Caring dom or sadistic dom?

I prefer a caring dom, the best Doctor for me is someone that knows how to embarass and humiliate me during a play exam.

I prefer mature, experienced and strict Doctor that push my limits a step at a time, I don't like pain or sadistic people, I prefer the mental aspect of the game rather than physical aspect.

As I dom I can be both and more. There is a time to relish your sub's pain and discomfort, and a time to hold and comfort them. I enjoy when she suffers and then kissing away her tears 🌹❤️

As I wrote at other discussions, I have a friend that do the role of Domme for me, she is wonderful and a really caring Domme, worry about me when we play, not push me into things she thinks will harm me (much 😉)…… and strong when she needs to be.

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Za

It all depends on the situation and who is the Dom and who is the sub.

If I am the one who is the Dom, I like to make sure my sub is well Dominated and sometimes be a little bit sadistic, but never so much that it does really serious damage to my subs body. I do like to humiliate my sub and make him or her feel some pain and embarrassment from what I do to him or her.

If I am the who is the sub, I like to be told that I am going to be punished and that I do not have a choice in the matter. The punishment can be somewhat sadistic as long as it does not make me scream in agony or leave marks that last more than an hour or so and I can still sit down afterward. A little pain is okay. A lot of humiliation is great. Especially if the humiliation includes enemas. I really do like to be tortured with large enemas that I have to take and either hold for up to at least 15 minutes each or even that are so large that they force me to have to throw up from the amount and the pressures inside of me.

I find a caring Dom so much sexier..☀️

It really depends on what you are looking for and have set up ahead of time. I don't claim to be a Dom but I do like a nicely reddened bottom. I'm never sadistic.

You can have both, as @Moppys_jalopy said it all depends on what's agreed to before play starts. Everyone needs or wants something different, pain, humiliation, ect.. I personally love a red ass and a few implements for that purpose. I do not and will not tolerate humiliation in any form.

Before meeting for the first time you should talk about likes, dislikes , hard limits, things you would like to explore, the lists are endless. I do know when meeting someone the first time , if you have a strong connection, it will be amazing! And youll want to do it again. 😉

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I always see myself as a caring dom. Insulting and humiliating others only makes me insulted myself. 😄

Not a very clear thought but I hope you get me. After all, everything goes from my nature, and I'm quite a sensitive and caring person so i'll think over hundred times to do anything bad to a person. There are exceptions when I'm emotionally triggered. That's the only condition when the ‘fun’ begins.))

As others have said, both aren't incompatible. I have a sadistic streak – causing discomfort and pain of varying levels to hear whimpers, cries, and even screams is an incredible turn on. Yet, I have a deep need to care and pamper. Different situations, different scenarios, different reasons, different opportunities. Two sides of the same coin. *grins*

I'm not sure I'd use either term for what I prefer. I do enjoy a little bit of pain but I also think it depends on the situation/scene that we've discussed and what we want to get from it. There are times when I want to be cuddled and cared for and other times want the opposite.

I interesting question. I would like a dom to humiliate me but also be caring. If that is not a contradiction in terms.

Not a contradiction really @Secret_sub . The sub I played with yesterday enjoys the fact that I post her pics here on Zity for the humiliation value, but she also knows I care for her and would never do anything to harm her. Plus I make sure that she gets the sexual release that she needs from our sessions.

I prefer a gentle but firm somewhat strict woman

I am always caring, even when I am in a sadistic mood.

Depending on the days, I guess I'm a sadistically caring or caringly sadistic dom. 😈

As I wrote at other discussions, I have a friend that do the role of Domme for me, she is wonderful and a really caring Domme, worry about me when we play, not push me into things she thinks will harm me (much 😉)…… and strong when she needs to be.

😉

Za

@Zaboots,

So given some overlap in our interests, and your comments above, and that I’m a Switch, what does your Domme lady like to Domme you into doing for her? (Ignore me or answer PM if you like. I’m happy to reciprocate about my Domme ex’s plans for me………😉) Thanks,

Eric

I've been seing a Dom from time to time.

Sometime she's sadistic. For example she likes a lot when my buttocks turns to bright red during a big spanking. And she can be very caring, like “you've been a very good boy, what would you like right now ? For me to somodize you while you masturbate ?” and she gives me the choice.

A Dom can be both, and I think it's more exciting, because you never know what to expect !

My relationship is different and by default. When 1st married was around 50/50 then when older in my 50's found out was autistic after test then as a kicker became incontinent. That is when the situation changed being back in diapers, she also set so rules as how we do things but no sadistic stuff the alinement is more 60/40 her favor, she is a lot younger.

I definitely prefer a strict but caring Dom- and occasionally find just the right combination for my preferences.

I found out over the years that I am not really a submissive, just have a lot of submissive kinky activities. So, I like a caring dominant women, open minded.

Im a big fan of both. I really enjoy someone who can read a room so to speak. I enjoy consensual non consent with those ive built trust with. Communication beforehand goes a long way for not needing to break character during a scene. For some of the more intense activities its preferable to have a sadistic top. I do enjoy soft aftercare though.

I enjoy a very controlling and strict dom during sexual play but prefer a soft and gentle demeanor for aftercare.

I personally like a caring master or mistress. I'm more sensual and caring not into any pain at all. You can blindfold me and tie me up but that's about it.

I've never had one but if I had a dom/mistress I would like them to be a little of both characteristics

I’m mostly caring, but I do have a sadistic side!

I think it really depends on the dom that I'm interacting with! There are moods where I want a more caring dom - still strict, but mostly wants to see me happy and satisfied. Then at other times I just want to be used, punished, and mildly tortured. I will always play off of what my dom wants though, as all good subbies do.

@SweetAsHoney I get it completely, my Dom is caring yet strict. But sometimes I do want to just be used and mildly tortured for just for HIS pleasure. After all that is what reinforces the submissive feelings.