Unable to orgasm except thru masturbation

I am happily married to sirensong and we have a fairly active sex life. We do enema play occasionally, maybe once a month (mostly her administering to me) as well as regular intercourse. Over the years, I have evolved to the point where the only way that I am able to orgasm is through manual stimulation. I can orgasm if I masturbate, and I can orgasm when sirensong masturbates me - but I can no longer orgasm through vaginal intercourse. I would like to be able to cum through intercourse, and she would love it if I did. I was wondering if any of you in 'zity-land' are experiencing the same thing?

With no disrespect to Sirensong does she feel as tight when you are in her as she used to be when you could orgasm in her? If you think she is still as tight, is her vagina lubricating more than it used to (not a bad thing for the woman, but might not be helping you orgasm.

Alternatively to the above, are you as hard when in her as you used to be?

Penile orgasm is partly dependent on all of the following; the grip, your firmness, your mind (excitement level), position and of course your partner.

I'd like to think I could give you more thoughts, but have never experienced your situation. I have always been able to orgasm in the vagina but am always slow to orgasm (if there as I have always concentrated on my partner's pleasure. For me, I've never been able to orgasm from a BJ.

That's the fun of life, we are all different!

I am happily married to sirensong and we have a fairly active sex life. We do enema play occasionally, maybe once a month (mostly her administering to me) as well as regular intercourse. Over the years, I have evolved to the point where the only way that I am able to orgasm is through manual stimulation. I can orgasm if I masturbate, and I can orgasm when sirensong masturbates me - but I can no longer orgasm through vaginal intercourse. I would like to be able to cum through intercourse, and she would love it if I did. I was wondering if any of you in 'zity-land' are experiencing the same thing?

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It might be worth considering whether this could be a medical problem with reduced penile sensitivity Or perhaps a side effect of medication. If so, then seeking a medical opinion would be helpful.

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I'm honored to be considered for membership! (Thanks Susie, that comparison never entered my mind.)

@andy_c , While I feel healthy, I'm on most of the medication that 60+ men are on, blood pressure, cholesterol, and (my favorite) Flomax. Thanks to Flomax and more permanently, a Transurethral resection of the prostate (TURP) which destroyed my seminal ducts as a normal side-effect of the procedure, I can no longer ejaculate. My urologist said it would make little difference, that I would still be able to have an orgasm (how the hell would he know as he'd never had the proceedure) ..... but it is different. The pumping feeling that I used to have is mostly gone, I would pump with extreme pleasure, 4, 5 or 6 times when I ejaculated... now its once or twice..... so I don't know - guess I just miss the good 'ole days, but there's no mess to clean up and no wet spot (unless it's sirensong's). LOL.

Your dilemma is a common one mostly due to aging. I have a similar issue but it can definitely can be made into an erotic shared activity.

I had a BF like that. I wish I had a solution for you but I don’t.

My wife can only orgasm by using a vibrator. We make our vibrators a big part of our sex play time!

My usual inappropriate input. I found a greeting card a few years back which read "we are holding a fund raising dinner in support of people who find it difficult to reach orgasm. Please let us know if you are unable to come" I sent it to a delightful lady work colleague & dear friend who found it amusing but sadly she didn't ask my help in achieving a climax....I would still be happy to help!

I’m in my late 60’s, have not been intimate with my wife for years, but I still have very strong sexual desires for other women. Unfortunately, they don’t seem attracted to me, so I resort to masturbating in order to satisfy my needs. That’s been the only way that I can reach an orgasm. Recently, my family doctor suggested marital counseling and therapy, which I’ve tried a few times, and it was a disaster. So, I just accept things as they are, and continue to live.