Best enema to give a first-timer

For what it's worth, I've found adding some salt, or baking soda make the enema so non-irritating that the water stays in forever and produces the dreaded dribbling of just a little coming out and then nothing, then happening again, and again... When this happens it time to get out the Ivory soap... but would not use soapy on a newcomer, just plain water, and not force her to take a full bag; better is to use multiple small enemas till you get good results.

My husband was a first-timer – we'd been married about three years – and he had been sick (and constipated) for several days. Our family doctor, an amazing woman, now retired, actually "prescribed" that I give Rob a warm water enema. What I learned from that experience, and also with my first-timer daughters in years since, is that it's not just the enema that makes a happy camper (with hugs) after exiting the bathroom.

It's also a lot in the prep before you fill the bag – sitting on the bed explaining the enema to take the mystery out of it, what it's going to feel like, how to breathe through the cramps, showing the nozzle or tube, reassuring that the enema won't be the worst thing ever, and perhaps doing a light massage to help him or her relax – all these things contribute to a more positive first time experience. Keep in mind that your patient may be embarrassed the first time (my husband was), and that's natural. Unless necessary, provide privacy in the bathroom.

It goes without saying that KNOWING what you're doing and CARING about what you're doing is important. Your role is to be a good coach while giving the enema and being a reassuring partner, which are key to the patient's comfort, physically AND mentally. After all, much of how they're going to be feeling afterwards is centered in their brain.

@moliere Morton thiokol and IF what could go wrong ? Oh yeah something about O rings and freezing temperatures. LOL

Good technique is necessary, if the goal is to make him (or her) enjoy the experience.

Best place to give a guy an enema is in the bedroom. Hang a two quart bag full of hot, soapy water near the side of the bed, using either an IV pole or bedpost. Have a tube of KY nearby on a bedside table, along with several towels. When you're ready, sit on the edge of the bed and have him come into the room. Tell him to just relax and that you will be taking control. Slowly undress him completely, and have him lie across your lap over your bare thighs. As he gets comfortable, you may feel his erect penis against you bare thighs. Gently massage his shoulders, back, buttocks, and legs, and explain that your will be giving him a nice, gentle enema in order to make him feel clean inside. Be sure to let him see you apply lots of KY on the douche fitting that you will soon be burying into his rectum. Remind him that since the temperature of the enema enema solution must drop to about 100 degrees before the enema will be started, you will take this time to explain how good the flow of the warm enema water will feel. This extra time will give you a chance to finger his anus, relax his sphincter, and insert your bare finger into him, searching for his prostate. Ask him how it feels; depending on his reaction, use graphic language to describe how you're about out his feminine side as you slowly glide to douche nozzle up his ass. Ask if he's ready, then release the clamp allowing to enema to flow into him. Be sure to check with him and slow, or even stop, the enema if he gets cramps. Within seconds the cramps will subside and you can "coach" him as the bag empties into him. Praise him for doing such a good job getting his enema.

I agree with @Vicki_V's approach. The first enema I ever gave hubby was after a case of the flu and he was totally and completely clogged up. He was miserable. His first reaction to my suggestion of an enema was total rejection. It took a little talking and the promise of near instant relief to finally get him to submit to the bag.

I used nothing more than plain water at 105F. Nothing exotic and certainly not abnormally hot or cold water. Just plain lukewarm water.

As he assumed the left Sims position, I made sure he was well lubed as I inserted my tulip tip nozzle. I started the flow very slowly knowing he was almost impacted to allow the water to flow around the hardened waste. There were a few cramps which I coached him through. After he had taken about 1 1/2 quarts, I simply stopped the flow and allowed the enema to do its work.

And work, it did! I left him in the bathroom in private so he didn't feel as though he was on display. When he emerged from the bathroom, I could tell he was already feeling better. I coaxed him into another enema after which he exclaimed he felt so much better.

Giving someone their very first enema can have one of two distinct outcomes. Either they see it as a solution to a problem (with a hint of enjoyment) or they see it as an experience to be avoided at all costs. How the giver approaches it has everything to do with how the enema is accepted. No harsh solutions, overly hot or cold water and a healthy dose of TLC spells success most every time!

Have fun and play safe!

Deb

Baking soda enema has been the standard family enema recipe for generations. Ivory was used when constipation was an issue most times. teaspoon or so depending on the size of the enema. it makes sense. the sodium in an enema is what you need anyway and the reason we always used baking soda instead of just salt is because it will neutralize excess acid in the colon.

seems like common sense to me