How many women are painsluts--or would be, if there was perfect trust?

I find that many of the activities I've participated in involved pain. I have been thinking about this a while, and I'm convinced that there are more than a few subs who either need pain or like it (sometimes as just greater intensity). I've corresponded with a few here who need pain. Certainly an enema that is "just too much" can bring about a fair amount of discomfort, as can fisting...

Who finds pain really pleasurable, and who fears it but wants it? Who wants it, but is afraid to really let it happen? Who wants it but only as a submissive to a strong Dom?

Pain.... I know that the more aroused I am the more pain I can take. A cold spanking does nothing for me. Slow buildup with either hand or flogger , with a pause here and there to play with my pussy or I'm sucking a cock, yup those get me going very nicely. Edge me, spank or flog me , edge me again, and I will reach subspace very guickly. That's where trust is most important. Trusting a Dom to know when I'm in subspace, how much I can take , when to stop is literally in his hands. That trust putting your health and well being in their hands is the number one thing that is the most difficult thing to do/find. Once you find that, sky is the limit .

Wolfgirl66 said : "Pain.... I know that the more aroused I am the more pain I can take. A cold spanking does nothing for me......

I THINK there's another element, and it's the actual chemistry of the nervouse system itself.

There are parts of the body that are hardly responsive that - with excitation - can because VERY sensual, almost like jump starting a car whose battery is dead.

Then there's nerve fatigue, where something is so pleasurable that it becomes painful when you do it so much - but THEN that PAIN becomes pleasurable. How could that be? But "BOY Does it !"

And then there's when the pain is so intense it transcends the traditional pain/pleasure relationship - transforming one to an entirely different state of being.

Painslut is a bit much. I enjoy pain on occasion and I need the physical relief pain brings on other occasions. Arousal raises my pain tolerance as someone else pointed out. Start me off slow and as I get turned on you can hit harder. Knife play or needle play after I’m already hot will work. The intensity depends on my mental state. I struggle with depression. I’m much better than I’ve ever been. I credit pain play with helping to get me into a more healthy mental state. I don’t enjoy pain that goes much beyond a 5 on the 1-10 intensity scale (with 10 being 3 broken ribs or a diverticulitis flair) but I’ve ‘taken’ close to a 7 before yellowing to see if I could.

Painslut! I'm in 100%. The more the better.

MA

Painslut! I'm in 100%. The more the better.

MA

Sometimes you scare me!

I'm not a painslut, but I can take what I can dish out.

My husband and I implicitly trust each other.

Once restrained, if one of us wanted, we could kill the other.

Trust is very important.

Once restrained, if one of us wanted, we could kill the other.

Trust is very important.

You don't need to restrained for that. I'm sure my wife gets there once or twice a week with no ropes involved at all!

I totally relate to so many comments from @Nurse_Phillip & @Wolfgirl66

@Dr Charles hit some keen points as well.

For me to be restrained I would have to have to total trust, I would not be doing an intense bdsm scene without that element but also him knowing me, is extremely important.

I have only done one such scene, I have talked about it on other threads.

For me pain is a big part of my pleasure.

For a while I was a bit conflicted on why I wanted/needed/craved....pain.

Someone offered this short & sweet explanation.

Its a safe/ pleasurable pain.

That pretty much summed it up for me.

A playful spanking is all fun, it will give me a little arousal but I want more.

The first time I was spanked as an adult, a real spanking, in a d/s scenario, it was a slow build up, & had all the elements that get me highly aroused . Dripping wet, aroused. The anticipation, vulnerability,embarrassment and PAIN! It was so yummy I was hooked!

After discussing it, I said next time I wanted it longer and more.

I definitely got what I asked for and it was absolutely delicious.

I would say on a scale of 1-10, I reached an 8 and I never thought I could get to that point. But with a slow build up, switching implements with some rubbing and massaging in between I was able to not only withstand more but want more.

I can’t say I reached subspace, as I have heard others talk about but I did “give in” to the pain and it was such a pleasurable pain.

Bridgette said: "For me to be restrained I would have to have to total trust...."

TRUST should have been my opener! Who but a Masochist, who would DARE - without total trust.

@Moppys_jalopy sorry to scare you. LOL. But you have to remember I was born and raised in rural Arkansas. And it may be 2020 now but some of those folks are still waiting to find out who won the war. And I mean the War Between the States.

Also there was the issue of lack of females in the area and when a girl had her first period it was the call of the wild. Every male within 30 miles started sniffing around. My dad never bothered me but my older brother and some of his friends did as well. Plus there were some guys in their 20s that took a good poke at me as well. So I fought them and they would fight back and laugh and once they had me 'contained' there they took what they won. Some places might call it rape. Down home it was an education. So yeah I got roughed up more than other girls. I was pretty and wasn't an easy fuck but one vs three well you know the usual.

Now please no one get all emotional and feel sorry for me. I'm a big girl. I just really enjoy being in pain and hurting. It sets off my sex drive.

Now our friend here, Faith, has the unique ability to deliver what I desire and give me the right amount of stress to get me to the desired orgasm of choice. And I don't have to be knocked unconscious. She's good. And I miss that connection. But we are still friends.

Soooooo, yes I enjoy serious rough play. Please don't break anything but go ahead and have at it.

Y'all are referring to the War of Northern Aggression? whistle Dixie and kick some good old boy butt Miss Arkansas

This is a good explanation that talks about pain and pleasure registering in the same area of the brain. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325419#Physical-pain-as-a-source-of-pleasure

No punching, no kicking, not looking for bloody bruises, but typical pain induced actions result in pleasure for me. Nipple play, spankings, being caned or flogged sends me where i need to go. Don't care for the over used term painslut, but really like the sensations.

"Research has shown that sensations of pain and pleasure activate the same neural mechanisms in the brain."

@Wolfgirl66 - I completely agree with you in that the more aroused I am I find that I can tolerate more pain. I'm able to push myself in taking more as I warm and build up. While I enjoy a spontaneous or 'cold' spanking, once it become repetitive and I get going...that's when I start getting excited and start to push my own boundaries. It's amazing with how much we can tolerate when we're in subspace!

Pain.... I know that the more aroused I am the more pain I can take. A cold spanking does nothing for me. Slow buildup with either hand or flogger , with a pause here and there to play with my pussy or I'm sucking a cock, yup those get me going very nicely. Edge me, spank or flog me , edge me again, and I will reach subspace very guickly.