Psychology Fet

Are there any med fetters out there that have a fetish for psychology?

I have quite a complex and I suppose disturbing life story, that recently i have been surprised that some other people have actually been interested to hear, and I found i enjoyed telling them, i'm not sure if this is because i have never had friends, or told anyone before, but i find it fascinating,

I wonder therefore if there are others that like to tell, or listen to such, ala psychologists, and get a kick from it?

I don't know about a fetish, but I've always been interested in psychology, both receiving and interpreting. My youthful insecurity as a gay person prompted the former. Later my work (which I shan't go into) involved some psychologising and some psychological theory (e.g., of Jacques Lacan). I once did an undergraduate course with a Psychology major (3 years). Fairly dry stuff. I've a couple of the textbooks in a shelf beside me now. (Hall & Lindzey, 'Theories of Personality'; Turner & Helms, 'Life Span Development' - haven't opened either of them for years!) A very good friend was a clinical psychologist - much missed.

Whether I still get a kick from psychologising, incl. in a medfet context, I'm not sure about.

- Ken

I like the psychology of sex. I like exploring why I like a girl in footed pajamas and/or a 3M 1860 N95 mask. Or a Clara night gown and a 3M half mask cartridge respirator. Or my most recent find while imagesearching: a cross country or track runner for her school that is required to wear an earloop surgical mask or, say, an unusual black disposabe dust mask on her mouth to compete.

And I really like overall that these fetishes are nothing but logical for me to have, considering the history of my life, and what I have been exposed to. It's really liberating and make me love my fetishes more, even if they're not others' cup of tea.

One of the things i do enjoy is soliciting pvt chats in chat rooms and learning from others how they got into the kinks and sexual lifestyle that they are into now. In the chat room, I may ask something like "anyone get into something after initially being forced, pvt me", "anyone ever gotten tied up unexpectedly by surprise, pvt me", ""any unexpected surprises happen during a meet up, pvt me" - something like that, to draw out stories from folks willing to chat about their experiences that led them to be the way they are.

Realizing that some accounts could be fictionalized and trying to detect those that are, i see in a lot of cases that the person has nothing to gain by making up certain stories. I feel I've learned a lot from people from doing this. Basically the chats revolve around me asking questions, like a psychologist would. So the focus tends to be on them and their stories about their experiences.

Some of the things I've learned include:

- many guys getting their start in homosexuality from a neighbor or a relative, usually an uncle, when they were at a young age.

- many folks (both genders) getting into anal sex, being gang banged, or homosexuality activity after having been raped (as they consider they had been) where they felt their boundaries had been violated. But at some point, they discovered that they were enjoying or did enjoy the sex act itself In many cases where their coping mechanisms include a desire to try to re-live, re-experience, something similar to the actual rape, only with them in more control of the experience

- many guys who have had relationships with clergy when they were young, and were okay with it them and are okay about it now as they've aged into their 60's and 70's. That for every case that has been reported where it damaged someone's life, there seem to be many more that were not reported. And in some cases, where the teen may even have been the aggressor.

And I've gotta say, you can learn so much from doing your own independent research, as opposed to just going by the limited information the media has. Folks don't even realize how limited the media is in bringing a full picture of how things really are, as a lot of folks opt to remain discreet about things. So the media never gets to learn about things that are contrary to what they tend to report. Which in turn, leads me to believe folks who rely solely or heavily on media for information are misguided as to a full picture reality of how things really are.

So a lot of the process starts out as soliciting an issue, to feel folks in the chat room out for who wants to open up and chat about what may be very sensitive issues. After all, they're there to chat. And like a psychologist or counselor, i tend to ask a lot of questions about how something felt to them while they were experiencing what they were experiencing, and how they feel about it now as they look back on it, particularly if they now have children themselves.

As folks here tell you about how they got into medfet, usually drawn from actual experiences when they were younger, A lot of our influences to what are into now tends to be the result of experiences we had when we were younger, that left an indelible impression on us as we grew older and became honest with ourselves as to who we are and what we enjoy.

I don't know I would characterize it as a "psychology fet" necessarily, though I do feel like a psychologist or counselor as i draw others out in private chats. But I find it all fascinating.

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Some of the best chats that I have had om here have had the feel of a psychological analysis.

The questioner's tone being probing but not salacious, and the answers being full, frank and honest

DuckbillN95 wrote (post #3) :

And I really like overall that these fetishes are nothing but logical for me to have, considering the history of my life, and what I have been exposed to. It's really liberating and make me love my fetishes more, even if they're not others' cup of tea.

I can understand what you mean by 'logical', duckbillN95, while noting that fetish-formation has a strange 'logic' and 'psychology' of its own! (There are threads about that elsewhere on Zity, as you know.) And I absolutely agree that an understanding of it can be 'liberating'. For one thing, armed with such knowledge, you may feel less 'freakish', and more 'entitled' to your particular fetish! For another thing, such knowledge can be a reminder of how circumscribed is 'received' opinion, including 'received' morality. Which brings me to this...

JTMac wrote (post #4) :

Some of the things I've learned include:

- many guys getting their start in homosexuality from a neighbor or a relative, usually an uncle, when they were at a young age.

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- many guys who have had relationships with clergy when they were young, and were okay with it them and are okay about it now as they've aged into their 60's and 70's. That for every case that has been reported where it damaged someone's life, there seem to be many more that were not reported. And in some cases, where the teen may even have been the aggressor.

And I've gotta say, you can learn so much from doing your own independent research, as opposed to just going by the limited information the media has. Folks don't even realize how limited the media is in bringing a full picture of how things really are, as a lot of folks opt to remain discreet about things.

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I don't know I would characterize it as a "psychology fet" necessarily, though I do feel like a psychologist or counselor as i draw others out in private chats. But I find it all fascinating.

Wise words, JTMac. There are times, I'm sure, when a seducer can be a benefactor to a young person. I grew up gay but ignorant of gay practice - with the consequence that I remained a lop-sided, immature person well into my adult years. And I'm not sure that 'psychology' of mine isn't still with me, although posts like yours, and that of duckbillN95, are helpful ('liberating', as duckbillN95 says).

- Ken

I don't have a psychology fetish, and didn't realize that any such thing existed. There's no doubt that psychologists have published research ( emotionally based interpretations), that would purport to explain why we prefer certain foods, colors, etc., and how it ties in with our personality traits, ego, etc. I don't think that you can analyze or dissect the reasoning behind any fetish, any more than you can necessarily suggest that someone who likes photography, as opposed to stamp collecting, is an introvert or pervert. Traditional psychology theory assumes that men who are into anything anal are probably gay, or have a certain predisposition. Or maybe they also suggest that they wish to have sex with their mother. Just crazy, ridiculous stuff. I just accept that people have a fetish for any number of unknown reasons, and over-analyzing produces nothing more than a hunch at best. It's almost similar to looking for UFO's in the night sky. After awhile everything that glows or lights up can pass for a flying saucer. Imagination can mimic reality.

Are there any med fetters out there that have a fetish for psychology?

Maybe as a means of inflicting suffering in emotionally charged S&M scenes, but NOT anything psychological in and of itself. Psychology (too much bullshit) and two other fetishes here (that shall remain nameless) are ones that I would make a point to steer clear of.