Why the shame around enemas?

Yet shame is so delicious……

@Vicki_V said,

I’ve been going to a naturopathic doctor for about 4 1/2 years. She will recommend warm water enemas as one of several ways to treat common illnesses such as colds and flu, which in her words, “rests the digestive system” and helps the body to recover.

When my siblings and I were growing up in the fifties and sixties, our grandmother was a retired RN and enemas were her go to treatment for a variety of different things. If one of us was sick, it was daily enemas until the illness passed. If the doctor made a house call, you were all but guaranteed to get an enema on doctor's orders. Back then, with us anyway, there wasn’t any shame associated with getting or giving enemas. Worked then and still works today.

I don’t know. I’ve never felt shame for taking, giving and enjoying enemas.

As a child, we talked about getting enemas from our mothers and, the group of young girls I had a play group with, told stories about their mothers taking enemas with them at bath time.

So getting enemas and talking about them was a normal part of childhood for me. It continued into my married life as my wife could easily get constipated and would ask for an enema.

After we divorced, I dated older women and most of them were not strangers to enemas for health reasons but I was usually able to convince them that they were better when given and taken for erotic pleasure and certainly to enhance anal sex. The ladies who were into anal sex readily took to the idea erotic enemas before our couplings.

I was able to introduce erotic enemas to a few ladies that had little or no experience with enemas because they were so horny for sex that they would try anything once. They were the best because each different nozzle or colon tube was like a new toy.

Well just like most people on here as to making enemas private . Just like so many things change over the years . A lot of us that grew up back from 40's to the 70's know that enemas was a every day thing for a lot of kids and families . It's because a lot couldn't run to the doctor if sick . Plus your mom was home with the kids to take care of them . So mom's were told by their mom's an sure their mom's gave them enemas to . That if your child doesn't have a BM every other day or sick give them enemas . An so many mom's back then talked to each other about giving their kids enemas . Or would tell those mom's they need to start giving their kids enemas . An also when ever back then you went to the drug store . Their on display was all kind of enema equipment for all to see. An I am sure as a kid back then so many of us kids couldn't help but look at the enema bags an know what they were used for . Also I'm sure that if a mom was looking at the enema bags . Either the drugist or another mom . Might talk to that mom about which enema bag to get an how much they gave their kids enemas . It was alright for mom's back then to openly talk about enemas to other women .

It seems that women can so openly talk about their period , enemas , douching , and things about their body . But men are so ashamed about talking about anything about our body . We in this country have made things about what are body does . We feel so ashamed of things that help keep the body healthy. That is why their are so many people sick and uncomfortable . We feel ashamed if what it takes to make things right . An the doctors don't want us to use enemas . Because it would take money from the drug companies .

So what if one gets excited while getting enemas . Why be ashamed of getting turned on having a nozzle up your butt . An if enemas turn you on and you love how they feel . The one thing we as people that are dating or married is to tell the one you love what turns you on . It should be discovered after your married . If they find out an don't wish to have anything to do with it . Then tell them your going to do it with or without their help . An do in private . If they really love you they well either help or just let you do it . It should not be grounds for braking up a marriage . It is something that just becomes part of our mental being . An we just need to see we are not a wired person for liking enemas .

We are not ashamed of it here. Last night or should I say this morning when we got home I had a girl with me that I had messed around with a few times. My sister and her girlfriend had been talking about me to her. On our way home she started kissing me and told me that when we got home she was going to ravish me. We walked in and the first thing or second thing she said was nice house. Where is your room? Once in my room, she took all my clothes off and hers as well. Then she skipped right past my boobs and went straight between my legs. I was pretty drunk I will admit. She was going crazy on me for how long I have no idea but I came a few times. Then she flipped me onto my stomach. I started wondering what was about to happen because nothing was happening. I was like that for minutes. Finally, she spread my cheeks and started licking. After a bit, she got a finger wet from my pussy and slowly pushed a finger into my ass. She had her finger going all around and in and out. Then she used one of my toys in my vagina until I came again. Then I made her cum a lot. Then I went into my bathroom to pee and noticed the shower curtain pulled closed. I couldn't remember if I did that before we went out. Then about 10:00 am I got up and she was slowly getting up. My sister and her girlfriend were in the living room. I plopped down on the couch by my sister's girlfriend. Then she came out of my room not looking bad at all. She asked if we had coffee. Then she bent over and kissed me, She said to my sister's girlfriend, she really does. I said I really do what. She started laughing along with my sister and her girlfriend. I felt left out. Then she said she wanted to actually find out if what they told her was the truth. I said what? She said that you do take enemas before going out. She told me that when she got me on my stomach she was trying to figure out where the minty scent was from. She said she takes enemas but not often because she lives alone and it is boring. My sister and her girlfriend chimed right in and said you are in the right place. She said I see that. I am the one who closed your shower curtain afraid someone would come in and see. But I really want to know how you kept that minty scent and how everything was gone. Like nothing was in you when I felt. That is when it all began today. .

@Tabitha32 that’s a great, sexy post. More power to you guys. Being open sexually and kinky opens doors to more intimacy. Love your posts!

To Tabby'!!!.. post 188,

Oh....... MY............ GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I recall as a child, that modesty was an issue stressed by mom and grandma. My dad was often away and I was the only male in a house dominated by women. There seemed to be a lot of pressure to avoid exposure of one's genitalia.

When enemas were imminent, there was a lot of teasing between my older sister and I. It was expected that an enema, RT, or shot in the butt should be the ultimate put down. If friends or relatives were around, the open teasing was intended to cause extreme blushing.

That carried on for many years. I was aware that many women preferred sexual contact in darkened spaces and would even lock bath and bedroom doors during toileting or changing clothes.

Thankfully, with aging came less inhibition and the realization that sharing certain things face to face triggered some very satisfactory outcomes!

Personally I have no shame about enema whatsoever . However I do not publicize my use mainly because it is no ones business really . To me enemas are a health related activity that can also give me. huge boner & powerful orgasm . rom the first time I received an enema ( there were many fro mom ) till my last one from an RN a few days ago I have loved most of them . Ridding oneself of the toxins present in modern world is one of my favorite things to do . I have 2 enema nurses now & I am in heaven . They thoroughly clean me out when I need it . No sex just big enemas .

I think it's more embarrassing for a guy to be found out he got enemas from mom (not for us here on Zity) growing up, than a girl getting enemas from mom.

I don't know if it's shame, embarrassment or humiliation, maybe they're the same thing. I haven't had an enema play partner. I had an ad once, had a conversation with one person that turned out to be just a tease so I ended that and took down my ad. I don't like phoney people. I have been observed by nurses while getting an enema, a couple times a hospital roommate. A few times while I was getting a colonic.

I'm used to pooping in front of others. There's not much privacy in the military & you have to do it. Bathrooms were usually just a row of toilets along the wall, sometimes they had dividers, sometimes they may have had a curtain.

The most embarrassing enema I think is a barium enema. The first thing you see when you come into the room is this BIG bag full of white liquid that will soon be flowing into you. You may have a number of people watching while you get the balloon and it gets pumped up. After that, you're laying on the table when they open the clamp and they are a foot away while they watch the screen while it's flowing in and fills you up until you're ready to pop. When they're done, the tech follows you into the bathroom, you pull your gown up. The tech reaches between your legs and pulls the nozzle out while you squat over the toilet. I don't think I'll ever get used to that. Fortunately they don't do BEs much anymore.

@BottmsUP_TX

Re barium enema it would be unfortunately they aren't given anymore. I've never had one but it is on my bucket list

I can only speak for myself based on my personal experience.

Yes - due to judgment, fear, and shame from the world around me coupled with my personal ignorance about the subject and popularity, I did not talk about them in my younger years. I still must exercise caution even to date. I still have one foot in the proverbial closet so to speak.

The pharmaceutical and medical industry have had something to do with tarnishing their reputation.

Some religions also play a role in shaming many practices associated with actual and/or perceived sexual fetishes.

As a non-judgmental married heterosexual male enema-lover, I am guessing that because enemas naturally involve use of the anus, some (homophobic or not) people in society affiliate them with a gay lifestyle.

Also, if you are in a relationship, it would be good if your partner is open-minded and, definitely shares the same love for them.

Approaching our 40th wedding anniversary this month, the enemas that we have given each other have been among bonding times in our marriage. The enema produces in me a feeling of intimacy helping my husband through an illness or emotional crisis, and he has grown to feel the same way.

@Tabitha32 beautiful and hot story!!!

@Vicki V So wonderful. A great couple! Happy 40th Anniversary!

Our elderly neighbor lady would call and ask for help after her husband passed away. He was handy with fixing things around the house and we would team up once in a while on a little project. So we were almost family, though i did not socialize with their children. While repairing a leaking faucet and toilet flush valve that day, she started calling me daddy, though they were about same age as my parents, really. Nearing completion as i was putting my tools away and wiping down my work areas, she asked "daddy" if he thought an enema would lift her up out of the cloud that seemed to follow her around. Told her i had a big old fashioned health encyclopedia at home. But really, I wanted to talk to my wife about it and sense any concern or reservations she would be bothered with in helping the senior lady that way. My Mrs. thought an enema time had potential to brighten her day and give her a noticeable lift in attitude. Also, she wanted me to come back and tell exactly how it went. I told her that actually going through it again would be easier for me, who don't talk so well, to try and report by giving it to her again afterward. And to not leave out a single detail, as she demanded. So then as i was serving the neighbor lady with hose and bag while keeping my wife in mind and thinking, i will do this again, making mental notes and even giving the lady something i wanted to give or do for my wife, which had me fucking this lady, while keeping my pants on the whole time. I tried to make every step delicious or sweet n some way. So i kissed her neighborly, got her hiney tenderly and took her a little bit past a nurse's colonic. She got fucked with two bags of of enema waters. I got into her with that. And she was sleeping as i went out the front door, locking it behind me.

My story after returning home:

While getting her enema bag and hose out from her closet, she started calling me by her husband's nick name, Ray. I realized she needed to live in the curtain of the past as we got going with what seemed to me, certainly extra-neighborly. Don't you agree? And i even went above and beyond neighborly too. So, i started calling her by her first name. Dropping formalities really helped us relax and sort of play the game as it was supposed to be. I called my wife by the lady's first name some times

From then on she gave her hands privileges, putting her hands on me by calling me, Ray. I worried though that she was going crazy. I returned to neighborly formality. But she would call and plainly require that i come "serve" her as soon as possible. When i came to the door, she would pull me in with, "Where have you been?" Enema nest ready, she would quickly fill her red bag like she wanted. Give it to me to hang for her and kiss me as a signal to start positioning her. She wanted me to lift her house dress and take over. After the kiss, i lifted it up from behind her, rub on her hiney and put her onto the place she had prepared. I suspect that as soon as she knew i was coming, she would drop her panties and put them away.

I have not advertised my enjoyment of enemas for many of the reasons listed here. I personally dont feel any shame about doing them. I enjoy them from a health perspective and the sexual benefits. My wife is more cautious and will always make sure everything is 'packed away' when people come to the house in case they see our enema equipment. For me I dont care what they see or think. There is a toilet in the house, people know exactly what you use it for, so an enema is simply and extension of that for me. We dont have to discuss enemas or talk about them. I wont push it on anyone unless they ask. If they do then I am happy to discuss it.