Not counting people on here, what do you suspect is lurking beneath the surface of the people you hang out with?
I wish I knew. Often not very much I think, they all seem to be so vanilla, if even that. Once though it came out that two friends (both married but not to each other) were having sex on the side, secret trysts to use a romantic word, but involving spanking and probably some bondage. By the time I heard about it, it was (to my ears) blown all out of proportion with talk about sadism and masochism and whipping and what not. Clearly my friends have a sedate idea of sexuality.
It led to a divorce and suicide, which was so tragic and unnecessary if those involved hadn't let things spin out of control. Anyway, I was doubly taken aback. First by the 2 people involved. I didn't know they had any hidden sexual depths to tell the truth. Both seemed so humdrum. And as for my other friends, I was a bit taken aback they made something of a prudish thing out of it all (before the divorces and suicide of course). For them it seemed like spanking (or what they erroneously called sadism) was the most horrid sexual thing they could come up with. I once confided to a (lady) friend or two, that my late wife liked to be spanked, sort of as a way of mitigating the big fuss about the two friends. It didn't do much good I fear, probably just added to their (incorrect) ideas about my morality.
Other friends of mine have never hinted at any kinds of fetishes or kinks. What I hear more often in truth is a cessation of sexual relations. Due to illnesses, physical/mental conditions and medication from one partner. Or else apparently due to lack of interest, lack of sexual drive.
But I don't need to know any other of the fetishes anybody has.
No, I don't need to know, but sometimes I would really like to know. I often get the impression that most of my friends think me very odd. In turn, I often have the impression my friends are far too goody-goody and proper and prim.
But then again maybe I am bad at hiding things and they are much much better.