For those *women* who get "punishment" enemas (or enemas as a part of D/s roleplay)...

A couple questions:

1. HOW is the enema a punishment? Quantity? Solution? Nozzle type or size? Just that it's an enema?

2. Is the punishment real (forced), or is it something you secretly desire, but have to be forced to take? Do you tell the person punishing you that you "need this?" Or does the subject come up because they tell you that you've been bad?

3. How much are you given? Solution? Quantity? Nozzle type? Lube?

4. Is the person giving them to you a regular partner? Male or female? Do you switch, and give as well? Do you do this as part of roleplay with "others." (one timers, or a few times, but don't live together or see regularly).

5. Do you take enemas on your own, or ask for them from someone else? How does the punishment enema differ from the ones you take or are given when you want them / need them?

Thanks in advance to all who answer, and especially to @Enema_loving_mature_woman for the idea (I think her intent was different, but her latest post stimulated my thinking as a Dom who loves to give to all kinds of female receivers, but especially submissives who need / want them, or who need / want discipline).

There is a fundamental difference between punishment enemas given as part of play and punishment enemas, intended to inflict real pain.

The former can be a lot of erotic fun. The latter are abuse.

I've chatted with a couple of women who have been given punishment enemas that clearly crossed the line. I've no reason to disbelieve what they said. Punishment enemas are generally given with the woman restrained in various positions, almost always with an inflatable retention nozzle, pumped up to the point of causing pain even before any water is given. Then a very soapy solution, sometimes with glycerin added, is given far too quickly. The volume is large, almost always three quarts or more, and the retention time excessive, often exceeding an hour. Such sessions often include spanking while retaining the enema.

IMO, this kind of treatment is nuts and anybody that gives it should get the same treatment. Turn about is fair play.

@Sean, I know what you mean. I have also spoken with a few women who were truly abused. It's pretty sad. I think I've said elsewhere that people who abuse are often expressing a hatred of women. Nonetheless, I'm interested in the responses, since consensual/nonconsensual really is a "thing." I think the women who've been treated like this go one of 3 ways. They learn to deal with it, They don't want anything to do with it, or they crave it and seek its repetition. I've spoken/chatted with a number of women who have a love /hate relationship with this sort of thing. For some, it's spanking/ paddling/caning. They get off on the pain or need it for a release. For others, it's vaginal, and for some it's anal/rectal. For these women, pain and force is something they tell me they *need.* enemas are a part of that.

Given the title about women, do you mind an experienced straight male chiming in? If you just want women, no problem, but my exes and I have done this a lot (enjoyable consensual D/s enemas, never actual punishment).

Eric

“Punishment” was put in parentheses. Play punishment was the intent, I hope.

From occasional chats, I'm sure some punishment enemas go far beyond play. Some warped guys just get off by hurting and abusing women, even to the point it's the only way they can get off.

I've been told of trips to the doctor for anal fissures from excessively large butt plugs or for UTI infections from improper catheterization or sounding. Not to mention other injuries from "games" such as being strapped to a bench and "spanked" until the woman loses control and pees. And worse.

The person doing these things has really no idea how much the recipient is being hurt, and, sadly, probably doesn't care.

Mutually agreed kinky play is one thing; abuse is very different.

Hmmm...so far no females. My original intent was to solicit interest and opinion from women, and get THEIR take on things. Oh, well...It's important that we as men encourage the women to speak out. I have had quite a few conversations with women who had very good Doms, and others whose Doms obviously thought little of them and tormented them simply because they wanted to torture a woman. I'm on the "good" side, FWIW, and I appreciate all the comments so far, and thank you for your input.

A couple questions:

1. HOW is the enema a punishment? Quantity? Solution? Nozzle type or size? Just that it's an enema?

2. Is the punishment real (forced), or is it something you secretly desire, but have to be forced to take? Do you tell the person punishing you that you "need this?" Or does the subject come up because they tell you that you've been bad?

3. How much are you given? Solution? Quantity? Nozzle type? Lube?

4. Is the person giving them to you a regular partner? Male or female? Do you switch, and give as well? Do you do this as part of roleplay with "others." (one timers, or a few times, but don't live together or see regularly).

5. Do you take enemas on your own, or ask for them from someone else? How does the punishment enema differ from the ones you take or are given when you want them / need them?

Thanks in advance to all who answer, and especially to @Enema_loving_mature_woman for the idea (I think her intent was different, but her latest post stimulated my thinking as a Dom who loves to give to all kinds of female receivers, but especially submissives who need / want them, or who need / want discipline).

Sorry, not a woman here (straight male switch), but my switch ex-wife Domme (female) used to love giving me large, long-retained enemas, while subjecting me to our other kinks at the same time to increase my arousal and submissiveness. I was usually the sub enema receiver, but sometimes she wanted a sexual enema so we switched places.

Answers:

1) Never a punishment, either in our D/s enemas or IRL. However, our D/s scenario was that she was totally in control of my enemas and other kinks and the more she did to me, the more aroused and satisfied she was. So she selected the volume, solution, speed and nozzle, usually saline, 2 enemas totaling about 3-4 quarts after restraining me, and latex DBC. Though technically not given or referred to as punishment, she'd often push my limits of volume and retention time and make me do chores after filling me. So the "punishment," really just one particular act she liked to inflict to make me feel submissive, helpless and humiliated. So the submissive act was just a big long enema.

2) my enemas were "forced," i.e. consensual, but something I really desired but given and acted as if it was an ordeal to let her enjoy watching me struggle to hold.) Never said "I need this" to her. Just part of her enjoyment of dominance to give it to me. Lots of "discussion," meaning her narrating how much she loved dominating me with enemas, and my moaning, groaning and begging which promptly ignored.

3) Volume 2 enemas but had to hold both together, totaling about 3-4 quarts, saline or water. If we'd been married longer, she probably would have started changing the solutions to make me more submissive, like soap and/or glycerin.

4) Always trusted switch Domme wife or GF, always female. Never with anyone else excepting a few enemas from a pro Domme long before my second marriage.

5) Yes, many enemas taken solo last 10 years, not much difference in solutions, except now I sometimes use Castile soap and/or glycerin. Shorter hold times solo, usually 30-60 minutes while enemas from my ex-wife were as long as she wanted, usually 3-4 hours. Occasionally she'd make me hold it overnight.

Great memories. More detail if anyone's curious.

Eric

Well, upon reading this posting and replys, l have brought myself to comment and not delve into my feelings and thoughts too deep.

I have been both submissive as well as dominate. I enjoy being both BY CHOICE. I have both seen personally and not so directly, women who were abused sexually to the point of hospitalization. This is pure, clear and simple, abuse. The giver should have been dealt with accordingly!!! At minimum, at least given what they had gave.

With being a woman and have played both sides of the fence, literally, l have met and dealt with several women who enjoy pain submissivly, BUT!! ONLY BY CHOICE!!!

Thats why my husband and l dont play separately unless we know the other people intimately and for quite some time. We dont want ANYTHING to get out of control or hand.

If we do play a bit rough or out of our normal square, its with 100% total understanding before hand what will take place. And if for ANY reason things begin to get out of hand, off the script, or just not what it thought it was going to be, IT STOPS!! PERIOD!!

Myself, my husband and everyone involved, does not want anything unexpected to go wrong and someone get hurt. Either mentally or physically. We want to go to bed that night knowing everyone had a great time and be willing to do it again without hesitation. My .02 cents and now getting off my soapbox.

Well, upon reading this posting and replys, l have brought myself to comment and not delve into my feelings and thoughts too deep.

I have been both submissive as well as dominate. I enjoy being both BY CHOICE. I have both seen personally and not so directly, women who were abused sexually to the point of hospitalization.

@Paula, I completely agree. It's never right to cause harm, and even though there may be intensity, even pain, it must all be consensual and not cause permanent harm. Having said that, I can truly affirm to you that "no sub was ever harmed in any of my playtimes with her." My question goes to the many who have posted about "needing force" in roleplay. I could collect all these and post them here, but an example from a chat I had with a member here...she told me directly that she did "need" consensual/nonconsensual encounters from time to time, such that her husband came along to stop things if they got too terrible or she was in danger. I was a bit surprised by that, but I'm confident she was telling the truth.

Many of the women here, if they are honest, like the thought of completely giving up control, and allowing another to do what they want with them. Sometimes this Is specific, as in getting a large enema, and being told you must take it all. (See @Enema_loving_mature_woman and all her posts). Other times, the Dom(me) chooses. Other time it's not specific, as in, "Use me..."

So apparently some perspective is necessary in considering what I wrote...

Just a brief addendum to my post below about my D/s enema/kink evenings with my Domme exes. She liked to take them from me occasionally, but we both mostly enjoyed her being the Domme and making me submit to her giving me enemas mixed with our other kinks as her sub for the evening. We had bilateral consent and safewords and both thoroughly enjoyed it either way. The only "punishment" (NOT) for either of us was a large long held enema plus a few other kinks.

The OP didn't seem like he was asking for discussion of enemas given by abusive or at least highly insensitive Doms, but I may not have read it the right way. Fortunately, I've never experienced that sort of abuse or known anyone who practiced it. When my ex-wife and I did D/s enemas together, we knew our hard and soft limits, what we enjoyed and what would arouse each other. And we definitely pushed each other's limits with both verbal communication and physical actions (enemas, bondage, rubber clothes, etc.). We wanted an intense erotic D/s enema experience but we were also married and trusted each other implicitly, so it worked. We could be very intense including enjoying embarrassment and humiliation and it would stay only between us. As intense and erotic and enjoyable as it was, we both loved it and knew it wasn't anything near abuse or real punishment. That's why we kept on doing it. 😉

I have no experience with real punishment enemas. I hope I never do. Sorry to hear about the abusive ones. As paula notes, the giver should be dealt with accordingly. And as she also said, my exes and I enjoyed being both Dom and sub by choice. And as another member noted, if done well, it can be a lot of erotic fun.

Eric

The title of this topic is

For those *women* who get "punishment" enemas (or enemas as a part of D/s roleplay)...

Being a part of a D/s roleplay usually means it is being done with consent for the "punishment" to be given. Hopefully there are safe words in place if the play becomes more than the either the D/s can handle. It is usually not being done in an abusive way.

The above warnings about abuse are good to remember, just in case the D/s relationship goes beyond what one is comfortable or safe with.

Drh3e, l appreciate what you have offered and thank you for offering this up. I guess the big reason this gets me going is when l was with my ex and we began swinging, we met another couple for a meet n greet. Dinner n drinks led to going a nearby hotel for more. We had been together for awhile and things were going good. The other guy had a few drinks prior to meeting up and a few after we got there.

We began to get a bit more involved and things started getting a bit rough. I said something to use lube or stop fingering my so rough for he was a mechanic and had rough fingers. Fell on deaf ears. I finally used our safety word. My husband stopped what he was doing and became very involved in what was going on. I told him we are done and we are leaving. The other guy thought l was playing and pushed me back on the bed in a forcefull manner in which he received a full shin strike to the left side of his head.

Upon him regaining his senses, we were getting dressed and his wife was applying ice to the side of his head. She said when he drinks whiskey he sometimes gets carried away. I said you are very correct. Next time l see him, if he approaches me, he will be carried away, ON A STRETCHER!!!

This is part of why l am so wrapped up about forcefull sex or even play, consensual or not. Too much is too far!!!!

@paula I think he picked the wrong gal to get rough with! 😀. But what could/did happen to other women. He played with?

Paula,

So sorry you had that unpleasant experience you wrote of down below in #13, spoiling what should have been a fun and joyous time for you, but glad you taught him a lesson and left safely. One can only hope he learned something from you about how to treat a lady. My exes and I had many very erotic and enjoyable D/s enemas together, often very intense with a good deal of complaining, begging and erotic humiliation from me as the sub when she enjoyed pushing my physical and psychological limits. But our intensity was desired and fulfilling, never needed to use our safe words and still have great memories.

Your expressed concerns about D/s going too far are unfortunately necessary but valid. I wish you and your husband many years of enjoyable intense safe eroticism.

Eric

Could someone please suggest some good save words to use. Thanks...

Could someone please suggest some good save words to use. Thanks...

Eeetime,

You can always start with the very common but effective "Red, yellow and green."

Eric