Have you ever wondered what kinks your friends are into?

The only reason I mention friends is because you have at least a bit of a vibe on them. Strangers for the most part could be anybody's guess.

I have one friend who I suspect likes to do a little bit of cross dressing. I would not have guessed it but he was showing me some pictures one day and he kind of shipped past one at first it looked like he was wearing shorts but upon reflection I am pretty sure he was wearing short skirt.

One of my other friends is into tattoos and piercings and body art. He likes leather a lot too. I know he has a pretty good sense of kink as back in the pre internet days we would occasionally swap porn on vhs. I suspect he is into tying his old lady up. Just an guess though.

I have some rural friends. As far as I can tell their sense of kink is much toned down. One of them it just totally enamored over big tits. I don't know why but the way he almost obsessed on it kind of makes me think he is pretty tame kink wise.

Likewise another rural friend, I think he thinks his big kink is porn. And not even very kinky porn. I think he may have some ideas, but is shy about bringing them to the table with his old lady. I can't see them doing anal, though I suspect he might want to do her anally.

Not counting people on here, what do you suspect is lurking beneath the surface of the people you hang out with?

I've a brother-in-law who is a possible hidden gay man. He's extremely religious so keeps it in check and doesn't do anything to act on it. It is just how he acts, how he dresses, and past behaviors before he got married. Yes, he has married and had chikdren. He's done his "duty" as a married man.

My sub and I figure that he and his wife have not had sex in years. Since it, in the brother-in-law's view, is for producing children. He has even expressed such sentiments to another sister-in-law.

We also know a couple where it feels he is the Dom, she submits, and he runs their life. The wife is quiet and rather reserved. She does what he says without question. No real solid evidence, just a strong hunch. Won't bring it up either. Because we value their friendship.

I already know because they told me and I told them mine. We don't talk much past that or just haven't had the time to. They've got a something of a switch BDSM relationship and it's working out pretty well for them. I mean they got married so it must be working right?

Touched base recently with a gal I used to date years and years ago. A manipulative, conniving, controlling kind of gal to begin with, particularly with men which is why I eventually wised up and kicked her to the curb. Anyway, we're quasi-friends now (I don't trust her any farther than I can throw her, even if I still want to fuck her) but recently she mentioned in passing she was considering becoming a part time professional Dominatrix.

She said this was based on a recommendation of a like-minded female friend (and possible nurse on Zity), and also due to the fact she's presently a single mother between jobs (pushing 50 and the traditional California hiring ageism is really kicking in). But I think it fits right in with her personality, and she was sounding me out as a potential new client (slave). Was having none of that from her, so I demured with a flat face and made a polite departure from the evening. Warped woman and a bullet dodged, as it were...

What I have learned in life is that you can NEVER fully know what goes on in somebody else's head. NEVER. I have been surprised/astounded so many times by revelations of what went on in other people's lives (whom I thought I knew well!), that I have now taken the stance that ANYTHING I hear about ANYBODY won't necessarily surprise me anymore.

It’s not really friends that I think have that kinky BDSM side. There are a few that I have found out really want their partner to be more assertive and dominant in bed.

There are others that I see in public on a regular basis that always seem to be wearing the same necklace or something along those lines that almost give off a “collared” sort of vibe.

I have often wondered if I would come across a profile on Fetlife of a friend or other types of acquaintances. So far I haven’t though.

A few friends have made some innuendos about me during some conversations we have had over the years. Our close friends can tell I'm on the wild side. I only hide it around my husband's business friends who probably think I am only slightly less reserved than Miss Manners, Emily Post or Ann Landers. My reputation varies with the company we keep.

Hmmmmm. I've certainly wondered who else has my same fetishes (mainly surgical/N95 masks and footed pajamas on a girl). I've also certainly wondered what it would be like to be a girl who wore either of the above.

But I don't need to know any other of the fetishes anybody has.

Not counting people on here, what do you suspect is lurking beneath the surface of the people you hang out with?

I wish I knew. Often not very much I think, they all seem to be so vanilla, if even that. Once though it came out that two friends (both married but not to each other) were having sex on the side, secret trysts to use a romantic word, but involving spanking and probably some bondage. By the time I heard about it, it was (to my ears) blown all out of proportion with talk about sadism and masochism and whipping and what not. Clearly my friends have a sedate idea of sexuality.

It led to a divorce and suicide, which was so tragic and unnecessary if those involved hadn't let things spin out of control. Anyway, I was doubly taken aback. First by the 2 people involved. I didn't know they had any hidden sexual depths to tell the truth. Both seemed so humdrum. And as for my other friends, I was a bit taken aback they made something of a prudish thing out of it all (before the divorces and suicide of course). For them it seemed like spanking (or what they erroneously called sadism) was the most horrid sexual thing they could come up with. I once confided to a (lady) friend or two, that my late wife liked to be spanked, sort of as a way of mitigating the big fuss about the two friends. It didn't do much good I fear, probably just added to their (incorrect) ideas about my morality.

Other friends of mine have never hinted at any kinds of fetishes or kinks. What I hear more often in truth is a cessation of sexual relations. Due to illnesses, physical/mental conditions and medication from one partner. Or else apparently due to lack of interest, lack of sexual drive.

But I don't need to know any other of the fetishes anybody has.

No, I don't need to know, but sometimes I would really like to know. I often get the impression that most of my friends think me very odd. In turn, I often have the impression my friends are far too goody-goody and proper and prim.

But then again maybe I am bad at hiding things and they are much much better.

Whenever I have had injections I like to mention it to attractive young ladies. If they eagerly ask "where" or indicate intrigue as I gingerly but my bottom and continue the conversation, I take it as a sign they might share my buttock injection fetish.

mainly surgical/N95 masks

Regular or fluid shield? 😁

I don't like fluid shields at all. I think it related to the fact that I fetishize immunosuppressed or allergic patients rather than nurses or doctors, whose masks would be more likely to ave a fluid shield.

Nope, just a plain old 3M 1860, Kimberly-Clark duckbill, half-mask cartridge respirator, or, if ageplay is involved, maybe one of those Looney Tunes masks (my other fetish, somewhat ABDLish, I guess, is footed pajamas, and such a thing might go well with one of those masks 😄 ).

In one instance a married couple I knew quite well I suspect they were into Sub Dom sex. While at a Halloween party the lady was wearing a Dom outfit and it seemed to fit very well almost too well. She said it was barrowed from a friend.

Another couple I spent some time with, the woman blurter out something about backdoor fun in a situation/conversation that seemed kind of strange to say that at the time during the conversation. I would not be surprised if they were home enjoying anal sex as part of their relationship.

@ProV1 I have often hypothesized that a lot of kinks get put on display on halloween.

I do not wonder about my friends and neighbor's kinks because, to be very honest, I really don't care.

When we lived in town, we had some neighbor's to whom we were friendly with but really did not know them all that well. One night they invited us to a cookout, to which we gladly accepted, around their pool, a beautiful setting and we enjoyed ourselves. They told us to hang until after midnight, then the fun really began. While we didn't, we later found out they were into swapping partners.

@Tillie, that reminds me of two families that lived on our street when we were growing up. It seemed that EVERYONE knew these two couples were swapping--and we were friends with their children.

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@ProV1 I have often hypothesized that a lot of kinks get put on display on halloween.

There is no doubt about that. My husband and I have done that a few times. I have been the Domme dressed in deerskin or latex and he was my bitch wearing tight, cute leather shorts and a harness with a leash at the Greenwich Village Halloween parade.

For some reason I don't really think about my close friends in that way. But sometimes I do wonder about my coworkers. I'll see them on the other side of the office and wonder what kind of freaky things they do after work.

I do wonder about some of my friends from time to time. I would bet one neighbor is dominant in the bedroom with her husband if a strapon harness drying on a towel is any indicator! Several of the women in my bridge group discuss some female things now and again especially after a few drinks. Most men would be surprised about some of the intimate things women discuss among themselves. One topic is "the vibrator" where, technique, how often, husbands reactions, best one etc.

When I was a grad student in Austria, the women who I rented an apartment from gave off vibrations now and then but it never picked up on them directly. She asked me to water her plants and feed the dog while they were gone on vacation. Short story, I got the dates wrong and walked in on her working her husband over with a flogging whip. I turned around and walked out and hoped they had not seen me and for a few weeks that seemed to be the case since there was not a hint. That is until they invited me up for dinner. We had some wine and cheese before dinner and to my total surprise, Klaus brought up encounter and asked me to watch or participate from time to time. I demurred but frankly, I was very curious wanted to watch them. Later that evening I agreed to watch them and eventually participated in their activities.

Dita

Funny, I was at a conference last week and everyone was giving me compliments and how much they like doing business with me.

At some point I thought to myself:

If only y’all knew that I love dressing like a woman, love BBWs and BHMs, would absolutely love to share my wife and myself with others, love an enema, medfet, golden showers and other kinks...

Sadly my wife and I don’t have friends we talk about sex with...heck she doesn’t event know most of my kinks!

I definitely have thought before if any of my friends have any sexy secret kinks. Mainly just curious about how many people have major kinks, because I know I walk around with some big secrets. I sometime wonder what Id do If I saw someone on here or a place like fet that I knew. I know none of my friends other than my gf and a few of her very close friends know anything about my kinks. My gf and I found out we both share similar kinky sides after being together for a while. We had sex pretty tipsy one night and she kinda asked what Id like her to do and It went from there. Makes me wonder what people Im pretty close with are hiding.

I had one friend who was married and gay, and another who would screw any female around, and another who would share his wife. I'm sure they had some kinks that they kept to themselves. None of our family or friends have any idea just how kinky we are.

From old experiences I have learned not to trust so called friends. They may say they do this or that simply to get me to open up and reveal my own secrets. I remember telling them how I like holding my pee and standing up like a guy, and they told me they did too and asked for more details. Later I found they ridiculed and gossiped about me

@Amy_K I am sorry to hear that your "friends" turned on you. That was most uncool of them. I have a theory of kinkiness though, it is that some people have kinks and some people lie about not having kinks. IMHO the ones who let their freak flags fly (ok, not 100% openly, but enough to enjoy their kink) are much happier than those who repress them all of their lives. I really think all that pent up frustration and unhappiness has to come out, and it slowly buy surely poisons them and they turn into old unhappy, unfulfilled people.

No, not really but now that I came across this question/thread, I'm curious to find out if they're kinky or not.

I have wondered it a few times but not that often. As someone mentioned, I think I do that more often with strangers or people who I don't know that well and what they might be into. I definitely do wonder how many guys are into the same fetish i am (rectal temps/injections).

One of my friends did volunteer that he's curious about ass play with toys (he's straight). This topic came up shortly after I came out to him and I think it was his way of showing he was supportive.

Before that, there was a couple I used to spend a fair amount of time with socially before I moved away and lost touch. I sometimes wondered what sort of things they go into sexually (she was the one who would be more open and not afraid to mention things or put a sexual connotation to it). It wouldn't surprise me at all if they did do ass play.

But that's about the extent. Again, it mainly goes to me wondering how many guys are into injections, and if I don't know if they are gay, how many enjoy fooling around with guys or doing ass play.

I don't recall ever having a discussion about sex with any of my friends other than most of them are aware I love large tits on a woman. But, seeing my wife (40DD) would make my preference obvious. The closest I've ever come to thinking about a friend's kinks is to wonder if 2 of my wife's good friends would enjoy pegging me. Of course, I'd need to get a written permission slip from my wife for that to happen so I always dismiss the idea.

I have a few friends who have 'outed' their kinks to me. Some have been more exciting than others.

I was very drunk when one admitted BDSM was an interest. To his dismay, I wasn't drunk enough to forget what he told me! A few weeks later I taught him what where and how to use a few toys and his girlfriend was more than happy about it.

Another past fuck buddy said he was interesting in trying kinks, but didn't know where to start.

Another told me he had a fetish because he liked how women's backs look... Well I think some people just WANT to be kinky, even if they're a scoop of vanilla with a single sprinkle on top...