Enemas for the ladies

Okay, ladies, this one is for you!! I’m not sure whether it’s a “survey”, a need for some “stimulation”, or a request for help (probably this).

My SO (i.e. wife) is not into receiving. She is very comfortable giving, but I think the first, and only, time I got her to indulge, I may have been a little too forward and it didn’t turn her off per se but she didn’t have a pleasant or exciting experience. I need some guidance about how I can get her to try things again with, hopefully, a better outcome. So, I need/want to know what, or how you get turned on by being given an enema. Let’s try this systematically, to satisfy my need for structure, (Hope this isn’t too clinical, but I really would be happy to have her as part of my kink.)

Questions basically all boil down to “What turns you on (sexually) about getting an enema”?

Bottom line, how can I help my lovemate more amenable to participating with me in enjoying what I think is my ultimate kink? (Doesn’t that alliterate nicely…lol!!!)

Thanks all for your help. Guys, feel free to add to this, but I really want to get the ladies perspective!

This ones right up my canyon.

Nozzel long and bumpy medium or large bore faster fill less pressure long makes it easier to take. my fave. Ball Style Sealing Silicone Enema Douche Nozzle (siliconenozzles.com) I stick it in till there is just hose outside and my hole closes over the top of it.

Excitment Anticipating the enema watching the bag fill and the air being sent out of the hose. I lay down and close my eyes then feel the finger lubing me Usually sets me off . The insertion is a minor part of the experience .

Flow I do 4 quartz I feel presure a little after 3. At 4 I feel I have to go but enjoy the sensation and hold it in till it settles or I nearly erupt. Cramps are not a thing unless its done wrong the bag not totaly filled or the hose not filled with water first leaving air in the system.

Geting wet wile the bag is being filled sometimes later handling the nozzel.

Like the most. The sound of the water going in to me and feeling myself expand. The release when I am a lone just let it rip out blasting farts and gloop going AWWWWW ! Its embarrassing with company.

It is just recently I accepted having company wile doing my enema. It was allways a solo experience for years before that unless it was for a sceen in the play room. In the play room it is a control experience not the same as a plain gentle enema to poop or relax. Now I do it with my girl friend we do it together and recently like just this week had my Husband/ Master in the bathroom chating with me about geting a new satelite dish and actualy felt comfortable doing my enema with him there and evacuating infront of him. Before I would ask him to leave . Like I filled the bag and everything with him there and felt totaly normal. I feel proud of myself for that. It may become a together thing.

Making love. While holding I like light stuf just making out no penetration. After I have evacuated a good long fuck up the arse feels great. Wile holding I am not aposed to a vibrator in the cunt or a visit by MR Hatachi.

Fantasy I really just drift into the experience. A lone I like music and a blanket if its cold . I can lay there all warm inside and out for a long time all relaxed some days. Even nap filled up.

It is really up to your love mate. Some people just don't like having an enema or prefer doing it alone. Let her make the sceen. Possibly if she has more control like the choice of equipment it may be more of a safe experience. A little romance can go a long way. Please sweetie let me stick this up your arse anfd fill you with water pleaaaase! is not much of an enticement. Sort of sounds bad of me but well bribes can work wonders against inabitioins. I turn a little red admiting this vonerability.

You have a lot of questions so hopefully my answers will make sense to you:

What turns you on (sexually) about getting an enema? Everything, but I love the sensation of warmth as the enema fills me. I guess it might be a throwback to when I used an enema to calm my insides down when I suffered from PMS.

Nozzle? Type. Usually it's a standard adult rectal nozzle also a few years ago I got a barium type with a bulbous end that stays nicely in place on its own. I've been douching since college and cannot get into the idea that that nozzle would go into my other end.

Insertion? I honestly don't think twice about this and a well lubed nozzle just gently slips in.

Flow? First sensation of water, when you begin feeling or sensing fullness, when you start cramping or really getting uncomfortable? I really dislike cramps immensely so for me an enema has to be taken slowly and the bag hung low enough to not make filling uncomfortable. There is a learned feeling of fullness that is neither too much nor too little, but no other way to describe it.

When do you start getting wet? When do you start feeling “horny”? Can you believe when I am first inclined to take an enema? Getting the bag out, running the water, filling and hanging the bag all lend to me becoming ever more horny.

What do you really like most about the experience? Probably everything except the expulsion as I will frequently struggle to retain the enema. After all is said and done, however, a most enjoyable experience is soaking in our Jacuzzi tub and allowing my mind to just drift off to nowhere.

Do you make love while holding or after expelling? No, never during. Any lovemaking will come afterward as my excitement has been known to linger on for some time.

Do you fantasize and what about? Lots of things including some hunk giving me an enema, but also I reminisce about the times I have made love after earlier enemas. I like to set the mood and it might sound a bit crazy but I really enjoy putting on a CD and lighting a couple of scented candles in the bathroom.

Just some random thoughts...

Most ladies although they will seldom admit to it like a bit of anal stimulation.

An enema offers that in spades. Communication is key - discuss things like: I'd like this to be a fun experience that you enjoy.

ALWAYS use a gloved hand, lubing up the anus is KEY - take your time and massage using plenty of lube.

If this is not a 'usual' practice I'd try this: Tell her to take what she can until she feels the urge to expel - let her expel, re-fill the bag if necessary and start again - take lots of time. Even if this takes a few tries - that's fine.

Once she is filled with most of the bag put on a fresh glove, lube and massage her clit / vagina while she's holding.

Then go down on her clit while she's holding - most ladies will have an intense O when you do that.

Years ago I used this technique with a lady that had never had an orgasm, however the goal was to make that happen not just start enjoying erotic enemas.

BJ

The reason why I think there are few ladies at best on this site is because of all the FAKE women I have encountered over the 5+ years I have been on this site.

@ShamanE - it might be worth posting that the behaviour of some male members has been less than appealing to female members, and moderators have seen some of that today, with one predatory male member being removed from the site after a female member reported him regarding his conduct.. When they are treated badly by such toxic individuals, we often see the actual female members deterred from participating on the site. Often they just leave, wrongly believing nothing can be done.

I would also say that moderators should be contacted when fake female members are found, as we can't do it all by ourselves. Quite often we see male members complaining but doing next to nothing to assist us. It is in everyone's interests that the fake females are dealt with, but we tend not to get that kind of information.

So how about giving us some help? Wouldn't that be constructive?

It is not just that, there are far few, if any women on this site, and the ones that seem like women, but who really knows?

I have contributed much to this site, mainly with finding enema videos. And the moderators get so snippy and defensive, what a turn off. Part of the problem. The enema video genre seems to have collapsed altogether, who makes them anymore? Go ahead and threaten to kick me out for saying that there is no much exciting going on around here anymore... Cheeze louize

Why aren't women responding to this thread? This thread has turned into a banana fest, just like this site. Women, Where are you? come and save this site!!!

It is not just that, there are far few, if any women on this site, and the ones that seem like women, but who really knows?

There are women here, believe me. It's just that they often don't make as much noise as the males. Instead, they prefer only to read.

I have contributed much to this site, mainly with finding enema videos. And the moderators get so snippy and defensive, what a turn off.

Now hold it right there. I wasn't being snippy and defensive, I was inviting you to help us - if you can. I was telling you what the problem is regarding creating better conditions for female members to actually participate here. But if you aren't interested in helping us, I won't ask you again. Fine.

Go ahead and threaten to kick me out for saying that there is no much exciting going on around here anymore... Cheeze louize

I wasn't threatening to kick you out. Don't be ridiculous.

If any member has or see possible "fake females" or questionable members, let moderation know. As Drz said moderation can not do this alone. Members help, because fakes misbehave with other members more often, is needed in these types of issues. If you are not willing to help, then don't complain there is a problem.

Message sent @ShamanE .

I usually do an enema in a simple way. Standard bag, standard tip. It's no different if an enema was done in a hospital. Except for the excitement, of course.

@BigJane perfect scenario!!!!

Questions basically all boil down to “What turns you on (sexually) about getting an enema”?

Nozzle? Type (adult rectal, such as might be used with a regular bulb; douche, either the common fluted used with most douches, bulbous – larger end, or other; penis shaped – from a couple of inches to humongous; butt plug style – again from an couple inches to really big; or colon tube, from 15 inches or so on up? We most of the time like 90% of the time use the regular douche nozzle. We also have a colon tube we use sometimes. We also have some special nozzles but they don't get used very much. If you are taking a survey this is from four girls. Three of us live here and one lives here most of the time. We are normal ladies. I am a nurse, my sister is a banker, her girlfriend works at an auto parts store and one is a student.

Always fingers first with lube. Insertion? Stimulation of your anus (as in just when the nozzle is touching your butt and entering); feelings of longer “tubes” further up your rear? As far as longer tubes we noticed that it is different like when the water is going in it is much higher so there is not the urge to expell fast. But water is used while inserting the colon tube. It takes longer for the feeling of fullness.

Flow? First sensation of water, when you begin feeling or sensing fullness, when you start cramping or really getting uncomfortable?

When do you start getting wet? When do you start feeling “horny”? I can say this for all of us who live here. The wetness starts before even thinking about it happening. As far as being horny that would start before the enema and just thinking about it. Unless we are on our periods and not really horny before the enema starts but once it starts and we are being played with or masturbating then after it all starts we get horny.

What do you really like most about the experience? It is being open and embarrissed a little even if we all live here or all but one. It is a little embarrassing still if someone walks in on you. But that fades away fast.

Do you make love while holding or after expelling? I have only been masturbated and had toys used on me while holding, expelling, and after expelling.

Do you fantasize and what about? Nope because it is usually another giving so if we want the giver naked she will be. We can play while she is filling me even as far as facesitting. It's all good.

Bottom line, how can I help my lovemate be more amenable to participating with me in enjoying what I think is my ultimate kink? (Doesn’t that alliterate nicely…lol!!!) Have your lover help you. Have her insert the nozzle and masturbate you through the whole thing. Show her how much pleasure you get from it. I am explaining how I started. After I licked her and got her super horny and wet then I would insert a finger. Then a nozzle. I would watch her during the whole thing moaning and humping my finger and the nozzle. I did this for weeks and watcher her have major orgasms week after week until I got up the nerve to try it.

@Tabitha32 .Forgive me, but are enemas the "ultimate kink" or are they, and even more colonics, the "ultimate pamper"? Surely something which is so healthy and so pleasurable, should not be considered to be dirty? We all need to poop, some have difficulty with this. Feeling clean is so fantastic and may lead on to other pleasures. In humility.

@Tabitha32 Good hot reading your comment!!!! Same feelings here!

@Tabitha32

Love your descriptions so much.

I have read many of your posts and I can’t imagine a more sexually satisfying lifestyle than having access to three other women who enjoy the erotic aspects of pleasurable enemas.

Congratulations and keep them coming. (No pun intended.)

A few male members posts have been removed as the OP asks...

Okay, ladies, this one is for you!! I’m not sure whether it’s a “survey”, a need for some “stimulation”, or a request for help (probably this).

This topic is for the ladies to give their responses. Not the men.

I totally agree with the common thread in Members sharing their experiences with conversations they have had or Not had with, Friends and Spouses. For many it’s a difficult topic to bring up. I have introduced, Several Lady friends to extremely powerful Orgasms or multiple orgasms, after giving them a Bulb Enema while they masturbate. Having said that this Subject is very difficult to bring up in a interview process of a potential New Lady Friend. However I feel it’s important to put all wants, needs and desires on the table early. Do others out there agree? In my Humble Opinion, giving and receiving Enemas is one of the most intimate experiences and experiences, two adults can engage in together. I am a Older Gentleman, Trust Me compatibility in Senuality and Sexuality to find The ideal partner to share with! Enjoy

SHHHH! It's the THING ! Try it at the dinner tabble with friends . See how long it takes to be given the look.

The ladies who responded here have been spot on in my opinion. Perhaps it’s our culture, perhaps an upbringing, but bringing up the topic of enemas to a lady can be awkward. Once that awkwardness is passed, if she’s willing to continue the conversation, many of the things brought up in these other comments are valid. Touching gentle massage, light insertion of a finger, followed by more deeper longer penetrating objects, if she can discover slowly that this is pleasurable, and that her partner is not grossed out by her appreciation, things can progress. Gents, work with her slowly at first. Show her that this is pleasurable. Let her experience relaxation around your finger or other penetrating object. Let her discover if she can take something wider deeper longer. Patience is key. Unless she’s really in to pain the slower you go the better it’s gonna be for her. once she’s accepted this and is agreed to it and is starting to enjoy it then very the scenarios. Maybe she’s been a bad girl. Maybe she’s a new trainee that you are breaking in. The scenarios are great after she’s already discovered pleasure. The big thing is just getting her to relax past the initial embarrassment discomfort.

Go for it guys!

Well said @Kjkm.

I was speaking from personal experience. Thanks, LordJim2. It also doesn’t hurt that I was describing a dream lover.

What you expressed is similar to my situation! During foreplay, I get to use my finger and may insert during her orgasm, but that's it and only one orgasm.

@Kjkm it usually doesn't take me long to find out if a lady is anally erotic. If she is, then breaching the topic of enemas is easy.

Sacredibis, good for you! Most gents I have met won’t broach the the subject. Their profiles say yes, but in person they are silent.

Yall. In a few weeks I’ll be able to comment from experience. Getting my first bag enema and some discipline from a sweet friend I met on here.

@EnchantedAmethyst congrats! You’re going to love it. Just relax, and go with the flow. Make sure you or your play doc distracts from any cramping or discomfort with special touches. You’ll be hooked. Let us know how it all “comes out”, as it were.

I have a high stress and sometimes scary job. Not to long ago after a particularly . I thought i would have a shower and an enema. One of my coworkers came to check on me and when I did not answer, came in. Surprise! I stood there in my towel and he said he had been worried. He then softly said..let me give you your enema. After talking about this for some time. I agreed as I thought it would be so nice to just lie in the calm. He now gives them to me all the time. It is pure bliss. He also recognizes right away when it is time . I am no longer allowed to have them without him and I don't mind at all.

I love these types of discussions. Here is how I would approach it if I were you. Establish that you both believe that marriage is a two way street. I will do things that I might not enjoy to satisfy my partner. WATEVER YOU DO DON"T GIVE HER A SEXUAL EXAMPLE SAY THE OPERA OR SOME PLAY OR MOVIE BECAASUSE I LOVE YOU. Once she agrees tell her how you feel about enemas that you have had the fascination since you were a child but stress the fact that I think that if you approach it with an open mind, you think it will enhance our marriage.

NOZZLE: I have used a semiflexible, 5 1/2", bulbous nozzle that many refer to as a barium nozzle for years. I also have a 10" semiflexible nozzle. I got mine from Beth Tyler who is no longer in business.

LUBRICATION: When lubricating be sure to lube not only lube around the anus but inside it as well. There are a lot of nerve endings there and anal fingering is good. Use a latex glove as we have also be taught that the anus is dirty.

SEX DURING OR AFTER: I have never had sex while holding an enema but if I did I would want the aid of a butt plug. I have had an orgasm while receiving an enema by partner stimulating my clitoris usually with a vibrator. I have also had an orgasm while expelling with me stimulating my clitoris with a vibrator.

TURNONS: I have always had an ass fetish so playing with someone's ass is a turn on alone to me. I also love the control. I also think that there is aura to enema equipment. I do leave the expelling alone to the recipient. Although I have expelled with someone in the room usually other women.

I hope this helps and leads to a more fulfilling relationship with your wife. Pun intended.

There’s lots of good advice here from other ladies already, especially the posts written from the perspective of beginners. You’ve posed the question to an audience of graduate-level enema enthusiasts, and it can be difficult from this perspective to recall the feelings of Enema 101.

One thing I didn’t see mentioned much is communication. Early on, a narrative of what you’re going to do, and many check-ins to see how it feels for her are essential. Also, an enema can benefit from warm-up touch such as massage to help her relax before the festivities start.

I would keep the nozzle small and comfortable, and use plenty of lube, including slow, gentle prelubrication with a finger. Instead of going straight to the rosebud, run your finger up her thigh first. Minimize surprises through your words and touch.

Keep solutions and volumes tame and pleasant.

During the process, take her lead; let her know you can slow or stop entirely if she wants. As she fills, massage her back and belly. Coach gently, and see how she is doing, both in words and by watching her face for pain or pleasure. Back things down at once if she’s in pain or discomfort.

@duhwizzard ’s original post was from years back, so I don’t know if there were unsuccessful tries since; if so, it might be necessary to wait for her to have a medical need before trying again and explaining you will take much greater care this time to ensure the experience helps her and is minimally unpleasant.

I’d also recommend checking in with her verbally after, to ask how she is feeling and how she perceived the enema to go. While the physical sensations are important, in this case as in most others, the brain is still the largest sex organ.