Birth Location

Where would you give Birth? If I were to give birth, I would do it at home if possible.

A hospital with a family centered birthing center. I definitely want OB/Gyns and an OR available but if everything goes routinely I want to be able to move around and use the birthing ball or tub. That's the environment I had my baby in and that's what I would expect for next time too.

In a river like this woman.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EsNhCWsDVQI

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NOT EVEN CLOSE!

There is no way I would spend nine months being pregnant and risk it all for a thrill in the end.

She's out of her mind. Things could unexpectedly go bad very fast and she would have a dead baby.

I will say it looks like quite an experience!

Why were there so many infant/mother deaths in the 1800's, early 1900's? Because most deliveries were done at home. Recently had a friend deliver in a hospital and she wouldn't stop bleeding. They found out she had an unknown clotting factor deficiency, but saved her life and got her on meds. She's home and well now.

@jimmyt44 To be fair we have poorer nutrition and poorer sanitation. Most woman bled to death from not clotting efficiently or succumbed to infection.

As much as I would have enjoyed birthing at home or at a birthing center, with the exception of a labor at home following a 14-week miscarriage/spontaneous birth, my labors have taken place at a hospital. In the first L&D, I was in the lithotomy position, completely numb from the waist down. When my second arrived, I was in all sorts of positions, experiencing my 10/10 pain during back labor - not an experience I'd ever care to repeat. #3, I moved around a lot until it was finally time to push, then settled into orthotomy. I cannot remember what position I was in for the fourth, but I do remember trying all sorts of things because I was completely natural/drug free that time, even foregoing the IM Nubain.

The hospital, though so clinical in nature, always won out because of the fear that something would go wrong and help would be too far away.

Nothing went wrong - thank goodness. Though, with #3, the nurse delivered because she popped out quicker than expected. Luckily the nurse was quick-thinking, too, because the cord was short and was wrapped around the baby's neck. Experienced, she caught & clipped before anything went wrong, and I will be grateful to that unnamed lady til my dying day. I can't imagine how differently things would have turned out had I delivered in a different setting.

It's my fantasy to experience labor and birth during a belly dance performance in the dessert. Yes, I will be the dancer. I will be dancing to the hypnotic music through labor. My movements will reflect the level of contractions I'm having while I continue entertaining the audience. My moans will be drowned by the music and I will allow my body to flow the way it feels most comfortable.... as I type i feel my belly contracting.

With my mom was nice and cozy.

I want my girl at home in hypnobirth and twilight sleep with me by her side midwife out of sight and I stimulating her to have orgasmic as she breaths oxygen by mask with plant bloom by her nose.

@fred95 i saw this post! I would love to roleplay this if there is a way as i can’t have children.

Hynotic and o2 with plants, no midwife? Apparently you have never experienced childbirth. This is a normal process for both but many things can go wrong quickly and you need a professional there.

I had both of my kids at home. with my sub by my side. We had 2 midwives and 1 midwife in training for the first. Only a midwife in training was present for our second, the midwives arrived after the birth. No problems either time.

I will say home births aren't for everyone. Do your own research to see whether it is for you or not.

Why were there so many infant/mother deaths in the 1800's, early 1900's? Because most deliveries were done at home. Recently had a friend deliver in a hospital and she wouldn't stop bleeding.

I’m with @jimmyt44. While an all natural, home birth sounds wonderful, the chances of something going wrong is NOT insignificant. Without monitoring, they might not even know the infant is in distress. And you never know if the mother is going to hemorrhage after the birth. Complications happen quite often and their chances of survival is GREATLY increased if in a hospital setting.

I can’t imagine having either mother or child passing away, and the survivors knowing for the rest of their lives that if they didn’t insist on a ‘natural’ birth outside of a medical facility, that they’d both be alive. How could you live with yourself after that? IMO, we advanced science enough to make childbirth quite safe and we should use that technology. One of the big reasons for the exponential growth of the human population is less death during childbirth.

My wife gave birth to our 2nd son in a birthing room at the hospital. Very much a "home-like" setting. But all the tools were nearby should something go wrong. Funny thing is, my wife, the doc, and I watched a movie during labor. Right after the movie ended I got to deliver our son with the doc looking over my shoulder.

At home with a midwife who is trained in emergency scenarios.

Yes, check out your midwife skills and qualifications. I trusted all of my midwives. We discussed and had in place a plan B if something should go wrong. Considering a hospital was 45 minutes away trouble was not something we took lightly.

Both my daughters were born at home with well trained midwives AND with excellent prenatal care and screening. For us, they were both wonderful experiences.

Too bad the marriage failed?

At the time I worked in a hospital as an Respiratory therapist. Didn’t go into home birth blind.

Some things you just know. We knew we would not have any issues. Some people just know they will

Both my daughters were born at home with well trained midwives AND with excellent prenatal care and screening. For us, they were both wonderful experiences.

Some things you just know. We knew we would not have any issues.

Glad things work out with the births - sorry abut the marriage. When you think everything is going to be fine, bad surprises can still happen! You thought you wouldn't have issues, you really didn't know.

I like the idea of delivering at home, surrounded by my things, able to go to sleep in my bed after. In reality though, lay midwives are illegal in my state and all clinical midwives deliver in the hospital so to have a homebirth at the time I was having kids, would have meant hiring an unlicensed lay midwife. I didn’t want to take that risk. I was sick a lot when I was pregnant and 2 of my 4 deliveries had surprise complications at the end so I’m glad I was in the hospital. Luckily, my dr was not a pushy guy and was happy to just let me do my thing, and the staff was great about pretty much leaving us alone unless we called them so all of my labors were pretty relaxed (as relaxed as labor can be) even the ones where the wheels were starting to come off. Had we not been in a hospital, 2 of my kids might not have survived and I might not have survived one of them!

So, fantasy role play, outside under a moonlit sky, or submerged in a warm bath, or at home, being blissful and moaning quietly through painless contractions. Reality, I want my obgyn and a hospital with a nicu.

I would definitely choose a hospital. I'm not denying the comfort of your own home, but there are still so many factors that could go wrong; a hospital will always be the safer option, in my opinion.

I'm the youngest of 5 kids. My mom had all of us in the same hospital and experienced 4 deliveries free of complications. Then I came along. My mom probably thought that my birth would be just as easy as my siblings and could do a home birth no problem, if she wanted. If she hadn't been in the hospital with me ... well, who knows what would have happened.

I delivered both of my children in a hospital because I dealt with health issues. In the night, when I delivered my son 27 other children were born. I was very lucky that I had a good midwife student next to me. But I could tell that a lot of women weren't as lucky as I was. And so I ask myself the question what is better when you are a healthy pregnant woman

A) Having 2 experienced midwifes at home at your side who are constantly looking after you, who know you and who have delivered loads of children before my very own child. They know when to get you in hospital and they won't hesitate to do so *if* problems appear. They stay with you from the beginning until the very end.

B) to be in a hospital where 3or 4 midwifes have to deal with 27 births per night? With one or maybe 2 attending doctors. Here in Germany the rate of c sections had risen in the last year's dramatically. I still don't speak about women who need that! Because we can be damn happy that there is the possibility to do that! Don't let me start about doing interventions while giving birth and in labor. Midwife's and gynecologists don't do that because they want to. They have no other choice! They do their very best and especially midwifes get paid crappie.

Don't get me wrong I am very happy that the medicine has such a high standard by now. But the birth medicine is at least in Germany in big trouble.

I was in the hospital (were I worked at the time) to deliver my two children ??and both times I had, what I would translates as "walk-in-birth". It means that you give birth in the hospital and after ~6 hours you can go home if everything is OK with you and the baby. You must have a midwife that looks after you during puerperium and you have to name your OB/GYN and pediatrician.

My husband and I enjoyed very much that we could spend every second together after giving birth and that we were not apart from each other. Also the first night with our children in our own comfortable bed was wonderful. We would do it again this way ?

Since I am a RN myself and have worked for 5 years at the maternity ward I never considered giving birth at home. Eventhough I didn't have any real complications during my pregnancies I didn't want to risk anything. I know very well, what can happen and that often enough every second counts. My college had a wonderful home birth and didn't worry about complications. she also lived 5 minutes away from the hospital.

There was also another option, the "Birthing Home"

https://www.geburtshaus-von-anfang-an.at/ /unfortunately the site is not available in english, but maybe the pictures give you a good first impression. You go there with your midwife and deliver your baby. If everything is alright you go home after a few hours. If complications arise, a hospital is nearby and the midwife will take you there or will call an ambulance.

I am a pain wuss & I had great experiences in the hospital with an epidural.

I would love to try this as roleplay and do a water birth one.

I’d like to give birth in an OR, in stirrups and with my legs spread wide open. I'd like having there be midwives and nurses.

@sofia6969 but no Doctors?

Home. More privacy and freedom. I hate hospitals and will only go to them as a last resort.

Talking real life, I can't have a baby due to medical reasons, would be extremely high risk, so during the years I conditioned myself not even wanting one. Giving birth is a natural, women are at their most powerful state, I would hate the goddess experience to be ruined by a hospital birth with all their harrassing routines.