Am I asking to much

Hello i am fairly new to this community but not to the life style lol anyway i need some incite I like many others have told my girlfriend about a week after we got together it started with her staying late one night and me saying i was going to get changed for be i didn't come out for awhile and she called for me i told her i didn't want her to see me cause i was embarrassed she asked why, i told her cause i had footie pajamas well she just had to see anyway it progressed from there 2 years later we are still together and getting ready to be married about 4 months from now so here's the situation several months ago we worked out an agreement where she would keep me diapered 24/7 and change me into my baby attire when i got home from work then get me ready for bed in the evening except she hasn't been getting me dressed when i came home from work shes only been doing it at night i had talked to her about this and she said she would try harder but it still hasn't happened its hard to enjoy something if your asleep the whole time but anyway when she does change me at night she always seems down i asked her what was wrong she always said nothing later she told me she just didn't enjoy it she only does it because she knows it makes me happy but I'm not happy when shes not so its like an endless loop i said OK then i will stop completely and she wont let me do that either because i get depressed and that makes her upset but its hard to only get it at night especially when i know she doesn't enjoy it she says the whole thing is a strain on our relationship anyway my thought was she said she would do something and hasn't but again she wont let me just let it go and i don't want it just at night am i asking to much i don't know what to do i have been married before and she cheated on me so I'm a little scared any help would be appreciated thanks :-\

With all due respect, what's in it for her?

Yes, you've made an agreement that she would do all this for you. But, you have not said what you are doing for her? Did she know when she married you that she was going to be skipping right to having a full time baby and not a husband?

It sounds like you both need to sit down and really have an open discussion. Seems like you've tried but I wonder how much you both listen to each other.

Don't jump to extremes. The key to any relationship is compromise. It has to be things that are beneficial to both parties. And you'll need to work together to get there.

And if you get stuck with that, focus on other good parts of your marriage for a little while. Rebuild the husband/wife bond between you then come back to tackle the big ones. There is a learning process in how to work things out together. It takes time.

Replying to the last post i thank you for responding and you have made a valid point i should have clarified that i have offered her in exchange for what i want she has full controll i meen literally everything including my bank acount she can ask me to clean house and im on it or any other chores she wishes i do i relize i made it sound one sided at first but she is geting all this right now as we speak so i guess im saying ive given all the advantages but have not recieved the responsibility i asked for in return

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Thank you diaperteen12 - superb example of teenage intelligence and contribution.

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Replying to the last post i thank you for responding and you have made a valid point i should have clarified that i have offered her in exchange for what i want she has full controll i meen literally everything including my bank acount she can ask me to clean house and im on it or any other chores she wishes i do i relize i made it sound one sided at first but she is geting all this right now as we speak so i guess im saying ive given all the advantages but have not recieved the responsibility i asked for in return

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I have to agree with Slappy here... you both need to sit down, talk and find a compromise. Above all listen to each other, not just 'hear them'. Let the words sink in, and openly and honestly discuss what you both want, need and will accept from your relationship and marriage. IMHO and personally, I think you are asking too much, and giving the wrong 'things' in return (she may not want control or a male domestic) so that her natural wish of a man/husband is being denied. Share the housework, share the living, be a man (not a baby) and let her be a woman around the house too.

It seems from your posts that it's what you want and what you are prepared to give. What does she want? What is her wish? Look at it from her point of view.

I wish you best of luck, truly.

Thank you all i believe i have enough to move forward thank you all again