Best enema to give a first-timer

I have recently found pleasure in giving myself warm water enemas with salt to "clean out" before my dear husband plays with/eats my ass. I have not experienced the full pleasures or benefits of enemas as of yet as I am currently 19 weeks pregnant and don't want anything to induce cramps that could bring on labor. However, it is the kinkiness of taking the enema that particularly intrigues me. I have an insatiable butt fetish and want to do all kinds of things to my husband's rear. I have only rimmed him a handful of times but he knows that I am dying to make it a regular thing. Again, being pregnant makes that a bit risky. I would also love to practice and master prostate massage on him. We are into BDSM and I play the dominant role using mostly knife play and some bondage. He has recently revealed to me a kinky fetish of his that I have agreed to participate in. Since we are so open about these types of things, I have disclosed to him my recent kinky feelings about enemas and that the giving is what really turns me on. I love the vulnerability of the position he would be in, especially in bondage with me calling all the shots and watching as he expels. It would come from more of a nurturing/mothering point of view as that is how our BDSM relationship really works. I am dominant and sadistic but in a very caring and compassionate way. So, I would like to create a scene in which I need to give him an enema to make him feel better, tossing in some of our regular practices such as bondage and knife play (for his own good type of thing). I would also enjoy lots of lube/fingering foreplay as I am obsessed with his back side, lol! Not really a punishment enema so to speak, but one that will leave him feeling a loss of control. I want to start out with something that will create strong urges to expel without it ruining the rest of the night and next day sending him running back to the bathroom over and over. The bottom line is, I want him to enjoy it enough from the sub standpoint that he wants to do it again and actually enjoys the role play. I was thinking the first being a 1 quart warm water enema with J&J or castile soap introduced with an enema bulb, followed by one or two 1-2 quart plain water enemas with salt from the bag to rinse. I would urge him to hold it for me as long as possible and insist on me accompanying him to expel. I just don't want him to run away after because I am so turned on at the thought of giving him one! I would love if we could get to a point where we could enjoy these together and just have some fun, minus the BDSM. Any tips for an enema solution and volume to really blow his pants off but be a pleasant experience that he'll want to do again and again? Side note, we have been married for 10 years.

Okay, my guess is you're gonna get a lot of response to this from a multitude of people more experienced than i, but i do have a few thoughts.

If your husband is new to receiving enemas, i would bet that even a plain, warm water enema will be effective on several levels and that you don't even need to alter the contents to have a lot of your desired effects.

i think the same with the psychological effect. If he has never been in a position of being given an enema before, the responses of awkwardness and powerlessness will likely be at their peak the first time. i'd suggest that focusing on the mind fuck aspect of what you are doing over the contents of the solution, at least while it's a new experience, will make for a huge impact and perhaps have the effect of setting the stage for future connections.

Thanks for your input! I have used warm water only in small amounts since I am pregnant. It seems to have the desired effect for me, however I never really feel like I “have to go.” No cramps or urges, just emptying once I decided to expel. Maybe I should just do the warm water on him and let him hold it until he feels that urgency?

So you want something crampy butt doesn't linger. 4 tablespoons Epsom salt and 4 oz glycerin in 1 quart of water is very hard to hold but once it is gone doesn't keep you on the potty for hours. You can finish with a warm water rinse and be back to normal.

@tallslenderguy even plain water needs salt

The first time I gave my husband, then my boyfriend an enema it was a Friday night after finals week in my college dorm when he forgot we had a dinner date. Practically everybody else had gone home. I was dressed, hungry and waiting and he came over three hours late after being out with his buddies and he thought he was going to spend the night. I told him he couldn't sleep with me unless I gave him an enema. This was a surprise to him and he had never had an enema before. The poor horny freshman with an eternal hard-on couldn't say "no." I smacked his butt a number of times, brought him into our suite's bathroom, filled the bag, and took him into the shower. As the water rained down on us I slowly and lovingly buried the nozzle in his ass and gave him one quart of plain warm water as I knelt in front of him with his balls in my hand and his dick in my mouth while he filled up. To complete his punishment I made him expel the enema while I watched.

I wanted him turned on and wanting to to this again, not grossed out, in pain or having cramps. Over twenty years later, We are still giving and getting enemas from each other.

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BTW, no salt is needed.

Susie, your story confirms that the owner of a warm pussy holds all the trump cards.

I prefer salt and baking soda to make the enema more comfortable when expelling. The baking soda makes it feel "slipperier" coming out. I don't measure carefully, but about 1 tablespoon each to 3 quarts water.

Susie, re: BTW, no salt is needed.

No salt may not be needed for you or your husband, but I have found that adding two teaspoons of salt per quart of warm water makes an enema much more comfortable than plain tap water. Plain water causes cramps for me. By the way, baking soda seems to work just as well as salt. The most comfortable enema I've ever had, however, is one of warm water and slippery elm.

@SwitchableSusie But salt helps balance electrolytes right? Maybe it is just a matter of personal preference though. I'm genuinely curious though so no salt hmm. @MariettaJack I'm with you on salt helping with the cramps.

The "Best" enema to give a "First Timer???

How about some warm water up their butt, with a little "TLC" on your part and we may have a "winner!!"

highwater

If the beginner is an an adult, older child or teen you would use a two-quart bag with soapsuds. A younger child should probably get less than a full bag, a small child a bulb. In all cases some soapsuds in the warter won't hurt, and should make the whole process easier

As a guy, I have to agree with "Highwater" 100%

A couple of squirts of warm water with a bulb may not be as intimidating for a first-timer. If play is the goal rather than a cleanout.

My husband had been sick for several days the first time I gave him an enema. He was taking RX cough medicine with codeine and was totally stopped up. And he didn't tell me he hadn't been to the bathroom until he was miserable. I didn't know whether to be mad or happy to try out my nursing skills.

We had been married about three years, and he knew about enemas because I was taking them while recovering from being critically hurt in an accident. I was taking pain medication at the time and also having lower bowel issues. That's another story.

Our family doctor recommended that I give hubby an enema and I was so nervous. She said to fill the enema bag with one quart of warm water and half a capful of J&J baby soap. Give it slowly so he can hold it. He might have cramps but coach him to breathe through them. If much does not come out the first time, wait about a half an hour, have him drink Gatorade and then repeat the enema. The second enema is when the dam broke. He was so embarrassed because I could hear it through the bathroom door, and we still laugh about it.

For a first timer and it's legitimate constipation, I think a pinch of mild soap might be needed to get results. Adding sea salt to the enema is important if you're just giving warm water. Doctor warned about electrolyte balance, and for first-timers, know what you're doing and be sensible.

How about some warm water up their butt, with a little "TLC" on your part and we may have a "winner!!"

Keep the first one simple and as pleasant and loving as you can. The better the experience, the more likely you will be able to repeat it. Simple water, smallish quantity to just get things going.

A couple of squirts of warm water with a bulb may not be as intimidating for a first-timer. If play is the goal rather than a cleanout.

This too with snuggles, cuddles, and pleasurable hand activity on the persons genitals.

Simple water, smallish quantity to just get things going.This too with snuggles, cuddles, and pleasurable hand activity on the persons genitals.

Sounds delish...I want one !!!! 😄 😄

This is a tough question because I have never been around a newbie. My mom was an expert enema giver, as is my wife, but also Tori, the nurse at the Wellness Institute that I wrote about. My guess is that a first time receiver should be given the most comfortable enema possible in order that they would want another one. So, that would have to be a single quart of warm water from a bag, but very slowly given. If it sounds like I'm grasping for words, it is because I am.

Difficult question. I'd have to know the purpose of the enema. I'd use different approaches for pleasurable, cleansing, and punishment enemas.

Although I agree that salt isn't necessary, I find a salt & baking soda solution proportioned to imitate isotonicity as closely as possible makes a very comfy enema that can be held several minutes w/o cramping.

I second the vote for baking soda, it always gives me a very comfortable enema.

Remember normal saline for iv use 0.09% you dont need much This is wrong, totally wrong and dangerous! The exact value is 0.9% !

superego said

Remember normal saline for iv use 0.09% you dont need much

WRONG WRONG WRONG

0.09% is hypotonic and when you talk about solutions for IV use you can be REALLY DANGEROUS

The correct value is 0.9% NaCl for a physiologic saline solution.

I wish you guys would check your numbers before you post something that can be dangerous.

I think no more that a quart of warm water given slowly as you continue to explain everything thats happening.

I know I say 2 or 3 times "How is your tummy". Especially as the bag's sides slowly come together, I think it is very important to make them feel throughout the procedure, that you are focused, and care how they are doing.

...And remember; That "first timer" is trusting you, as a responsible individual, and that you know what you are doing.

0.09% is hypotonic and when you talk about solutions for IV use you can be REALLY DANGEROUS

The correct value is 0.9% NaCl for a physiologic saline solution.

Absolutely true, but if somebody's mixing up IV solution in the kitchen with tap water and a box of Morton's there are problems anyway.

For a first timer and it's legitimate constipation, I think a pinch of mild soap might be needed to get results. Adding sea salt to the enema is important if you're just giving warm water. Doctor warned about electrolyte balance, and for first-timers, know what you're doing and be sensible.

I've given several times for severe constipation and not much comes out on the first one no matter what. A second enema with just warm water did the trick. I think soap is an irritant which makes it sometimes more effective but can be uncomfortable afterwards. Warm water works,even if you have to do a few.

The only suggestion I have is to add a little more warm water. one and a half to two quarts would be plenty to clean him out without him making several trips to the bathroom to evacuate any left over excrement that might still be up there.

Continue to have fun.

Personally, I've found the best is the simplest. 1 qt of warm water, slightly above body temp, administered slowly while you hold the bag so you can control the flow. Since you are the Domme, insistence is good, along with telling him that this will now be a regular occurrence, & that he won't be able to refuse. If your playtimes are with you as a "Mom / caregiver," that is a very appropriate stance. Be sure to tell him how much he needs this, and then do your Domme thing. It's very possible that a day off would be better for this, since results can be unpredictable. If he likes it, then it's time to play more. If not, so much the better. "You need this, Honey, and I will decide when & how much you get." You want him horny, I get that. However, unless he really hates the experience, he will get aroused just because he loves your dominance. He will also likely "grow into them" as you play together. Enemas are very pleasurable for many of us, and heighten the sexual experience immeasurably. Hope it's so with you. As far as cleanliness, unless you are "going deep," enough water to clean out his rectum will be better than too much, as the colon tends to empty gradually, & that's a surprise I can pretty much guarantee you don't want. If you want "deep play," multiple enemas are a must, but you have to have time for him to empty completely, sometimes (depending on the receiver) as much as 8 hours, or even more.

"Play hard!"

If you want to deflower an enema virgin, DO NOT do it when they are constipated.

Do it when everything is A-OK. If their system is already out of whack, you don't want to introduce them to an erotic activity that may cause discomfort because of their constipation even though they may feel better afterward.

Tomorrow is another day. Don't try to make a therapeutic enema into an erotic act. If you screw it up, you will probably not get a second chance to give an erotic enema.

I have to admit that up until I found this site I wasn't familiar with enemas or some other anal things.

After reading and talking about lots of the things that made enemas a big part of life for people here I decided to acquire a small bulb enema along with other things and make some nice soapy water to try out.

I introduced it to several people, using plenty of warm lube before entry and cleaning it thoroughly after each use and so far there have been few objections. So shortly after I procured a bag complete with nozzle and have gotten a second bag with a longer nozzle and the option of a special nozzle complete with a nicely sized plug for prolonged holding. That's been fun.

I've used the squishy bulb after glycerin suppositories to introduce several females to the experience and they've all seemed to enjoy what has become somewhat of a ritual these last months and I think I'm going to continue