Websites or apps for meeting other people into enemas?

If the site were zipcode searchable, I'm probably not the only woman who'd never post again. Really, if I wanted to meet people, I'd post an ad. I don't want people to be able to know where I am.

100% true.

Sadly, stalkers will find out a way to get to you. Trust me, I've been there.

Be nice, sincere, explain your Interests, truth shall prevail.

Be nice, sincere, explain your Interests, truth shall prevail.

And, hopefully, they will also respect your boundaries. That, sadly, doesn't always happen.

And, hopefully, they will also respect your boundaries. That, sadly, doesn't always happen.

People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones

Good info on Stalking/Obsessive behavior.

Have fun, but be careful, fellow kinksters.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/signs-of-stalking

Be careful why?

Be careful why?

Because in the real world, women who openly admit a specific sexual interest online can be, and sometimes are, stalked by men intent on doing as they will, whether it's the sexual thing (tantamount to rape if she doesn't consent) or hurting/killing her if she refuses.

Women are especially vulnerable, but all of us face risks meeting strangers for anything intimate. I wouldn't consider meeting people I hadn't been chatty with for a period of literal years. In my other main online presence (unrelated to this one), I do meet people I've known online for a long time.

I agree people on this site don’t trust each other and it makes it hard to meet up with people. Either you’re too old or too young or you’re just not compatible which is ridiculous, which the common thread is just enjoying enemas and idle play. The reality is older people have more experience and likely have had more enema mates. I can talk this all day long but nobody listens so I have about given up adult friend finder is a pretty good site and I’ve had some luck on that site people there seem to want to get to know each other and take a few risk I’m meeting somebody that has the same interest, but I can’t say that about this site

@Skeet.... I especially like when you go on another person's page you see a message that says "this person doesn't respond to non friends " ok. They either don't respond, or they block you.

I agree people on this site don’t trust each other and it makes it hard to meet up with people. Either you’re too old or too young or you’re just not compatible which is ridiculous...

I cannot agree, Skeet. Why is it ridiculous to limit your partners in something physically intimate to people you consider compatible in all the ways that are important to you? And why should anyone be expected to take a few risks when in some cases those risks can lead to physical harm? I strongly prefer to spend the time getting to know people until trust between us is well established, even though it takes a lot of time. Yes, I've met people I originally knew only online.

vato, when someone's page says they don't respond to people they haven't friended, and you message them anyway, of course they ignore or block you. They've made their preferences clear and you've completely ignored it instead of respecting their boundaries.

Some days I think I should start a thread on how men can get women to consider them, not just here but everywhere online. Then I remember adult men should already know this.

We are men and we forget easily. We always need to be reminded. Meeting in a public place is always safe.

It ought to be, right, Larrybrady? But I know someone who met an online friend in a coffee place, and they didn't click. She told him, nicely, that she didn't see meeting again but would see him online as usual. They parted pleasantly, and as she drove away, he followed her car.

Not safe after all, but she had the wit to drive directly to a police station and honk the horn. Cops approached her car and he drove away.

But man, women shouldn't have to be thinking about how to get away from men who won't accept "no, thank you." I doubt the men here are dangerous, but it's pretty clear there's no telling for sure. Is it a risk worth taking? For some, yes, but for many more, no.

Well, it's just one of those things. There are good women around here somewhere, I'm sure of it. There are also probably good guys around here, too. The problem is, most of us just suck ass. The women have so many options to choose from that it removes any incentive for them to be interested or interesting, and if you get through at all, you'll probably get a 7 word reply every 3-4 days. Good job, ladies. And the men suck because they're just lonely and frustrated with the whole process, so you get what amounts to a canned response as an introduction. Why? So they can send the same intro to 10-15 people instead of 1 or 2, because being on the ignoring end isn't too much fun for most guys.

Sometimes I think of making an ad again, and I remember what happened last time. Nothing good, I can tell you that.

The women have so many options to choose from that it removes any incentive for them to be interested or interesting, and if you get through at all, you'll probably get a 7 word reply every 3-4 days. Good job, ladies.

I'm sorry it's been so frustrating for you--and the other people with similar experiences. I wouldn't presume to speak for all women, but I can share what might work for me if I were seeking a man, which I am not.

*He'd need to be friendly overall, and not at all pushy. (Several men here have used this behavior in their approaches. Good job, guys.)

*He's able and happy to talk of things other than sex and enemas. I hear about his good day at work, the car making that noise again, an upcoming trip, like that.

*If he's in a relationship that doesn't satisfy his enema needs, he doesn't bad-mouth his partner. (Although him being in a relationship is a deal-breaker for me. Again, I can't speak for other women.)

*He takes the time--a lot of time--to get to know me, the person, not just who I am in regard to sex and enemas. Trust takes months and months of frequent conversation.

*He respects whatever boundaries I set, even if he's frustrated that I set them. If I don't share my picture, he doesn't pester me about it. If I tell him my name, he doesn't use that information to find my landline and start calling me.

*He hits many of the requirements I have for a partner, which would of course vary from one person to the next. We all want what we want.

*And if he doesn't meet my requirements, he's gracious and friendly just the same, because not every good person you meet online is partner material. Some make fine friends. In days long gone by, I was friends with quite a few e-lovers, although most I would never have considered as a partner. Some of them may be here now, for all I know.

Approaching potential partners this way takes a lot of time and goodwill. But having experienced this approach at a chat site, I had a short list of people I'd have contacted if I wanted a partner. They were men I knew pretty well and who I trusted.

The women have so many options to choose from that it removes any incentive for them to be interested or interesting, and if you get through at all, you'll probably get a 7 word reply every 3-4 days. Good job, ladies.

Damn man, sorry I'm so boring!! lmao

I’m curious about this too. Haven’t seen any particular sites.

Because in the real world, women who openly admit a specific sexual interest online can be, and sometimes are, stalked by men intent on doing as they will, whether it's the sexual thing (tantamount to rape if she doesn't consent) or hurting/killing her if she refuses.

I am almost surprised I haven't replied to this topic yet - for those that are fortunate never to have had this experience, it is more common than you might think.

For example, I was messaged by a man on FetLife in my area into enemas (not many in my area) - we chatted, made small talk, and eventually he was pressuring me to meet up. I got a weird feeling and kindly let him know I was no longer interested, and after repeat messages by him finally blocked him.

Cue me receiving text messages from an unknown number about our conversations - he had used the little bits and pieces of information I had told him about myself to find my real phone number and contact me, since I had blocked him already on FL. I told him this was incredibly inappropriate and downright creepy, and to please never contact me again.

With the amount of info on the web about all of us, it makes it potentially unsafe to even share my real name or any small details of my life without worrying about similar situations (or worse) happening.

@SassyCat This is downright creepy. At least he should have taken the cue that if he is blocked he should not try to search for your identity, even if you left clues.

@SassyCat This is downright creepy. At least he should have taken the cue that if he is blocked he should not try to search for your identity, even if you left clues.

It absolutely was creepy and terrifying... I was worried he might show up at my front door.

I realize not everyone would do this - but the fact is SOME will, or worse. So to the men here... stay patient with us as we make sure we are really comfortable and confident with you before committing to meeting up. It is a big step, at least for me.

Ladies, as I have said on here before, if you are going to meet someone (from here or elsewhere), only do so in a very public place with a lot of other people around, during daylight hours, ideally where there is a security force present (shopping malls are good for this). Do not give out any personal information until you are comfortable with that individual. Plan on having a close friend call you about a half hour after the start of your meeting and have a code word that indicates you feel in any danger so that a trusted friend can meet up with you and escort you out or if necessary, call the police. A second code word indicating that everything is fine. If you feel in danger, make plans to have the friend take photos of the person you are meeting with before escorting you out of the situation. Additionally, carry something with you that can be used as a self-defense device (mace or pepper spray, letter opener, Bic pen, stun device, etc.). Be safe at all costs.

It absolutely was creepy and terrifying... I was worried he might show up at my front door.

I realize not everyone would do this - but the fact is SOME will, or worse. So to the men here... stay patient with us as we make sure we are really comfortable and confident with you before committing to meeting up. It is a big step, at least for me.

@SassyCat I'm sure it was creepy and terrifying!!! And if he persists, tell him you will contact the police. 😡

To all if you're going to meet publicly coffee house etc. Have a partner take you and pick you up NEVER APPROACH ALONE obviously don't leave or engage until after the dinner date or a regular public encounter build a safe system for yourself for both sexes it obvious today that don't jump in without complete confidence if you make it pass the piranhas the gators and sharks will be wait get out in front and stay there 😊

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