Ever Wonder Your Attraction To Enemas? - I Do

Many men, including myself, have a strong liking for being bodily penetrated. It's one of those things that seems too complicated to understand, so we just accept it. Some of us act on it in various ways - giving another man oral sex, using toys, having a partner's fingers (or more) inside, being pegged by a woman, being topped by a man, prostate massage, enema nozzles, and enema solutions (including colonics). The difference with an enema, however, is that the penetration is much deeper and has the sensation of being a whole body experience. As a man, I've never felt as deeply and completely penetrated as when I have an enema nozzle in my ass filling me with 3-4 qts of warm salty water. The always startling sensation of the water starting to flow into me, the ever increasing weight of the water inside, the moving warmth of the water as it seeks out the deepest parts of my insides, the stretching and tautness of my abdomen, and the growing pressure are all unique sensations of being penetrated and filled - and of being “taken.” I seek out tha experience as often as possible. If a woman is administering the enema, then the sense of penetration is all the more accute and pleasurable because the submission element is also present.

My attraction began at a very early age even though I hated getting an enema from my mom or grandma. As I matured and became more aware of social mores and the sexual implications, I wondered if I had become perverted or otherwise a deviant. Over my 60+ years of existence, I've learned that I wasn't really abnormal in the majority of my beliefs and activities. The fact that I love enemas may be rather unique, but certainly doesn't interfere with the more typical aspects of life. I got beyond the personal shame decades ago and love to interact with others who share in this unique, but simple, procedure and pleasure. Many resort to drugs, chemicals, and other influences to cope with various issues. I resort to a nice warm enema and have enjoyed sharing this with those who have similar thoughts and desires.

My attraction to enemas began at an early age. There is no doubt about the reasons... Number 1: I loved the way my Mother always was so caring and loving with every enema that she ever gave me. She made the experience special. Number 2: I loved to feel the nozzle being inserted into my waiting rectum. It was always inserted gently and Mom always had it warmed a bit above my body temperature. Number 3: I loved to hear the snap of the silver metal shut-off and the swish of warm, soapy water entering my body. Number 4: I loved my Mother's words of encouragement as the warm, soap filled my belly. Number 5: I loved to have my Mom rub my belly as ounce by ounce fluid filled it. She would rub it and push her fingers gently into the belly's pressure points, which relieved any cramps that might be occurring! I have been hooked ever since!

My short answer is NO. I like everything associated with enemas, starting with the equipment. The sight of a bulging enema bag full of water weather for me or someone else manages to touch my soul. I got enemas from a very young age, a toddler, never once did I fuss or cry before during or after my enemas,

I think all of those who hate enemas was because of the enema giver not being sensitive to the process. I had a very hot tempered mother who changed her demeanor when she felt I needed enemas. She made me feel good about getting enemas. There was never any shame associated when she shared my enemas with our aunts, cousins, and neighbors. When she gave me an enema it was a time where she was nice to me, so I accepted them.

My siblings and I were anal erotic as far back as I can remember and getting enemas helped scratched that itch. So, we never really fussed about getting an enema. As we got older, enemas started getting more and more pleasurable and naughty all at the same time. When we got enemas from mom or grandma an enema was just an enema. But when we got enemas from our two aunts, they were different. They weren’t that much older than us, and just as curious and playful. In the beginning, we didn’t understand the feelings enemas gave us. All we knew was, they were pleasurable and naughty, all rolled together and something we enjoyed. The older we got, the more we understood the sexual aspects of enemas. Then as preteens, grandma taught us personal hygiene an enemas became our responsibility. Giving us more freedom to explore ourselves, our sexuality, and enemas. Leading to some very interesting things about our sexuality, enemas, and ourselves. Something we wouldn’t have been able to do without grandma teaching us personal hygiene as preteens, giving us all the opportunity to explore and satisfy our curiosity.

@Denise You sound like a girl after my heart.

I only got a very few from my RN mom but I decided that I liked things in or someone playing with my butt.

I developed a liking as a play doc and enema giver early on.

Luckily, I have a friend who likes my giving her enemas and, thanks to Zity, I am contacted by women who want to try enemas to see if they like them.

I’m right where I wished to be for years.

@Denema said,

Along with the question of why we crave them and do it is the question - do guys really do more enemas than women or is it closer to being balanced? Indications from Zity responses are that guys certainly are more willing to offer their thoughts about their interests, but only a few ladies have responded to this question.

A number of years ago, I got a colonic once a quarter, until the lady I saw moved out of state. Over the four or five years I saw her, we talked a good bit about enemas and colonics and who was into them. I was curious about who was doing colonics and enemas. She told me around 65 percent of her business was women and only 35 percent men across all age groups. Women were more open than men about it and would discuss the subject openly. Of the women who had kids most gave them enemas and at least half were bring them in for colonics. As for men, she said she found at least half wouldn’t discuss the subject at all. And the ones who would discuss the subject, weren’t as open as most women about it. And that fits my life experience regarding enemas with both men and women. Which is the opposite for this site.

You can get a Colonic in most states they'll advertised

But not a enema I wonder why

For me as a child, it was the embarrassment, and submission to Mom, allowing her to give it to me. I hated it but complied. As a young teen something happened, there was a sexual attraction, and I not only looked forward to Mom telling me she was going to give me a enema, but I even asked her to give me a enema, faking constipation. As I got older I self administered, but other then fantasy there was no sexual stimulation. I started to hire nurses for home visits. I got a doctor to give me a doctor’s order. I called a nursing agency. I have gotten many like that .

I know when my attraction to the nozzle started, like some here it was at 5 Y.O. a nurse in a hospital, prep for a tonsillectomy. A very serious nurse pushed in a cart with odd things on it. After watching the white can, red hose, shinny clamp, and black pipe assembled, she filled the can with water, hung it on a pole on my bed, closed the curtain between my bed and another boy, PJ bottoms removed, the nurse skewered my rear and I freaked. Then OK, not bad, like when mom takes my temperature. CLICK, feels warm, not bad, soon I HAVE TO GO AND RIGHT NOW! Soon the water stopped, I was placed on bed pan, no holding it! When I got home I told my older sister Tess about what happened and as she considered herself an expert on enemas told me about helping mom give me enemas with the "red squeeze thing" when I was little, and as she was now a big girl she gets enemas with the red bag and hose. Soon adding to that she took the "red squeeze thing" and we went down to a creek that ran through the farm and we started treating each other. That led to frequent episodes together until puberty interrupted our sharing enemas. Tess was two years older that I and we had two younger sisters, Diane 1.5 years younger that I and Robin, three years younger, both either really hated enemas or were good at faking it. There's much more to my experiences, look for my other posts about growing up on our grandparent's farm in WV in the 50s.

Marty,

Still LostInThe50s

I have often wondered about this because growing up I really, really disliked getting an enema. Then it turns out that I married a woman who was a regular enema user just like my younger sister. Like my mom my wife has no reservations about giving them either and eventually my thinking came around to appreciating to receiving a good enema plus with my wife's mentoring I've also gotten to enjoy giving one as well. Maybe this is the ultimate coming around story.

Freud have theory to answer you. That newborns do bm by itself and have happines of that (and sucking milk) because it keeps alive them. Experienced nurses know that if baby didn't do bm are moody, cries, have higher temperature. Around 3-4 yo children's have anal fixation when they start to experience do bm (conscious) by themselves. But small group (mostly girls) are holders when they are understanding that can get parents time and care. Other way are med exam because can be side effects of medicaments, allergies, GI illnesses or autoimmune conditions (autistic too)

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I often wonder why we like enemas. It seems like if you give ten people an enema, eight of them will say they don’t want to do that again, but two of us will ask, “Can I have another one?”

Are we wired differently? It’s what you are and you can’t change it? Or is it all a response to what we learned as a child.

Cheryl, as a youngster I really disliked getting enemas from mom and grandma. It was usually very contentious and resulted in physical punishment as well as the ultimate enema. I eventually took it upon myself to trigger a BM and discovered a very pleasurable aspect while also utilizing this as a survival instinct. I don't know if mom ever realized that I was imbibing on my own, but I wasn't subjected to the enema bag as often as previously experienced.

I knew others who got enemas and most deplored them. I grew up thinking I was unique or weird for my "attraction". Finally, I was exposed to a group of very normal and professional types, as well as a plethora of literature and medical texts. It was certainly a relief that my "fetish/paraphilia" wasn't nearly as bad as some might claim. It certainly didn't have a negative impact on others. The positives, both physically and psychologically, keep me pretty well grounded!

When I was 5 my mother gave me an enema and cried. Years later I went into the bathroom to look over Mom’s red enema bag with different sized rectal tubes. I went through the assortment. I found the Vaseline and dipped each nozzle in and put it in my butt. Awwh hooked. All those nerve endings in rectum are delicious. I put water in it and was hooked. Forever. Anything anal.

I remember getting my last one at about 7 something happened I found it exciting! Several years later I knew where the bag and hose was kept mom started to work a 3 - 11 shift and I started to give myself enemas hiding from my younger brother. He caught me once I gave him one he hated it but did not tell on me. At age 13 I quit but always wanted them they felt great as years rolled on at age 45 or so I started sneaking them when I had a job that took me out once a month. I got an open top enema at drugstore available in the 90's and started a regular routine while in a hotel.

Then times changed and I stopped for about 20 years and the urge overtook me and started sneaking them again and hrere I am now wanting one but waiting till I get time alone!

You should be getting a more “official” answer to this question in a few years when a friend who is doing her PhD on Human Sexuality, and SPECIFICALLY on things we call “Deviations” begins to publish her work.

She HATES that so many things are called Deviant, when the reason MOST do not get off on them are PURELY SOCIAL. She is friends also with several of my exes, and we both know each other’s history backwards and forwards. She is someone who did not start having anal sex until her late-teens, and, as she said: “Took to it like a duck to water.”

This eventually caused her to learn of enemas. Another Duck, more water (literally in that case).

She was like me in that she kept meticulous diaries during her life and constantly grilled people about different things. When discussing it, it seems that a LOT of the problems come from the Pathological attitudes surrounding anything “anal” in porn, leading to a lot of harm and fear.

But she is trying to get things like Paraphilias and Deviations officially renamed to something else, as she has discovered (Codified is more like it. Humans have kind of known this forever) that you’ can separate “Kinks” into two Groups:

1. Endogenous, Non-Pathological, and effectively “Natural.”

And:

2. Exogenous, Pathological, usually harm causing (physical Harm. The “Psychological Harms” people usually talk abou’t ARE PHYSICAL. If it was PURELY “Psychological,” then it would not be so hard to fix); and caused by some extreme Cognitive Affect, probably and usually Traumatic.

These effectively mean:

1. IN THEORY EVERYONE COULD “Get-off” on ANY Endogenous Kink. These are things that the Human Body comes hard-wired, “Out-of-the-Box (so to speak),” and capable of “enjoying.” The reason MOST do not is Social Stigma and Ignorance (Intoxication or Inhibition-Lowering Tests tend to support this). She says that Anal Sex and Enemas are kind of the “Boundary Edge” of the Endogenous Kink.

2. THESE ARE ONLY PLEASURABLE to people who are “Broken” in some SERIOUS WAY… And the ONLY WAY to get another person to “Enjoy” these things is to hurt them, and BREAK THEM TOO.

I’ve gotten a bit of a preview of some of the stuff she has done in this regard (which is basically what I just wrote)…. But she said that “Acclimatization” from an early age (Freud is Wrong. BTW. Catchy “Theory,” but WRONG!) is the EASIEST way to get into these kinks, but in the West we stigmatize them due to Religious and Cultural Fears and Hatreds, PRINCIPALLY OF that dreaded “Gay Male (Anal) Sex,” which that population willfully and mistakenly attributes to everything it is NOT about.

So only very powerful Social Pressures tend to move the needle on these. Currently we are seeing the normalization OF Anal Sex (principally Hetero, regardless of who is penetrating and penetrated)n similar to the normalization of Oral Sex in the 1960s/70s/80s…. Probably it will happen faster, because: INTERNET!

But I remember when I was the guy who had groupies that there were MANY who “heard about the strange sex I liked/preferred,” and they would go “self-experiment,” producing FAR BETTER OUTCOMES at that time than even if I had been who introduced them….

But a mother, aunt, grandmother, parent/gaurdian giving kids enemas is a sure-fire way to make about half of them more curious later in life.

Now… AS TO WHY they produce certain Sensations… I believe the Pudendal Nerve has been mentioned… But also PS-Sponge (F), Prostate (M), and the billions of other nerves down in our Recreation Area that sometimes functions as Waste Disposage/Sewage.

I wonder how many women like me were given enemas by a health professional (in my case, a home health nurse when I was recovering from surgeries) because they were medically needed, then to discover unexpectedly a physical, even emotional attraction, to an enema bag?

The enemas for health reasons also felt good! I imagine what I have experienced over the last 40-plus years is not such a rare thing, although my attraction began in my early 20s, not in childhood.

When I was in my late 50s, early 60s, I took the liberty of asking mom, and one uncle on dad's side about enemas in the 1930s, 10 to 20 years before I was born. A time of great hardship, they lived 2000 miles apart and became acquainted because of WW-2. Both grew up farming crops and animals.

Rubber goods were considered forward thinking, being modern. Bakelite was new too. The enema frenzy was interrupted by television. Enema experiences were adult sophistication and children's secrets. There were full blown enema parties, in a time when entertainment was quite rare, as compared to now. Attraction and opportunity go together, when you stop and think about it.

My klysmophelia originates back to events which occurred at school sixty years ago. Since then I have researched my "kink", read a lot on this site and had some lengthy conversations with some broad minded colonic hydrotherapists.

My attraction is simple...it feels so good and the effects are wonderful. Given everyone, including a consultant Proctologist, says how well I look I can't see anything wrong with daily enemas.

I an also convinced, as is my wonderful colon hydrotherapist, of the "brain to gut connection" and feed back loop. Clean and happy gut is a happy, mentally strong, me!

Not really certain what was the "event" that got things rolling but it has been a lifelong kink that grows stronger in time. Not sure how it happened but glad it did.