How do I stretch out for Anal sex?

My anal play is primarily strapon but suspect my prep would be no different for a hard cock…. lots of lube…. some fingering …. an enema… and I am good to go!

I used to be super tight. Now I can take a 3" wide Dildo in my ass. I've also got a Dragon's Tongue Dildo that is about 4 ½" wide. The Tongue Dildo will actually give a lot and slip into my ass. I use a lot of Anal Ease, which I buy on amazon for half the price that it sells for in a porn store. Enema, one tube of anal ease shoved in my ass, and then five minutes later, I gently start working a Dildo in my butt hole. I've worked my way up. I started with 2" wide Dildo's and stayed with them for quite a while before working up to a 2 5/8" Dildo, and then the 3" and 4 ½". With every one, I've enjoyed shoving them slowly into my hole, bouncing up and down on them while the anal ease keeps my hole numb, and sometime during the fun, I'll stop and let the Dildo just sit there in my ass. I won't move. I'll just let it stay there in the hole. Sometimes, even when the anal ease is wearing off, and my hole starts to hurt, I force myself to keep the Dildo in my hole. Forcing my hole to stay open and stretched out. When I'm done cramming a Dildo in my hole, I always put my Diaper on immediately, because there will be some residual leaking from my butt. If you EVER go with Butt Plugs, make sure that you have one with a very wide base-piece on it, and/or a string or something. I almost lost one inside me once, so I never use them anymore. Be careful with the anal ease as well. You have less feeling in a hole that's had anal ease used on it, and you don't want to hurt yourself while having fun.

It's all about width/girth. That is what you have to adapt to- his penis width. Penis length isn't so much a problem because you have room in your rectum to accommodate a fairly long penis without any problems. So I feel the best way to do this is to slowly acclimate yourself by inserting dildos or anal toys smaller than your husband's penis and slowly work up to being able to insert a toy that is equal to his penis width.

If your husband is cooperative, measure his cock circumference when he is at his hardest. You can take that measurement and divide by the value of pi- 3.14 and this will give you his penis width. Now start shopping for butt plugs or dildos (most websites quote toy sizes in terms of width) that are just a bit smaller and equal to his girth. You can start practicing by inserting them into your anus and slowly work up to comfortably taking a dildo equal to your husband's girth. You can practice solo or with your husband. The more you practice the faster you will acclimate yourself, but be patient and don't force it. A little pain is ok as you are inserting the toy. When you do feel pain stop advancing and just hold it at that point until it stops hurting. When it stops hurting, it's a sign your sphincter muscles are opening up and letting go. Now begin to advance deeper once the pain stops. But don't make the mistake of feeling a sharp pain and thinking it is not a problem. That could mean you are tearing your sphincter muscle, which would be very harmful and painful. That is why you need to start with a toy that is fairly easy to accommodate and then work your way up from there.

I would also recommend before you practice your anal training or engage in anal sex make sure your rectum is clear. A good enema should do the trick.

Good luck.

@Dragonflies369 Regarding the “shit” aspect, your partner may be more comfortable wearing a condom. It's not only a psychological issues, it avoids risking fecal bacteria into the urethra.

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@Dragonflies369 Regarding the “shit” aspect, your partner may be more comfortable wearing a condom. It's not only a psychological issues, it avoids risking fecal bacteria into the urethra.

Good point.

Personally, I think that he'll come up with any reason to not stretch out.

@Pecan_nutjob Good point.

Personally, I think that he'll come up with any reason to not stretch out.

@Dragonflies369 I suggest you find another partner who's not selfish.

Large eggplant lol

I have 3 dildos of various sizes. I start with the smaller one and work up to the largest one. I also use fingers. I have yet to lose my anal virginity.

Maybe he likes to see and hear you struggle to accept his cock. I wonder if he would be more amenable to warming you up if he was wearing a glove. I love the feeling of gloved lubed fingers sliding in and out of my rectum.

@Dragonflies369 Hoping you've made some progress with your desires.

You can try an Odile butt plug stretching toy. They are a little difficult to manage, but they are very effective.

Odile butt plug …

interesting concept and informative site about anal dilation

www.odiletoys.com

That odile plug looks really interesting. Love to try it myself.

I used to be super tight. Now I can take a 3" wide Dildo in my ass. I've also got a Dragon's Tongue Dildo that is about 4 ½" wide.

I've got a toy made by that same company. Those toys can be fun challenges for newbies but they can definitely stretch you out. You're giving some great advice. Though, I will say be careful when using any kind of anal relaxant or numb gel. Sometimes you need to feel a little discomfort to know when you've hit your limit. If you're numbed up, you can't do that.

You need to listen to your body, when stretching yourself out.

Oh the memories.. been awhile and I'm getting tight again

Assuming you're not remarkably small and he's not remarkable large you might want to try a butt plug (or 2). Inserted a few minutes before (and, if appropiate, replaced with a larger one which is then held for a few mintues) a butt plug can make entry MUCH easier and MUCH more comfortable. As both giver and receiver (albiet with a strap on) I've found a few minutes with a butt plug makes anal sex pretty much painless.

Wow, I can't believe how many people have replied to this. All great ideas! Unfortunately, I have not been able to play.

Please, no pain is gain.

I find it amazing the way many gals in porn videos take anal!

It takes time, you can't rush the process. Start with a small dildo and work your way up, you will be taking that big dildo in no time!

I didn't….. 😉

I have a hungry ass. 😃

Be safe.

Za

If your husband won't stretch you out first i suggest you get a baseball bat and just shove it up his ass fast and hard and i think he will be more than willing to stretch you out slowly after that !

Take your time, use lots of lube, and then more lube…cleanliness is good for anal confidence, so a small douche might help.…start small and work your way up. If you feel pain, stop. Don't force things in your ass. That's how you damage the muscles and get haemorrhoids. Did I mention lots of lube?

Over many years my husband has dilated my anal opening with what we call the Three Finger Stretch. I like to lay on my side as he dilates my rectum with his lubricated fingers. Like other muscles my rectum slowly opens as I push to meet his fingers. First one then two then three fingers to make a triangle! As his fingers meet my anal opening, we press and push together. The muscles relax and all three fingers are deep in my bottom. Bill removes his fingers, sits down and I mount him!! I'll put my head on either side of his shoulders so we can kiss each other. We have gone as long as an hour kissing and talking with each other. When we are ready I squeez his penis, and we kiss each other with my head on his shoulder. We have no problem making our love at the same time. I forgot something! During our fun in the “Passion Pit” I always wear black seamed stockings and Mule Type high heels! So sexy, naughty and beautiful at the same time! And I'm always totally shaved bare to show my pretty pussy! Not bad for a couple of older folks!

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