Talking smack about ABDL

Hi lovely people,

Does it ever happen to you in every day life that people around you (friends, family, colleagues, etc) talk about ABDL or people wearing diapers for fun and talk badly about it. ABDL is becoming more and more discussed in the media (mostly magazines and tv-shows about sex) and people tend to be disgusted by it. I’ve had tons of discussions about ABDL with people around me, who of course have no idea I wear, and I always tell them the media shows the most blown-up versions of the ABDL life style, just so people stay interested enough to watch or read. It is almost always laughed about and ridiculed. My questions to the people laughing about it are always the same; if your partner or best friend would tell you; hey, I wear diapers for fun! How would you react? Would the person in front of you suddenly change in any way if you knew such things about them?

Do you think that it is a choice to have a kink/fetish/hobby like that?

You may love cars, or cats! Is that a choice, or just a preference you have?

I’m curious to know if anyone recognizes these kind of encounters.

Hope to hear your stories.

Love,

Spike

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a news article or heard a discussion about it - except here.

Since all my friends and hamily know i am IC ,i would probably be the first person they asked if they had a question or comment about anything diaper related ,and i havent heard a peep about it . They know everything i needed to know about diapers i learned from actual real world ABDL'S before the internet existed , back when i needed them doctors didnt know or say much about adjusting to diapers or how to wear ,tape,conceal etc, I actually had a good half hour of training on how to cath (disposable sterile ones didn't exist yet) so I was taught how to use boilable red rubber Rob Nell catheters, I still have some unused as well as my former family driver collection , I suppose holding on to them for an emergency is dumb ,however I am a wanna be Boy Scout .the whole be prepared vibe is strong in me .anyway they know i will tell anyone anything i know about a topic if they ask or are ihnorant and misingormed,so i am sure i would get asked if somebody did have questions ,i have no shame or embarrasment about diapers , the only way to fight ignorance is with well formed facts ,i live those facts everyday for nearly 28 years .

I've never heard this discussed among friends, in public, at work--anywhere. And only once have I ever heard it mentioned on TV. I'm not talking about YouTube clips, etc--I'm talking about when I've actually been sitting there watching TV like anybody else on any given night.

This was years ago and it was some comedian appearing on The Tonight Show (I can't remember who) and after he'd done his act he went over and sat next to the desk. The guest host that night was Bob Newhart. And while talking the jokes continued and this guy asked Bob "Did you know that there are actually people out there who ENJOY WEARING DIAPERS?" Bob, not looking like he knew what to say, finally asked "Where did you hear this?" The comedian said "I read it in a newspaper in Chicago." Bob said "Well, Chicago, I guess that's a good diaper town!"

The audience thought this was hilarious. I was sitting there next to my girlfriend (who knew all about ME liking to wear them) and we just looked at each other and laughed. But that's the ONLY time.

As for it being a choice? Well to continue to want to wear them and enjoy them is a choice. But the origins of wanting to? I can't ever remember a time in my entire life when I wasn't attracted to and fascinated with diapers--and this goes way back before I was ever really old enough to "choose" anything.

Somebody I know was talking not about diapers but adult babies or little girls and boys. I forget how the subject came up. I remember she said that it was sick and wrong. If only she knew she was talking to someone that was the very thing that she was talking about.

Somebody I know was talking not about diapers but adult babies or little girls and boys. I forget how the subject came up. I remember she said that it was sick and wrong. If only she knew she was talking to someone that was the very thing that she was talking about.

That is exactly why my husband and I keep our kinks private and are not interested in meeting more people to share kinks and fetishes with.

I wouldn't care if they did it for fun, but I personally have less than zero desire to wear or be around anyone wearing urine soaked, feces filled diapers. Diapers are excrement collectors, smelly, and if you wear them after excreting into them, you and your diaper will smell, and if you don't think they smell, it is only because you have become acclimated to having the smell surrounding you. People who wear them for medical need change their diaper as soon as possible after soiling them.

I don't think all ABDLs wear the diapers after soiling them. Some want them changed right away. I know I would, I can get into the idea of wearing a clean diaper but would not want to keep wearing a dirty one.

@bbw4doc yes I wear and use diapers, it's not a choice for me,unless you would prefer I use your carpet or floor ?

Just because I need diapers doesn't mean I smell,I am a real stickler on hygiene, sanitation and odor control, I don't want my house smelling like a stable or nursing home .most IC people use internal deodorants (taken by mouth), they are fairly pricey ,but can be the difference between offending and saying excuse me ,i need to go powder my nose or something benign that allows you to disengage from whatever your doing ,without saying "hey i just shit myself,i am going to have my aide change me " .

Even when I do shit myself you won't know ,I am harnessed into my wheelchair ,so not much air gets in or out of my rubber or plastic pants ,combined with internal deodorants few people have any idea of what's going on in my diaper,nor should they !

The whole purpose of a diaper is respect for other people ,it contains and controls what you can not ,including odor ,as long as you don't be an idiot, I know in a closed room ,I have 15- 20 minutes before an odor becomes an issue, in that time I am disengaging and heading to the bathroom to be changed . So dont assume everybody is stinking and proud of it ,some of us take it very seriously ,there is no excuse for burdening somebody else by being a pig or trying to hide behind ten gallons of perfume or cologne ( nothing can hide the smell of feces ,evolution of our olfactory capacity has taught us to detect that smell and avoid it) and no i am not "nose blind" I am actualy very sensitive to the smell .

I was once on a train where a baby had diarrhea ,mother changed it and tried to flush the diaper, naturally it over flowed the toilet , everybody else headed to other cars ,since there where no stations with elevated platforms or forklift the conductor had no choice but to leave me there ,to soak in the aroma ,it was not pleasant .I realize I am not a recreational diaper user ,so sitting in filth is objectional to me too,and unlike a person who doesn't consider the consequences of there actions , I actually take steps to mitigate any odor before someone would detect it .

@bbw4doc yes I wear and use diapers, it's not a choice for me,unless you would prefer I use your carpet or floor ?

Please don't confuse me quoting someone with my own writing. I was quoting another poster, whose post seems to have been trimmed to take that part out. I was not passing judgement at all.

So a friends ex girlfriend was on a computer my brothers and I shared. Now, this girl is a real self absorbed asshole but I’d known her my whole life and didn’t have much choice but to get along with her at the time. This was in 1999 or 2000. She came across some images from one of the now defunct ABDL websites. It was logged on my account. Now this deadbeat bitch was all trying to be the cool guy and immediately started trying to humiliate me in front of my friend, her boyfriend at the time. Now, my roommates and brothers have seen my shameless stacks of Taboo, Janus and Bizarre magazines so it wasn’t really a shock to find that sort of thing in my browser history. Why she decided to snoop on me and humiliate me right in front of everybody is an issue of her being an overall scumbag. The issue was over as soon as it started as far as my friends were concerned. The only thing that they ever brought up again was one night we were hanging out with a group of girls and they tried setting me up with one that was known to be a bedwetter. Her friends didn’t know anything about my diaper kinks and my friends kind of poked fun at me but not in some public, humiliating display. Anyway, I moved away from my town, went on to do some amazing things with my life and constantly focused on improving myself in every way. Miss self righteous shitbag pretty much stacked on a bunch of student loan and credit card debt, moved back in with her parents who she constantly talks shit about and has wallowed in mediocrity. We ran into each other at a crowded bar with all of our friends around when I was back in the states around Christmas time about 10 years ago. She immediately yelled out, asking if I’m still into “diaper girl porn.” So just as loud, I ask something to the effect of, “Why? Are you bored and looking to try something kinky tonight!? What do you think? We can give it a go! You’ll probably love it!” Everyone in earshot got a chuckle out of it. She turned red, told me I’m disgusting and walked away. Haven’t seen or heard from her since. Attitude goes a long way. Having some kinks that are more strange by social standards has made me more empathetic toward others. Liking diapers isn’t something I ever asked for and many times was ashamed of. I’m not exactly open about it but it’s something I’ve accepted about myself and won’t allow myself to be humiliated over. Everyone has something about themselves that’s different.

Anyone can say anything they have a need to get said.people are welcomwe to laugh and tease me as much as they get amused doing, nothing has ever influenced me to stop enjoying diapers.just because someone noticed or seen my diaper is certainly not going to effect me.i have absolutely no intention or history of taking off my diapers or giving up diapers only because people know.

I don't ever consider the thought of getting caught, you know why, because I am not doing anything wrong.nobody can catch me off guard make me stop enjoying diapers.a person does not catch me, they simply discovered something they didn't previously know about.this is the entire reahson I don't put much into going unnoticed,my crinkle says I am having diaper pleasure, my thick padded butt silently says my diaper is getting enjoyed.nobody catches me doing anything, people notice or see something they didn't not realize I've been doing all along