Getting a spanking that you did not think you deserved

My last spanking I really did not think I deserved! We were out to dinner with 5 other couples, in NYC at a fairly expensive restaurant. Each course was not what it should be, i.e. fried mashed potatoes are not Gnocchi! When it came time to order our desert, I adamantly told the waiter that I wanted a double espresso with a lemon peel, Sambuca on the side with coffee beans in the sambucca, if you can not do this I do not want anything. The next day my wife gave me a painful bath brush spanking for the way I talked to the waiter. Do you think my spanking was deserved?

One does not talk in a disrespectful manner to the person who can spit or do worse in your food.

You did deserve your spanking even if you didn't know why.

If you didn't like the food or service, DON'T leave a tip and leave a note saying why on the restaurant bill. The manager or Maitre D will see the note and the bad waiter or chef will get what's coming to him. You can also make your statement to the host or Maitre D as you leave the premises.

By the way, DO NOT have them put coffee beans in Opal Nera. I ordered sambucca after dinner one time and they put coffee beans in it and I almost choked. For those who don't know, Opal Nera is a black sambucca so you can't see the beans, which is very bad if you aren't expecting beans to be in there.

Don’t we all think at one time or another we got our asses spanked and didn’t think we deserved it,but if you really think about we most likely did deserve it....and you probably did deserve yours for speaking the way you did there are other more polite ways to get your message across

Obviously if your wife gave you a spanking, you deserved it. She must have felt that you were out of place to speak to the waiter as you did and if she is in a position where she tells you when and how you are to get a spanking, you need to respect her ability to punish you. Did you learn your lesson?

If you got a spanking then there was likely a good reason for it. You might not be able see the reasons for why people do the things they do but there is always a reason for it.

Yes Ma’am!

You very obviously deserved that ass busting. I hope she uses the half swat method of counting the strokes when she applies the bath brush. When spanks you with that she can only hit one cheek at a time, so that is only half a swat. If you are sentenced to 100 swats then to get full across both cheeks paddling it should be

100 on each cheek for a total of 200 half swats.

I hope your ass was blistered for being so unkind to the poor waiter.

She should give another hard bath brushing for whining about it.

Rob

You deserved the sore rear end for speaking out in front of the others at dinner. Your wife was not pleased with your remarks and you embarrassed her and her took it out on your ass. You are very lucky she did not take you away from the table and give you a blistering session right there.

A girlfriend once spanked me, we'd been out together a few times and one night, she had been flirting with me all night, then said I could go back hers. As soon as we got in, I grabbed her and started to kiss her and she kissed me back. I started to take my pants down with one hand, while lifting her skirt with the other, as I kissed her. I felt her stiffen a bit but continued, but when my pants fell around my ankles, she grabbed the wrist of the hand up her skirt and pulled me towards a chair. I was stumbling over my pants and didn't know what was happening. She guided me stumbling, as she sat down, right across her knee. She pulled my undies down and spanked my bare bottom really hard for a few minutes. She took me to bed and said: "It's my time of the month, so be quiet because I want to sleep." I snuggled up to her but did not sleep at all, my bum was so sore! But I kept quiet, as I didn't want to wake her up, for fear of another spanking. I didn't think I deserved the spanking she gave me, but didn't make an argument about it when she woke in the morning. We got on fine after that though, I really fancied her and we're still friends now after we split up.

To be truthful, i probably deserved a lot more spankings that the stunts I pulled off.

Over a period of about 10 years that I lived with my girlfriend that spanked me I got several that I felt were questionable. But while I was getting it I would tell myself that you wanted this lifestyle and this is part of the price you pay. Sometimes she would tell me that this might not be fair but I think it would be best if you got a spanking. I have no complaints.

My mother on the other hand was a very bitter unhappy woman and I paid for it. That's all I want to say about that.

I wasn't spanked as a kid. But as an adult I have never been spanked because I “deserved it”. I've always been spanked because my partner wanted to spank me… perhaps because she was annoyed, perhaps to make a point, perhaps because spankings are super sexy, perhaps because she just wanted to see me turn red and squirmy.

I feel all spankings are earned

I feel all spankings are earned

There are so many accounts here of totally undeserved spankings, even going by the definition of strict, no-nonsense people who simply love to dole out spankings for the slightest possible reason.

Even taking those into account, there are still so many stories here of completely undeserved spankings. Some are horrid to read.

I agree that you deserve the spanking if I did what you did my parents will spank me till kingdom comes. We are always taught to respect other people’s it a big thing in our family.

Having said that when we are being spanked we will think that we don’t deserve such a hard spanking on the bare bottom.

It only after the spanking than you reflect on it then you realise you deserve it but also I agree that certain spankings I still don’t it.

The thing is that I have no say or control while I am being spanked as I am not the one that is administrating the spanking. I do talk to my husband about it why I do not deserve that spanking he will explain also explain to me why I deserve it. He do sometimes agrees that I do not deserve such a hard spanking. We communicate and talk about these and that why my marriage last till now. Many married couples fail to communicate that where the marriage falls.

Getting a spanking that you didn't think you deserved can be a confusing and frustrating experience. It might make you feel unfairly treated or misunderstood. However, it's important to remember that parents or caregivers often have reasons for their actions, even if those reasons aren't immediately clear to you. They might be trying to teach you a lesson about responsibility, safety, or respect for others. It's always a good idea to talk to them about it afterward. Communication can help clear up misunderstandings and allow you to express your feelings. It's also important to reflect on the situation and consider if there was something you could have done differently. Learning from these experiences, even the tough ones, can help you grow and develop better judgment in the future.

Getting a spanking that you didn't think you deserved can be a confusing and frustrating experience. It might make you feel unfairly treated or misunderstood. However, it's important to remember that parents or caregivers often have reasons for their actions, even if those reasons aren't immediately clear to you.

I was never physically spanked, but I was punished in other ways for things I didn't deserve. These were usually the result of my tattle-tale younger sister running to mommy as fast as her legs could run and telling her embellished little tale of woe. Since she got to my mother first, she established the narrative and there was little I could do to establish my version being the more correct version of events. And besides, I was a boy and older and therefore had the duty of knowing better and to always be sucking up to the younger siblings and accommodating their every little whim or wham. That was the overriding consideration my mother operated on.

After a while I just stopped trying to convince my mother of my version of what had happened. I'd just wait until she came to get me while my sister stood behind her with a grin plastered over her lying face.

So yes, parents may have had their reasons, but they were not always the correct ones for punishing/spanking. And yet throughout my younger years, I never blamed my mother for any of the punishing. I blamed my sister for her lies and embellishments.

Life is unfair...

So true @Yolo . It is not looking to change anytime soon.

Yes, for sure !! - live is unfair, but that is really live !! - it is not a " ponyyard " !!

Members please read when topics are about adult spankings or childhood spankings. The first post of this topic is about an adult spanking but most members posting on this topic since then started talking about childhood so I deleted those posts.

Please just keep on topic and read what first posts say because it is not ok to mix BDSM spanking with talk of childhood spankings. Thank you.

Members please read when topics are about adult spankings or childhood spankings. The first post of this topic is about an adult spanking but most members posting on this topic since then started talking about childhood so I deleted those posts.

Please just keep on topic and read what first posts say because it is not ok to mix BDSM spanking with talk of childhood spankings. Thank you.

Many thank's for this comment !!

The question of whether punishment was justified or not does not arise for me. It would be even better if the delinquent could choose whether and how she is punished. She has to submit to the decision of her authority, and if she once unjustly feels the wooden spoon, the flat hand, or the cane on her bare buttocks, that is no misfortune. At least not for me, the giver.

When one think they do not deserve a spanking they deserve another one for thinking they know better than the one in charge. Whether punishment is deserved is the exclusive purview of the spanker.

A couple of years ago I met an elderly gentleman who had offered accommodation to meet a friend discreetly. I met him alone initially and had an interesting conversation about what me and my friend were going to do. He agreed on condition that I would strip naked for him to give me a spanking for offering accommodation. I never did take my friend to his home but I still meet him regularly in our CMNM relationship. You can guess who is the naked male!