LADIES: How many of you DO NOT reach orgasm by vaginal penetration?

@CassieST is HRT helping? Made a big difference for me. Try different positions too.

I've never had a vaginal orgasm. My boyfriends have told me that I was too big. Since menopause, I assume it was also too much natural lubrication which I don't have anymore. My vagina is now shorter, I have atrophy and I have to use KY jelly.

I was wondering if it's possible to have a vaginal orgasm without a uterus.

@CassieST, if my wife, @Sexy_Librarian, is any indication, it is quite possible to have vaginal orgasms without a uterus. She is able to achieve vaginal orgasms quite often. She had to have a hysterectomy several years ago, although she still has her ovaries. I am fortunate that her sex drive has only increased since her hysterectomy.

I am a lucky man to have this woman!

@CassieST is HRT helping? Made a big difference for me. Try different positions too.

I feel better emotionally but I haven't tried using a dildo again. I previously had to use ky jelly when I masturbated externally and I don't need it anymore. My skin is also not as dry. Even when I moisturized, I was still itchy all of the time.

Thank you @Nurse_Phillips , @DrFn for the responses.

I had a GF of some 3 years that didn't get off from PIV. I could always get her off with my tongue though so it was not a problem. Her nick name for me was “clit licker”. I also had a brief affair with a married woman who was the same way. The only way she could get off was from receiving oral, but her husband was tired of eating her out so she was looking for someone who would do it for her when she found me. It was lots of fun, but she lived a ways away and it was a hassle to get together. We both found other people who lived closer.

I think it is also true to say that more than two thirds of men do not realise that vaginal intercourse does not gives ladies their orgasms.

There are times it can happen with just vaginal penetration. But straddling him while on top is better when it is used. So clit stimulation and vaginal penetration are better...stronger.

The best advice I received was from one of my aunts on my wedding day. “Men need to be taught. Show him how to love every inch of you, not only between your legs, and the two of you will never be bored.”

I have never had an orgasm without clitoral or G-spot stimulation. I have read that women can have an orgasm through anal stimulation. I can't and heaven's know I have tried. I have read where it is possible to stimulate the G-Spot through the rectum. I have tried with a G finder but with no success.

Having had women who could easily pop as well as one in particular who despite loving sex who could only go over edge, so to say, using a powerful vibrator - it's a mystery.

I think it is also true to say that more than two thirds of men do not realise that vaginal intercourse does not gives ladies their orgasms.

That sounds a bit high, though it might depend on what sociological group of men you are talking about.

Anyway, not to brag, but by the time I got my first crack at having real, all naked, no holds barred sex, I had read more than often enough that penile penetration usually didn't cut it when it came to pleasuring a lady to orgasm. More was needed in direct stimulation of the clitoris, by hand or orally.

I knew this before getting a chance at sex, so that by the time it finally did happen, my gf/later wife came to think I was far more experienced than I actually was. I'd just been studying diligently and imagining it in my mind over and over prior to the real 'exam'... ha ha.

My current wife can only orgasm by using a vibrator, and primarily on her clitoris versus vaginal penetration. Sometimes she or I will use the vibrator on her clitoris while I also play with her asshole.

My 1st wife could cum with penis penetration, especially when the tip of my penis was massaging deep inside and was probing her cervix.

@agracier: Anyway, not to brag, but by the time I got my first crack at having real, all naked, no holds barred sex, I had read more than often enough that penile penetration usually didn't cut it when it came to pleasuring a lady to orgasm.

I was so amazingly naive - I didn't even know what a clitoris was or how things worked for a gal. I thought for the most part women did not really enjoy sex and only did it to please their guy.

I had three excellent mentors regarding sex. Yes, guys, we talk about sex just like you do. During my teen years, I became cognisant that sex was a two-way street. I was advised that probably the biggest turn-off to a male was instructing your male partner how to do it like a backseat driver but a little guidance goes a long way. Here are a couple of techniques my mentors taught me that have severed me well since I became sexually active.

One, when a male is performing oral on you, there is nothing wrong than reaching down there and spreading your lips apart and more or less guiding him to the clitoris. When he is on it, tell him. "There there suck, lick there!" My husband claims that it's one of the sexist things a woman can do during oral sex.

Two, this one is a little more adventitious. If he is thrusting you from behind, there is nothing a matter with using your hands to help your orgasm. You want to O. I assume that your lover wants you to O. There is nothing wrong with helping yourself to O.

Three, this one is what I've been told is the sexist thing a woman can do during sex. You've had sex and you lying in bed. With us, we have refreshed our drinks and are having some pillow talk. If I feel the urge to do it again, I don't hesitate to revive him orally. I must admit that I was a little squeamish the first time I did but now I don't think twice about it.

I had three excellent mentors regarding sex. Yes, guys, we talk about sex just like you do. During my teen years, I became cognisant that sex was a two-way street. I was advised that probably the biggest turn-off to a male was instructing your male partner how to do it like a backseat driver but a little guidance goes a long way. Here are a couple of techniques my mentors taught me that have severed me well since I became sexually active.

You are so right about everything although my wife says she and her friends never discussed anything like us guys do nor got together to try anything. I can't believe her because her clit is invisible. I can't even feel a grain of sand in there but she was able to put my fingers in the right place.

One, when a male is performing oral on you, there is nothing wrong than reaching down there and spreading your lips apart and more or less guiding him to the clitoris. When he is on it, tell him. "There there suck, lick there!" My husband claims that it's one of the sexist things a woman can do during oral sex.

It is a real turn-on for me. It says you are wanting me to do that to you and are willing to participate. We DO need you to lead us, how else can we please you? Every girl is different in what rings their bell even though there are some basics.

Two, this one is a little more adventitious. If he is thrusting you from behind, there is nothing a matter with using your hands to help your orgasm. You want to O. I assume that your lover wants you to O. There is nothing wrong with helping yourself to O.

You have such wonderfully complex bodies and it's impossible to make love to the whole you all at once.

Three, this one is what I've been told is the sexist thing a woman can do during sex. You've had sex and you lying in bed. With us, we have refreshed our drinks and are having some pillow talk. If I feel the urge to do it again, I don't hesitate to revive him orally. I must admit that I was a little squeamish the first time I did but now I don't think twice about it.

Oew, come get me going in whatever way works. If you can get me up again or make me want to lick you again, DO IT.

I just wish my wife had been willing back when I was capable.

You are so right about everything although my wife says she and her friends never discussed anything like us guys do nor got together to try anything.

I think women's discussions of sex depend on three factors. When, where, and what.

When: I am sure now that sex discussions between women are much more likely today than in the '50s. I graduated high school and college in the '70s so the so-called sexual revolution had already happened. Birth Control Pills came available in 1960. Woodstock took place in the summer before my first year in high school.

Where: I was raised in the suburb of a large metropolitan area. I attended college out of state in a state that didn't have many metropolitan areas. There were probably more rural and small towns. What I found in the college was that the girls from metropolitan areas were far less shy and inhibited in conversations than the girls from rural areas. I'm sure there are exceptions but I am sure most readers will get the drift.

What: Needless to say, the subject of sex is vast. There are light years between girls conjecting over the size of some boy's penis like "Did you see the bulge in that lifeguard's trunks?" and telling what they do during sex or even if you ever had sex. When a woman says that they never talked about sex with other women, they might mean the latter.

My wife requires additional stimulation (beyond penetration) to achieve an orgasm. Even if we use a big toy (much larger than me), she enjoys the stretching, but still needs her clitoris rubbed or licked.

I'm not a "lady" (nor do i play one on [or as a?] tv), but i was struck by the number who need combination clitoral/g spot stimulation for orgasm. i've had a hand full of anal orgasms as a total bottom gay guy, just from a Man hitting the p-spot. But can always be made to have an orgasm from anal penetration if my penis is used as part of getting me there. Since i don't use my penis to penetrate others and i don't want or like to come just from having my penis stimulated... i want to come from penetration, and am really happy to not come at all. If a Man comes inside of me, it's like His orgasm transfers into me and i am very happy to share His orgasm... as a matter of fact, i love that. i think of myself as a guy with a clitoris even though i don't identify as female or fem... it's not a 'fem' thing for me, just trying to find familiar terms to describe how i am in a world that doesn't have me specific descriptors. Some Men have figured out when they want to make me cum when they penetrate me with Their Cock, that they can use my penis to stimulate me to a point, then finish me off fucking me.

When i was married (to a woman) i used the combo method often... it was a guaranteed method, could always give her multiple orgasms that way. The g-spot method only was trickier. i trained myself never to orgasm till she did first, so time/stamina was not an issue. Communication was key though. If i did not read her right, could go all day and not give her a g-spot orgasm. Eventually, i learned to let her take over as part of the dance and we would go back and forth sometimes, handing control back and forth till she got there... then i could release, my release was always tied to hers.