Play advice: First time with new partner

We'll say a friend of mine (M) has been corresponding with a potential play partner (F) for a BDSM or just SM relationship. Common likes and dislikes have been discussed, limits discussed, and such.

Question (Especially for Dom's, but I would like to hear from both sides): How do you get through the awkward first time naked part? How do you set the mood or the tone? From the submissive/bottom perspective, How do you like the Dom to set the mood or tone of play for the first time?

This sounds like the old “my friend has a problem” so do you have any advice for me … I mean him?

Grey, you saw right through me. I wasn't trying to hide it, just start the convo off lightly.

What does she want? A caring, gentle dom? A strict, firm dom? Something in between? I guess the answers to those can help you set the tone. As to the first time exposing her naked body, enjoy it!

If there's an understanding between you that you will be the Dom and she the sub, then she most likely knows what she's getting into. Given that you've discussed BDSM likes, dislikes and limits, I wouldn't think that the actual nudity would be an issue. Especially considering all the fiendish things that you might do to her during the BDSM scene.

If I were the Dom (I'm actually a sub), I would just jump right in and see how the scene goes. Early in the scene cuff and restrain her hands behind her back. Then it's up to you to slowly remove her clothing a piece at a time until she's fully nude. At that point she has no choice in the matter. I'd imagine that both of you would enjoy that.