Do you think doctor sexual abuse when you were a child affected your sexual orientation?

I don’t believe that any of my doctors ever acted in an uncomfortable or untoward way when I was younger. That being said, my medical fetish did develop from those very early exam experiences, and that fetish would be exploited by other older men over a few years as a way to take advantage. So, no, while no abuse occurred from actual medical providers, my medical fetish was inevitably a major contributor to my sexuality today due to how it was used to sexualize me. I think that’s an interesting distinction to make. Having those experiences with other men certainly influenced me in a significant way, as I still imagine medical play as being almost exclusively between me and an older male provider. However, outside of fetish and fantasy I rarely imagine myself with a man. It’s still something I’m trying to figure out, after all, sexuality is not always a static thing.

@agracier It might not make someone gay but most likely will influence them one way or the other . I know some that took it so bad they are vehemently anti gay and some that these thing's happened to that are now more acceptable and tolerant toward others . Recent personal example ,,, I have had my catheter changed by nurses that seam to enjoy hurting me and prolonging my exposure . I now won't let ANY nurse near me . Nor do have any want or feel any need for a female nurse to handle me at all . Then again two male nurses handled me , sounded me and fitted a large {26fr} catheter in me not only did it not hurt but I would not mind if I could be assured they would be the only one's to do the work . ON the third hand I have had my catheter changed by two different female nurses that took care not to hurt , took their time and I found it hard not to get “hard” . The upshot of all this I would rather A guy handle my penis unless I was sure of the female nurse . Does that make me gay? or Bi . or just more acceptable toward others ?

The upshot of all this I would rather A guy handle my penis unless I was sure of the female nurse . Does that make me gay? or Bi . or just more acceptable toward others ?

I really don't think the categories of gay or not gay should spill over into actual medical practices. You are describing levels of competence, not sexual attraction.

I surmise that male nurses, having a penis themselves, have a better understanding of what can be painful when handling that organ, than female nurses do. Just like not a few men fumble around with female organs, so can females fumble around with male organs, even if they are medically trained. It would be a question of males being able to place themselves in your position while females essentially can't.

I have never been sexual abused, but I believe it’s not easy to influence the sexual orientation. Maybe sexual abuse has a small influence but I don‘t think that a boy with a clear straigt sexual orientation becomes a gay boy if he is or was sexual abused.

I do not think that sexual orientation is determined by physicians. I do think that it is epigenetic. A series of contacts are on or off making things happen, or not. But medical fetishes can be determined by experiences. and, as I always say, life is too short not to have a fetish or two. So, relax. Enjoy!

No. I think it cemented a fetish for me but it didn’t make me bisexual

One should not predicate sexual orientation being determined by possible instances of sexual abuse. It is not as if abuse is a contagious disease of some sorts.

I HAD BEEN A FARM KID TILL HIGH SCHOOL. We quit farming and moved into town. 2 years later we moved into the San Francisco California East North Bay area. I had to start high school there and was scared to death. But a school councilor took me under his wing and more less mothered me. The second year he started sticking his hand down my pants and playing with his in his pants. This went on and on and i went with it because i did not believe i could make it out of high school without him. I could tell that other teachers knew things were not right. But i was not complaining. He and his sister lived together and never married. Both were school teachers and both wanted me in different ways. 2 years after high school i was drafted into the US Army and never went back, except to visit family.

I married a smart compassionate city girl that also had bad experiences at school, except hers started in first grade. She never went back to school, but i did and learned 2 well earning trades.

Point being, this never caused me to be other than ordinary for the most part, except that i am an enema enthusiast and do not masturbate myself. But as i am just short of ancient now days, i am thinking of trying it, because it is not working like it should be.

To be able to speak about abuse, we also should take into account the 'spirit' of that time.

I'm quite sure that, if actions done during exams I had, would be done today, it would definitely be marked as 'abuse'.

Was it wrong at that moment? I don't know, but I can state it was on the edge between abuse and 'part of the exams'.

I also can say that those exams were done by female doctors and I'm still straight and currently my GP is a female doctor.

Fact is that I'm convinced, and that's a result of the exams I experienced back then, that they are much more detailed and thorough doing the exams than men are (although that's another discussion and uniquely a thought as a result of the exams I had between 14 and 22.)

Anyway, I don't believe that sexual orientation is a result of possible abuse or not ... it's not a desease, or choice, it's part of who you are...

Looking back at to when I was taken to a doctor because I had problems going poop I think I might have been accidentally turned onto something that has lasted my entire life. I am sure that this doctor was not doing what he did to stimulate me sexually but it turned out that way. He turned me onto my side and slid down my shorts and underwear. I felt him split my butt cheeks apart and I felt a cool feeling and then felt something being stuck up my butt. I did what any young boy would do. Fuss and cry. In a bit I just relaxed as I felt his finger moving around. The doctor was a nice man and said it's OK I am almost done. Everytime I saw him he checked my butt this way. Even at this young age I felt a tickle feeling inside my butt as he moved his finger around in my little butthole. After the doctor did this a few times I secretly looked forward to him doing this to me. I was not scared but felt really strange about having this done. The sensations down there felt intense and I at the time thought what he was doing was tied to it. I started to poke around down there a lot. I was awarded with that same tickle feeling down there. LOL... I believe yes this hooked me for life on getting pleasure like this. I was turned on by him putting his finger in my butt at a very young age only 5. I often wonder if this doctor was aware of what he did to me or was he just checking how backed up I was.

Attiudes were different. While there was no abuse, i started out in a disabilty school. Teachers sometimes wore lab coats. I remember one day, a math teacher decided to check the students breathing. She just went around with a stechoscope,.

NO! No more than any other abnormal thinking that someone can change your sexual preference.

To be able to speak about abuse, we also should take into account the 'spirit' of that time.

I'm quite sure that, if actions done during exams I had, would be done today, it would definitely be marked as 'abuse'.

Was it wrong at that moment? I don't know, but I can state it was on the edge between abuse and 'part of the exams'.

Do you mind saying what actions were done which were on the edge of 'abuse?' Was a parent in the room with you? How old were you?

Not at all

No. I already knew I was gay when it happened. At the time I didn't realize what he did was abiuse.

No I don't believe that any action that someone else does to you even as a young kid can affect sexual orientation. In the same way that if a young boy was molested by man the act of abuse does not "turn him gay". It may affect a person's kinks or fetishes, but that has nothing to do with sexual orientation as anyone could have the same kink. I have no idea if there's any correlation between if gay or straight people have more kinks than any other. Even that would be very difficult study to have. It would have to be a huge sample size and there are so many things that could corrupt the findings in addition to any biases that are existing among the researchers.

It would have to be a huge sample size and there are so many things that could corrupt the findings in addition to any biases that are existing among the researchers.

And there are bound to be issues with those interviewed as well in such a study. Not every participant will be completely honest and open and ready to divulge all their sexual secrets and desires. Some sexual pleasures and desires and experiences will just be too personal or perhaps embarrassing to admit to, no matter how anonymous the study might be.

I believe that sexual orientation is biological, not social. Being sexually abused might make someone uncomfortable and angry, if they’re around someone or something that reminds them of their abuser. Human behavior is complicated.

... if a young boy was molested by man the act of abuse does not "turn him gay". It may affect a person's kinks or fetishes, but that has nothing to do with sexual orientation as anyone could have the same kink....

For a while, I had been posing the question on a men's website, "How many of you grew to enjoy oral &/or anal after being forced ?" It resulted in some interesting responses. While a large part of sexual orientation may be biological, sexual orientation seems to also be shaped by experiences, especially earlier on.