Ladies: anal play vs anal intercourse?

Wondering about female members thoughts, opinions, experiences:

Do you enjoy both anal play and anal intercourse? Do you draw a line between anal play and anal intercourse? Was it a difficult leap to go from one to the other? Mental, physical, both?

Most of the women I've had sex with, about 25, have enjoyed some kind of anal play (caressing, rimming, gentle fingering, playing doctor), though I only had anal intercourse with 4 of them (2 of them initiated it the first time, all 4 preferred anal to vaginal sex). However 2 of the 25 women did not enjoy any kind of anal play, to the point of not wanting me to even caress or spread their cheeks or look at their bottom holes. One of those women was quite nasty about it and accused me of "wanting to eat" her shit (I have zero scat interest by the way). She and I did not date for much longer. The other woman was very sweet and simply had I think a very negative self-image particularly about her backside in general. She just did not want me to be in that area of her body at all as it made her very uncomfortable.

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I think you might need to develop that point and state exactly what your argument is, or you might find that people make their own assumptions.

I think that like every body, women have also their own personal relation with their butthole,

for some it's like a stranger, for others their best friend 😃

Some men say they like oral sex better than intercourse. But like anything, it depends on who is doing it, and how they do it...so with anal play versus anal intercourse, for me, it would be the same rule.

The question was asked of the ladies in regard to their experience and preference.

On to my reply. I have drifted away from anal play and prefer vaginal sex over anal. Anal just isn't as stimulating as it once was. Thankfully enough other areas are still excited to be played with.

I love anal sex and anal play. Anal sex is my first choice. I prefer anal sex over vaginal sex.

I'm sure that anal play helps to lose inhibitions and enjoy anal sex

Every part of the body is erotic and sexual. It all depends on what partners are interested and will agree together in what direction they are playing.

Love both really but anal sex is amazing

I have engaged in both and I prefer anal play to anal intercourse. Honestly I really really like anal play. I will admit to being inhibited about it when I was younger but it’s also not like I had a ton of opportunity as a young woman either. I married at 18 and my first husband’s idea of anal play was to shove his dick in my bottom when I wasn’t expecting it. That was a hard no and turned me off the idea of anal intercourse as well. Prior to him I had one other serious boyfriend (ie one I would engage in heavy sexual play with) and he had no interest either.

After my divorce few of the men I was involved with had an interest in my bum either - until my current husband. Honestly I think he fingered my ass the first time he went down on me (which MAY have been our first date haha) and it’s been new experiences and no looking back from that moment on.

I enjoy anal intercourse with him but it’s more ‘work’ if that makes sense. Relaxing enough, going slow enough etc where as a finger or a tongue or a smaller toy is pretty much fine anytime.

My enjoyment of anal play and/or anal intercourse depends on the skill, patience and time taken by my partner. If done right anal can be very enjoyable. If not done right it is a major turn off. Partners who enjoy receiving anal play usually are the better anal pertners.

Anal anything. I feel like I’m not your average girl because I tend to prefer anal over vaginal. At least when I’m ready to orgasm. Not that I always have it. But, I prefer it. In fact, any anal play/intercourse can be wonderful if done right. I think a lot of guys assume you can pound away at an ass just the same as a vagina, and you just can’t. Slow and steady wins the race when it comes to anything anal. And lots of communication until you both get it right. Lastly, I think it’s important to note that many people have insecurities about their butts because of the fear of something coming out. I’d strongly suggest having that conversation with your partner that anything that happens is OK and won’t ruin the mood. This, repeated a gazillion times, should help the process. Xo

My wife suggested I post what we do as a “step towards or instead of full anal sex”. So far she does not want my penis in her rectum. She does however enjoy the following as do I!:

She lays face down on the bed naked. Legs together but relaxed. I am usually already erect from anticipation. I put KY gel lube in her butt crack and then on the underside of my penis. Keep a hand towel nearby to wipe excess.

I get on top of her and slide my cock forward and back thrusting into her buttocks. I am now rock hard and if I thrust quickly ( if goal is fast sex) I can cum quickly . If not, I start slow and then speed up. I can either “ hold her down” with my body or support my self with arms. We use adequate KY and the gel makes a squishing sound as it warms up from the friction. As soon as I begin to ejaculate, I try to hold still so she can feel the hot seman spurt in her butt crack. Sometimes I aim the head of cock down right against her anus. I tell her” you are going to feel this” as the seman spurts against her anus. She squeezes her butt cheeks and last time said the seman felt very hot.

When she knows I am horny and she is not interested in vaginal penetration , she will say, “ honey , you can butt fuck me if you wish.

I always clean her up afterwards.

I admit, I fantasize about penetrating her rectum as I ejaculate but respect her wishes.

She says she likes the “feeling of being dominated “ and the feel of the ejaculation spurting onto her.

Do this about once a week.

She is always ready to give me a hand job but I really enjoy thrusting when I climax. I seem to ejaculate with much more volume. Anyone else notice more ejaculate when thrusting?

Try it!

I find it very erotic, and especially if in a sub dom context, being told to part your cheeks so he can examine that part of you.. With fingers, instruments and eventually a hard penis. Lots of lube is key.. But when very turned on your body adapts to anything.. A little force is no bad thing.

@Adventure10 Very similar to an experience I had with a long time girlfriend who loved when I paid attention to her bottom but didn't want actual penetration of her anus. She allowed me to put a vaseline covered finger in her once but said it was painful. So I did rim her frequently and when I ejaculated it was usually from thrusting between her cheeks as she lay facedown, usually with some handlotion spread along her bottom crack first. She said she liked feeling my penis as it rubbed against her anus. There was always a lot of messy clean up to do which I happily did, taking my time making her gorgeous bottom sparkling clean and dry.

I truly enjoy both. I enjoy anal play, to lead up to penetration. Both are erotic but play just really increases the anticipation and craving of penetration for me.

I love pleasing my husband. He is welcome to use me for anal play all he wants and I enjoy it. Even after all these years it still seems a little taboo and I love that feeling.

Of course most of the time, playing leads to anal sex of course.

Over the years anal play has the vast majority of the time lead to anal intercourse. Just the way it is.

My husband and I each enjoy anal play and anal intercourse.

My wife suggested I post what we do as a “step towards or instead of full anal sex”. So far she does not want my penis in her rectum. She does however enjoy the following as do I!:

She lays face down on the bed naked. Legs together but relaxed. I am usually already erect from anticipation. I put KY gel lube in her butt crack and then on the underside of my penis. Keep a hand towel nearby to wipe excess.

As soon as I begin to ejaculate, I try to hold still so she can feel the hot seman spurt in her butt crack. Sometimes I aim the head of cock down right against her anus. I tell her” you are going to feel this” as the seman spurts against her anus. She squeezes her butt cheeks and last time said the seman felt very hot.

When she knows I am horny and she is not interested in vaginal penetration , she will say, “ honey , you can butt fuck me if you wish.

I admit, I fantasize about penetrating her rectum as I ejaculate but respect her wishes.

She says she likes the “feeling of being dominated “ and the feel of the ejaculation spurting onto her.

Do this about once a week.

She is always ready to give me a hand job but I really enjoy thrusting when I climax. I seem to ejaculate with much more volume. Anyone else notice more ejaculate when thrusting?

Try it!

It sounds like one of these days, that thing is going to slip in. A lot of guys would consider this teasing, just daring you to go in. All lubed up down there, but don't go in??

I love the feeling of any type of anal play, especially if I’m submitting to it. However I do prefer anal sex over vaginal sometimes. I love getting pounded from behind anally. There’s just something so thrilling about it.

But I also like being plugged and told I cannot take it out until told. I’ve been plugged on road trips and that is the best!

I tried anal intercourse twice in my younger days and it hurt so bad. But back then I hated anything anal. Now I like anal play fingers, tongues and toys.

I like everything about anal play. Like to be fingered the best gets me soaking wet everytime. I also like to be taken in the but too. I have tried pegging a guy too and love the feeling of being in control.

Both. Fingers, toys, cock, all great! Slow and deep is always great! I have yet to try to peg someone. Something to try in the future.

@Wolfgirl66 if I live in USA I would candidate myself to that pegging tryout!!!!

Za

I'll be sure to put you on the list! @zaboots

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For me they are both great and I enjoy them a lot. However, anal play is easier, doesn't require so much preparation and I always enjoy a finger in my ass. While with penis it hurts sometimes.

I enjoy both anal play and anal intercourse.

I enjoy both.