For me pain in anal sex was security in college

I am now in my early 60's so that you understand my generation. I was brought up by very strict parents that, although not abusive, they ruled with iron fists.

Growing up and even through high school it seemed that so many things involved my butt. When I reached college I met a grad student and he and I became sort of anal sex buddies. I was the receiver. It always hurt moderately but somehow the pain and the fact that he didn't care that it hurt made me feel secure and safe.

@Sheila, how so very provocative to have had an anal sex buddy in college. How I envy you and imagine what it would have been like to have been one member of this sensuous experience. When you reflect on those times you surely must have a warm smile on your face.

Why do you feel secure and safe because he don't care of making you suffer?

Did it represent the "strong secure man" for you?

A man who care about you or girls mean that he's a sissy who's unable to fight maybe? (and secure you

and the country).

I think that you were embarrassed/scared/under his control, because anal sex should not hurt, unless you were unable/unwilling to relax.

Very interesting. I’m fascinated by people’s different experiences with anal sex, and their reactions. Like with all sex, so much of it is in the mind.

I had regular anal intercourse with 4 different women at different periods of my life. Each of them greatly desired it, two of them even asked that we never have vaginal intercourse again, only anal. Two of them were highly turned on because of the naughty, taboo aspect (one had a serious medfet interest). The other two said it made them feel full and properly “fucked” in a way that vaginal did not (to my surprise the morning after only our 2nd time in bed together, one turned around on all fours and said “you can put it in my ass, it’s ok” in that quiet calm librarian’s voice of hers).

But none of them had @Sheila’s point of view. However I do a little bit. As someone who’s been fucked by those women, I can say that there’s a bit of the pain aspect that I enjoy. The fullness, the sensation of the thrusting in and out of my bottom, and that slight pain that makes the experience memorably intense.