The feeling the first time a penis entered your vagina

I remember it felt painful at first. Probably because I was so tense and tightening up. He felt so big and I didn't think I'd stretch enough. I wanted to call it off. I think going slow actually made it worse, but I had read that entering slow was best so I stuck it out. After a few strokes, it felt heavenly.

There's a lot to be said for teenage girls having dildos to practice/masturbate with.

And for boys having something to practice entering as well. Though I bet this would cause much more controversy and reluctance ...

@agracier said

And for boys having something to practice entering as well. Though I bet this would cause much more controversy and reluctance ...

To go with it, how about timetabled practical lessons in school on technique? 😁 😁 😁

Actually, there is a serious point there but there is always the prudishness that would prevent any useful discussion. If, for example, in the the UK there are parents who object to schools telling their female students that they have a clitoris, what chance is there of teenage boys ever being taught not to be hasty and clumsy with equally inexperienced teenage girls?

To go with it, how about timetabled practical lessons in school on technique? 😁 😁 😁

Actually, there is a serious point there but there is always the prudishness that would prevent any useful discussion. If, for example, in the the UK there are parents who object to schools telling their female students that they have a clitoris, what chance is there of teenage boys ever being taught not to be hasty and clumsy with equally inexperienced teenage girls?

Here's the school lecture discussing sexual technique from foreplay through intercourse:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDoQFcQEpOQ

what chance is there of teenage boys ever being taught not to be hasty and clumsy with equally inexperienced teenage girls?

This reminds me of a Belgian billboard from the 1980s that was meant to promote road safety. It caused a bit of mirth in the media, not so much because of the message: 'fast driving is just as stupid as fast love-making' (not very catchy in this translation) but because the girl in the photo, an American exchange student who posed for some generic head-shots at a modeling agency, was afterwards scandalized with the accompanying message.

https://www.2dehands.be/verzamelen/postkaarten-posters/posters/snel-rijen-is-zo-dom-217515590.html

I was 18 years old and a virgin. I was with my boyfriend of about a year. We had previously done some heavy petting and play prior but no intercoarse. He had fingered me a couple times for short periods otherwise the only other thing that had been inside me was a tampon. Since I had been using tampons I had assumed my hymen had been broken but it had not. I can remember we had things kind of planned parents were gone for a wedding and he came over to spend the time with me. I was actually did not want to wait long after he came asi was nervous parents would return. We went to my bedroom and we played around a little and I was starting to feel ready to take the next step. I still remember his beutiful penis as I lie on the bed looking up at him. I guided his penis into my opening and told him to go slow. As he began to enter I felt a burning sensation while he entered and then an extreme pain sensation as if he had ruptured my hymen. I remember I made home stop due to the pain but probably after he stopped for the pain to reside he was done and pulled out. It was a disappointment as it hurt for a couple days after this experience. It was probably 2 weeks later we had intercoarse again and it did not hurt and felt much better.

Just gave into it. With hindsight he was not that big, maybe just as well. Remember it being no effort to pop him in,just felt right.

Amethyst said:

It was really good. He knew it was my first time so he did not fuck me hard, he was gentle pushing it in and out. He just wanted me to enjoy it and I did.

I am thrilled to hear you enjoyed it so much as I don't believe that is the norm. I don't know how it went for my wife as my first time was with her but it was not hers. It certainly was not much fun for me as I had no idea what I was doing and as someone else mentioned I had a hard time finding the hole. I am sure of one thing: I did not give her any pleasure at all as I came almost immediately. I haven't asked any young girls what they got for sex-ed in school these days because I don't think I'd like to go to jail. I don't think they get anything that is of much use to them. I have been advocating sex-ed all my life as all I learned in those years came from Playboy magazine. They did have some good informational articles but the pictures were their main selling point and made you believe all girls were supposed to have huge boobs with black furry triangles and only dirty old men bought the magazines. I feel our kids deserve good information so they can at least have a chance to enjoy their first experience.

@roscoe said

I haven't asked any young girls what they got for sex-ed in school these days because I don't think I'd like to go to jail. I don't think they get anything that is of much use to them. I have been advocating sex-ed all my life as all I learned in those years came from Playboy magazine. They did have some good informational articles but the pictures were their main selling point and made you believe all girls were supposed to have huge boobs with black furry triangles and only dirty old men bought the magazines. I feel our kids deserve good information so they can at least have a chance to enjoy their first experience.

To briefly sum up, conservative parents don't want to talk about sex. Schoolteachers don't want to talk about it either, as they are uncomfortable doing so because they aren't specialists, and also because they fear conservative parents freaking out when they find their offspring have been given more information than they themselves would like.

In the UK, schools have only been obliged to teach the biology of reproduction and safe sex. I think that only now, they might be starting to discuss issues on handling relationships etc. But other knowledge they should have on technique ... no chance.

Amethyst said:I am thrilled to hear you enjoyed it so much as I don't believe that is the norm. I don't know how it went for my wife as my first time was with her but it was not hers. It certainly was not much fun for me as I had no idea what I was doing and as someone else mentioned I had a hard time finding the hole. I am sure of one thing: I did not give her any pleasure at all as I came almost immediately. I haven't asked any young girls what they got for sex-ed in school these days because I don't think I'd like to go to jail. I don't think they get anything that is of much use to them. I have been advocating sex-ed all my life as all I learned in those years came from Playboy magazine. I feel our kids deserve good information so they can at least have a chance to enjoy their first experience.

I think it is important to be in a good comfortable bedroom the first time you have sex and that you can get properly aroused. I think it will not be enjoyable for some girls because they are wondering about what they are doing and they are not aroused. I think the man knowing what he is doing matters a lot as well. I got a lot of advice from my mum and I was with the right man in the right place so I am sure it all helped make sure I could please him and enjoy it myself.

DrZ, that's probably all they teach over here too and it's probably elective so many don't even get that. The kids probably know all they are going to get is some bland information and maybe diagrams so they won't take the class. I don't think parents are the best choice anyway. I know I would have felt uncomfortable talking to my boys and I guess given my wife's attitude about sex I don't think she would be a good instructor. Funny thing is if I had a daughter I wouldn't be uncomfortable discussing it with her. But I think they need some professional instructors and as I have seen on some videos that were supposed to be from the UK, live models for them to see. They had 5 males lined up of various ages, some cut and some not, standing in front of the coed class so they could see the differences and ask questions. In another video they did the same using female models. I think it was called Channel 4. Don't know if I can find the link to it that was several years ago. So at least they got to see that real people don't all look like the porn stars and magazine models. Personally I wouldn't mind if they expanded on that to include a demonstration of how to perform intercourse but that will never happen. I'm sure my wife would not agree even though she was there too when we were first married and knew nothing about how to do what we wanted to do so very much.

Amethyst, I agree with you 100%. It's the man who needs to know how but the girl needs to know what to expect. Someone said elsewhere that in general women want men to be doing and they like to be done to. I got some pretty good information from my mother when I was under 10 except for where babies come from. She said the couple gets together and prays for a baby then when they get the word they go to the hospital to pick one out. Of course the other boys were saying "your mother and father had to fuck to make you". When I confronted her with that she stuck to the pray bit. Later when it was time for dating she said to never touch a girl "here" or "there". My first girl wanted to be touched everywhere my mother said not to. She kept putting my hand down there and with mom's words ringing in my ear I kept removing it. That was our last date! My next one ended much the same way. It must have gotten around school because I never got any more dates until I was away from home in the army.

I was 18 and in college. The guy knew it was my first time. He fingered me a lot to get me used to the feeling. I had used tampons so I thought my hymen was broken but it wasn’t. I was on top so I could take it at my own pace. It was difficult to relax though. It really hurt and I could tell I was forcing it. Once I told him to just do it it was sort of a stinging, burning sensation but still good. I didn’t realize until after he pulled out how much I was bleeding. Then it got kind of weird with clean up.

The first time, LOL we laugh about it. We had dated for nearly three years, had planned on marriage and promised each other to wait with intercourse. We had a house to live in and had spent a few weeks before the wedding setting it up[ it's called nesting]. A couple days before the wedding we were in our house - we were not living together just putting final touches- and we just could wait no longer. We were on the bed, I was wetter then ever before he was ready to burst. We were just kissing and kind of rolling around and doing the humping thing and I felt it right there and going in, it was HEAVEN-then felt it pull out. He said oh crap-I said is that all there is to it? The rest is history, we learned together and are still learning

@3102lkycpl Long kinky life to Just Married . . . in advance.

Well my buddy from the hand job experience, Jeb, Junior/Senior prom. He didn't have a date and was scared to ask anyone and no one asked me, which pissed me off some but they were all afraid of the deaf girl. Yep that was the year. Even tho i could talk normally and read lips like a motherfucker...no invites and I will say I looked good for a 16/17 year old...perky tits...well you all know....LOL

So I grab him and tell him we need to go and represent the theatre crowd at Prom...and I stood there and waited..finally he said what?. I slapped upside the head...ask me to Prom dumbass.

He nervously asked me and I grabbed him and hugged him and said yes....yes i am a smartass....

So prom was on a Saturday night. I told mom and dad that a group of us were renting two hotel rooms so we could just stay downtown Chicago for the night.

They agreed, but Dad had his Dad look and I told him it was Jeb, come on, really?

So anyway the room was paid for by me because I had a real good weekend job working at my Dad's place...go figure.

Side note, we were still going to the movies and he was getting hand jobs and blow jobs a lot and I was getting rubbed up a lot....ah young horniness....

So we go and have a great time with two other geek couples and do the awkward dance thing. So once the Prom was shutting down we headed upstairs. We had adjoining rooms and had the door open between the rooms. There was some drinking going on and some flesh play with Truth or Dare...I leaned over to one of my girl friends and whispered tonight is the night...she just smiled...as people started to crash Jeb and I went to our room...I got him naked and I got naked..we made out...I sucked him up good and hard and put a rubber on him and he climbed on top....it hurt at first and once he got in he fired off...and started to pull out and I told him where you going....get back here... I made him stay in and grind with me some...almost got me there...He got off, just a little blood...it was ok...once back in bed I sucked him off good and made him lick me to orgasm...so I still got a good result...he got better of the summer and senior year but then he decided he was gay...I broke him I guess....still love me my Jeb.

I was 16 and had been dating my older boyfriend for several months. He wasn’t pushy but he also kept going further with me every time.

I decided to go all the way with him after watching 4th of July fireworks. He was very well endowed and it was a bit uncomfortable at first but once we got going it was amazing. We did it in a lot of different position some of which were kind of awkward for me.

My first time was good but not perfect of course.

Me and my ex were dating already about 3 or more months when I decided it's time (we were 23). I made things up so we could stay alone and began to seduce him. All was good till we get to business. I was very very nervous and was trembling like a leaf in the wind.... There was no pre-sex play except my seducing him so I was pretty dry. He could not enter for a long time. Sometimes it was a bit rude telling him to stop. When he finally entered I felt uncomfortable but had no pain and no blood. Maybe just a little. We had a pretty good first sex, as after some of his movements inside of me I became wetter.

I never seen pines in real before, never touched. I was curious all the time when we were dating and kissing and I was feeling his manhood pushing from his jeans, how it looked like....

At 30 I'm suddenly finding myself curious about it for the first time, despite being a gay woman. I want to experience how it feels the first time a penis goes in your vagina. I imagine it to be like a warm stretch that hurts at first while you get used to it. Straight girls always say it is very different from the feeling of 2 fingers. I got fingered by a biology teacher before my current partner and she told me I still have my hymen (she said my first girl friend has clearly stretched it back but not completely broken it in). Really would like a patient guy to try it with.

You accepting volunteers, Annie? 😉

(raises hand)

Yes lol

Yes lol

As they say, careful what you wish for! Next thing you know, you'll end up with dozens of private messages from eager participants...

Great thread!!

i agree with those who think sex ed should cover this instead of just std's and condoms. Sex ed isn't really sex ed.

i came from a conservative (sexist) religious culture, as did my former wife, we were both virgins. We were young (i had just turned 21 and she was a few months younger) and i was immature and ignorant. i totally missed (i.e., i didn't get in) the first time and was so excited, i came almost immediately (how can anyone think there is no mental component to sex?). i knew nothing about the pain a woman can experience, or about the hymen, hadn't a clue about a clitoris or what to do with it. Nada. we practiced a lot early on and i learned pretty fast though.

my real awakening was when she cried a few weeks into our marriage and told me i didn't care. i was confused because, even though we had had a ton of sex by then, i still didn't really know what i was doing. i just got lucky some of the times when she came. i was devastated by her crying, so from that day forward i trained myself and learned never to orgasm until she had. It probably helped my learning curve that i am gay, so sex with her was about her pleasure. i got really good at giving her multiple orgasm, but turned out that wasn't good enough. We actually got to a point in our sex life where she would get frustrated with me because i made her orgasm so much and she would tell me: "I just want you to take me, with no regard for my orgasm."

We were together 31 years before i was able to get free of my religious roots and accept being gay. She was the only woman i have ever been with. Now i get it. i am wired gay and 'bottom,' so it all makes sense to me now about her wanting/needing to be "taken" as part of the sexual encounter. my own journey of receiving a guy into me has helped me understand that penetration is (or can be) more than just physical.

As they say, careful what you wish for! Next thing you know, you'll end up with dozens of private messages from eager participants...

That unfortunately is probably the truth. Stay safe.

Everyone has been very respectful 😃 so still a virgin for now

Everyone has been very respectful so still a virgin for now

What are you waiting for?

How do you rationalize this post you made last week?

I've fallen asleep with a gf's 2 rather large fingers knuckle deep up my vagina. When we woke some time later and she quickly pulled them out I remember having an open and empty feeling in my vagina.

What are you waiting for?

How do you rationalize this post you made last week?

She differentiates between fingers and a penis. She is still a virgin to being penetrated by a real cock.

"What are you waiting for?" Relax, Susie. Don't rush the poor girl. - LOL

I don’t really recall the feeling. What I do remember was the expression on my partner’s face as he entered me the first few times we did it. It is a vivid memory even after all these years. I also remember the facial expressions while he was ejaculating. Our first try was actually mostly a failure, he did his thing as soon as his penis touched me. After that I had him put his on condom on so he would not get so excited before the main event. It took a couple of weeks to work out the kinks in our attempts at intercourse

Dita

I was in college (way before my gender surgery) and my roommates boyfriend was the first to penetrate. My roommate and I were sucking each other's clits. He walked in on our fun. He asked to join. We ended up having a threesome. It was nice.

Literally I remember the first words that came out of my mouth were ouch. I remember it feeling like I was being torn apart. My first time was not exactly a good memory. Wish it could have been different.