Strap-on for pegging or hand-held?

I've been pegged by a few women and LOVED it! These women (4), would rather hold the dildo in their hand than use the strap-on. The harness is cumbersome or awkward, or some other reason. They seem to like having better control of the dildo by holding it, they can see better and for me it's been wonderful as the angles and speed variations would be hard to duplicate with a persons hips...

I wondered how common it is to ditch the harness in favor of the ease and simplicity of just using hands?

I have also been pegged by a few women. I like it better when they are wearing a harness and are pegging me while nude. It just makes for a more intimate experience.

I'm always happy to take either but I prefer being pegged by a woman wearing the harness/dildo. I love being doggy style and feeling her hips smack against the back of my thighs and love feeling tits pressed against my back. I also prefer a vigorous, rough fucking so I like her being able to put her body into it.

Yes thy have better control with the hand held

But it's way more sexy with the strap on

I try both with few ladies one thing I have learned is go with the flow if she prefers hand held its okay as long as it's a good quality session and she is in to it that is what make a good session in to a great one

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My friend likes wearing a harness with a 8 inch vibrating dildo on me, the vibration on her clit drives her crazy. She also inserts an egg vibrator in her vagina so that she repeatedly orgasms as she is pounding away. She really goes at it hard and rough when she is cumming just like most of us guys sometimes do when we are fucking our girls.

I have had it both ways- with a strap-on and handheld. If the woman is agile and really gets into thrusting with the strap-on, it can be super sexy to feel penetration combined with her body pounding on you. But getting the angle just right so the dildo feels good thrusting inside me is hard to do but not impossible. So when we tried just handheld thrusting it was much easier to control the dildo and angle and that combined with her stroking my cock led to one of my most powerful orgasms in recent memory.

So I would say if the strap-on feels great and the woman is really into it, then that is the best method. If the strap-on scenario is physically awkward to pull off then go with hand held method.

Strap on hands down. Years ago I experimented with Dommes who would usually strap it on after a good enema and dressing me up sissy. Something about the harness just seems to amplify Her authority. It's nice because she could hold me down / still with both hands while slamming me up the ass from behind; I felt more helpless and taken that way. One even set up a full length mirror so I could watch the motion. Very intense. I'd be curious though to let a woman do it with a "feeldoe" which inserts a small end up her vagina while the larger one is the business end that goes inside me. I hear that's an intense experience for both partners.

I find it's easier for my partner to control the hand held she likes the way she can control the speed and angle That she likes... with the harness it is way more sexier plus frees both hands to use as she pleases... spanking or stroking me...?

I agree that it is a whole lot sexier when she is wearing the strap-on; however, my wife agrees that using a hand held dildo is much easier for her and she has more control.

Haven't tried much yet, but I'm getting to where I would like to.

I'd start with fingers and hand-held toys, but the thought of a strap-on is extremely tempting. The feel of her body on mine. Four free hands touching each other. What's not to love about that every so often, as long as she's down for it of course.

I haven't ever tried it, but I would love to. However, that will likely never happen since my wife would never do it (I tried to get her to once many years ago and she said NO! and that was that.) It is extremely unlikely that I could or would ever find someone to play with and try it.

I have had it both ways ...you go with what your partner likes initially for a few times, then suggest the other way if that is your preference.

I prefer the strap on, missionary stile, I am on the bottom, she is nude on top.

For whatever reason, my wife was very much into pegging me. We tried every position imaginable, and enjoyed them all. As long as she could get up a good sweat, she didn't care how we did it. Didn't hurt my feelings any, either. These days, it's solo, and while it's still fun, it just quite make the mark.

For me, a strap-on is the best. We have a selection of dildos but that one special strap-on really lights me up.

I do this to my BF with a large hand-held. He lies on his back, knees up and spread. I love watching that dildo slide in and out of his cute little ass.

I haven't experienced a strap-on yet, but have had hand held dildo experiences often enough.

That said, the idea of of a strap-on mimicking a sexual penetration seems to be more exciting in the imagination. There is a strong element of gender role reversal with a strap-on which isn't really present with anal play otherwise.

But as I said, so far for me, this is still in a theoretical future which definitely needs updating.

Haven't done either yet, but would like to start with handheld and move to strapon. Handheld provides more control and seems best for getting used to it, but the idea of having my wife's hands free to roam my body and being closer physically is very appealing.

From @Susismith - post 15 - https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=841183

... I love watching that dildo slide in and out of his cute little ass.

I try to learn this pleasure to my Lady Friend

From @bottomup99 - post 1 - https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=822384 - so she have a better control of the toy, a closer view, and more feels of the muscles tension from the receiver.

For the receiver I think that the feel of being exposed is also greater.

My wife and I both enjoy anal play and toys. We tried a strapon but she was not into it at all. Harnessing up broke the mood for her, and handheld was more spontaneous and easy. I was curious, but perfecty satisfied with just a hand held. the hassle of a strapon just wasn’t worth it. We never tried a Feeldoe and didn’t see a need to since handhelds worked for both of us. .

Both ways work for my play partner and I

While the harness takes me a little time to get into I love using it on my play partner as I get in his a$$ much deeper. The deeper I go the more he moans🍆🍑😈

Interesting and exciting stories..

I prefer the strap-on, but I've never turned down either method.

I have had strap-on a few times and hand-held once, both were good, l liked feeling her abdomen and thighs hitting against me, … hand-held gave different control over things, angles, rotations, twists etc.

A real penis is connected to the body and has all sorts of nerve endings for sensing temperature, pressure, etc. As much as I enjoy pegging my guy, the dildo is not connected to my body and is somewhat difficult to control and too easy to pull out by accident. I have tried “double” dildos without success. So most of my pleasure comes from knowing what my guy is feeling physically and mentally.

No luck getting either so anything that feels good for my partner would be great. If her desires is to peg me with a strap or strapless then that tickle my insides (physically + mentally) to the max.

My ex had an 8" strapon she used to use on me.

For me part of the appeal of pegging is being fucked by my partner and her wearing a harness feels sexier. She has this appendage swinging in front of her adn she can grab my hips and give me a good seeing to. nothing better. not often enough though

I have never been pegged, but would very much like to experience this. Based on my own anal experimenting and solo play I would lean towards the handheld approach. I feel the subtitle nuances of angle, pressure, and resistance would be best navigated by a hand held tool. I’m interested more in the slow teasing Dom/sub experience rather than the sex roll reversal experience. I want her to wield the tool with precision and play my body like a musical instrument.

HOWEVER, after reading the comments here, I will admit I may have a deep hidden fascination with being on the receiving end of a vigorous animalistic pounding. There are certainly aspects of my sexuality where I crave being used as an object for her pleasure with no regard to my feelings. Being fucked by a strap-on wielding bass-ass boss woman who wants to rail me might scratch that submissive itch.

I'm over the arm of the couch ladies! I have my cheeks spread, waiting! What's your favorite? Strap-on? Or Handheld? I know I know, bad boy. What can I say, I'm a butt man. Oops, did I say that?