and assume a on all fours position. In this position the entire body is exposed

When I do hear crying happen during a spanking I am giving it usually causes me to spank a bit harder and faster to make that crying warranted!

IMO it's all emotional. I've gotten spankings that bruised a little and hurt so badly but been stubborn and not cried, and I've cried from hand spankings to light pink. To me tears come when I am genuinely disappointed in myself and my actions, when I feel guilty, when I know I disappointed my mom, and when I accept the punishment. If I am defiant or resistant you can burn my butt for an hour and it won't happen. So if you want to cry my best advice is to be in a close relationship with someone where you experience those feelings.

Or get spanked on your cycle (ifykyk lmao).

IMO it's all emotional.

Agree with @cherryblossombottom , it’s an emotional release vs physical. We can endure a lot physically, our emotions are more sensitive.

I cried from spankings when I was a child. One was especially formative in that it left me sort of shivering and having small orgasms although I didn't realize what they were at the time. I've always wanted to re-create that one that was given by my father, he was very loving, but certainly strict. I got very few spankings from him and this is the only one that was like this.

My brother was very stubborn and I heard a spanking. He gave my brother through the door. I remember him lecturing him telling him that this was for acting up somewhere and it seems to go on forever. I remember he was yelling in the next day, he was slightly bruised.

there was one more he got when we were in a place where he told us both to be still and not move. My brother got up and walked around and openly defied him. He came in and spanked him over his knee with a piece of trim board and he was screaming at the end.

I always wanted to be my brother in that scene. Please be assured that none of us were hurt seriously but he did make sure that we got the message.

Today, I get a fair number of spankings and every once in a while, we agree that I need one that's a punishment and more serious.

My friend understands this and usually uses a heavy paddle and a CaniLac Wangee cane or a Dragon cane. She can spank very hard and keeps it up until I am seriously crying. (I sometimes start crying before she starts the spanking. she stands by me and asked me if I know why I'm getting it and then lectures me. She also lets me say something, which is always about being contrite. I lie on a dresser with a large pillow underneath my hips and grab the edge.

These spankings seem to go on forever, but somehow I always want them to restart after she's finished despite the fact that I'm doing anything I can to beg her to stop.

I would like to be able to cry more because it is so beneficial.

I'm afraid I got off topic here and wasn't answering your question.

I think someone else said this – the emotion is key to being able to cry. I have found that when she sits with me and talks with me about what I have done that I may start to cry a little before she does anything else.

I read from one Guy years ago that the best way to get a woman that he was with the spank was to overload her capacity to process. So it was a question of how fast he spanked as much as how hard he spanked he thought it had to be hard and fast. Almost like creating a shock and never letting her recover.

I'm not sure if that's helpful or not, but for me, the emotional part is important to get me started down the path of crying. I have to have a reason to cry and I don't think pain alone will do it.

But, I also think that I really hard and fast session with the cane could start me crying if she were scolding me.

Hope that's helpful

It definitely happens that I cry when I get spanked. Not every single time, but most spankings end up with me whining and crying.

It definitely happens that I cry when I get spanked. Not every single time, but most spankings end up with me whining and crying.

If it is a " punishment - spanking ", that will be a normal reaction !!

What works for me is getting a very harsh lecture before the spanking....to the point where I am broken down emotionally and am on the verge of tears before the spanking begins. Then when I feel the physical pain from the spanking it pushes me over the edge to cry.

Recently, I had a spanking that brought me to tears. First of all, I felt really bad about how I was misbehaving and not being a good girl for my Daddy. I admitted to him what I had done wrong and basically asked for my punishment, just so I could get it over with and be back in his good graces again. My Daddy had dealt with this issue with me before, so he was upset and disappointed in me.

It's worth mentioning that for some time, I had expressed to my Daddy a desire for him to spank me until I cried. I'm pretty sure that my need to do this is partly rooted in my childhood experiences, I like the way that it feels- both the pain and how it makes me feel like a little girl, and also because it's just hot and sexy. Though he has given me many spankings, none of them have brought me to tears, even when he used various implements and left marks.

As I was on my way to see him and get my punishment spanking, I was actually really nervous about it and I secretly wanted to show up and have him decide to give me a loving session instead. When I got there, he called me by my first and middle name and told me to go stand in the corner. After he sat down, he ordered me to take down my panties, pull up my dress, and get across his lap. He gave me the most serious spanking that he has ever given me. Usually, he would give me some kind of a break, but not this time. He spanked my whole butt and upper thighs really thoroughly. Then he asked me to reach in my bag and hand him my wooden paddle, which he used and then had me count down the final five swats. It was really painful, but I never wanted him to stop.

After the spanking was over, he ordered me into the bathroom for an enema. As I stood there watching him get the bowl of water ready for a bulb enema, that's when the tears came. I felt so bad that I had disappointed my Daddy and also so embarrassed that he had to give me a real spanking, I couldn't help it but put my head in my hands and finally cry. It's worth noting that the bulb enema was amazing and we also had anal sex while Inwas holding the water. My Daddy cares about me a lot, and it is just a powerful realization at times for me. My bottom also really hurt too, it actually left marks and bruises which I enjoyed watching heal over the next few days.

After my punishment was over, I loved how he took care of me. I laid next to him with my head in my lap while he told me how special that I am to him. I loved it how just like when I was a kid, everything started over new after my spanking was done. It just all made me feel amazing and reset me, I've actually felt really good since my punishment.

@Allie80 I've longed for an experience like that for a long time, you are a very lucky girl, congratulations and yay for more happy kinky chosen families 😄

@Allie80, thank you for sharing your erotic spanking experience. The fact that it led to a flood of tears speaks to how deeply it affected you.. This is well beyond what is know as sub-space, but harkens back to early experiences you had. I was very taken by your tale. Thanks again for sharing such a personal happening

I agree that the spanking usually is more Emotional pain than physical, although of course there has to be some level of "sting." Subs have told me that it is the very nature that they are "going to be getting a spanking" that is emotional (and arousing)...so I always take a long time in prep. Reprimanding them sternly about their offense, preparing the spanking implement(s), forcing them to undress in front of me, making them hand me the paddle, etc. , commenting on their nakedness and especially any evident arousal. A little humiliation can be effective. During the spanking I like to stop every couple of minutes, admonish them, maybe rub their back or bottom gently, comment on their arousal (wet or erect), rub/pinch their nipples so that they can feel helpless and submissive, and tell them they will continue to be spanked until they cry. Don't rush the spanking. All of it builds up emotionally for the sub.

When my best friend(now domme) first started spanking me about 2 years ago, I did not cry. I found it quite pleasurable. One day she went beyond her normal session, and my butt was on fire. I was crying and begging. She kept it up for a few more minutes. By then I was sobbing. She either gives me a maintenance paddling or a punishment one. I always am sobbing when she finishes up a punishment one because I am spanked on a bare bottom.

For me, it is all about the headspace. When I am a grown-up, it is almost impossible for Payne to make me cry. When I am a naughty little boy, with my wet Nappy around my ankles and over mummy’s knee getting the hairbrush, I can cry like a little baby.

I always cry from a spanking, sob in fact.

The only time I really cried hard during a spanking, bawled like a toddler & couldn't help it - was the time I was tied down naked over a horse-type apparatus & the older male who disciplined me used a wispy very-bendable cane on my bare bottom & thighs. He LOVED my sobbing, by the way. I think that emotion hurled up out of me that time due to several various elements at play, including being tied down so completely helpless & vulnerable. It was intense. I also totally (for ineffable reasons) TRUSTED that particular disciplinarian although I'd never met him before. I never cried like that during other spankings, whether over the lap of an older male or female, I only reacted with squirming & vocals like "OWW! Ahhhw!" :-)

So glad to hear that ThisisMark had a good experience with spanking!

I wanted to share my personal experience regarding this, and specifically connect with what you wrote, Dragonflies369, about searching for that cry and release. For me, crying during or right after a spanking is one of the most calming, cleansing, and powerful things there is.

For me, this kind of crying—and even loud, completely uninhibited crying—is truly a form of psychological therapy. There is no better way to cleanse the soul.

A few years ago, I experienced an unforgettable session. Tension had been building up inside me for long weeks, and my body was simply looking for a release. When the blows began to land on my backside, it initially felt like pure physical pain, burning and deep, consuming all of my attention. But with every additional strike, something within my internal barriers just began to break.

It wasn't a cry of suffering or a desire to stop, but tears of absolute release. The skin was burning, endorphins flooded my brain, and suddenly all the stress, worries, and defenses were just washed away along with the tears and the sounds that came out of me. In that moment, the hug and aftercare following the session felt like the safest, most soothing place in the world. The sharp transition from the storm and pain of the strikes to the absolute peace of crying is an incredible emotional experience that rivals the deepest therapy session.

Perhaps you would find it easier if i applied my leather strap or maybe a caning ?

I always cry from a spanking, sob in fact.

- don't be ashamed about this reaction !! - when a spanking was given as punishment, so it can also be a sign of relief !!

My master usually orders me to hold my position and remain silent during the spanking, other than counting the strokes and thanking him after each one (extra punishment is earned if I cry out or don’t hold my position).

Sometimes my master gives me a severe punishment which requires me to be fully restrained and gagged. Usually these punishments have me screaming and shaking. My screams turn my master on so much sometimes he’ll throw the belt/cane down and start roughly fucking my heavily spanked ass (for extra punishment it’ll be dry with no lube).

I can't actually remember crying even as a child if I was spanked by anyone other than a parent, I can remember other people crying when they were spanked at school so I assume I did as well and just don't remember it. As an adult I found being spanked far too enjoyable to want to cry although to be honest it is more the tingly burning after effects that I find enjoyable. My wife was a hypnotherapist and when I told her that I found myself unable to cry when I was spanked she said she could help me with that and implanted a hypnotic trigger to allow me to cry once my butt started to glow. My wife passed away a couple of years ago so I don't really know if the trigger is still in place because she is the only person who has spanked me for the last 20 years or so. If I find another spanking partner it will be interesting to find out. (self spanking definitely doesn't trigger it and is entirely unsatisfying for me)

I don’t cry out loud, if I do I get put in a mouth gag and number of swats added. So I try my best to stay quiet. Tears will run down my face as I try my hardest to stay still and get it over with.

Only ever cried once during a spanking as an adult. And that was when I did an overnight with a wonderful Domme (Miss Hastings) in England playing a1970s Headmistress and Mum. It was just after breakfast the morning after and I used bad language after breaking a plate emptying her dishwasher. She marched me into the living room. pulled down my pyjamas, put me over her knee and smacked me soundly on my bare bottom, tops and backs of legs.

It was wonderful!

I can’t recall crying that much when I was spanked as a teenager as an adult when sometimes spanked I don’t really cry though it hurts a lot! Brush and strap over the knee has me kicking clenching wriggling pounding my fists on the chair legs all very physical, and shouting ouch no more!! Perhaps it’s a reaction not to cry or maybe I need to learn control?

Sometimes my master gives me a severe punishment which requires me to be fully restrained and gagged. Usually these punishments have me screaming and shaking. My screams turn my master on so much sometimes he’ll throw the belt/cane down and start roughly fucking my heavily spanked ass (for extra punishment it’ll be dry with no lube).

@courtneylouxxx, how can you scream if you’re gagged?

For me, I often began crying even before the first swat as I was embarrassed and bared.