Good parents/ Bad parents

Ok I know a lot of you are into the baby acting and that's ok if that's what you want to do.

Today I'm here to talk about parents that love and support their children through hard times with wetting and about bad parents who go over board because they don't know how to handle this.

When a child is haveing either bed wetting problems are wetting their pants what is the best way to handle the situation?

1 first show that child the love and support they need

2 clean them up. If you help your child then they know that you are not making it out to be their fault

3 note the situation down. Date and how it may have happened.

4 if it keeps happening call the Dr. It takes a few minutes to pick up the phone and make an appointment.

5 this is a hard part. Sit your child down and explain the situation and let them know that wearing protection isn't going to make them a baby. If you handle this right it will be easy.

Now let's talk about the don't.

This can also cause a lot stress on the parents at first you find yourself doing more laundry and yes it can get over whelming and you find yourself getting mad and upset but you are trying so hard not to come unglued.

But it happens right? Hey I'm a parent we are not perfect. But doing something bad will make a hard long road that might never be able to fix.

When we force a child to do something it's not pretty. I have read a lot of story's and let me tell you diaper punishment is the biggest NoNo that a parent can do. Now it is against the law to do it. So think twice before you do it.

Now let's talk about kids,teens that have the desire to wear diapers.

(Mom I want to wear diapers).

Ok maybe this isn't what we want to hear out of a childs mouth. But how do you handle this?

1 you sit the child down and have a long discussion about it.

If it's wearing a diaper they want what's the big deal? Trust me it's nothing you did wrong as a parent.

2 your child might be a TB/ DL.

If that is the case and your child is wanting to go back and be a baby then

That is another discussion that needs to happen.

3. Now what if the child is a DL?

This means they just want to wear a diaper. They do not want to be treated like a baby. Yes diapers are not cheap so this is a need. So if it is a diaper they want make them work for it.

Now if the child is a TB this means they want to go back and be a baby but there is a comfort level that needs to be talk about. Don't just assumed what they want and take matters in your own hands it can explode in your face. Now I do believe this needs to stay in the home not out side of the house. Do not humiliate your child for what they are asking. If you do it will scared the child and will create a wall between you and your child.

This go with your DL child. Think about what you are going to say before you talk to your child. If you tell them no they will find away to make it happen and when they are caught you will be mad because they dis behaved and went behind your back. Now what?

Humiliation is crule and it's child abuse. So think long and hard when this happens.

Parents that go overboard and punishment is ridiculously crazy because you are so mad. Put yourself in their shoes. Let's be good parents and be understanding loveing and careing. This kids today are not being raised right because we want to be their friends instead of being a parent. When are children embarrass us we go off the deep end. Turning your child back into a baby against their will is not the answer. Think twice before you put your parenting skills to action.

It is important for parents to help the child get out of diapers. Using them as a fetish/game is fine at home, but the child should learn to free him/herself from them so they can perform in society and not foist their fetish on others. S&M and enema fetishists don't go around in public flaunting their fetish. Diaper fetishists should follow the same example. Diapers are not underwear. They are excrement collectors and anyone whose olfactory nerve works, knows diapers smell.

Children need to take responsibility for their accidents and cleaning him/herself up is the best place to start. A four year old has had more than 2500 diaper changes and can certainly clean themself, especially of urine.

How many kids do you have? How many have you raised?

Some call spanking a child abuse, nowadays, while others call it proper discipline. There are a LOT of grey areas, and what some call bad parenting, might not be if you had all the facts. Also, some of the parents might be at their wits' end, and are trying to do what they can to save the family, and or maybe to try to prevent a child from entering foster care or other issues.

Often looking in from the outside, it might seem clear-cut, but in reality, it is not. I did foster care for almost 10 years, as a single dad. I have seen firsthand what bad parenting is, as well as true abuse, and how it affects a child. I was abused as a kid, and I know it affected me for the rest of my life, because of the type, severity, and length of the abuse by the neighbor teen. Most people do not realize that the majority of boys 13 and under are bedwetters who are in foster care. Some started because of the stress of foster care, and even some possible abuse they got while in care, especially from older kids, but also some bad parents. I knew many foster parents who preferred girls, just so they did not have to deal with wet beds as much, or buying big kid diapers, because it was embarrassing to them. Sadly, Goodnites leak easily, not as bad now as they did, but for a side sleeper, they will leak. A tape on diaper does not leak as much, and if the issue is not made a big deal about it, the child accepts it much better. Afterall, a diaper is just another type of underwear. That is what I always told the boys, and it helped, just as I told them, a diaper does not make them a baby, nor does wetting it, because lots of big boys wear and wet diapers. However, if they want to be babied or treated as a little boy, that is ok, and all they have to do is ask. Just as not allowing any teasing about the diapers, or anything else, is key to kids not being so embarrassed or humiliated by what they need to wear or use. My house, the rule was simple. If you tease someone about anything, then you will walk in their shoes for 14 to 30+ days. (This was originally suggested by one of the therapists, who was from Europe, and thought outside the box, which I liked.) It works wonders that way, and when a new boy arrived and was told the rules, the other boys always confirmed them, and explained what happened if you teased someone or if you had a temper tantrum.

I hope this gives you some more insight and gives you more to think about.