Diapered dating advice

After many years of wearing diapers purely for pleasure I now find I’m needing to wear them 24/7 due to issues with urge incontinence and wetting myself constantly and I would be grateful for any advice on how to tackle the issue when dating or meeting new people. My close family are all aware of my need to be diapered and are fine with it, but I’m wondering whether it is better to just be totally upfront about it when dating or meeting new people, or wait and see what happens. Any advice would be much appreciated.

Might i suggest if you are dating anyone from this site, finding that you wore diapers would be very exciting indeed ,!

Diaperlady, first of all welcome to Zity. I understand completely where you are coming from and find myself in the evact same situation.

Im currently looking for an relationship myself and do wear diapers 24/7 due to incontinence.

I consider myself as being old school and was raised and taught good morals and values. I believe that honesty is always the right thing to do from the start to finish on everything. Yes it may hurt feelings, embarrass, and pride of yourself or another person, but it's the RIGHT thing to do.

This is what I would do. If I just ran into them in public like at a store or walking down the street or even a bar, I would ask them for there phone number regardless. The reason is that I could call them in a private setting letting them know upfront about your needs and situation. This is telling them that you are upfront and honest with them. If they have a problem with the situation then you dont have the possible humiliation and embarrassing part of it on your first meeting in front of them or even others. I believe that if they know upfront then they will either accept it or not. If they accept it then the BIG pressure is off of your mind about telling them. Your first meeting will be so much enjoyable having it out of the way. I also believe that telling them later could cause harmful hurt to each other. Who knows if you be upfront with them, maybe they have the same or a different situation that you should or want to know about. People can be mean and dont always understand what some people have to deal with every day.. I understand that it may be hard to be upfront about personal issues, but your not alone and there is a person out there for you!!! I hope this makes since and helps you and GOOD LUCK.

Honesty is always the best policy in my opinion respectfully, INDIANA

Honesty is always the best policy in my opinion respectfully, INDIANA

Thank you, INDIANA, for your considered opinion, which coincides with my initial thoughts on the subject and I do think the honest is undoubtedly the best option ?

Let's see if this helps any , My Late mother set me up on a one way blind date( she told the woman all about me including my IC ,when the time came ,that we stopped making googly eyes and decided to go further ,she had laid towels down on her bed ,and removed my clothes and diaper ,and said whatever happens, no worries,that's what towels are for . I can say being IC for 27+ years ,it doesn't bother most adults , I was still able to walk then ,so once she stripped me we took a shower together ,with lots of soap suds foreplay , that was incidently the best sex i ever had and the best Christmas eve i can remember .we thought we were being naughty ,at breakfast the next morning my mom commented " look guys your constant googly eyes is adorable , if you want my blessing ,you have it " we replied in chorus too late . That was my moms last christmas on earth ,she died just over a month later from breast cancer at age 73 . Those are such special memories ,it makes me cry .

Let's face it any man who can't handle a diaper ,doesn't deserve you anyway ,it's better to know that sooner rather than later ,diapers for us are accomadating a disability ,just like glasses,hearing aids, crutches ,canes wheelchairs etc . There is zero shame in being human ,and being honest about it ,shows our level of maturity ,imagine needing glasses but not wearing them on dates because you worried what your date would think ? It will speak volumes about your dates maturity ,when you tell them ,if they say so what ? Or how does that effect you and talks about ,your good to go ,if they try and avoid the subject or just let's it drop , last date for them . Women time and again have told me ," your strange for a guy ,you actually pay attention and it matters to you when my lips move " . You deserve nothing less !

Happy hunting ,may you get a trophy buck .

And welcome to Zity,dont be shy ,we dont bite (often) !

Where were all the women like you when I was single? Ha. I actually have a very loving wife who lets me wear my diapers so, no complaints here.

But what the others have said about honesty up front is true. I've never needed to wear diapers for anything other than fun and pleasure, but I've been a diaper lover all my life and knew that would never change. So, early in the relationship I took a big risk and told her the truth. I figured that I had nothing to lose and everything to gain. And as I said, she was fine with it and actually enjoyed participating with me (diapering me and other fun things).

On the other hand, you don't have to look around much on this board to find the sad stories from others who were not up front and honest about it and it had horrible effects on their relationships / marriages.

I should also add that I know lots of men who are not into diapers, but who do find the idea of a woman wearing them to be incredibly arousing!

So yes, be honest about who you are, you'll find the right person and it will be great.

I guess it's all about the timing, i.e. not first meeting but not waiting too long either...

I'd probably avoid saying "I wear nappies" but maybe just that you have bladder issues and have to wear "special underwear" or something like that. They'll probably assume it's Tena Lady discreet pants or something like that, but if they've got used to the idea and things develop further you can tell/show them it's actually an adult nappy.

"I would be grateful for any advice on how to tackle the issue when dating or meeting new people."

I wouldn't worry at all about telling new people you meet as wearing diapers should not impact a friendship in any way.

So far as dating, I would not tell someone on the first date or prior to that first date. The reason is simple. If that first date bombs and you have no intention of a second date, what's the point? However, if the date turns out good and you wish to continue dating that person, I'd call them fairly quickly and ask to see them for a short time to discuss something very private. That's when I would let them know how much I enjoyed the first date, how much I care for them, how I hope we could continue developing a relationship, but, first that I believe it only right to let them know this secret I have. Then tell them. If they feel the same way about you, I suspect it won't be a problem. If they can't/won't accept that you wear diapers they will tell you. If that's the case, you have not spent a lot of time and energy with someone who would ultimately end the relationship. If they are accepting, you will have an excellent chance of the relationship growing.